when you meet someone, do you think okok, i won't talk to them because they are a different sex? no, its their personality that causes you to like them. what does it matter if they are male or female? its not as though you are going to have sex with everyperson you are friends with is it. its the person inside that matters, not what sex they are. nowadays with the net and not everyone exchanging pics, webcams etc. it can be difficult to work out a persons gender. in irc, i am often called male. it doesn't stop me chatting to people, i must come across as masculine