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Although I some-what agree with you, your thread is not going to make the difference you want to see. Neither are the rants for or against your thread. So if you truly want to see more of x in offtopic then you need to be able to come up with another strategy that will get you what you want otherwise you're just contributing to what you're complaining about. One method is one I read from Das - While I obviously don't agree with him on many things, this one was very wise of him. Everything is ruled by a critical mass of numbers, so if you don't want to see a topic, simply don't contribute to it. Make posts on the topics you want to be up the front. Eventually the topics you find stupid are going to be the ones down the bottom and then on to the next page. My suggestion to you is to discretely PM other members whose posts and threads you enjoy reading and ask them to join you in a discussion about ideas for new threads. This could be done easily on IRC or MSN. It will be a lot more productive and get you what you want to see. And if you don't like to work with others, as Aaron suggested, do it yourself. I can honestly say that I've clashed with many members, mods and admins but if you truly believe in something with good reasoning and intentions why put up with what you're given? There's many methods of obtaining it, the trick is how you go about it. If you hit a brick wall, get out the chalk board and draw another strategy ;) Cheers :thumbup:

The first thing I'd like to ask you: Is the reason you can't commit to your soccer club anymore, because of the gaming? Secondly - Talk to both of your parents and admit to having a problem with video games. Negotiate with them to take everything away from you and limit yourself to one day on the weekend. When your father has you, since he's an avid gamer himself, remove yourself from him. Go to the library and do some work, then have time for games when you come back. Thirdly - I strongly disagree with getting a lap top. You're addicted to console gaming. If you don't have it available on gaming console, you will resort to computer games. You don't need a newer distraction to studying. The higher the grade, the more luck won't be on your side. I was a straight A student who hardly turned up for school or studied but sat every exam and finished every assignment on time, it was pretty breezy. Year 12 is different, if you screw it up, you'll screw your choices up. Alternatively if you want more time to do the things you love, go to TAFE to finish year 11 and 12 instead of high school. They prepare you for your first year of university so much better than high school and they give out higher OP's. The course is called Adult Tertiary Prep if you're interested and you'll only be required to go 3-4 days a week and you can do both grades in 12 months. But that's a while off yet. Steve has great ideas for time management. I always have a diary handy and write down everything that needs to be done so it gets done. It's also because my memory is shocking. Hmm I wish there was a general advice forum, not just a relationship advice forum.

You know.... there is an edit button in the top right hand corner so you don't need to make 3 posts :P GO GAY MARRIAGE!!

1. I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder for 7 years 2. I studied psychology with the intention of learning more about myself 3. I earn more money from doing tarot & palmistry twice a week than an average paying 9-5 job 4. I was a performer (dancer) in the Arafura games opening ceremony 5. I've been on Nickalodeon and was asked to try out for Neighbours when I was 17 It's hard to do this without sounding like I'm talking myself up... but the problem is I'm normally so open that there isn't much you guys don't know about me :? @ death - I'm very impressed with your knowledge about teenagers and anti depressants. Good work :thumbup: @ wongtong - If they're any decent at what they do, they'll see it sticking out like dog's balls :lol:

Even if your theory were to be correct there's still a motivation for the need to be liked which comes down to esteem. So yes, it's that complex. I suggest you look up the true definition of your last word. You'd be surprised just how many teenage girls take these kinds of photos for their boyfriends to see and then it gets in the wrong hands but they don't think about it at the time. Because that's what teenagers do, they do things that sound fun at the time and then when they grow up they wonder how on Earth they're still here or what motivated them to do such a silly thing. Going to jail for this kind of thing is bloody ridiculous, with any sense this will be thrown out the window. The law is there to protect children from predators and predators who post these kinds of images of innocent children. The girl is not a predator, she's someone who made a mistake and will now have to live with the harassment by ignorant conservatives and media. That's more than enough punishment.

The girl needs counselling not jail. The pictures may have attracted unwanted predators but that is a huge life lesson in itself. The issue lies with this young girl's self esteem - that she doesn't need to draw attention to herself via means of taking her clothes off. There could also be underlying issues such as sexual assault or rape when she was younger and so is acting out. If this young girl goes to jail, I'll be joining the petition and passing it along to get rid of such pathetic laws.

Believe it or not - hot soapy water does the trick - Then get a very dry and clean towel and dry outwards, do not go around in circles. I've done this with my cds ever since I was a teenager and have never had a problem with it.

I would have handed it in. I have about 6 phones anyway, I don't need the money, it wouldn't interest me in taking it anyway and in a global recession the person who lost it may have really needed it back and not been able to afford a new one. The value of consistent understanding is not that anyone will hear us nor reward us but that we will become a better person. Don't go waiting forever.

Fantastic, can't wait until more states do the same

"tell me who you are or [bleep] off" or *delete* works well :

Ask her what she got up to on the weekend then speaking of weekends ask her if she wants to catch up with you and do something this upcoming weekend. Just because you don't have interests in common isn't any reason not to listen. You can both talk and listen to each others interests, you might learn something from each other. It's important to take interest even if you feel like going to sleep. You'll always find at least 1 thing in common anyway.

Like you said, that could be a large factor. She's new to relationships and what comes with it is her immaturity in relationships. Relationships will always be flawed, people learn and grow together (through the communication issues, the jealousy issues, putting partners before friendships) it's one huge learning curve. It's natural to go through many problems and it's silly to give up so easily but if she simply isn't learning and showing the willingness to come up to your level then I agree it's time for a break. There's no use putting up with her behaviour if she's not learning anything from you and moving forward with it, but instead repeating it and ignoring it.

I think her last boyfriend or one of past boyfriends treated her poorly or cheated on her. If not a member of the family has deeply hurt her in the past. As a result, she tries her hardest to find something wrong with you, to prevent being hurt again, it's a defense mechanism. It's very destructive and ruins relationships. It starts with something small like listening to second-hand information and progresses to checking phones, stealing passwords, checking emails, who's been on their facebook, messaging other girls who talk to you and telling them to piss off. It's not good. If she can't believe you over this guy then why is she with you? Don't let her make you feel this way, turn it around but be mature about it. "Sorry but if you put what this guy says before what I say, I really don't think we're going to work out" It's also none of her business to get involved. It's a fight between you and him, not a fight between him, you and her. Time for her to get off her high horse and act her age.

google psychedelic trip art, it'll inspire you :

haha just how you assumed I was talking to you, I was only joking btw it's all good. OMG I LOVE THIS HOUSE!!! :thumbsup: Btw thanks for the music Killer they were awesome, that's the kind of music I like. Did you get to check out Psyro?

Aww you guys better love me now I asked my great grandma to drop me off some new pads :lol: go Libra facts!!! Btw I take no responsibility if any of them are wrong, I'm copying what they've written. * Barbie is 25 cm tall * A two-hour motion picture uses around 3.3 km of film * Lettuce has been grown and cultivated for more than 2500 years. * Kermit the frog has 11 points on his collar * The bullfrog is the only animal that never sleeps * Female elephants produce only one offspring every 5 years. * The African eagle, swooping at nearly 200km/h, can brake to a half in six metres. * Cooking and freezing does not affect the heat of a chilli * Termites eat wood twice as fast when listening to heavy metal music * A violin contains about 70 individual pieces of wood

Feeling guilty? :P

Don't self-diagnose for crying out loud :wall: Btw most people who try to self-diagnose do so because they've been told all or most of their life that there was something wrong with them. For example being called fat, other names and other negative comments. It's a learned behaviour that many take aboard instead of coming to terms that they're completely normal and what people said and did was wrong. Btw in my new house today WOOOOO!!!! :thumbsup: didn't sleep last night -.-

If she's your girlfriend then she should listen to you when you want to talk. I think anyone in a situation where their partner didn't listen properly would need assurance that they care. I just think she's overly sensitive when it comes to feed back. It's a two way street, if you have a problem with each other then you both need to communicate. If she thinks you're being a bit of a jerk this week then she needs to be able to voice it without you getting all defensive, likewise, she's been ignoring you so instead of taking it to heart she should probably try and accommodate that. Instead of walking away and saying "[bleep] you, don't call me, leave me alone" she needs to mature and be able to say something like. "When did you tell me this? I honestly don't remember, I'll try to pay more attention next time sorry." I don't think you should break up, that would be a pretty stupid reason, especially if you still love her. Relationships are about learning from each other and growing together. You're both young and at the moment you're trying to get this communication thing right, it takes a lot of practice! I'd only give up if you were on a much more mature level than her, ready to be open for communication on both ends and she constantly kept responding immature all the time. I would ignore her immature behaviour and praise her when she's doing the right thing. Even women need to be treated like puppies for training sometimes ;) For example if she's being immature then ignore her, don't be the first one to text her or ring her. But when she acknowledges your feelings and listens to you then respond with something like "When you listened (insert scenario here) it was really great. You made me feel like you really valued what I had to say, thank you :D." She'll catch on really quickly. When people ignore others, sometimes they do question whether they are the one's to blame. And sometimes we think negatively of ourselves or that somehow we deserved to be treated or spoken to that way. I can positively and honestly say you are not being pathetic. Every person has insecurities but it's how you respond to your insecurities that is the important part. You have nothing to be insecure about wongtong, you're beautiful, funny and smart!

At the moment I'm FREAKING THE [bleep] OUT!!!!!!! Brent and I left to go take some boxes over to the new house, got them unloaded then came back and our front screen door and main door were wide open. We locked that door before we left and Brent even double checked it after we closed it. I took Raiden and the phone with 000 on speed dial while Brent went in with the umbrella as a weapon and searched every room, under the beds, behind curtains, in cupboards etc nobody to be found. We then searched the place and nothing had been taken. WHAT THE HELL?? Well I'm now doing an all-nighter because I'm too paranoid to sleep. Thank [bleep] we're out of this place tomorrow morning. My credit card and $800 bracelet were sitting right on top of the microwave untouched!! the tv was still in place, the computers, gaming consoles, rock band gear sitting neatly where we left it. Why the hell would someone break in to our house and not take anything???? My hand bag, digital camera and spare phone are sitting right in front of the front door on the kitchen table!!! We don't have contents insurance yet, thank [bleep] for that but I still don't get it???? There's nothing missing from the medicine cabinet, so they're not drug stealers and I'm pretty confident I haven't pissed the wrong person off that they would come looking for me.

A healthy addiction doesn't interfere with your every day living :thumbup:

Yep always multi task but the one thing I can't do is have a conversation with someone while someone else is having a different conversation elsewhere. It confuses me and even with active listening skills I find myself pausing, forgetting what I was saying. I also can't write and talk, it frustrates me. Yet when it's all just activities, I can do many, many things at once.

If you go through life being scared of rejection you're going to miss out on a lot of great opportunities, including taking this girl to the dance. If you don't want to look like a loser then get the practice in now on how to deal with the possibility of rejection and gain some confidence. There is no perfect time to ask her out, just ask her. Why would it look weird asking her a month in advance? At least if she says no you have a month to get over it and ask someone else. And what if someone beats you to it because you took to long to ask? Why waste your time and energy on convincing yourself? You can use so much less just going 1-2-3 and then opening your mouth to speak. It'll be over in a second and you'll get over a rejection in time but something that will take longer to get over is having the perfect opportunity to do something and never going through with it. Better off with a no than a "what if". If you look at this statistically without trying to talk yourself in to how much she likes you exactly if you ask her out, she has 50% chance to say yes, 50% chance to say no. If you don't ask, you have 0%. Short answers to your questions. I don't know how: "So there's this dance coming up have you heard about it? wanna come with me?" I don't know when: When you see her next What would you do if she says no: Get over it and ask someone else, by the time you finish high school you probably won't even remember her name.

I've also had another time where it didn't work out I dated my good friend Lachlan and we had a ball together but I just couldn't fall in love with the guy. We're still pretty good friends too.

I'd have to say that it does happen. My best friend who passed away and I both believed that if something were to happen it should just flow naturally rather than forcing anything. A few years passed and I fell head over heels for him, the day before I got to tell him he died in a car accident but I found out by his sister that he felt the same way about me according to emails etc that she found left on his computer.