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Just ask her not to smoke around you.

 

It's not as easy as that cause she is still always around me :roll:

 

 

 

Tell her, both your feelings towards her and your feelings towards her smoking.

 

Told her my feeligs towards her for a few months, nothing from it except mroe fights and less talking...

 

I might try saying my feeligs towards her smoking...well...next time i see her that is :?

 

 

 

Errrm, nothing. She is your ex-girlfriend, you can't tell her what to do and smoking is her choice.

 

There gotta be somethign i can do, she knows how much i hate it; to be honest, i think it to do with some of the otehr people peer-pressuring her, but i dunno :lol:

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Okay, she just went on MSn and i asked her when she started; apparently she was smoking before she met me, stopped for me, then started again when we broke up...

 

Meh, nothign i can do then...

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First of all, are we talking smoking cigarettes or marijuana?

 

 

 

It's her body; she can do what she wants with it. If you think it's doing her damage, tough. So long as she doesn't do it around you, you've nothing to complain about.

 

Well I think it depends. If he doesn't want her to smoke because he doesn't want to have to be around a smoker, then I agree that his complaints aren't as justified. They're still somewhat understandable because of second hand smoking, etc. But if he doesn't want her to smoke because he's concerned about her health and doesn't want her to get addicted (if we're talking about cigarettes), then I think he has every right to be concerned.

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If they were actual friends, as in proper friends, I'd agree with ya trips.

 

 

 

But given they've only just made up after a relationship between them broke down, and the fact he has certain other feelings that she knows about, him getting involved with her private choices just gives off the impression he wants to control her life. If he gets involved here, it's all gonna blow up in his face.

 

 

 

I mean, there's another thing. We don't even know the situation between the two of them. Why did they split up in the first place?

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I agree with you that what action he should take largely depends up on their relationship. And he has to decide which is his priority: his friendship with her (if they have a friendship) or her health/well-being. Because if he does something drastic to get her to stop smoking (like tell someone), she'll probably hate him for quite some time.

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Leave her be. There's nothing worse than you anti-smokers trying to find ways to get smokers to stop. You're as bad as those bible freaks pushing Jesus on everyone they come by. Mind your own business and don't start smoking if you don't like it.

 

 

 

But if he doesn't want her to smoke because he's concerned about her health and doesn't want her to get addicted (if we're talking about cigarettes), then I think he has every right to be concerned.

 

 

 

Yes, he has every right to be concerned. But think about it. Every time you go get fast food do you want me to sit around and tell you how absolutely horrible it is on your body? How it can lead to high cholesterol? How is can lead to obesity? Heart disease? What I'm trying to say is it's fine to be concerned, but he doesn't need to set out to stop her. You just try to take my MacDonald's and we're gonna have a problem..

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Leave her be. There's nothing worse than you anti-smokers trying to find ways to get smokers to stop. You're as bad as those bible freaks pushing Jesus on everyone they come by. Mind your own business and don't start smoking if you don't like it.

 

Only difference is cigarettes can kill you and harm 3rd parties as well, while bible freaks are for the most part a harmless pain in the [wagon].

 

 

 

Although trying to force someone like an ex to stop is a bit unreasonable, asking her not to do it around you shouldn't be.

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Only difference is cigarettes can kill you and harm 3rd parties as well, while bible freaks are for the most part a harmless pain in the [wagon].

 

 

 

You've got a point, however secondhand smoke is not as dangerous as the gov't leads you to believe since it's been filtered twice and the concentration going into the 3rd party is very very small. Unless you live with a smoker and are in very close contact with them while they're smoking, you should see very little harm actually done.

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My opinion, its her life, she can make her own choices, and she is your ex.

 

 

 

You have no control over what she does, alot of people smoke, my friends do, its their life let them get on with it, peer pressure is a load of bs because you make the final choice.

 

 

 

however if she smokes near you you can say dont smoke near me, or tell her to go outside if shes indoors...

 

 

 

Not saying you have to support her smoking, she knows the risks, its an expensive habit

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I don't comment on people's behavior unless they are family. I have to occassionally deal with a few people who openly use (hard) drugs; I don't judge them or throw a tantrum, even though they agree with my suggestions that it can mess you up.

 

 

 

Especially if she's your ex-girlfriend, I wouldn't comment in any way. If you're outdoors you wont be even that affected while around her. The right 'play' is ignoring it... It's a minor thing really.

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Let her smoke, you'll piss her off more giving the age old facts that everyone knows than pleases her. Voice your concern, just don't start saying "oh it's bad for you", everyone knows that.

 

 

 

Nothing pisses me off more than when someone starts ranting on about the negative effects to smoking, how I'm doing myself no good with it etc. I already know all the facts, now let me enjoy the smoke for Christ's sake.

 

 

 

Would you like me to give out to you every time you visit a fast food restaurant about the seriously bad quality of food, the negative health effects of it and the general creation of the products? No, you wouldn't at all.

 

 

 

As Deloria said, someone going "blah blah smoking bad" to you is like a fundamentalist Christian coming to your home to preach, annoying as [bleep].

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If it's because you fear for her personal health since you care about her that much, then tell her that. If she doesn't care and won't take your feelings into account, then she's giving you a very good reason not to care about her.

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You can ask her not to smoke when she is around you but when she isn't smoking around you, quite frankly, it is none of your business. If she wants to smoke she will, giving her a lecture will do no good at all.

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its an expensive habit

 

 

 

 

 

Heh, a pack of Cigarettes are like $6 here. (New York)

 

 

 

Usually it's a bit less but near that price range.. If you smoked 2 cigarettes a day, it'd come to around 37 packs a year, which is $222 at that price. Not a particularly expensive habit, some people can spend that amount just on a pair of jeans or a quality jacket.

 

 

 

I'd rather drop it for health reasons than the minimal financial ones. Anyone can afford smoking cigarettes, even the poorest people. (not to mention the fact cigarettes are dirt cheap in other countries, even as low as $0.20 per pack)

 

 

 

It's only an expensive habit if you're a serious chain-smoker & consume 1-2 packs or more per day. In that case you can save thousands of dollars a year that could be spent on other useful things like a car, setting up a fund for your kid, a brand new computer etc. (2 packs a day at NY prices would cost over $4000 a year)

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It's her choice wether she smokes. Just let her do it. It sounds like she is doing it to piss you off, so let her ruin her body. You can try to stop her, but you can't really do much. I understand you don't want her smoking around you, and you can ask her to stop doing that, but you can't do much else.

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The average smoker has about 14 cigs daily. [1]

 

 

 

That's just over 250 packs a year. Mlbfan said they are $6 a pack (20 in a pack). That means the average smoker will spend $1500 on cigarettes per year. Pretty expensive for what they're worth if you ask me.

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