IGoddessI Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 Why are you complaining about your schedule? Do you have to worry about uni and work? Wise man, are you sure you're not the cognitive therapist :P The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginger_Warrior Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I'm ginger (duh), 5"0' (i.e. tiny), I'm not overweight but not exactly "fit" neither, and I wear clothes no one else really wears, I'm 17 in college and I've never got drunk, or drank more than a pint of beer a night in my life, I don't go clubbing like everyone else my age, I play RS and Pok̮̩̉̉mon for crying out loud! Of course I get the Mikey taken out of me, but you just gotta keep telling yourself that you have the right to act, dress and look however you want, and you should be proud of it. TBH, I get along with feminine people much more than most other guys. Most of my friends are girls. My best mates have always been girls. I find that these people tend to be able to form strong loving bonds with other people more easily than your typical masculine guy can, simply because they have a deeper understanding of emotions and can read beyond what someone's saying in words, but their body language as well. It's an attribute many people have found in me personally and I'm proud of it. I'd rather have that skill and know I can help people get through rough emotional times than get drunk every Friday night just for some cheap thrills. In short, don't feel ashamed, and neither should you. There are many people who don't fit into the norm of society. This doesn't make them outcasts. It's hard, but you just gotta keep telling yourself that. And frankly, if people at a Church are giving you funny looks based on how you act/look, I seriously question what your Church teaches them, since obviously God teaches to "Love your neighbour...". | Favourite Game Music | Last.fm | HYT Friend Chat Rules | Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mithril_Max Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 I'd rather date a sensitive guy than a narcissistic, self-absorbed, "hey baby wanna' feel my muscles?" kind of guy. Some girls go for that, but I think eventually most realize that, no matter how sculpted they are, a pair of arms isn't very good company compared to someone who actually cares about you. im not effeminate and im sensitive :o lol, ignore that comment.... you actually gotta be the right mix of sensitive/whatever else otherwise your trapped in the friend zone (weve all been there ) although my friends do rock Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drago_lark Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 oh, also this day in age.... a lot of chicks dig femmy guys. though i'd throw that out there :P It's because they don't think they have to worry about him trying to get in their pants all the time :D Dude, if it makes you feel comfortable to do some thing just do it. Who cares what everyone else thinks. Years from now people aren't going to say "Remember how gay that one kid was during school?" If you wanna sit with your legs crossed or carry your books across your chest go ahead. P.S. I know you're not gay I was just giving an example. :Jim: hey i got this new iPhone it plays music:Priest: better thank jesus for creating a way to talk to other people:Jim: you mean scientists?:Priest: Blasphomey! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meol Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 By the way, if a friend of yours asks you seriously if you are gay, don't feel disgusted, feel complimented. That means that your friend is so close to you that he feels comfortable enough to ask you that, and trusts you enough. Just something I've thought. (the other way around, though, me asking someone else if they are...) This signature is intentionally left blank. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dark Lord Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 By the way, if a friend of yours asks you seriously if you are gay, don't feel disgusted, feel complimented. That means that your friend is so close to you that he feels comfortable enough to ask you that, and trusts you enough. Just something I've thought. (the other way around, though, me asking someone else if they are...) I probably wouldn't be offended anyway. It just depends on my friend's tone. I would most likely blush, smile, or giggle and say "No, I'm just feminine." SWAG Mayn U wanna be like me but U can't be me cuz U ain't got ma swagga on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaperClipsYaaaar Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 By the way, if a friend of yours asks you seriously if you are gay, don't feel disgusted, feel complimented. And you should kiss him on the mouth to thank him. I would most likely blush, smile, or giggle and say "No, I'm just feminine." lololololololol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justin_m23 Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 In my area, the 'cool people' are the metros. Not too sure about the female emotions though. Maybe just try to rid yourself of those odd habits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alphafish Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 SIMPLE! find the things about you that are manly and use them (tip: when crossing your legs put your leg on the other one, have your pants down 1 inch below your belly button, excersise, hold your book with one hand and by your side and finally soike up your hair!) boy am i popular no seriously look above[url=http://www.elementsgraphics.net/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 And you should kiss him on the mouth to thank him You made me spit my coke out :XD: The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotalTalker Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 All you have to ask yourself is this question: Would you be happier being what they want and sacrifice yourself, or be what you want despite what others think? Pick what would make you happier and believe in it 100%. I know what I'd pick, and I think you know really what you prefer. Your job, in that case, is to make people accept who you are, not to be afraid of you, or judge you, but to accept you. That, I'm afraid, can only be done by the person themselves. Good luck. I keep on asking myself that really, I should do what I want, and screw what everyone else thinks, but their opinions just destroy it. I'd just try to ignore everyone, eventually they will get bored and stop making fun of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martinisback Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 " I like how it is tight in the [wagon], hips, and crotch. I have slightly bigger hips than most guys and I have a healthy BMI. " Whats so cool about having jeans tight on your [wagon], on a male-.-....whatever you want then. The guy who said Girls tend to to dig guys like you more, is sort of right. I know lotta h0t b0iling girls date guys like you. --Quit--(As of December 22th, 2007) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amoeba_009 Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 School has started about 2 weeks ago. Since then, I've had a tight schedule and it's hard to do anything enjoyable and still get my homework done, keep my room tidy, bathe myself, and all of the other essentials. In the end, I always sacrifice my free-time. I go to bed as early as possible (11PM) and wake up at 6:30AM. I face school and another repeated routine. On top of that, I'm also a feminized guy. Effeminate males obviously have feminine minds or they wouldn't be considered effeminate. My behavior is like that of a female. Even though I'm not gay, I still get made fun of. People at my local church (My father forces me to go.) even act strangely around me and treat me like I freak them out or something. People try to suggest that I do things that a very masculine person would do, to the point that I feel uncomfortable around them. I feel like they're trying to make me do something unnatural and stupid. I'm a sophomore in high school and some people ridicule me. "Why do you sit like a girl? Are you gay?!?! Ha! John carries his books across his chest ~ LIKE A GIRL!" It makes me feel bad about myself. For some reason, my mind seems to think that I look different from what I actually look like. I feel feminine. I hate my body hair, but I can't shave it all off because it is "socially-unacceptable." It's not like I'm weird or anything? I'm a shy, quiet kid. A friend told me I wasn't super-feminine. Hell, I can't even control the fact that I'm feminine and always will be. If I just pretended to be a masculinized guy, I would feel like I'm doing something unnatural and stupid. (I've already tried before.) Am I disgusting? Am I a freak? Do I deserve to continue to exist? How come I couldn't have a natural masculine mind? How come if I had to have a feminine mind, I couldn't just have the body as well? I find it hard to fit in with more masculine crowds. It's horrible. Often I get extremely depressed and pessimistic. What can I do to make myself feel better? How can I make myself cope with my predicament and get over it? How can I fit in without making myself feel like I'm doing something unnatural? How can I enjoy life? Dont worry, im sort of in the same boat. Im the only guy who likes to wear tight clothes and still listen to the backstreet boys. Thank god i have friends to accept me for who i am. Your not a freak. Your not doing anything unnnatural. They dont have the right to judge you. Your feminine and thats your choice. :) Be happy with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dark Lord Posted August 31, 2007 Author Share Posted August 31, 2007 SIMPLE! find the things about you that are manly and use them (tip: when crossing your legs put your leg on the other one, have your pants down 1 inch below your belly button, excersise, hold your book with one hand and by your side and finally soike up your hair!) That would destroy who I am. Hiding who I truely am won't fix the problem. I wear what I wear as a way of expressing my identity to others, plus I just like the look. It looks good on me. SWAG Mayn U wanna be like me but U can't be me cuz U ain't got ma swagga on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mithril_Max Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 By the way, if a friend of yours asks you seriously if you are gay, don't feel disgusted, feel complimented. And you should kiss him on the mouth to thank him. I would most likely blush, smile, or giggle and say "No, I'm just feminine." lololololololol :XD: +2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaperClipsYaaaar Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Dont worry, im sort of in the same boat. Im the only guy who likes to wear tight clothes and still listen to the backstreet boys. Is this boat rainbow-colored? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
navyplaya Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 oh, also this day in age.... a lot of chicks dig femmy guys. though i'd throw that out there :P He makes a point. Overall, people are stupid and many thrive on insulting others. Ignore them because they're just trying to make up for their own insecurities (cliche, but true). You'll meet plenty of people who accept you for who you are and they're the ones you should care about. Stay true to yourself and forgot the rest. Off-Topic: I hate girl pants (on me), it's just so... confining. It doesn't help I'm a semi-nudist though. =P It's like someone is hugging your legs.. the confinement is wonderful. I don't think he's talking about confinement of the legs :anxious: Well I don't wear girl pants, but I do wear tight guy pants. The whole baggy look is uh... retarted? When you have to change the way you walk in fear of your pants falling down, that's not good. :-s -All sigs by me.[My Gallery] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riku3220 Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 oh i can understand ditting like a girl its actaully more comfortable and the books thing can be easily solved by just holding them down to you waist with both hands Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HellsBells Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Dont worry, im sort of in the same boat. Im the only guy who likes to wear tight clothes and still listen to the backstreet boys. Is this boat rainbow-colored? LMFAO. My F2P Moneymaking Guide!Always gargle before a takeoff. Wakka Wakka! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mithril_Max Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Dont worry, im sort of in the same boat. Im the only guy who likes to wear tight clothes and still listen to the backstreet boys. Is this boat rainbow-colored? LMFAO. Hes got to be the leading expert on one-liners lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fakeitormakeit Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 I'm a straight feminie guy and of course from time to time you will be made fun of but you just have to learn to brush it off and laugh at the people in their face. When someone insults you, don't think about what they said first, rather think about who said it. And its not sitting like a girl for who ever the hell thugs say that, I've gotten the same insult and their stupidity makes me laugh, look back in history at all the powerful/important males and they will always have their legs crossed like that, its a sign of formality and elegance, it isn't very formal to sit with your achilles to your knee, now is it? And girls tend to feel more comfortable with a guy who can understand their feelings rather then an insensitive jerk(obivously). And to any church that would mistreat you even if you were gay would be going agaisnt the world of God which is the whole point of church. Pope John Paul II was awesome, he had a modern view and wanted peace of all religions and sexual orientations and races while still remembering to treast everyone equally, he is going to be like the first person to be declared a saint so quickly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silver_wits Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Don't worry about other people. Karma comes back tenfold. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 Don't worry about other people. Karma comes back tenfold. Good. Tell it to fold my laundry. -- By the way I've noticed you've answered everyone's suggestions and turned them down or found excuses for them. Yet, you have still failed to answer the questions that are challenging your excuses. The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dark Lord Posted August 31, 2007 Author Share Posted August 31, 2007 Yet, you have still failed to answer the questions that are challenging your excuses. I'd like to challenge what you have to say. Do you need to please others in order to be happy? Yes and no. I need to feel like I've helped people with their problems and that I have made a positive impact on peoples' lives. However, I don't have to live up to their expectations of me in order to be happy. Have you tried to organise yourself with a diary and slot your activities in? I haven't. I have thought about writing things down when they bother me, but I usually keep the diary "entries" in my mind. It's the most private place that I can think of in which I can store information such as this. You could have done something productive for the 15 mins that it probably took to write that? Actually it took me more like 5 minutes. lol. I made this topic in order to get encouragement from people because I know this is generally an open-minded community. Most of my friends (I hate to say this.) are relatively closed-minded and try to use religious dogma to calm me down. They tell me that prayer will help, but it doesn't work for me. Is it going to change your life if other people call you names? It isn't going to do any difference to me. All of my life, people have been hurtful toward me. That means getting called a "queer" wouldn't alter my life because I'm already used to being picked on. When other people call you names why should you feel hurt by it? I'm a very sensitive person, but you're right. I shouldn't be hurt by their comments. Why should you let it affect you? I shouldn't. Why should you act differently? Do you mean act differently as in trying to be more like the "norm" of society, or how I currently act? If you mean "Why should you conform to the norm," then I agree with you. I shouldn't. It just makes me more unique and at least I get to live an interesting life. Why is it so drastic that you're busy? It was sudden on me. It didn't help that I had spells of depression over the summer. It also is a grim reminder of how my life will be after high school. I want to be able to enjoy the final years of my adolescence, but then again life isn't perfect. SWAG Mayn U wanna be like me but U can't be me cuz U ain't got ma swagga on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted August 31, 2007 Share Posted August 31, 2007 So, what's the problem if you can answer your own questions :P The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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