He's an alcoholic has no place to go is unemployed and cannot find work. Nobody else in my family will let him stay with them cause of his alcoholism.

 

 

 

We let him stay with us in January and he's done nothing to clean himself up, he's in fact collected unemployment gave my mother $300 bucks for rent for that month and continued to drink (I've found bottles I've seen him drinking out of outside our house next to our steps).

 

 

 

He hasn't gone to any AA Meetings or anything and got a big pay check I forgot where from. Was supposed to get an apartment for a few months and clean himself up but he didn't. Instead he moved in with some woman down the block from us and is paying her rent to stay with her. He's now frustrated with his situation there and wants to move back in with us.

 

 

 

My parents won't let him back in with us cause of his problems and him not doing anything about them to better himself. He's outside now ringing our doorbell but we aren't answering..

No, its his fault. Different story if he wasn't an alcoholic or was actually trying to stop.

No, its his fault. Different story if he wasn't an alcoholic or was actually trying to stop.

 

 

 

Well, there are many psychological events(usually parental related) that could happen in a child's life that leads them to turn to alcohol abuse. An example is a child being beaten/psychologically hurt from divorce and they turn to alcohol because it makes them feel alive. They can get sucked in before they even know what's going on, as alcohol effects everyone differently and different mental states can lead to worse effects. It is unfortunate that some good people get the short end of the stick. Now, was his uncle generally a good guy? We don't know. If he was and just the wrong events happened in that life, that sucks but it is very possible. If he was a troublemaker and was known for degenerate behavior, then I believe the appropriate question is: do you believe in Karma? Addiction is a strange thing and not as controllable as people think, it truly robs the best of good people and lowers the worst of others.

If he was in any way trying to get over it, regardless of the trouble he was having Id say yes. If he isnt doing or at least trying to do anything at the most feel some sympathy for the pathetic state he is in.

Also, instead of just trying to get rid of him...Why don't you help him recover? That's what families are for.

Also, instead of just trying to get rid of him...Why don't you help him recover? That's what families are for.

 

We gave him a month we told him we'd take him to AA Meetings he wanted nothing of it. So at the end of the month we had to let him go.

I don't know, once your an alcoholic, you depend on the stuff to keep from being all shaky. Kinda the opposite of when your sober and you drink too much, you get shaky and out of it.

 

 

 

I wouldn't feel bad though. If he won't cooperate with you and get a job, its his problem. And if he keeps ringing the door bell, I'd call the cops and they could probably get him hooked up with someone who could help.

Also, instead of just trying to get rid of him...Why don't you help him recover? That's what families are for.

 

Seriously.

 

 

 

This ain't gonna do [cabbage]. Drag him to a rehab clinic - about the only thing anyone can do. It's a disease same as a drug addiction, and it's really about impossible for him to quit.

Don't feel bad for him if he did nothing to help himself. He deserves what he gets. You guys told him and he didn't want to hear, that's his fault.

Also, instead of just trying to get rid of him...Why don't you help him recover? That's what families are for.

 

Seriously.

 

 

 

This ain't gonna do [cabbage]. Drag him to a rehab clinic - about the only thing anyone can do. It's a disease same as a drug addiction, and it's really about impossible for him to quit.

 

 

 

Yeah, best option would be toss him out on his [wagon] and let him fend for himself. Shock will usually work.

 

Or get him to go to AA meetings.

Now, if his addiction was to RuneScape... :-k

No.

If he really wanted, he could at least try quiting on alcohol. Your family gave him a chance and he wasted it. If he doesn't really want to change, then no, you shouldn't feel bad for him.

Forcibly suggest rehab and if he declines under persistence, let his liver dissolve.

Unfortunately, if you've given them the oppurtunity to help themselves and they don't. Your parent's are looking out for their children's best interest. Growing around that is not an ideal enviroment trust me. You can still love them, but sometimes it takes losing everything for their eyes to open and see what the problem is.

 

 

 

If and when he decides to clean himself up i would still try to be there for them, support is what they will need. But until then you should try not to be emotionally tied to them.

Let him fall, just remember to be there to help pick up the pieces.

Wow, too close to home. I had an uncle like that. Dad kicked him out of the house when we came back from a trip and the front of the house is all messy because he brought his drinking friends over.

He is a weak person. He will likely never sort himself out and is just selfish and pathetic. Forget about him forever.

He is a weak person. He will likely never sort himself out and is just selfish and pathetic. Forget about him forever.

 

Maybe not forever. Forever was a long time last I checked.

Why not help him out of his mess?

He is a weak person. He will likely never sort himself out and is just selfish and pathetic. Forget about him forever.

 

Maybe not forever. Forever was a long time last I checked.

 

Not long enough.

 

 

 

Why not help him out of his mess?

 

It won't work.

Why not help him out of his mess?

 

Seriously. These guys are way too critical.

 

 

 

You would have to literally drag him to a clinic. As much as I'd like life to be a movie, a talking bunny isn't going to persuade your uncle to give up the drink.

It is his choice whether or not he wishes to get clean. I would just suggest trying to talk to him at his most sober, which will probably be his most grouchy point, and tell him how he is affecting you all. I wouldn't suggest forcing him into a clinic or program, that should be his choice, but maybe just introduce those possibilities too him? Help him through those tough days and support him too if he decides to seek treatment. You do got to remember he is your uncle and I am sure he does still cares for your family. I hope that helps... I am not any sort of expert on this subject so I would ask someone who specializes in this if all else fails. Good luck :)