Changing Your Style, Parents Hate It?

[supercanon14]

When I, like you, became a woman, I received many of the same criticisms. We sisters have to stick together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

derigod is a guy last time i knew

[BlueLancer]

 

When I, like you, became a woman, I received many of the same criticisms. We sisters have to stick together.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

derigod is a guy last time i knew

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I checked it out, 'derigod' is a succesful googlebomb. And you did it without knowledge, and don't probably know what it means. :lol: But good job.

[Wachtwoord]

Don't we get a bit off-topic?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On Topic:

 

 

 

Personally I would just argue/yelling (mostly the same =P) with my parents everytime and it mostly solves the problem in one way or another. But that's because argueing is a second nature to me (If you can say it like that in english).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And how about just asking him what his problem really is? Then you can have a more mature arguement without yelling, which will really help.

 

 

 

Just asking what someone's problem is helped me more then once.

[gunker1991]

In my freshman year as you call it(we just call it eerstejaarkes).I used to be another nerd,just like u.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Kept that way until 3rd year.When I started to listen to more genres of music like Metal and Grindcore.Sinds then I have changed A LOT.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I used to have glasses,weird shoes etc you know what :oops: .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now I have long hair,wear metal shirts,go to metal partys wear contacts etc.I think it was for the best although my mom is really worried about some of the friends I make.

[supermonk]

You can't "change" your style. Your style is your style, if your changing it then your faking it.

 

 

 

Quit being a poser and start being yourself.

[rushrock]

You can't "change" your style. Your style is your style, if your changing it then your faking it.

 

 

 

Quit being a poser and start being yourself.

 

 

 

...Ever heard of a change of heart?

[runemetsa]

You can't "change" your style. Your style is your style, if your changing it then your faking it.

 

 

 

Quit being a poser and start being yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So you are saying that you should be like you are for your whole life? geez. So if you are following your statement, you must look like whatever your parents wanted you to look like when you were 5-years old. no thank you, your own style developes when you grow older, and if in some point of your life your thoughts and ideologies (hopefully) change, you might want to look a bit different.

[rushrock]

 

You can't "change" your style. Your style is your style, if your changing it then your faking it.

 

 

 

Quit being a poser and start being yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So you are saying that you should be like you are for your whole life? geez. So if you are following your statement, you must look like whatever your parents wanted you to look like when you were 5-years old. no thank you, your own style developes when you grow older, and if in some point of your life your thoughts and ideologies (hopefully) change, you might want to look a bit different.

 

 

 

^ What he said. If you have really bad style, I think eventually they would want to change it. EXPRESS YOURSELF!!! \

[a7xpure]

Don't really feel like explaining everything so I'll base it on this short example :x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Grade - 4, just like everyone..an annoying little brat

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Grade 5 - 6, Whigger :XXX!

 

 

 

Grade 7 - 8, Punk/Goth

 

 

 

and now in grade 9, I'm just the social experiment >_<

[Adam007]

Sounds like your average teen to be honest. You want independence so you're being rebellious by changing how your parents want you to look. While I'm sure there are other points on your parents side you're completely failing to mention, it's pretty natural to go through this kind of a phase.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So at this point it's up to you. How important is it that you 'express yourself' - aka - act rebellious and start dressing differently? It's obvious that you have two choices, given the state you're Dad's in. Stay relatively similar to how you are now, or take the "I need my space, I'm an independent teenager" route, in which you'll probably continue having these outings with your dad.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh, and sorry if I sound condescending. Whenever I talk about things like this I unintentionally revert to psychologist mode.

[Lionheart_0]

Im getting the idea that people think being a nerd is bad, and dont even know what a nerd is... poor children. Nerds will make the future, and then you will see...

[TotalTalker]

I tihnk that im goin thru the same stage as i am in now. I used 2 b that guy who stopped in and played games, but now, ive got some new friends, and i go out most days. its goodto change, if you think its right.

[deloriagod]

You can't "change" your style. Your style is your style, if your changing it then your faking it.

 

 

 

Quit being a poser and start being yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wow.. I've been a poser for so long I forgot what it's like to wear tight straighted legged jeans, stripped long sleeved shirts, shoes with velcro, part my hair down the middle, and watch Sesame Street.. [/sarcasm]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I tihnk that im goin thru the same stage as i am in now. I used 2 b that guy who stopped in and played games, but now, ive got some new friends, and i go out most days. its goodto change, if you think its right.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I think my change is good. I'm less dependent on my parents, have lots of new friends, and have a good social life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Im getting the idea that people think being a nerd is bad, and dont even know what a nerd is... poor children. Nerds will make the future, and then you will see...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

They'll make the future but they probably won't get the kind of girls I'm looking for until they're rich..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sounds like your average teen to be honest. You want independence so you're being rebellious by changing how your parents want you to look. While I'm sure there are other points on your parents side you're completely failing to mention, it's pretty natural to go through this kind of a phase.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So at this point it's up to you. How important is it that you 'express yourself' - aka - act rebellious and start dressing differently? It's obvious that you have two choices, given the state you're Dad's in. Stay relatively similar to how you are now, or take the "I need my space, I'm an independent teenager" route, in which you'll probably continue having these outings with your dad.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh, and sorry if I sound condescending. Whenever I talk about things like this I unintentionally revert to psychologist mode.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks Adam, I really value your input on this. It's important to me that I express myself. The only thing that has changed in my appearence is that my clothes have gotten a little tighter since I couldn't stand wearing XL shirts when I can wear mediums easily. I combed my hair differently, it used to be [bleep]ed and now it's flat. I'd been [bleep]ing it since 4th grade which was about the same time I got my ear pierced. I let that heal up in 6th grade and now (10th grade) I pushed the earring back through since the hole was still in my ear (just covered by skin on both sides). I try not to argue back with my dad since he likes to argue. No matter how I do something he finds something bad about it and tries to argue about it. Last night he tried to start an agruement about how I won't be able to get a job if I look like a trouble maker. I just smiled and walked away.. I think I'm going to take the independent teenager route. In 2 1/2 years I'll be off to college and my parents won't be there all the time with me so I need to become independent before I leave. Otherwise college will be horrible..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edit: I thought I'd just throw this little bit in since it just happened. My dad came upstairs and I was listening to music. He was in the kitchen and he walked over to me after a minute and just stood there looking at me so I took out my headphones and he went off about how I need to be able to hear him when he's talking to me and he raised me better than this, then got cocky again and went off about how he could just sell my car if I don't stop showing him attitude. He knows I have anger problems (and I'm fairly sure he does too) and he doesn't expect me to get mad when he goes off about s* like that.. Now I'm in a horrible mood and honestly feel like beating the s* out of something.. This is about the time I wish I was a hunter so I'd at least have something to take my anger out on.

[Tigra00]

I wish my life could be this petty...