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If you go through life being scared of rejection you're going to miss out on a lot of great opportunities, including taking this girl to the dance. If you don't want to look like a loser then get the practice in now on how to deal with the possibility of rejection and gain some confidence. There is no perfect time to ask her out, just ask her. Why would it look weird asking her a month in advance? At least if she says no you have a month to get over it and ask someone else. And what if someone beats you to it because you took to long to ask? Why waste your time and energy on convincing yourself? You can use so much less just going 1-2-3 and then opening your mouth to speak. It'll be over in a second and you'll get over a rejection in time but something that will take longer to get over is having the perfect opportunity to do something and never going through with it. Better off with a no than a "what if". If you look at this statistically without trying to talk yourself in to how much she likes you exactly if you ask her out, she has 50% chance to say yes, 50% chance to say no. If you don't ask, you have 0%. Short answers to your questions. I don't know how: "So there's this dance coming up have you heard about it? wanna come with me?" I don't know when: When you see her next What would you do if she says no: Get over it and ask someone else, by the time you finish high school you probably won't even remember her name.

I've also had another time where it didn't work out I dated my good friend Lachlan and we had a ball together but I just couldn't fall in love with the guy. We're still pretty good friends too.

I'd have to say that it does happen. My best friend who passed away and I both believed that if something were to happen it should just flow naturally rather than forcing anything. A few years passed and I fell head over heels for him, the day before I got to tell him he died in a car accident but I found out by his sister that he felt the same way about me according to emails etc that she found left on his computer.

aren't you guys such loving siblings :lol: Today we signed for our new house and we move tomorrow morning at 6am!!! Might not have the net for a few days - week but if everything transfers over okay then it should already be set up. Gonna pack the small things and take them over this afternoon. The removalist guys are almost 200 bucks an hour so if I get rid of all the small things and leave the big things, it should only take an hour. I don't want to have to pay almost 400 bucks if we're a few minutes over so these guys better be in and out!

Well really... what do you get a person who can pretty much have anything and probably already has most ideas you can think of? an ipod full of your favourite songs! of course! :lol: I can so picture the queen listening to music from the hood in her gym clothes. Another glass of chandy pronto!

:lol: Unless they're special road-bike jeans with the material they're made of you don't wash them for weeks at a time. Some people buy them for fashion too can get a decent pair for under 300.

I buy clothes that reveal cleavage and sometimes the item will be from Supre', so what are you trying to say? I think you better re-think what you wrote because clothes are nothing but shells worn on the outside of a complete person. Clothes don't define people as a whole so shame on you for doing so.

When I was younger I was in to clothing brands, now I don't give a crap what I wear so long as it looks good. If I can get 2 shirts for the price of 1, I will. I don't need to impress anyone but myself and my family. The only thing I do spend money on is designer dresses for something to wear out. Typically I buy them when they're on special or clearance sale and get them between 100-300 instead of up to a grand. I wouldn't call supre a [bleep] factory, if you have the body flaunt it.

There are plenty of free counselling services in your country, do a google search on the area you live in.

I found a free counselling service near you, check inbox for details. And many people form bonds and companionship with their pets. Some people can't have children, some people just don't trust other people and others have been so hurt by other people and they know their pets aren't going to hurt them.

Shelters can only do so much. If they don't have enough money, then there isn't enough food to go around, shelter to go around, bedding, medical costs etc It would be more inhumane to leave the animals there to suffer from malnutrition and everything else than to put them to sleep. If people looked after their pets and it were compulsory to desex them unless you have breeding papers, then this wouldn't even be an issue. This is a second chance for animals and unfortunately without the correct funding, animals are going to die. This is why when I get pets, I go to the RSPCA and while I'm there I donate some food. There should be more emphasis on adopting pets through out the rest of the year, other than just Christmas time where fortunately many animals are taken to good homes. If you don't trust where your dollar is going because usually at least 15% of it goes to staff wages, then go in to the shelter directly and give resources rather than cash. Or volunteer some of your time to clean out cages, walk the dogs and help with feeding times. I do think that PETA has gone on long enough without being investigated. I also have my doubts about Oxfam after working for them. There is a marketing group called "the cobra group" (who go by many names globally) who apparently only profit in up to 15% of every dollar to pay for staff wages but as you climb higher up the ranks, you realize that you're earning more and more so how much is the person up the top really earning or making from the fund raising? I'm not claiming they keep more than they say but I do have my suspicions. The typical marketing salesman who successfully uses their sales pitch to sign just 5 people a day, they will earn between $1500-$2000 per week (just starting - the higher you go up the ranks, the more you get per sign). That's almost 100k annually for one sales man claiming to earn money for charitable causes. I personally knew a guy by the name of Felix who signed a minimum of 7 people a day because his sales pitch was on fire. Hmmmmmmmm. Question everything... Are you really donating to a good cause? Only adopting out 7 pets in 12 months is beyond suspicion. Where is all this money going?

Wtf is with this rubber band method working for everything? People who self harm use this method when they think of cutting themselves and according to them it's quite effective.

I like that smiley when it's appropriate :D

For me, personally, it depends on age. If the female is under 18 years I don't agree with anymore than 2-3 years difference but if the guy was very mature and I happened to have a daughter who he treated very well I'd still invite him around for dinner, get to know him and give the guy a chance. If I don't approve of him or at least take an interest in the things that make her happy in life she would just rebel against me anyway and that would encourage lies and sneaky business. I'd rather it under my own roof than somewhere else. Anything over 18, it can look "socially wrong" I guess and frowned upon but I say if someone finds peace with themselves with an older person, so be it. I have two relatives who were married or companions with someone double their age but if they're in love who am I to judge?

I'm not sad I knew this day was coming about 2 years ago. I generally get a good picture about people for some reason. I'm just sad for Brent because he honestly thought that his dad (who once upon a time was his best friend) wouldn't stoop as low as his mum and turn up to see his grandson. I'm only angry because they let the two people who I love the most down. Oh well, they gave us a painting a while ago that says "Love: Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live" we'll just shove it back in their letter box next time we're down that way. They need it more than we do. I want to be just like my nanna when my kids have their own kids one day. I'll play dress ups with them, do their hair, sing songs and dance around, buy them lollies and ice cream, play games with them, tell them stories about when I was younger, turn up to all their important events, hang their pictures on my fridge. I couldn't ask for anyone better to teach me how to behave towards the people I care about. My quote about generations really is true.

Grandparents who ignore/ don't make any time for their grandkids. You can die with your money but when nobody turns up at your funeral, you'll soon realize you didn't live a life worth living if you haven't inspired anybody else's.

Today we told Brent's parents to basically [bleep] off. They haven't seen their grandson in over 2 months, haven't called to ask how he is, how we are or made any effort to come see us after we've made the last 5 or so efforts to go see them. Their loss not ours! We sent them a message giving them a chance to change and they chose to ignore it, so we'll be in our new house on Friday and they won't be getting our new address. Did I mention we're going to have a house warming party? As you guessed it everyone's invited except them :thumbsup:

P.S - changing personalities and behaviours is a long, slow and gradual process. At least attempt cognitive behavioural therapy and learn the different behaviours to help your situation. If you absolutely refuse to see a counsellor (people have great ideas but they're more of a short-term distraction rather than fixing the undesired behaviour) at least google online cognitive behavioural therapy and anger. Although most of these activities that the psychology websites can provide you with you can do yourself, the reason I recommended counselling/seeing a psychologist is because sometimes our anger isn't "just" anger, it could be many things, including an anxiety disorder. And sometimes it stems from environmental issues such as something that happened to you in your childhood that you need to come to terms with and activities can't fix that. Even if you think it can, it really can't, it will show unconsciously in your behaviour. If you try to hide it, it'll act out some other way.

Probably just be friendly and involve yourself in most of the activities. Take up after school activities like sports or whatever you want really. Just keep creating opportunities to meet more people. Be a yes man :lol:

Suicide > vegetarianism > blah blah blah Is talking about this kind of bs on a thread about a guy who has a genuine problem really necessary?

It depends which way you look at it, more often than not people don't want their best friends dating people they still have feelings for after they break up. And I don't blame them, I'd probably give my best friend a black eye if she dated my fiance' if we broke up and I still cared for him. Someone who claims to be your best friend wouldn't want you to feel any worse than you already are regardless of how well they would treat each other. But if your best friend has a crush on a girl and is too scared to make their move then it's their loss, can't wait forever! my 2 cents.

How old are you? And what country do you live in? Depending on your country if you're under the age of 18 you have the legal right to access free counselling without parental consent/authority. If it's free and the absolute best help you can get, use it. Don't resort to short-term fixes to a long-term problem.

One thing that stuck out for me is your relationship with your father. How has the relationship been with other members of your family? friends? other relatives?

That's a little twisted, wonder what happened in his childhood to present such hostility towards women or whether he's just a sociopath.

If expressing yourself through body piercing is your thing then meh, could be a lot worse.