Depression...

[cadburys_egg]

I posted this about 5 minutes ago, but it hasn't shown up. :? If it has, and i'm just blind, lock this. Also, if this is not appropriate delete/lock.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyway, lately i've been on and off to whether I "suffer" from it. I've always been slightly more depressed than the average person, I lack self-esteem and confidence in public. So I guess it doesn't really help.

 

 

 

Now, i'm not talking about "Oh noes I cant go outside" depression it's more of a "Why do I exist" depression.

 

 

 

I'm usually fine, if i'm in a group of 3 or more I tend to be the happiest person there. In groups I am the happy, I tell jokes and do generally amusing things, nothing special. But when it comes down to just me, or one person and me, the tables turn. Regardless of age, sex or gender - I just lose it. My mind sinks into a state of "What am I doing?".

 

 

 

As i've said in other threads, I have "emo" traits. I listen to "emo" bands, including Fall Out Boy and Boy Kill Boy (isn't it odd they both have boy in them? o.O). But I don't always dress to match. I prefer to wear collared shirts (collars down, I ain't no chav) and whatever trousers. But I don't cut or anything although I did almost manage to top myself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I seem to have gone off-topic but ... I just don't know how, why or how to cope. I have talked with parents and adult figures about it, but all respond the same with "Oh it's just a phase, it'll end.", but will it?

 

 

 

Eh, turn this into a depression topic if you will but has anyone got any advice or similiar experiences?

[petey]

too bad =[[ i've been feeling the exact same way for the past 3-4 months, course ive been liking a girl for the past 12 months, must have something to do with that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

anyway, whenever im alone, i feel like, oh its gonna be 5 soon, then at 5 ill be like, oh its gonna be 8 soon, i hate it so much and i feel like im wasting my life away =[ i always feel like i want to just so no to everyone around me and just be alone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

anyway, this girl. she sends me mad, im always angry at her when im not with her, whenever i go near her i just want to hold her and do things :S ive been told to just spend less time with her, when i dont spend time with her im upset, when i do spend time with her, im upset, because i know i cant have her =[ were good friends, its just shes been with every other guy in the bradford area, shes been with my 2 best friends, 2 other guys from school, some guy in halifax whos 16 =/ some guy in gomersal whos 18 =/ [i felt like punching him] and shes using this guy in leeds WHOS 20.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i really hate my life...but i put a smile on everyday just so i dont get alot of crap and attention off people around me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

sorry to hear about your problems like =[ just try and sort it out yourself, step back and look at whats causing it, be it a person, i thing or maybe just spare time. solve them. hope you feel better some time=]

[Lionheart_0]

How old are? I know when I was younger, I was bullied almost every day, and I felt depressed because of it (although i couldnt figure it out at the time). Then I went to a psychologist, and we ran some small tests on me, and found i wasnt depressed. Why was this? By the time i got to the doctor about it (remember, i didnt know why i was depressed at the time), i was not bullied anymore, plus i had grown up a little.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So look at your life right now, is somone doing something to you? or perhaps it is a phase, and you just need to wait a while to go through it.

[indy500fan]

I think we all get depressed from time to time. I've been really, really down before, but it always passes. Best thing to do is just kind of go with it, and keep in your head that being depressed is pretty much pointless. You only have a little bit of time being alive, might as well make the most of it. I don't think the "why do I exist" thought should depress you. There is no point to your or mine or anyones existence, but you do, so make the most of it. Or don't, either way. What ever makes you happier. If there is a point to life, I think it would be to be happy as much as possible.

[knives669]

Well, let me first start off by saying that you're not alone. I'd been suffering through depression my entire life. When I got in ninth grade, it became completely unbearable. I started to think about suicide alot, I couldn't focus on my school work, and I couldn't treat my friends right.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I've been in therapy for it for about two years now. I've been on medication for about a year. My life has taken a great turn for the better. The medication helps, and so does talking to my psychologist.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But, even through all of that, and all the help I have, I've realized that only you can truly make yourself happy. I know you question alot of things right now, such as what you're doing with your existence, and other things like that. The best thing that you can do to quiet those thoughts is to set a course for your life, and realize what goals you have, then work to achieve them. After a few accomplished goals, you'll start to have those thoughts less and less. It can also make you feel better about yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Without being too critical of yourself, take a few days to really evaluate the way you act and think. Learn if there's a pattern to your depression. Learn what you do or what you think of when you do get depressed and try to avoid these things. Take a deeper look at yourself and see if you can find out why you are getting depressed when you think of these things. This is usually the part that most people have trouble with, and if you don't think you can't evaluate yourself, then see a therapist about it. Just because you go once, doesn't mean that you don't have to get on medication or go for the rest of your life. You could go just to see why you are getting depressed, and what you can do to help it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I hope the things that I've said have helped you, and I hope you start to feel better.

[My_Eggs]

How old are? I know when I was younger, I was bullied almost every day, and I felt depressed because of it (although i couldnt figure it out at the time). Then I went to a psychologist, and we ran some small tests on me, and found i wasnt depressed. Why was this? By the time i got to the doctor about it (remember, i didnt know why i was depressed at the time), i was not bullied anymore, plus i had grown up a little.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So look at your life right now, is somone doing something to you? or perhaps it is a phase, and you just need to wait a while to go through it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

did you just let the bullies keep bullying you? i had this kid at school who loved to slam my locker when i was about to put my back pack in, and finally i just decided i was sick of it and punched him right in the stomache as hard as i could... lets just say he doesn't bully me anymore... anyways, i havn't been depressed lately cause i took care of some bullies that i had at school 8-)

[Fadfdfd]

I've actually had a sight of depression today :( . My girlfriend dumped me and A LOT of my friends are friends w/ her, so now I have hardly any friends :(. It stinks, it's really bad :(. And now I have nobody to dance w/ on friday :(

[petey]

Depression sucks. I feel depressed quite a bit but over the past few days it's gotten pretty bad. It's actually gotten so bad I've though of ditching all my friends just to get away from the world.. My gf is depressed right now too (for reasons I won't discuss, luckily I didn't cause it) and she mentioned some things that are making me worry about her. She's been really down and even crying during class. I feel like I should be crying but I refuse to do it.. I think I might be depressed because I surpress most of the emotions I don't want to show.. I dunno.. Life kind of sucks right now, but I put on a happy face every day just to try to help my gf..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

posted by deloria, you double posted and this one seems to be taking off =]

[deloriagod]

(posted on the other topic, but this one seems more popular)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Depression sucks. I feel depressed quite a bit but over the past few days it's gotten pretty bad. It's actually gotten so bad I've though of ditching all my friends just to get away from the world.. My gf is depressed right now too (for reasons I won't discuss, luckily I didn't cause it) and she mentioned some things that are making me worry about her. She's been really down and even crying during class. I feel like I should be crying but I refuse to do it.. I think I might be depressed because I surpress most of the emotions I don't want to show.. I dunno.. Life kind of sucks right now, but I put on a happy face every day just to try to help my gf..

[deloriagod]

 

Depression sucks. I feel depressed quite a bit but over the past few days it's gotten pretty bad. It's actually gotten so bad I've though of ditching all my friends just to get away from the world.. My gf is depressed right now too (for reasons I won't discuss, luckily I didn't cause it) and she mentioned some things that are making me worry about her. She's been really down and even crying during class. I feel like I should be crying but I refuse to do it.. I think I might be depressed because I surpress most of the emotions I don't want to show.. I dunno.. Life kind of sucks right now, but I put on a happy face every day just to try to help my gf..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

posted by deloria, you double posted and this one seems to be taking off =]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks, I posted it right after you quoted it :P I always seem to pick the wrong topics lol

[Oy_the_Great]

It's often not just a phase, you just grow up and realise the answer to the question 'what is the reason I'm here?' is ridiculously simple: we're here to do whatever we want and we have to keep in mind that we don't want to do stuff to others that we don't want them to do to us. Vice versa: most of what we like, others like too, so try to do that in your life. Do what you like that pleases your environment. It'll make you a lot happier as well.

 

 

 

The only thing that matter in the end is happiness, not money or possessions, though they do add a slight surplus to our lives. Just make sure you control your life and let nothing control you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh, and I'm positive that what you're going through is no where near depression. It's part of growing up for everyone with an IQ over 80 ;)

[deloriagod]

Seeing as how many of us here are teens I thought I'd post a list of symptoms of depression. Now, just because you might fit into some of these doesn't mean you're depressed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

• --Frequent sadness, tearfulness, crying
   
   
   
  --Hopelessness
   
   
   
  --Decreased interest in activities; or inability to enjoy previously favorite activities
   
   
   
  --Persistent boredom; low energy
   
   
   
  --Social isolation, poor communication
   
   
   
  --Low self esteem and guilt
   
   
   
  --Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
   
   
   
  --Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
   
   
   
  --Difficulty with relationships
   
   
   
  --Frequent complaints of physical illnesses, such as headaches and stomachaches
   
   
   
  --Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school
   
   
   
  --Poor concentration
   
   
   
  --A major change in eating and/or sleeping patterns
   
   
   
  --Talk of or efforts to run away from home
   
   
   
  --Thoughts or expressions of suicide or self-destructive behavior
   
   
   
  --Alcohol and Drug Abuse
   
   
   
  --Self-Injury

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I fit into half of these (literally, I fit into 9/18). So I wouldn't really consider myself too depressed..

[jak722]

I was soo frigging depressed when I was 14 to 16...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We recently moved at the time and I didn't not know a single soul where we moved to.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'd say it started in grade 9, peaked at grade 10, eased a bit at grade 11, then a couple more family related arguments when I was in grade 12.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And then I finally graduated from highschool.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Im 17 now, turning 18 this next week, im in University, and I tell you, im living my life the way I wanted it to be. :thumbsup:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So im telling this to you right now, your life can change in as little time as a year. So just sit back and watch things unfold. :D

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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--Frequent sadness, tearfulness, crying Had it. Im absolutely spiffy now though hehe. :

 

 

 

--Hopelessness Had it. You either come to accept life is like that, or try and do something about it. I accepted it cause im lazy like that.

 

 

 

--Persistent boredom; low energy Had it. Im always bored, but I also always find interesting things to do now.

 

 

 

--Social isolation, poor communication Had it. You'll get friends eventually. Personally I tried to avoid people as much as possible, but as you grow older you realize this is impossible. Im still a quiet guy irl, but I do enjoy chatting with others a whole lot more than before.

 

 

 

--Low self esteem and guilt Had it. But then I realized, "Who the hell cares anyway? By the time highschool ends, I will probably never ever see these damn people again!"

 

 

 

--Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure Had it. I just stopped caring though. I almost failed highschool because I was 1% close to failing a required credit (51% final mark hehe). Screw that, Im never taking that class again...

 

 

 

--Increased irritability, anger, or hostility Had it. But then you realized you make less friends and more enemies, and thus deeper deppressions if you get angry at people. Jak is mellow irl now. 8-)

 

 

 

--Difficulty with relationships Had it. I don't intend to get married anyway so why bother? :notalk:

 

 

 

--Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school Had it. Im always late for my morning classes... Always. Its more of a habit that depression though really. :lol:

 

 

 

--Poor concentration Had it. Concentration is boring... unless I find it fun and amusing to do.

 

 

 

--Talk of or efforts to run away from home Had it. Always arguing with my mom and I don't like speaking to my dad at all. I hate my younger brother too. But my youngest brother, I like him. he's cool.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If anything, I swear is just because of your hormones messing up your head.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It'll pass don't worry. :wink:

[bull912000]

Your definately outgoing. I would have to say that if your going to collage, hang in there. You will never be alone there. If not, then try to hang around with people you feel comfortable with and are not the kind of people to get in trouble with the law.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The post above me pretty much explains it. I have been going through depression for a while as well, starting during the seventh grade and continuing today. However, mine is from me being alone, like I'm the total negitive in society. I don't even think this way, I am neither pestimistic or optimistic. After peaking in the eight grade, I have learned to just to try and hang around people and try to put my place in society.

[Make7upu101]

I know what you're going through. Sometimes I get the "what's the point of living" thoughts. Although I think suicide is still a far step away, I still have the thought in the back of my mind. When I try and reason with it I just come up with pretty much curiosity. I actually still want to see if tomorrow is a better day.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hope I helped.

[____]

[cabbage] it's just a phase, it'll end. Any depression that last longer than a few weeks is serious and should be diagnosed and treated by your GP.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'd state some more advise, but since I burried my past in order to move forward in life, I'm probably not the best person to offer any. Just don't bottle up emotion, that'll do more harm that good - I know that from experience.

[VOV]

Well there are really only two outcomes; it winds up being nothing and you get on with your life or you realize it is a serious problem and you go see a doctor about it.

[insane]

You can completely ignore this advice if you want, but I would suggest laying off the depressing music. I can't see it doing anything other than contributing to the problem.

[assassin_696]

You're not the only one by any means. When i'm going out with a group of my friends I have a blast, laugh, have a great time and forget all my worries. But when i'm on my own I can often get quite down. I'm a bit of a deep thinker, I also ponder the meanings of everything and what I really want in life etc. I might listen to some sad, quiet music (not really emo) and not really seem the happy type at times. Sometimes I don't feel like going out or seeing anyone, and just want to block myself away from the world.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think, and I hope it's just a phase. My work at school isn't suffering a bit, so i'm not really worried about it. I'd say my happiness (and lack of) is probably linked to a girl I know, who i'm crazy about. It's probably a state of limerence and love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyway, I get over it by looking beyond the moment and into the possible future. I realise that i'm lucky to be who I am and have what I have, and life's too short to spend too much time feeling down. It also helps knowing that other people have been there before, so i listen to upbeat unrequited love songs amongst others.

[cadburys_egg]

• --Frequent sadness, tearfulness, crying
   
   
   
  No, but I do get close.
   
   
   
  --Hopelessness
   
   
   
  Yeah, pretty much.
   
   
   
  --Decreased interest in activities; or inability to enjoy previously favorite activities
   
   
   
  Kind of, it really depends on the day.
   
   
   
  --Persistent boredom; low energy
   
   
   
  Not at all, I always have high energy. Should probably cut down on the ol' sugar intake.
   
   
   
  --Social isolation, poor communication
   
   
   
  Yeah.
   
   
   
  --Low self esteem and guilt
   
   
   
  Low self everything, yes.
   
   
   
  Guilt, no.
   
   
   
  --Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
   
   
   
  Spot on. This is generally why I just gave up on trying to get a girlfriend.
   
   
   
  --Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
   
   
   
  Anger is a big yes.
   
   
   
  --Difficulty with relationships
   
   
   
  I've never really had one due to my lack of confidence, self-esteem and sensitivity to rejection or failure (as above)
   
   
   
  --Frequent complaints of physical illnesses, such as headaches and stomachaches
   
   
   
  Not really, I have had lots in the past though.
   
   
   
  --Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school
   
   
   
  Actually i'm achieving a A-/B+ average and have a high attendance. I may be depressed but I try not to let it affect my school work.
   
   
   
  --Poor concentration
   
   
   
  A fair amount, yes, what teenager doesn't?
   
   
   
  --A major change in eating and/or sleeping patterns
   
   
   
  Not really, I don't eat much as it is. I'm underweight to an average teenager.
   
   
   
  My sleeping pattern is always the same, not enough.
   
   
   
  --Talk of or efforts to run away from home
   
   
   
  Thoughts.
   
   
   
  --Thoughts or expressions of suicide or self-destructive behavior
   
   
   
  As I said in my first post, i've attempted to top myself.
   
   
   
  --Alcohol and Drug Abuse
   
   
   
  Never.
   
   
   
  --Self-Injury
   
   
   
  Only once...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can completely ignore this advice if you want, but I would suggest laying off the depressing music. I can't see it doing anything other than contributing to the problem.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I only have about 3, maybe 4. They just always seem to play at the wrong time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyway, thanks for the advice everyone. I'll try to keep it all in mind.

[BlueLancer]

I was majorly depressed at 16 when I had to change schools and I had literally no friends over there. Sure I made friends fast but it's just not the same thing, and I was absent for like weeks at a time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This may be very unhealthy advice, but what I did is just stop caring about my 'dumb' thoughts, so in that way I became emotionally cold to my weak emotions (please don't link me to some evil character test where that is one of the criterias before turning to ultimate darkness).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm still mentally balanced and fortunately have friends now, but whenever I'm alone I just try to find something to do and don't think of anything weird anymore, it comes naturally.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Like darkrick said, depression is a severe disease just like cancer. Too bad I didn't get treatment for it, but your mind plays a huge part in "curing" it (or just repressing the feeling). If you can find other activities, you could 'forget' about it.

[fatbill]

hmm i know how you feel, i turned emo/suicidal about 2 years ago for 1 year due to quite a lot of factors. The main one really that my late mum was dieing from cancer in the brain, this, feeling left out, never going out, not having many friends and felling like no one cares. Made me depressed, after a while i later started to harm my self and feel like i want to die. a

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

fter about my year, in that year my mum dieing i eventually stopped, yes i do still feel suicidal sometimes and self harm seemed to let that frustration out when i did it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i would suggest talking more to people as i never did and had to handle it all on my own. sorry i din't really say anything usefull

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

also deloriagod your list i must say that in my worst time i must have hit into atless 12 maybe 14 of them3

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

goodluck

[____]

In all seriousness, who here has actually tried taking their own life before?

[MPM]

To be honest, I think every person has at one point in their life, and it just depends on how they were raised, and how they view themselves that halp them get through that time.

 

 

 

I personally have had depression since around 7th or 8th grade. No idea what trigged it, no idea what kept it going. I wont go into details, but around the end of 11th grade, it was bad enough that the anerexia that connected with the depression had me at 100 lbs(45 kilos) while I was 5' 10". I even had bought the bottle of sleeping pills to stop everything :|

 

 

 

Things happened that kept me from doing it, which i'm very glad for. And now even though I still am depressed a lot of the time, I can deal with it a lot better. Plus, I now know when it is going to start being really bad so I can warn friends to try to help me out or so I can take extra measures so it doesnt continue for a really long time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My advice: No matter how bad things get, wait it out. It may take a long time, but eventually things will even themselves out and it will be better.

[Oy_the_Great]

In all seriousness, who here has actually tried taking their own life before?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think I know where you're going and I agree. If you know that only roughly 5% of all suicide attempts succede, you know that they're mostly a cry for attention and a try-out rather than something life threatning. My brother was depressed, we didn't even know it, and he only needed one try to.. leave this place.

 

 

 

Killing yourself isn't hard, so the 19/20 tries that fail and especially that one that is fatal, are IMO a very serious signs that something's wrong with the way we're living. People tend to look too much at the dark side of life, I try to just not make too big a deal out of everything that bothers me. Try to put it all into perspective, try to realise we often don't get what we want and be happy with the little that does actually work out well.