Marriage and Kids?

Consider this as a step up from the teenage angst that clouded these forums recently.

I'll share a personal story with you guys :)

My parents got married 3 times. No, they never got divorced once. How and why? Well, it started when they were still in university. They were in a relationship long enough to want to get married. The problem was that their parents would probably dissuade them from doing so. So what they did was get married through a judge without letting my grandparents know.

Several months after, they graduated from university. They introduced each other to their parents. My grandparents were happy and were expecting them to get married, not knowing they already have. So to make the folks happy, they made another quick ceremony through another judge. Or something like that, my memory gets a bit blurred around this part.

Even though my parents got married twice already, they weren't satisfied because not one was considered 'enough' to be an actual wedding. So when they had time, they planned another wedding. But this time, it was in a church and more friends and relatives were able to come.

Point? Nothing really. It's just on topic. Now my question is, do you think you're going to get married? If so, when and are you going to have kids? If not, why?

My personal opinion on marriage has always been a 'must.' I can remember the times when I was younger that I naively thought that everyone has to get married to have kids. Even though that's not the case, the mentality of being a husband to be a father has never left me.

'What I want?' Three kids and a beautiful wife. I don't want to be too old when my children gets into their teenage years so I want to have one when I'm around 27. If I'm lucky, the girl I'm currently with can accept me as her husband. But these things are a part of a link. I need to have a decent career before anything else. One thing that my dad has always reminded me is that 'school first.' He said that I want my family to be financially stable.

How about you?

No way in hell, heaven, earth am I getting married... =;

But I do like kids so if im financially stable enough, I would consider an adoption, or at the very least, sponsor a child from a third world country.

Yes to both, when -> in about 5 or 6 years probably.

No way in hell, heaven, earth am I getting married...

Took the words right out of my mouth. I like being able to have that bit of freedom, and part of that means not having anything really "atatched" to me.

Kids? No thanks. Just don't think i'm the kind of person to raise them, and i'm not sure if I could put up with them from about... well, 1-18. :lol: .

Hopefully, I'll marry my current boyfriend. I really hope so. We've been dating for 2 years next month, and we're still going strong. :D

Yes, I too, have always considered marriage to be a 'must'. I'm not sure if I want to be a mother, but I do want to be a wife. ^_^

Yes to both, when -> in about 5 or 6 years probably.

Ditto. Although it could be a little longer than just 5-6 years; I'm only 19 after all.

I, also, have always considered marriage a must. Being financially stable is always helpful though, as I know, from myself, that kids can be quite expensive.

For me, if I could marry the girl I like, I'd love it. She's kind, responsible, smart, and hot. One kid is good enough for me, hopefully a boy :D

I can't wait to get married. I think sharing life/love/relationship with another person is integral to being human.

I want to have a daughter too :)

Oh man what a question. Well, I'm only 12 ya know, I haven't really thought about it that much...

I've always liked to be Free. I hate people making solid plans for me because it leaves me so...tied-up. Still if found a guy who I'd thought would be a good husband, and I knew I wouldn't get bored of them (lol) and they would be a good father, then yar. Go for it.

Yeah and suppose having kids would be really fun...(some bits anyway.) (I wouldn't want more than 3 kids....absolute max...but not one. Either 2 or 3)

But I'd always like to have somewhere for them to 'go', like, a granny or something nearby who could look after them. I'd hate to be hampered down by kids all the time...especially with someone I love... :thumbsup: :wink:

Sorry to turn the question back on you here, Shadow, but I seem to recall you saying as soon as you finished college or university, you want to get married, as the bachelor life, in your opinion was 'sad' or something.

I'm just curious as to why you think so. :)

My girlfriend and I have discussed it a number of times, and the general consensus seems to be that we don't plan on having kids, even if we plan on living together.

Suits me. Being a teacher will force me to interact with young people in varying stages of maturity more than what would be healthy, anyway.

I've been with the same woman (I met her on RS actually, ah-ha!) for 4 years now...Known her for 5 years.

We'll get married someday, I'm positive on that. We both want to, we both love eachother, all that. Dunno' about kids yet...She said she doesn't want any, and she may have to get her cervix removed someday (her mom did last year) because of a medical thing that runs in their family or whatever. I'd like MAYBE one kid, preferably a girl because boys are the sucks. :P But kids are a lot of work...Once you have a kid, kiss your life goodbye. So I probably won't.

I've been with the same woman (I met her on RS actually, ah-ha!) for 4 years now...Known her for 5 years.

Oh wow, I didn't know you met her that way. That's groovy mate, and congratulations :)

I've been with the same woman (I met her on RS actually, ah-ha!) for 4 years now...Known her for 5 years.

 

Oh wow, I didn't know you met her that way. That's groovy mate, and congratulations :)

Yep, this is actually her RS name. It's her tip.it thing...Mine...Uhh, I lost the password probably, 'cause I couldn't remember.

My RS character was Schmo0.

She plays WoW now...As did I...But I'm not playing again until BC comes out in a couple months here.

Thanks for the congratz. :)

I'm getting married in a couple of years. As you probably know I got engaged just over a month ago and we're not going to get married until we're 'established'; when I've finished my MSc and we're both working. It seems one of our problems (deciding whether to have a church wedding - she's catholic & I'm a big atheist) was resolved when we found out that the church won't marry us as I'm not baptised.

As for kids, 1 boy and 1 girl - I'd probably prefer the girl first. Her name will be Zoe, middle name Elizabeth. His name will be Jay, middle name undecided.

I like how you may have tossed aside your non-religious beliefs just to get married, however the church won't toss aside their religious beliefs to marry you. :-$

Acceptance FTW.

I haven't tossed aside my beliefs at all, neither has she. The point is, and I've mentioned this in another post, she's 'the right kind of religious'. Where if she hadn't told you you wouldn't have known. The kind where it doesn't affect you at all.

What's more I don't go bothering religious people in real life, only here on a forum because this is exactly that - a forum; a place for discussion of such things.

I suppose it does involve a bit of acceptance though.

Im very undecided right now. I'd rather not get married just because ive always veiwed marriage as a religious way for two people to be together, and im not religious. For two people to be together i just belive there has to be love, nothing more.

Marriage can have nothing to do with religion. I'm not religious and I'm getting married. I'm getting married as a commitment.

Marriage can have nothing to do with religion. I'm not religious and I'm getting married. I'm getting married as a commitment.

But its done usually in a church, by a minister (judge sometimes) and generaly uses that bible (As far as i know, i dont know specifics). If i really want to be bonded through a ceramony, ill come up with something new.

I don't know about where you're from but all the family weddings I've been to have been in a registry office with no religion involved. That said, all my family are atheist. It still shows that it is quite possible and quite normal to have it outside of a church.

Have a Hindu wedding. God, those are so awesome.

As for kids, 1 boy and 1 girl - I'd probably prefer the girl first. Her name will be Zoe, middle name Elizabeth. His name will be Jay, middle name undecided.

Pretty scary that you've got it all figured out already. I'd be happy with whatever gender of kids I'm going to have, as long as they'll be happy and healthy.

That's just what I'd like. I won't be disappointed if it is otherwise though.

http://forum.tip.it/viewtopic.php?t=500 ... t=underage

Don't go rushing in having kids at the touch of a button. There are enough people like that in this world as it is.