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lol 8 guys now, wonder what number this gets up to. Also wonder how much is just speculation and how much is real.

It was to visit some red-head, wasn't it ;) :lol:

Gross, now 4 other boys are claiming to be the kid's father :? Doesn't say much for the 15 year old, or the family that raised her. Beautiful baby girl though, very cute. I just hope that poor baby gets some help and grows up semi normally.

See zombie plan :D

When you post your problem and whinge about it on a forum, it's going to be discussed. And sometimes you're not going to hear what you want to hear. Get over it 'maet'. That's a generalization. Please show me the correlation of all 9 year old's who don't care who shows up to their birthday party. He may have cared, he may not have. Btw if he says he hasn't seen them in 12 years, yet last time he saw his cousin they didn't get along and now he is 9, logic says that it hasn't really been 12 years.

Who gives a crap if the kid didn't care. A 26 year old should know better. Unless there was a very good reason for not going for example his little cousin bites him, kicks him, spits on him etc As for the mother, none of you are parents so don't even go there. I agree she's not helping by going over there but I also completely understand that she's acting out of anger and you would NOT know what that's like until you have kids. And I'm pretty sure you're aware that just because you didn't care when you were 9, doesn't mean for even a second, that this kid shouldn't.

I had my first one not long ago but my next appointment isn't until the 4th or 10th of March. I'll have to check that closer to the date. Thanks for asking though, at least someone cares lol

Oh and he's just 9 years old??? You really are an [wagon] teargod. You probably made the poor kid cry. You're 26 for crying out loud and ruined a 9 year olds birthday party. You are nothing more than an [wagon].

That does sound like you're having a really crappy day. Just remember though that if you're in a bad mood because you're fighting with your girlfriend, there's no reason to aim fire at people or objects who/that happen to be around to take it out on. Your problem isn't with mum, it's not with sister, it's not with the blender. Chances are you would have dealt with things better if you weren't fighting. Tomorrow is a busy day. Have a house inspection (then get to ask her when I can get out of here) and a relationship counselling session. Brent and I's engagement is on the rocks, won't go in to details but I can't fix it myself because it involves clouded judgment when feelings/ people you care about are involved. Things are so different when you're not looking in from the outside. Also decided to stop seeing Brent's parents until they start acting like Raiden's grandparents. They invited us up, with a week's notice. So Friday night we drove up, they text us and tell us to get our own dinner on the way there because they have already ordered there's. Oh how nice... invite us around for dinner for Friday night and then tell us to go get our own. Then they ignored their grandson for the rest of the night. On Saturday night Brent and I went out for dinner and asked them (like 2 weeks ago in advance) if they could look after Raiden while we go to dinner. So we go to dinner... the restaurant screws up our booking and puts in a scroungy corner with bad view, so we left. Then another place wanted Brent to wear a collared shirt so we went home to quickly get changed. Re asked his parents if they were okay looking after Raiden for the night and they said yes. So we go out, we get to our destination and they send us a text message "how much longer are you's going to be? We want to go to bed now." So they ruined our night. Then Sunday we wake up and they're nowhere to be seen. I ask where they were and Brent's brother says they've gone to spend the rest of the day at one of their houses, fixing it up. So they had the freaking nerve to invite us up for the weekend, ruined everything and spent absolutely no time with their grandson and all we got out of them was basically "hi, bye and good morning". As if fixing up one of your houses is more important than spending the day with your family that you asked to come see you. They really need to get their freakin' priorities right. Money is not more important than family. So they can freakin stay in their lonely castle, swim in their money and I refuse to go see them, stay at their house again or even call or text. If they're so interested in fixing things, they can come to me or ring me.

I do think it's pretty lame of you to miss his birthday party. Who cares if you don't like him, it's an important event to him and your family and regardless of your opinion of him, it makes you look like a complete douche bag by not attending. Surely you're modest enough to put differences aside and be there on his special day by making an appearance. You might have ruined his entire day. Which if you did, you'd probably be happy about which is pathetic. Even if it's to say Happy Birthday, eat some cake, say hello and then make a sudden exit because "something came up". The aunty coming over to lecture you is a huge waste of time. Yeah I do think you need a smack in the head and taught to have a little respect for other people but it's not going to help you. Neither is what I wrote but it could be a lesson to others. It's something you have to get off your own [wagon] and discover. I'm also with Joe on this one. You're 26 and this is your life's enlightenment? By the way what's with never coming here unless it's to whinge about something that's happened to you? There's a section called relationship and advice forum, start posting there. What makes you think others want to listen to you complain all the time when you don't even have the audacity to listen to them or consider how they feel? You didn't care how your cousin felt on his big day and now others don't care for your whinging. Ohh...deja vu?? ;)

If your mum and dad think differently of the scenario then there are already problems with your family. Why aren't they communicating? If your mother can't approach your father then maybe that's just it. He's unapproachable and you can't win no matter what you say. And perhaps that's why it's the same with your scenario. If that's the case and he doesn't smell some roses soon, there won't be many people attending his funeral. One day when you return to this thread and you ask why nobody likes you and why you have no friends I'm just going to reply with this icon :wall: If he's truly your best friend since the age of 4 you should be selfless and hope that things work out for him, even if you happen to love her. ---- New problem... as posted on "today" thread: Also decided to stop seeing Brent's parents until they start acting like Raiden's grandparents. They invited us up, with a week's notice. So Friday night we drove up, they text us and tell us to get our own dinner on the way there because they have already ordered there's. Oh how nice... invite us around for dinner for Friday night and then tell us to go get our own. Then they ignored their grandson for the rest of the night. On Saturday night Brent and I went out for dinner and asked them (like 2 weeks ago in advance) if they could look after Raiden while we go to dinner. So we go to dinner... the restaurant screws up our booking and puts in a scroungy corner with bad view, so we left. Then another place wanted Brent to wear a collared shirt so we went home to quickly get changed. Re asked his parents if they were okay looking after Raiden for the night and they said yes. So we go out, we get to our destination and they send us a text message "how much longer are you's going to be? We want to go to bed now." So they ruined our night. Then Sunday we wake up and they're nowhere to be seen. I ask where they were and Brent's brother says they've gone to spend the rest of the day at one of their houses, fixing it up. So they had the freaking nerve to invite us up for the weekend, ruined everything and spent absolutely no time with their grandson and all we got out of them was basically "hi, bye and good morning". As if fixing up one of your houses is more important than spending the day with your family that you asked to come see you. They really need to get their freakin' priorities right. Money is not more important than family. So they can freakin stay in their lonely castle, swim in their money and I refuse to go see them, stay at their house again or even call or text. If they're so interested in fixing things, they can come to me or ring me. They are so bloody greedy and paranoid. They have all these millions and Brent's mum won't even fix her own parents car so they can get to their doctor appointments. Money can turn the best of people, ugly :evil: I've never met a more greedier person in my entire life. Yet my parents have barely anything and my mum spends her lunch money on our son to buy new toys to put in his play box. And my mum will ring to see if I'm sick if she hasn't seen Raiden in a few days lol... funny how less is more.

But he won't wash your clothes, find the car keys or cook your dinner ;) And I think this should stop here.

I'm going away for the weekend. It's been a loooong week. On the plus side... I made red jelly :D

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARR!!! need I say more ;)

Just let him be, he had every opportunity in the world to ask her out and he did nothing. Eventually he will stop projecting all the blame on you and might get off his [wagon] to take the next opportunity :D So in a way by ignoring his sulking you're actually helping him. Don't ignore him if he decides to be rational again though, just act like nothing ever happened.

It's okay I found out what it was.

A lot of risk with my next surgery including blood transfusion or even death. I don't wanna leave my little boy behind :( Haven't gotten much sleep, have been bleeding a little more than yesterday and having a few liver problems :? For the first time in my life, I feel scared.

He's moved on to bigger and better things (becoming a doctor I think). Might see if he's available to talk on facebook. And thanks

Thanks for the support guys. We haven't really made a big deal out of what happened because I can see where he's coming from just annoyed more than anything. There is a little more to the story. I found a porn movie on the computer and we have an agreement that there is no watching any of it unless we watch it together, otherwise it really defeats the purpose. It was in the internet history, and what's worse is that it's connected to a local sex site. He swears he's never been there but I just can't believe him for the simple fact that I've had a look at how it works and you need to actually go to the website, then find the video, then click on the video to even have it come up in history. And for the simple fact that it doesn't just grow magical legs and walk there by itself. It is a big deal to me because we're engaged, I want to know why the hell it's there and whether he's lying. Lying at this stage of the relationship would mean the engagement is called off. I also have a lot on my mind atm about the next surgical procedure. There is a chance of a blood transfusion needed or even death :cry: I haven't been able to sleep all night. I'm still bleeding and am having liver difficulties from the last one. Thanks for all of your support but I really wish Ginger was here. He was my rock.

I'm fighting with Brent at the moment (surprise!! :P) because he might as well go be married to his job than me. Yesterday I had to undergo a day surgery to have a look at how my cells are reacting. I find out, they have spread 90-180 degrees and where it has spread might be the early stages of cancer. So I have to go back a few more times to get it cut out, although there is a 20% chance it will just grow back. It also drastically reduces the chances of having another child (although we've proved doctors wrong with that before). I call him and the call lasted a whole of 40 seconds? if that. He cared more that his boss would find him on the phone to me than what they found. Then when he came home, he didn't even apologize, he just tried to explain his actions. I'm sorry but if the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life has just been told something might be cancer, my ceo can go jump out of the top story window. So I'm beginning to question things... It's not a big fight just a "I really don't want to talk to you right now" moment.

In a little bit of pain from day surgery... I'm sad to announce that I need another day surgery or two because the cells have spread. They will keep trying to remove the cancerous cells but they can't promise they won't grow back (20% chance). But it's spread an entire 90 degrees :cry: They also have to further analyze a biopsy they took where it has spread to make sure it hasn't turned in to the early stages of cancer. But today I'm eating my left over pasta (wasn't hungry last night) and wondering what the weekend will entail.

I have no idea what my plans are. However, I was told last night not to make any plans for Friday, Saturday or Sunday. So this could be interesting...

Instead of acting all immature "LOLOLOLOL" go do some research on human behaviour. You're obviously not here to find out the cause when you're laughing, bad mouthing and making jokes. Hence the reason I'm not going to answer your question or help you with it, I'd be wasting my time. Same goes to anyone else. If you want to actually learn about something, empty all pre-judgment and research with an open mind.

Traitor, you didn't even message for coffee :P Today I'll be going to the hospital for day surgery around 2pm so wish me luck, I'm a bit scared. I won't go in to details because it's rather personal but if I don't go through with it the chances of cancer is too high risk.

RIP the photos and news footage were very devastating. Oh and I hope the arsonist/s get life in prison. I heard the fire swept through at up to 180km/h thanks to the wind and so people in their cars had no chance to escape. I don't know if that's true or not.