My grandfather is seriously ill. He has got lungcancer with ... to his liver, the doctors cant cure it.

 

 

 

We have just been at the hospital, visiting him and saying a last farewell. When we were there, he could talk but sometimes he would just say nothing and fall asleep for a little while. It was so strange, to see him lying there on a hospital bed. I didnt know what to say, you think that you want to say a thousand things but you cant think of one.

 

 

 

He did tell me that I looked good with a cap on my head, because I didnt want to put gell in my hair on a lazy sunday. :) And he remarked that we I used to call him 'Grandpa Koekoek', because of the Koekoeks Clock (Dutch word) which me and my grandfather used to play with at his basement.

 

 

 

And it all went so fast. 2 weeks ago he was still in church, walking around and talking to people like he always did. I cant understand it, and get used to the fact that he is ill.

 

 

 

My grandmother was a lung patient, so we all expected that she would die before my grandfather did. We all thought that our tough grandfather would beat himself through this.

 

 

 

He will die at the age of 82, which is quite old.

 

 

 

There is nothing you can do about it, everybody will die one day.

 

 

 

I dont know if anyone cares, but this helps me getting over the mourning process.

Sharing always helps.

 

 

 

I just hope you don't turn out like my friend,

 

 

 

I hope you get over it soon, because then you will be able to move on in life, and carry on progressing.

Sorry about your loss.

There is always a time for mourning, but eventually, the fog will lift, and you will see the day.

 

Remember the good, forget the bad, cry some, and know that you loved him and he loved you; that's all that mattered.

 

 

 

I know what it feels like, the thought of knowing there is nothing you can do, but you feel that you must never give up. Detach yourself from that feeling for a while, and float on the memories.

 

 

 

I also have a song for you:

 

These Are The Days Of Our Lives by Queen

My condolences. It hurt when my grandfather passed too, he was the only father-figure in my life. I wish you the best of luck, and your grandfather has a great afterlife (if you don't believe in the afterlife, I apologize if you consider that offensive).

I'm sorry to hear about this. My grandfather on my father's side died of lung cancer. I was depressed for months over this. When I got the news, I spent time grieving for what I was going to lose rather than enjoying the time we had left.

 

When my uncle was diagnosed with asbestosis a few years back, I was determined not to make the same mistake and enjoyed every second I had with him. It made us closer and towards the end, it did make it harder. But it made him happy to be close to me and at the end of the day it's whatever makes them happier. You have to prepare yourself for some heartbreak and remember that when he does eventually pass on, that he is no longer suffering. I was distraught when my uncle died of heart failure during the night, but thinking back, I realised he hadn't died of asbestosis, painfully, but of heart failure during the night, and that makes me feel happier that not only is he not suffering any more, but that he died in his sleep.

 

So do whatever you can to make him more comfortable and take comfort in the fact that, should he die peacefully, that he is no longer in pain. I've never been with anyone when they died, but I've heard it's comforting for you to be with them and hold their hand as they pass on. Make sure that you spend as much time with him as you can, if you don't, you will regret it when he's gone.

Oh sorry to hear that. It sounds so sad, keep strong mate.

I'll him and your family in my prayers.

Hey man, I've experienced that too. You'll get through it. And if you need to cry or something, let it go. You'll feel much better after it.

 

and remember all the good times with him. :)

Oh, I hate that feeling. Enough said.

Strange. My grandfather died at that age from cancer that spread from his spine into his brain. He died 2 years ago.

 

 

 

That sucks. At least you have him in your memories.

Sorry. At least 82 is a decent age to go.

Ur quite lucky...I never met my grandparents...all 4 of them died before born

 

 

 

Also my mum died when i was 9 and my dad at 11

 

 

 

 

 

Im 17 now and happily living with my aunty :)

Ur quite lucky...I never met my grandparents...all 4 of them died before born

 

 

 

Also my mum died when i was 9 and my dad at 11

 

 

 

 

 

Im 17 now and happily living with my aunty :)

 

 

 

He's quite lucky his grandfather is dieing? Go away. If you're parents died at 9 and 11 then you know what it's like to lose somebody, and you wouldn't mock him. That's just wrong to mock somebody about a close one passing away.

 

 

 

Sorry, just had to get that out. I couldn't stand him saying that.

 

 

 

Spend a lot of time with him, it will make both of you feel better :thumbsup:

Ur quite lucky...I never met my grandparents...all 4 of them died before born

 

 

 

Also my mum died when i was 9 and my dad at 11

 

 

 

 

 

Im 17 now and happily living with my aunty :)

 

 

 

He's quite lucky his grandfather is dieing? Go away. If you're parents died at 9 and 11 then you know what it's like to lose somebody, and you wouldn't mock him. That's just wrong to mock somebody about a close one passing away.

Hes saying hes lucky he got to know him. #-o

Ur quite lucky...I never met my grandparents...all 4 of them died before born

 

 

 

Also my mum died when i was 9 and my dad at 11

 

 

 

 

 

Im 17 now and happily living with my aunty :)

 

 

 

He's quite lucky his grandfather is dieing? Go away. If you're parents died at 9 and 11 then you know what it's like to lose somebody, and you wouldn't mock him. That's just wrong to mock somebody about a close one passing away.

 

 

 

Sorry, just had to get that out. I couldn't stand him saying that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spend a lot of time with him, it will make both of you feel better :thumbsup:

 

 

 

 

 

Mate You dont know what I have been through In my Life.. I Ment He was quite lucky that he had so much time to spend as in a good way

 

 

 

 

 

Deing isnt such a bad thing you know..And I wasnt mocking him ...Dieing is a part of life

You never really get over the death of somebody you love mate. But let me tell you, you only get a few last words to them.

 

I lost my nan earlier this year too, noone goes through it the same way, but if you want to talk on msn or anything give me a pm :)

Respectfully if my grandfather was dieing I would not announce it to an online board, but I'm not trying to start a fight, I'm sorry for your loss.

Dieing is a part of life

 

 

 

More song quotes:

 

 

 

Jack Johnson: If I could:

 

 

 

Down the middle drops one more

 

Grain of sand

 

They say that

 

New life makes losing life easier to understand

 

Words are kind

 

They helped ease the mind

 

I'll miss my old friend

 

And though you gotta go

 

We'll keep a piece of your soul

 

One goes out

 

One comes in

 

 

 

I'm listening to really sad songs today :-k

My grandfather is seriously ill. He has got lungcancer with ... to his liver, the doctors cant cure it.

 

 

 

We have just been at the hospital, visiting him and saying a last farewell. When we were there, he could talk but sometimes he would just say nothing and fall asleep for a little while. It was so strange, to see him lying there on a hospital bed. I didnt know what to say, you think that you want to say a thousand things but you cant think of one.

 

 

 

He did tell me that I looked good with a cap on my head, because I didnt want to put gell in my hair on a lazy sunday. :) And he remarked that we I used to call him 'Grandpa Koekoek', because of the Koekoeks Clock (Dutch word) which me and my grandfather used to play with at his basement.

 

 

 

And it all went so fast. 2 weeks ago he was still in church, walking around and talking to people like he always did. I cant understand it, and get used to the fact that he is ill.

 

 

 

My grandmother was a lung patient, so we all expected that she would die before my grandfather did. We all thought that our tough grandfather would beat himself through this.

 

 

 

He will die at the age of 82, which is quite old.

 

 

 

There is nothing you can do about it, everybody will die one day.

 

 

 

I dont know if anyone cares, but this helps me getting over the mourning process.

 

 

 

Nothing more frustrating then having to stand by powerless, while a loved one passes away. When my Grandfather passed away suddenly from cancer, it was hard for me to understand. When years later two of my daughters died from a non curable and extremely rare disease called Infantile Tay-Sachs Disease, I was devastated. I found talking about them made it easier for me to deal with them being gone. It never gets easier to deal with, but time does make the pain fade away some. Love him, and honor his memory. Make him proud as you continue to do good things in your life.

 

 

 

Sincerly

 

 

 

LK

 

Respectfully if my grandfather was dieing I would not announce it to an online board, but I'm not trying to start a fight, I'm sorry for your loss.

 

 

 

Grief is a strange beast, everyone deals with it differently. I am very verbal about my losses, it helps me cope. I never needed help to deal with it, although my wife did. I dealt with it best by talking about them, the experience, and found comfort in helping other parents going through the same experience.

 

 

 

Point being, everyone deals with grief differently.

Sorry to hear that. My condolences.

 

 

 

"Want God had de wereld zo lief dat hij zijn enige Zoon heeft gegeven, opdat iedereen die in hem gelooft niet verloren gaat, maar eeuwig leven heeft."

 

 

 

"God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die."

 

 

 

-John 3:16

 

 

 

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http://www.biblija.net/biblija.cgi?Bijbel=Bijbel&l=en

 

 

 

~zellaz

i dunno how i do it but i deal with loss really well, my grandfather died and it only took me a day until i was over it, i think you just have to look at the positive side, all the good times, the great things he did, just accept whats happened and thats the best way to get over things

Honestly mate, my deepest condolences. Cancer is a... well i'm sure you know. Be strong, for his sake, make his last few moments as comfortable and enjoyable as humanely possible.

 

 

 

All the best :)

Make the last moments of the time you have together as special as all the hours that proceeded it.

Both of my grandfathers died in the same week, it's tough no matter what your situation.

 

 

 

My sympathy, pull through this.