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Awwwww I'm so happy for you. Yeah he will feel like that for a while, kind of like a nasty hang over, all you want to do is sleep or pee or eat treats lmao. I'm sure he will be back to normal in a few weeks :D

I don't think you could do that no matter how angry you are at him. And I think that's really rude of your parents because it could be an essential part of healing for you. If you didn't go this could be something you could regret for your entire life. Your parents piss me off too :P Well, tomorrow little Raiden is going away to his nanna and grandad's house for the day/night. As much as I love him he's getting on my nerves. He has this new high pitched squeal that sounds horrible. It's his new thing "AHHHH!!!!" "ARRRHHJJ!!" and keeps going to see how loud he can get. Allllll day long. I need a break lol Then Brent has been all lovely dovey lately, makes me wonder what he's done wrong lol First of all wanting to take me out to dinner and movies tomorrow night and in the morning take me to the travel agency to book a holiday to Fiji. Not that I'm complaining but this is so out of line for his behaviour :P I think that's why I'm marrying him, seems to be one of few people I can never seem to predict/figure out.

Start a new rumor about the girl you actually do like :lol: It's a good thing that you can work out your own problems but in future don't come here writing a 2 page story looking for advice if you're not going to take any of it and sort it out yourself anyway. It's time I could have actually spent with someone else who needs it. It's rather annoying when everyone here invests their time in to helping others and someone seems to reject all the help thrown at them and instead feels the need to explain themselves and their actions. That isn't coming here for help, that's coming here to complain. People aren't going to help you in the future if you continue to do it.

When was your last tetanus shot? If it's within the last 10 years (don't know if that's changed recently) you should be fine. But you can still be prone to infection, especially if crap is getting in it. Ring around all the surgeries in your local area. Surely someone is willing to bulk bill you. It took me all of 3 phone calls to find a doctor who bulk bills my entire family and is a children's specialist. Oh wait, you might be in another country so not sure about your health system sorry.

Really? The information I have on nuts during pregnancy recommends not to eat nuts in case the child has an allergy. But once again it's to a point where you apparently can't eat anything these days.

lol I still feel awkward in front of Brent's parents. Some people you feel comfortable being around and others you just don't seem to connect no matter how hard you try.

This is a thread about mercury and with mercury it's quite common to talk about fish and fish oil. Just pointing out the obvious, for the next time you decide to click on an article. It's like complaining about the word guns or bombs in a war article :roll:

Perhaps we are the best thing he has at the moment. Not everyone can disclose their feelings to their parents, have brothers or sisters they can talk to or the money to make long calls. And as Evil mentioned, the anonymity aspect makes it easier to become vulnerable. Also the whole reason Brent is my fiance' is because he once upon a time was the only person I could talk to and just happened to be on the internet. So I completely disagree that it's a waste of time. And people form friendships on here, sometimes so close that they can trust them with personal information and consider them real friends. I consider a few people on here my real friends. They are people that if I had the money, I would go out of my way to meet them and form a lifetime friendship. After all the only barrier between you and I, is the computer. We are both real people, with real feelings, who really care. Why can't that be just as good as talking to someone in real life or going for a walk? Not to mention some people are highly linguistic. And writing or even poetry is the best way for them to express their feelings. I don't think you're trolling but I do think you are being very closed-minded today. His dog is injured and he is upset. Is it really necessary to complain about the method he chose to comfort himself??

I find it ironic how mercury can contribute to this, however fish oil can prevent or even treat it. It must be natures way of balancing the two when you eat fish lol [hide=fish oil...]I found that fish oil given to violent prisoners, made them behave less violently! Fish oil can both prevent and treat Depression, Schizophrenia, Bipolar, ADHD and Anger/Aggression but unfortunately this is not the case for all. The one important ingredient that fish oil contains is called docosahexaenoic (DHA) acid. This acid is said to have drastic impact upon the brain as well as the nervous system. People with the aforementioned disorders have low levels of DHA. Both fish (good examples, tuna, mackerel, ocean trout, sardines) and fish oil is the best source of Omega3 fatty acids. It keeps the heart healthy by minimizing the risks of rhythm disorders, helps the blood to clot and vessels running smoothly. Countries such as Japan that consume large amounts of fish were announced the worlds lowest risk for heart disease. Other studies I read up on concluded that fish oil also helped to prevent impaired vision and brain development in children, taking it while pregnant can reduce the risks of allergies, increase your child's IQ and decreases the chances of Post Natal Depression. In obesity fish oil can reduce cravings for fatty foods, prevent diabetes and reduce the risk of stroke and cardiac death by up to 50%. The reason people take FISH OIL and not just eat FISH is because of mercury contamination. In older people fish oil can relieve the awful pain of arthritis.[/hide]

lol I'm glad you got a laugh out of it but maybe the time has come in your life where you need to realize that not everything can be resolved. Even times when you try your hardest, they will not go how you expected them to. Something I learned a rather long time ago is if something doesn't seem to be improving, to not bother wasting energy on it. Instead of logging on and feeling let down by this girl maybe it's time to just block her, ignore her and experience no more put downs. Sometimes I have to block out everything and everyone else and realize the two most important people in my life are already with me. Any outside disturbances are just that, disturbances. In order for things to be resolved, sometimes they begin with you and finding satisfaction in an alternative method. For example on the Dr phil show a woman felt like there was something missing in her life, which happened to be a mother figure. Instead of looking for a mother or expecting things with her own mother to improve (which had been going on for years) she could find the same satisfaction by being what her mother never was. Perhaps instead of waiting for her to grow up, you are over looking someone who is already grown up, the girl you're already with who doesn't put you down. If you don't enjoy the put downs, I just don't understand why you leave her on your msn. Even if you don't reply and log off, you're still affected by the comment. Is there a reason that you somehow feel you deserve this kind of behaviour directed towards you?

It depends how much mercury really. Oh well, another thing for pregnant women not to eat. Soon they'll be living off broth! And that's before they find something wrong with that too. I'll make some sort of a decision the day they print out low level mercury research statistics. I can't seem to find any... or I'm not looking hard enough.

You're right it is. I found another version of it. But I'm glad you're feeling better. Just know within yourself that you are so much better than that and be thankful that you are smart enough to make the correct social changes to become a better person. He will suffer for it later on in life, with friends, finding a partner and probably his own kids. And you are much more wiser because of it. So as burdening as it is, you have learnt something very valuable. How to treat people with respect and dignity. It's a rare thing to find these days and you've experienced it quite early.

Dunno, angry sex could be good :lol:

I agree with l0rd. Plus I think your dog is very strong from the way you talk about him. He's a fighter and like I mentioned in PM earlier, he's very lucky to have an owner as caring as you. I still have the collar my kitten wore when he died. It's buried beneath a treasure chest of rose petals.

Why do you need to call her? Use that. "Hey, just wondering.. I need to speak to you later about....[...]..... do you mind if I ask for your number?"

I'm almost 23, my brother is 19, turning 20. Things started to go downhill when I was about 14 years old so as you can see almost 10 years have passed and nothing has changed. I can understand if he hates me (f..k knows why) but the thing I will never forgive him for is taking it out on his nephew. He doesn't have to even say hello to me but not even acknowledging his little nephew was the last straw for me. That's really insensitive and not fair to a poor innocent kid who has done nothing wrong. Anyway I don't want to hijack this thread, it belongs to Abyssal. But I do have a quote for you Abyssal_whip and it's from Albert Einstein. "Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds." And although you have encountered some rather horrible experiences, you will become a better person for it. And your children, their children and their children will be better people, all because of you and putting a stop to a negative trait in the family line. When you have your own children it will be your only hope that they raise their children even better than you raised them.

I agree with you Joe from my own personal experience too. My brother was horrible to me, he would punch me in the mouth when I got my braces (you guys out there who just got your braces on would understand how painful that is) for something so idiotic like I was "sitting on his chair". So I called him names back and I always got in to trouble for it, because I "must have done something for him to react that way". Then he would lie through his teeth and I would try talk to my parents about it but once more "oh he doesn't lie". Or he would act like a slob and never clean up after himself. Then my parents would say "oh you just worry about your own mess and leave his there." Then come back and say "There's dishes in the sink, why haven't you done them?" god it frustrated me. I tried everything to have a normal relationship with my brother, I tried to apologize for whatever it is that I've apparently done to make him be this way toward me, I've sat down and tried to talk to him, to which he puts on his ear phones, turns the music up and ignores me, or talked to me like a piece of crap because he knew my parents would let him get away with it. One time I was working in the city, ordered a taxi a few hours in advance to meet me at the train station because a girl had just been raped there the previous night and it didn't come. I asked my bro if he could please pick me up, he said sure "cost you 10 bucks in petrol". I'm like I don't have 10 bucks until pay day so he hung up on me. I get home, after walking an hour in the dark where someone was just raped to get home (oh and had blisters and a pants rash) and nobody cared. I would never allow Raiden to treat his sister or his brothers like that. That's not personality differences, that's raising your kids with negative life morals. He would even sit on his [wagon] and watch me clean the house while I was heavily pregnant and roll his eyes at me when I asked how he could do that to someone. I bring his nephew over and he locks himself in his room and doesn't even come out to see him. My brother and I don't talk and I will never have anything to do with him again until he can snap out of it. And I'm not holding my breath for it.

Brothers and sisters are usually always annoying. But when they display those kind of traits constantly, it's not healthy. Not just for your own relationship of brother and sister but towards other people too. It's not something you can just "get over" and I think that is a little insensitive. And if the behaviour continues, I highly doubt things will be okay in 10 years time. Quite the opposite, they probably won't be talking to each other.

Because your parents allow him to. He has this bad behaviour and your parents have already made it clear that it's acceptable behaviour by not confronting him about it. He also knows they will stuck up for him in situations when it comes down to you and him. If they don't correct him then he will always be like this. And unfortunately if you confront your parents they sound like the type of people who wouldn't listen to a word you said. Stick it out until you can move out. Unless they come to some sudden miracle realization on their own, nothing is going to change. And I should know, it took a judge and several counselling visits just to point out that my parents were over reacting. And that one of my brother's proceeded to treat and talk to me like a piece of crap for no reason at all, because he knew they would side with him. As a result, he's grown in to quite an arrogant person with limited people skills. They refused to understand that they are the people who are supposed to be role models and people copy the behaviour they're brought up in. It's usually the people who encounter and suffer from violent opposition from mediocre minds that shine through and put a stop to passing on this horrible trait to their generations. My word wasn't enough, despite my area of knowledge and studies! This kind of post is also more relevant in the "relationship and advice forum" instead of in it's own thread. I know how you feel though, some people just don't see the obvious, even when it sticks out like dog's balls.

Well for Brent and I's anniversary, he ordered what he thought to be a dozen or more pink roses. I was just as happy receiving like 4 of them, it was cute. But when I accidentally found the price of them while browsing through the debit of bills etc to work out what kind of house we can afford to move in to (budgeting) and found he had spent well over $100 on them, I couldn't hold my tongue. I was like "Honey, those flowers were such a nice gesture, I love you and I really liked them but you have been ripped off, you need to go talk to them and get your money back." See the difference in picture and description for yourselves... What he ordered: What we actually got: They only wanted to give us half the money back and I said no you guys can learn your lesson that you can't falsely advertise and expect people to pay for it. If you don't give us the entire cost refund of the flowers, I'll just report your company which will have a lot worse outcome than paying back what is owed. So we got it all back in the end. As you can see they're clearly not the same roses, definitely not as many, and definitely not double budded. Moral of the story, get the same flowers from Woolworths for about 80 dollars less! Then use the left over 80 to buy chocolates, movie tickets and dinner ;) ;)

The first part I want to address is how mature she is for stating that she still loves you while the both of you are fighting. I think that is very important to state that you love someone but are so angry you're not willing to talk at the moment in case some things get said that you didn't mean. An example I'm going to use is the fact that my partner doesn't like one of my best friends, Stacey. Now she is a bit of a tart but she is my friend so I don't like Brent talking about her that way. She also has an abusive boyfriend whom we both hate and have no idea why she won't leave him but we are still civil around him, because it's her choice. And she thinks Brent is a bit of an [wagon], but I won't let her talk about Brent that way (especially because of who she is with! but I never say that). I think it's important to make it clear that both of them are very special in your life and you won't let one talk trash about the other. And say as an example that you won't talk trash about her best friend because you wouldn't want to put her in the circumstance of having an ultimatum. Likewise, I can't stand Brent's best friend. I think he's an arrogant, snotty nosed know it all. To give an example of how bad he is, a customer once left a comment in his work suggestion box calling him an "arrogant c...t". He even had the nerve to tell Brent to go get a maternity test to see if our son is really his (which Brent gave him once chance to take the comment back or the friendship was over and he hesitantly did). But they have been friends since primary school. I can't come between them because that would be the wrong thing to do. Dan knows he won't get away with bad mouthing me and I know I can't get away with bad mouthing him. It's an equal playing field. When he is around we get along for the sake of Brent. Tell her you love her, you're going to give her some space to think about things and when she's ready she can call or text you for a serious talk about it all. But you're not going to put up with an ultimatum. This person is still your best friend regardless of whether he screws up or not. And her sister is not going to pay attention to her if she resorts to name calling instead of having a mature discussion. Over all, mature girl but needs to hold tongue in the heat of the moment and perhaps that is why she isn't speaking, because she is thinking. That and people can be civil around each other even though they don't like each other. It's time to learn it. I don't really enjoy the company of Brent's mum (she comes across really rude, abrupt and closed off) but it's not like I can tell him I never want to see her again and she's not allowed to come over. It would be selfish of me to put my own feelings before her relationship with Brent and her grandson. Because when you love someone. You put up with their [bleep] friends and in laws ;)

I fell pregnant after Brent was told by more than 3 specialists that he would not be having kids, and I was on the pill. What do you say to those circumstances? Just curious as I did my duty to avoid it but still ended up with Raiden lol

lol I can't wait (literally I'll be dead) until this becomes a first grade subject or kindergarten elective :lol:

The truth is out, I'm really a raging lesbian!! :lol: But anyway, I gave you my 2 cents over msn so hopefully other people can add to that for ya *hugs*

That's what clouded judgment is :P An accident is like tripping over and dropping him.