Omar

It's always a good idea to have a little conversation going before, I think. I'd be inclined to say no if a girl asked me out and we hardly knew each other. My advice would definitely be to talk to her a couple of time before you ask her out. Be sure to go maximum flirting. I think Iamdan wrote a blog post about it.

People are moving away from workwear and Americana, and more towards dressy casual. It's probably not what you want to wear, frankly. Also, you should try buying a few quality pieces, they'll cost you less in the long run. A good sweatshirt or sweater will cost less than three cheap ones.

I personally think not much else than white shirts look good with black jackets. Try to get your shirt to peek out of your cuffs: Also, look into getting some better shoes (but of course, they're expensive). I think Die! Workwear and Sartorially Inclined are great blogs for you.

Silvertaler, I find that event about you answering harshly indicates two things. First of all, she's not scared or repulsed by you if she asked why you were tired. Second, you apologized, and that's respectable, as many people tend to worry about admitting they've been rude and don't apologize. If I was her, I wouldn't have a very low opinion of you; maybe not a very high one as you haven't done anything to indicate you're an amazing guy, but most likely in the positives. I think you've scored points rather then lost. Have you gotten to know her at all, or is she just really cute? Also, while I'm making her making inexperienced claims about relationships, let me just disagree or add a nuance to this. Yes, many girls prefer a guy with charisma. But I've met a substantial amount who are into what my friend calls "special boys": awkward, skinny, introverted, artsy, sweet guys who wouldn't hurt a fly. I've also met girls who are in between. Two ideas support the statement many in this thread, including Sam just here, have made about women. The first is a scientific argument: women are seeking men who will yield strong progeny and defend it. While it's a valid way of thinking for sure, culture and nurture shouldn't be completely forgotten: some things which are hard-wired into our brain may actually be quite malleable at the hands of parents, friends, and idols. Think of all the things we do which are absolutely silly if you step back, like worshiping a deity. I think this theory, while it applies in many cases, isn't always valid and should be applied depending on the girl, as some personality types are, I think, more likely to seek beefy guys than special boys. The second argument, I used in my earlier, longer post. I said that no matter how uninteresting, a guy will usually be looking for someone attractive physically, and therefore his personality should change accordingly in order to attract someone of that "value" (I dislike the term, but it's quite practical...). While true, this remains superficial and does not in any way consider personality. An introverted geek will not necessarily be healthily and lastingly attracted to a hot, stupid girl. As such, changes to personality should fall within striving for what is positive and striving against what is negative about oneself, a fight for who you are rather than against yourself. If you're introverted, stay introverted. But don't be an insecure, introverted, guy who doesn't know what he's doing in life. That's unattractive to everyone, though for both introverted and extroverted teens, I think it's pretty much the norm to be insecure and weak. What you should be doing your best to achieve is becoming an introverted guy who knows what he loves, has his own philosophy and values, and is striving for something in his life. In the very same way confident, boisterous guys will seem to fall into place with the girls who like their attitude, the quiet philosopher will find a cute, quiet, intelligent, and introverted girl who will fit just right with him. As a teen, that's far beyond your reach (and also mine), but it'll be a long time before you've completely achieved that, and now's as good a time to start as later. I've made this long again, haven't I? I'm sorry.

I just thought it looked like [cabbage], it's a bit ridiculous. But hey, I don't like his style but I mean him no disrespect. Props for doing what he likes.

What's your max price for each of these items? @ sufu guy: Alright, thanks. What jeans would you recommend instead of N&F and APC, in the same price ranges? @ Shiny: You're just jealous of his fox fur detachable lapel

It is, I think Canadian[bleep] copypasted it one day on /fa/ and it just stuck. How much would you say the weight of the denim matters in the warmth of the jeans?

>"jerk" See, there's a very very fine line between being confident and being an abrasive jerkass who needs to be knocked down a peg for being pompous asses. A lot of them cross that line, and yet, are with hotter girls. There's nothing to logically justify that. I cannot find any form of justification for it. No, not even this trope could possibly justify their behavior. You're judging the girls based solely on appearance, for all you know they're stupid or don't have enough experience in relationships to understand they're not with Mr. Right.

I've been feeling down a lot lately, which allowed some interesting discussion with a good friend (maybe my only true friend) and lots of thinking. While my problem didn't directly or indirectly touch the topic of relationships, I believe it applies to almost everything which regards seeking happiness. To all the people who come in here being "average", regular guys, fairly insecure, a bit needy, with a little crush on someone, we say "Be more confident! Go get her, samurai!". That's the way to do it: project the personality of a man who knows what he is doing, has done it before, is comfortable in his life, and is just counting down until he gets his [bleep] sucked -- put simply, to be everything they are not, and everything that would make someone less, rather than more, likely to come in here asking for advice. Now, I'm not advocating we start telling people to just be themselves. Clearly, in and of itself, it hasn't been working. Many people who come in here don't want partners like themselves. They want Don Draper or Helen of Troy or something. But at the same time, they can't just be confident, just at a snap of their fingers. They can't pretend; it shows through. And you can tell a guy that other people's opinions of him doesn't really matter, only his own does; you can tell him someone's going to make fun of him, no matter who he is and what he does; you can tell him all sorts of very wise things; not one is going to stand in the face of judgment or failure, and whatever he built will prove to be laid on a weak foundation. I've seen two people go through it, one of them being me. What we need to tell people is to become proud of themselves. That's the foundation for the "alpha" behaviour we recommend. It shouldn't come on its own; that's called acting. It should come from pride in achievements. I've said it before: I think (or at least I hope) everyone has a passion, or maybe several, waiting to be discovered. I'm fascinated by many things, music possibly being the main one. This passion must be found for every single one of us. It must be pursued, because once we find what we love to shine in, we finally fully adhere to those proverbs which we thought true but never managed to live by completely. Maybe, when I am done composing and recording the EP I'm working on with my friends, I'll be proud of what I'll have done. Maybe, I will understand why what other people think doesn't matter: it's because that's not what matters, that's not what makes me happy. What makes me happy is making music. And when I'll be proud of that, I'll be less insecure, I'll be more confident, I'll know what I'm doing, I'll have done it before, I'll be comfortable in my life, and I'll be counting down to get my [bleep] sucked.

Try this. It'll make your right hand cry. You might want to learn to play with your right hand ring finger.

I'm obviously talking about longboarding, graphic design, etc. Don't invent problems for yourself, it's not like you were never happy before you started dating.

Do what makes you happy, even when she's not there. Do something new with PS, I don't know--anything you did before dating her, which really made you happy.

My pleasure. You probably like them more than I do. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0MzffLnQOeE Atmospheric sludge metal.

http://deadformat.bandcamp.com/album/promo-ep

^Wow I was just checking out that song, I did not like it. Are you implying us non-whites are always on the run? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JtXfKVoiqQ The second part is the best.

I can never get into a routing of cleansing my skin... I always forget within two or three days.

You know what would be cool? Since this thread is basically people posting without reading it, we should suggest something to the person before us based on the song they posted.

I hate it when girls do that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HFxO43IWNRE Learning on guitar right now.

Thank you, and I don't normally, sorry, just wanted to say who he was without having to getting too off-topic or having to introduce another name (Kilian). He's like a brother to me, so he's more than just another friend, but he obviously isn't a literal brother. I realized it sounded bad when I typed that but I just wanted to get the point across so I called him what he was. It's okay, every time I say "my drummer" people point it out. Also, full relationship in two weeks is not a good idea.

You're fine, but unless you keep him on a leash, you might want to stop referring to him as "my exchange student".

What I mean is a lot of the classical era composers we know today represent the most evolved form of church music when it came to music theory. I was wondering if there were equivalents with modern music forms, such as electronic music.

How can something perfect have negative qualities?

Thanks! Are the classical-esque ones all reworks or are some of them originals?

I saw jazz in your post and thought "Well, this might be interesting". Disappointed though. I'm looking for something that combines that theoretical expertise of genres like progressive rock, jazz, baroque/classical, etc with the new sounds of electronic music (I'm talking electronic music only, no electronic and baroque mix). Does it exist?