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In theory, yes. In reality, no.The reason i say no is because there are people who believe their "problem" is un-fixable, so they'll never attempt to "fix" it. But now we're talking peaches and pears. because first you're saying success in general (or that is how it seemed), and now you're saying success with women.

Oh then i guess you had a hard time understanding my post. All's forgiven :)

I hate taking tests. I'm a terrible test taker. I have extreme anxiety. It took a lot of mental work when i had to do 14 exams in 6 months with Aviation School. 14 Subjects with a question bank totaling around 13k questions and 52k possible answers. Worst 6 months of my life.

Okay i should rephrase that: So...you're saying that i believe people who can't interact socially will never be successful?

So...you're saying that people who can't interact socially will never be successful? Because that's what my post refers to - people who are shy, people who have social anxiety, people who don't know how to overcome it. And by "can't interact socially" i mean "believe they can't".

1. Good thing you edited the post, because you started to come across as slightly butthurt. Haha. 2. I don't believe i'm "whining". Rather pointing out the flaws in your theory, or "day to day life" as you put it, for the average person. Perhaps these people are unhappy, but that does not make them unsuccessful. Success applies differently to each person. Having a new hook-up every other night is by no means success in my books. I see that as trying to fill a void, or seeking approval from god knows who. Differences in opinions. Welcome to internet 101. Happiness and success are the same thing as far as I'm concerned: http://happysaint.wordpress.com/2013/02/06/are-you-successful/ As far as you're concerned. Lot's of people chase success and lose sight of happiness in the process. Workaholics are probably a good example. While they think they're happy, chances are that eventually they'll figure out they're not (i'm not referring to the link, just your statement). Not 100% sure where you get this from. Are we reading the same posts? Of course anyone can be successful, but because success differs from person to person (and happiness too[or what we believe to be happiness]) everyone's take on this will be different. Not exactly a very difficult concept to grasp :P Also, the argument i'm evading, are you referring to this: ''When you become more experienced I think you'll find that all of those self-conscious examples you provided don't exist in reality either. It's all in your head''?

While I've agreed more on your side over muggi's thus far, surely this argument is counter-intuitive. If a person is shy, surely trying to set up dates in an environment which doesn't have body language and face-to-face communication would be preferable to a "real life" environment where all the normal rules still apply. Furthermore, shyness doesn't equate to "It's all in my head". Shyness is a very mild form of social anxiety. What you're referring to there is over-sensitivity, which can be symptomatic of anxiety but does not indicate shyness itself. People can be timid and composed about a situation at the same time. They're not mutually exclusive. Actually a shy person will probably have more luck in a place filled with people as apposed to setting up an online date. This is only my opinion though. I'll explain why i say that though. Being at a social event puts a time limit on things. Limited time to think and react. I think you're more likely to act spontaneously and actually step outside of your comfort zone because of this. There's not too much time to over-think things. The main reason people tend to over-think things is because they have too much time. If you were to set up a date online with a stranger you have never met face-to-face before you'll have (usually) at least a day to think (over think) about it. Your anxiety will keep growing, and you'll be likely to chicken out. This is largely based on what i've seen from a friend who resorted to online dating. Also a bit of personal experience in the mix. I know a year ago when i tried actively approaching girls it was much easier for me to do so when there were a lot of people around me. Kind of gave me the comfort of knowing that if i mess it up i can slit into the crown and vanish. There's a reason why it's unrealistic for the average person: the average person is unhappy (or just content with a boring life) and terrified of failure and leaving their comfort zone. Do you really think I was never terrified of social interaction (regardless of gender)? Do you really think I was born with an abundance mentality? Do you really think I became good at this overnight without ever failing over and over before things started to click? If you want to keep making up excuses for unhappy, unsuccessful people then be my guest. But as always, you don't have the right to whine about something that you have complete control over. It's your life. 1. Good thing you edited the post, because you started to come across as slightly butthurt. Haha. 2. I don't believe i'm "whining". Rather pointing out the flaws in your theory, or "day to day life" as you put it, for the average person. Perhaps these people are unhappy, but that does not make them unsuccessful. Success applies differently to each person. Having a new hook-up every other night is by no means success in my books. I see that as trying to fill a void, or seeking approval from god knows who. Differences in opinions. Welcome to internet 101. Yeap, this is blatantly wrong. Unless there's something wrong with them. You're saying there's something wrong with them because they have social anxiety? Or did i misunderstand?

Your "lifestyle" is extremely unrealistic for the average person. Believe it or not, there are actually people out there (shy people) for whom it will never become a case of "Oh, it's all in my head". To them "the game" will never get easier. Whether they've done it once or a hundred times. And i'm still baffled at how you think there's no difference between dating online and offline. Completely dumbfounded.

Everything up to the point where you actually have to meet the person face-to-face. Some people are extremely photogenic. So photogenic that they look better in pictures than they do in real life. I could have professionally taken photos of me on my profile. I'll look like the the hottest guy that's ever set foot on earth. And then you see me in real life and the truth is revealed. I'm no ore than an average Joe. It's hard to fake your physical appearance when you're face-to-face with someone. I know your looks (as a girl) can be altered with the help of make-up, but generally it's pretty easy to spot the ones wearing a mask. Rejection or acceptance is a lot easier online. I send a girl a message on a dating site. I tell her i think she's cute, i want to take her out on a date, i want to get to know her, i want to [bleep] her, whatever you want. It's easy, because all it takes is me sitting behind my computer. I don't need to worry about the zit on my nose. I don't have to worry about my bad breath. I don't have to worry about the sweat stains under my arms. I don't have to worry about a voice crack because i'm nervous. I don't even have to worry about changing into clothes. I can do all of this while wearing my dirty track pants and a mustard stained shirt. If she rejects my invitation, so what. There's 1000 more girls a few clicks away. I can try again and again. It's not going to affect me the slightest. But when i'm at a club or a party and she rejects me, there's maybe 20 or 30 other girls i can choose from. But i have to be careful who i choose, because i can't exactly try it with all of them. And if she rejects me, i don't have to feel silly. I'm not going to be embarrassed because 20 people saw me try and fail. In fact, no one but the person i messaged would know that i failed. So it takes a lot of stress and pressure away. If i ask someone out face-to-face and she rejects you there's always the "Oh shit, what do i do now. Act cool. Act cool" going on in the back of your head. She rejects you online and the only thing you're thinking is "Meh" And then the part that applies to Maddy's situation. If you ask someone out face-to-face they are almost forced to give you an answer right on the spot. Does not have to be a definite answer, but it has to be at least some sort of answer. Whether it's a yes, a no, or a "i'll have to see if i can pencil you in". There's going to be an answer. This puts pressure on both the person who asked and the person who's getting asked. If you ask someone out online they have the option to reply with the exact same thing (or they can completely ignore you), but now time in not a factor. They can reply to you in 10 minutes, an hour, a day, a week. It gives them too much time to think or try and rationalize the situation. You don't want people to think about their answer, really. I know there's still a lot of point i overlooked, but i'm sure you get the general idea. When you become more experienced I think you'll find that all of those self-conscious examples you provided don't exist in reality either. It's all in your head. When I'm at my computer messaging girls, and they resist the meet-up, I move on because I know there's dozens of others I need to respond to. When I'm on a first date with a girl and she resists my advances, I move on, because I know there's dozens of others who are into me. When I'm doing sales at work and I get a client who gives me resistance when I go for the close, I move on because I have dozens of other willing clients who can recognize a good deal when they see it. It's no different than if I were to go to the bars either. It may appear to be different to you, but the principles remain the same. The only thing that's different is your perception and abundance mentality. Sigh... did not read a single word.

And it's also extremely easy to hide who you really are online.

Whenever i got an A in highschool i would yell it out as loud as i could. I only had to do this once in my life though. And it was in Gym, so i don't know if that counts. But yeah, i had a friend who was like this. he got pretty much straight A's all through Highschool. He'd rub it in as much as he could. "Oh what did you get? C? Oh that's not too bad. Yeah i got an A. I got an A! I GOT AN A!!!" No one cares bro. While you were home studying, i was out living life. Highschool grades meant very little to me, luckily. I didn't really need good grades to follow my career path.

Everything up to the point where you actually have to meet the person face-to-face. Some people are extremely photogenic. So photogenic that they look better in pictures than they do in real life. I could have professionally taken photos of me on my profile. I'll look like the the hottest guy that's ever set foot on earth. And then you see me in real life and the truth is revealed. I'm no ore than an average Joe. It's hard to fake your physical appearance when you're face-to-face with someone. I know your looks (as a girl) can be altered with the help of make-up, but generally it's pretty easy to spot the ones wearing a mask. Rejection or acceptance is a lot easier online. I send a girl a message on a dating site. I tell her i think she's cute, i want to take her out on a date, i want to get to know her, i want to [bleep] her, whatever you want. It's easy, because all it takes is me sitting behind my computer. I don't need to worry about the zit on my nose. I don't have to worry about my bad breath. I don't have to worry about the sweat stains under my arms. I don't have to worry about a voice crack because i'm nervous. I don't even have to worry about changing into clothes. I can do all of this while wearing my dirty track pants and a mustard stained shirt. If she rejects my invitation, so what. There's 1000 more girls a few clicks away. I can try again and again. It's not going to affect me the slightest. But when i'm at a club or a party and she rejects me, there's maybe 20 or 30 other girls i can choose from. But i have to be careful who i choose, because i can't exactly try it with all of them. And if she rejects me, i don't have to feel silly. I'm not going to be embarrassed because 20 people saw me try and fail. In fact, no one but the person i messaged would know that i failed. So it takes a lot of stress and pressure away. If i ask someone out face-to-face and she rejects you there's always the "Oh shit, what do i do now. Act cool. Act cool" going on in the back of your head. She rejects you online and the only thing you're thinking is "Meh" And then the part that applies to Maddy's situation. If you ask someone out face-to-face they are almost forced to give you an answer right on the spot. Does not have to be a definite answer, but it has to be at least some sort of answer. Whether it's a yes, a no, or a "i'll have to see if i can pencil you in". There's going to be an answer. This puts pressure on both the person who asked and the person who's getting asked. If you ask someone out online they have the option to reply with the exact same thing (or they can completely ignore you), but now time in not a factor. They can reply to you in 10 minutes, an hour, a day, a week. It gives them too much time to think or try and rationalize the situation. You don't want people to think about their answer, really. I know there's still a lot of point i overlooked, but i'm sure you get the general idea.

I think the only thing tragic about clubs is people who go with this mentality. What do you mean? Your attitude is negative. You see everyone and everything about a club in a negative light. Those drunk interactions you have with people at clubs probably won't mean much now, but in a few years time when you and your friends sit down and talk about it, they sure as hell are going to mean a lot. Me and my sister used to go out a lot together in the past. The other day we went out for dinner with my parents and we started telling stories of the days we went to clubs a lot together. We laughed so much that night. I don't think me and my family have had such a good time together in 5 years. For the next few days after that everyone in the house was in a bit of a happier mood. We also met a lot of worthwhile people when we went out. People that shared different opinions than we did, with different cultural backgrounds. It's a great way to build world knowledge when you live in a place like i do. And you can't really complain about how it costs you money. Because everything in live will cost you money. That's like saying once you stop growing you're going to stop buying clothes because it costs money. You might as well just wear the same thing every day until it rips and tears and you're "forced" to buy new shit. And i don't see how going to club makes you feel like an ass the next day. Even if you drink to the point where you can't stand on your own two feet anymore. I've learned that people who do that generally don't care what people think of them or their actions, so it's kind of impossible for them to feel like an ass. Perhaps the reason you think clubs are so tragic is because of the company you keep. And i also don't understand how a girl that goes home with a guy she meets that night makes her unworthy of a relationship.

Well... this is awks...That's probably the first instance I've ever heard of where that excuse was genuine... And I hear that excuse hundreds of times per month, both in online dating and at work in sales. Granted, in both cases I do things by putting in the numbers so if someone ever gives me that excuse I immediately forget about them and move on, as opposed to prodding them to ascertain whether or not it's genuine. I find it completely stupid that you try to compare online dating to non-online dating.Women are women, regardless of how you choose to communicate with them. Yes. And men are men regardless of how you choose to communicate with them. But relationship is a game, and the rules change when you go from dating to online-dating. You can't aply the rules of rugby to a game of soccer just because they're both played with a ball.

Sorry to be reviving an old topic, but i'm kind of late to the Diablo party. Anyway i recently started playing. I started as a Witch Doctor. Finished Normal and Nightmare on hard with some ease. Hell is a bit of a different story though. I die quite a bit more than i used to, and i feel like it's because i'm not doing enough damage. I kill way too slow, just making myself take more damage than i should. I guess it's fairly easy for me to get decent gear, but i'm very confused about how stats work in Diablo. It says that Int is my most important skill, so whenever i get new/better gear i always take whatever offers the highest Int bonus. But from what i have been reading, higher Int isn't always better. Some people have been saying that certain spells take their damage from weapon damage, other say spells take damage from Int. And then i can across something that says that spells that don't use Mana are based on Weapon Damage, spells that use Mana are based on Int, and it's better to have a balanced Int and Damage. So i'll give an example: The other day i picked up a weapon that had ~200 Weapon Damage but no Int bonus, and one with ~120 Weapon Damage but +150 Int. At that time i already had something like 6k, but only at 1.5k Int. Which would have been better for me to use? Right now my stats are something like this: 10.2k Damage 2250 Int (790 Mana) 677 Vit (22.6k HP) 1.3k Armour My resistances are all around the 240 mark. What would be better for me to focus on now? Should i start getting items with higher Int? Is it really better to keep Int and Damage close to each other?

Well... this is awks...That's probably the first instance I've ever heard of where that excuse was genuine... And I hear that excuse hundreds of times per month, both in online dating and at work in sales. Granted, in both cases I do things by putting in the numbers so if someone ever gives me that excuse I immediately forget about them and move on, as opposed to prodding them to ascertain whether or not it's genuine. I find it completely stupid that you try to compare online dating to non-online dating.

I operate under the assumption that if they wanted to go on a date then they'd attempt to find time almost immediately, not wait an entire day to get back to them. Yes, because no one should be allowed to think about something, or be shy, or be insecure.

Would have made a lot more sense to release smaller maps for now, and then release bigger maps with next-gen.

Trying to twerk?

Oh, bad drivers. I have a funny story... Few days ago me and my sister were on our way to the mall. So i'm driving on a 1 lane road (not sure what the correct term is, but 1 lane going each direction). I see this guy on the side of the road, to my right, slowly trying to cur across to the opposite side of the road. Now i'm driving in the suburb area so i have to stay under like 60kmph. As i'm about 10 meters from him he decides to cut in front of me to make a u-turn. I slam on my brakes, and so does he. So now im furious. I have quite bad roadrage. And this is just enough to get me over the edge. So i get out of my car and walk up to the guy. I slap on his window so he can put it down. I start yelling at him about how stupid he is to just cut in front of a car. The next part utterly stumped me: "Did you not see my turn signal" Yeah... so people here assume that if you put on your turn signal you have 100% right to do anything you want. Once that baby is on you're allowed to cut in front of anyone. You don't have to follow the right-of-way rules, you don't have to make sure it's clean/open. Nope. Just switch it on and turn. Once i heard that i pretty much exploded. Told the guy to get out of my way. Put your car in reverse, get out of my way. He was trying to say a few more things but then i just threatened to go call a cop. We were actually right outside of a driving school that's across from my house when this happened, and they have traffic police on duty there at all times. I guess he realized he was in the wrong and reversed. I was just so... i don't even know. Soon as he said "Did you not see my turn signal"... Some days i really wish we still had our H2. I would have honestly just kept driving and turned his Nissan Tida into a cup-holder. I know it's a pretty hard scenario to picture though. Wish i could make a video of it.

Slept over at my girlfriends house last night. Never something i really enjoy to be quite honest. 1.) Her cat is [bleep]ing annoying. It sleeps in her room. It scratches at the door like a dog like a dog so you can open it. It's outside for 10 seconds then it wants to come inside again. Who's the one that needs to open it the whole time? I am. She says the noise doesn't bother her, because she's used to it. I want to slit my wrists with a blunt bread knife every time the [bleep]ing thing does it. So i'm forced to get up every 10 minutes to deal with it. 2.) In the morning, her parents would come into the room every 20 minutes to either get the cat, get the cat food, or get his litter-box. Please... it's already awkward enough for me to wake up and have to see them after sleeping next to their daughter the night before. I really don't need them to come in and see what and how it's happening. Also, it might just be me, but i find it kind of rude. I understand it's their house, but if they're okay with me sleeping there they should be okay with respecting my privacy. Needless to say, last night i got almost no sleep...

Wow get with the times pls.

In CoD 4 the Comp scene was also very small. The reason it grew so much in BO2 was because of the "new" rules and game modes. No one wants to watch a SnD only tourney anymore. We want to see Hardpoint and CTF. We want to see players going on 10 streaks, or getting stupid killstreaks like Stealthchoppers. I agree that killstreaks might not have been the best thing to introduce into the Comp scene, but it has changed the game to a much more tactical and exciting thing to watch. I believe going back to how it was previously would be a HUGE mistake. I feel like if this is what we're getting for the comp side of CoD, it's going to die very soon.

Practice. Anyway... try not to get "smashed" tonight. Guys generally don't like wasted girls. And the guys who do...well they only like them for one night. If you must drink, then drink to the point where you're just slightly tipsy and confident enough to talk to him. This means you should still be able to stand on your own two feet without support of a wall/bar counter/chair. You should also still be able to hold a conversation without slurring. Most people are fine with a member of the opposite sex until they start liking them. Getting shy is normal. You feel like everything you do is getting judged by the other person, so you'd rather do too little than too much. Shouldn't stress about that too much. Best way to get over being shy around him is one good, sober conversation. Chances are it's going to start out shaky. You're going to say one or two stupid things. But it's fine because he knows you might be nervous, and chances are he's going to be a bit nervous too.

Don't know if any of you are into competitive CoD, but i was watching a few games yesterday on Youtube and it was so dull and boring. Right now the only game mode they are playing is SnD. It's so much slower than it used to be. IW really gave Pro Teams the finger when they made Ghosts.