What happens when you expose a kid to sex / violence

[Faux]

at a young age?

 

 

 

What if schools start teaching sex-ed at throughout elementary and not just in the later grades? What if kids are exposed to watching sex and violence on screen?

 

 

 

The effects of this is that the kid becomes a psychopath that goes around killing / raping people.

 

 

 

Are you kidding me? I grew up watching movies like Lethal Weapon and similar movies with my dad. My friends at the time did too. We played with BB guns, shot each other on the PS1. When I got a hold of the Internet, the first thing I did after playing games is searching for sexy photos.

 

 

 

But you know what? I think I'm normal. I don't think I have any psychological problem because I was exposed to this crap before the PG-13 mark. But do you disagree? Do you really think that mature content does something to a child?

[Robert_de_Sable]

If you're going to watch things happen on Grand Theft Auto and then go do it yourself, you need psychological help as it is.

[magekillr]

It needs to be age appropriate.

 

 

 

For example, my family and I were watching "Everybody Loves Raymond", and it's a Halloween Special where Ray's dad gives out condoms by accident to children. My mom had seen the episode before, so she knew what he gave out. So while me and my dad are waiting to know, she hesitates to tell us. She goes "They're things Ray plans to use later, with his wife." When my sister leaves to answer the phone, she states the obvious and goes "He gave out condoms, didn't wanna say it with Ronni in the room."

 

 

 

I thought about this for a second, and I gotta be honest it made me slightly concerned. I don't think it would be terribly important or imminent that my sister would know what a condom is at 11 years old (turning 12 in November), but the problem is, I know the school will fail at teaching it when she's in middle school.

 

 

 

When she enters the 6th grade this fall, she'll have the first "real" sexual education class, but there's no "education" really going on. I didn't learn jack [cabbage] in my 6th grade sexual education course, except for maybe minor facts about the human body and I witnessed pictures of the worst cases of STDs. Great, you show me a picture of an STD, and tell me how a girl's boob is decided as firm or saggy. Now what? Nothing. I went to summer camp the summer after 6th grade, and that's where I learned what a condom was. Didn't know how to put one on, didn't know anything about any contraceptives.

 

 

 

The reason I feel the school will need to be relied on is because my mother is taking the "abstinence only" approach, which is great, but it needs to be enforced with the other things as well. So while I don't think it's terribly important she learns what one is (or what other contraceptives are) at 11 years old, she's not going to learn what they are except on her own, which I'm sure she'll be given false information.

 

 

 

I know my mom doesn't plan on furthering their "talk" because she's so pro-abstinence, but I can tell you from experience and just knowing teenage hormones, the second a guy touches her thigh or shoulders in a seductive way, there's a high chance of it leading somewhere whether my mom or God like it or not.

 

 

 

So in a nut shell, teach things at "age appropriate levels", rather than all at once.

 

 

 

"Do it early and often," he said. "If a little girl says, 'Hey, daddy, when am I going to grow one of those [a penis]?' The parent can explain that little girls don't have a penis, they have a vagina. That's sex education that is still age-appropriate."

[RichieMcD]

The sooner a child knows what a condom is the better IMO. In the last few decades teenagers are becoming sexually active at increasingly earlier stages. It's better that they know what to do and what to use when the time comes.

 

 

 

If a child is fully aware that what they see on a games console or movie screen is fake and can't be done in IRL then show it to them, let them kill pixelised people. Make sure they know it's allowed to happen IRL.

 

 

 

Anyway with internet nowadays, a 8 year old can easily find pornos or videos of people being killed / tortured with basic webpages like google / yahoo. It's close to impossible to censor them.

[Ginger_Warrior]

I doubt anyone without some sort of PhD is actually informed enough to give an opinion on what psychologically happens to a child when they view sex/violence. Daily Mail included.

[megakiller32]

It's all down to the parents. If you teach the kids sex-ed at a really young age, they won't know what theyre being told.

 

However, some kids in my class have parents so strict and imo plain stupid, (i.e they couldnt watch a 15 rated film unless they were 15) they're the most messed up, the kind with on friends.

 

Their parents need to know when to let loose or cut the ambilical cord, or their the ones whos kids will be screwed up. It IS healthy for a child to watch, see and do stuff they technically shouldnt, because it gives them some more independance and responsibility in my opinion. For example, i'm not legally an adult, and i watch films and even dirty movies sometimes, hell, i think my parents know i watch the dirty movies, but they don't stop me, because then i would have no freedom. I think they don't stop me because i'm responsible enough not to overdo it or jerk off far too much, or do it when i'm bored. And i'm responsible like that because i have been given the freedom, yet still with boundaries.

 

I hope that made sense what i wrote, it made sense in my head :

[Faux]

I doubt anyone without some sort of PhD is actually informed enough to give an opinion on what psychologically happens to a child when they view sex/violence. Daily Mail included.

 

 

 

Well, for people like me who had childhood and met other people who went through the same experience (having a childhood), then we can give some sort of view based on that.

[Abyssalwhip]

The sooner a child knows what a condom is the better IMO. In the last few decades teenagers are becoming sexually active at increasingly earlier stages. It's better that they know what to do and what to use when the time comes.

 

 

 

If a child is fully aware that what they see on a games console or movie screen is fake and can't be done in IRL then show it to them, let them kill pixelised people. Make sure they know it's allowed to happen IRL.

 

 

 

Anyway with internet nowadays, a 8 year old can easily find pornos or videos of people being killed / tortured with basic webpages like google / yahoo. It's close to impossible to censor them.

 

5 year olds have sex?

 

 

 

Anyway, if you have an easy influenced kid don't let them play GTA or crap like that, age doesn't matter, it's if the kid is influenced easily or not.

[Flodder450]

Am i the only one who thinks at that South Park episode about sex Ed? :lol:

 

But theyd better do it in like the 5th grade

[anonymous1234]

Am i the only one who thinks at that South Park episode about sex Ed? :lol:

 

But theyd better do it in like the 5th grade

 

17 :thumbsup:

 

 

 

I think kids should get sex-ed at around 6th grade (11 years old), and any younger is just ridiculous. In 5th grade we got a basic lesson on it and everybody just laughed

[Giordano]

Reminds me of that one Law and Order: SVU episode...when the 13-year old kid watched hardcore sex when he was home. The poor dad had to work all day since he and his wife got a divforce and the kid had no one to stop hm. He later raped a bunch of younger kids, thinking sex was normal because what he saw.

 

 

 

And why did he think it was normal? Because no one he could trust told him otherwise. If his mother and father never divforced, they would have more time with the kid and (hopefully) explain sex to him, then he probably wouldn't of raped those children. His mind was blank on the subject, and because no one altered it, he thought rape was alright. If the parents let their children do what they want, then only god knows what those children are going to become. I know now that killing and rape is a horrible thing to do, and while I'll play the worse video games or watch the goriest or hardcore videos out there, I know I shouldn't reproudce that in real life.

 

 

 

Problem is, parents don't commit to their vows when they marry, don't stick together til the day they part and the kids suffer from it. A parents' job is to raise their kids into a functioning positive member of society. Leaving them unattended is like leaving a puppy unattended: the puppy might escape through under the fence and not become the kid the parents want.

[XdomX]

The real truth about is that human beings are too diverse. What may be okay for you to watch may scar another child.

[Powman3]

Has anyone seen the movie A Child Of Rage?

 

 

 

Yeah, that's exactly what happens.

 

 

 

True story, too.

[jackattack]

It needs to be age appropriate.

 

 

 

For example, my family and I were watching "Everybody Loves Raymond", and it's a Halloween Special where Ray's dad gives out condoms by accident to children. My mom had seen the episode before, so she knew what he gave out. So while me and my dad are waiting to know, she hesitates to tell us. She goes "They're things Ray plans to use later, with his wife." When my sister leaves to answer the phone, she states the obvious and goes "He gave out condoms, didn't wanna say it with Ronni in the room."

 

 

 

I thought about this for a second, and I gotta be honest it made me slightly concerned. I don't think it would be terribly important or imminent that my sister would know what a condom is at 11 years old (turning 12 in November), but the problem is, I know the school will fail at teaching it when she's in middle school.

 

 

 

When she enters the 6th grade this fall, she'll have the first "real" sexual education class, but there's no "education" really going on. I didn't learn jack [cabbage] in my 6th grade sexual education course, except for maybe minor facts about the human body and I witnessed pictures of the worst cases of STDs. Great, you show me a picture of an STD, and tell me how a girl's boob is decided as firm or saggy. Now what? Nothing. I went to summer camp the summer after 6th grade, and that's where I learned what a condom was. Didn't know how to put one on, didn't know anything about any contraceptives.

 

 

 

The reason I feel the school will need to be relied on is because my mother is taking the "abstinence only" approach, which is great, but it needs to be enforced with the other things as well. So while I don't think it's terribly important she learns what one is (or what other contraceptives are) at 11 years old, she's not going to learn what they are except on her own, which I'm sure she'll be given false information.

 

 

 

So in a nut shell, teach things at "age appropriate levels", rather than all at once.

 

 

 

"Do it early and often," he said. "If a little girl says, 'Hey, daddy, when am I going to grow one of those [a penis]?' The parent can explain that little girls don't have a penis, they have a vagina. That's sex education that is still age-appropriate."

 

 

 

 

 

The school shouldn't be relied on at all. Your mom should be able to do whatever she wants. People go to far. I'm not against an abstinence plus but some schools take it to far. They hand out condoms to 12 year olds like candy. And if the 12 year olds don't want condoms planned parenthood is down the street ready to give an abortion behind their parents back. You do that kind of stuff and you get that school in massachusetts where they have like 20 girls pregnant. Luckily they have a daycare center at the school.

 

 

 

 

I can tell you from experience and just knowing teenage hormones, the second a guy touches her thigh or shoulders in a seductive way, there's a high chance of it leading somewhere whether my mom or God like it or not.

 

 

 

 

If I ever have a daughter she's never going out. I'm gonna be like martin lawrence in bad boys 2.

[flying_death_bombs55]

I started finding "pictures" on the internet, and looking at them when I was 10, I also played games with blood and gore, but so far I haven't had anything wrong with me, so I really doubt there a age where you can't show them, kids will be ready when they are ready.

[MPM]

This all comes back to the question "Is it nature or nurture that determines who you are."



I believe it's both. You are born with a pre-determined disposition. That's why you have some quiet, happy babies and other loud, upset babies. While you're growing up, your parents transfer their moral beliefs on you. You take some of them, and discard others depending on what your disposition is.

If you have bad parents who don't teach you right from wrong, then yes, you may get some of the wrong standards from movies and games, but it is easily prevented by parenting.



The reason movies and video games are called the root of violence is because parents wont step up and take responsibility for their children.
 

[magekillr]

The school shouldn't be relied on at all. Your mom should be able to do whatever she wants. People go to far. I'm not against an abstinence plus but some schools take it to far. They hand out condoms to 12 year olds like candy. And if the 12 year olds don't want condoms planned parenthood is down the street ready to give an abortion behind their parents back. You do that kind of stuff and you get that school in massachusetts where they have like 20 girls pregnant. Luckily they have a daycare center at the school.

 

 

 

I agree that the school shouldn't be relied on, and if I knew that parents were always responsible enough to tell their children about contraceptives, condoms, and even any sexual education (which, some don't), then there would be no need to get the school involved. Fact remains, people like my mom are irresponsible and do not tell their kids about the alternatives.

 

 

 

It's a farce to say they "hand out condoms". They give them to the kids if they ask for them, which they should. Well, I support planned parenthood, so :P

 

 

 

Had the condom been invented earlier in time, there would have been more stonings occurring in Biblical times.

[Defender2516]

No I do not think a child should be exposed to violence or sex education so early.

 

 

 

For one, puberty doesn't start till around 13, so it would be pointless to teach him or her beforehand.

 

 

 

Also, this thread has a huge flaw in. It makes the mistake that Knowledge grants a child maturity and the ability to handle such responsibility.

 

 

 

The opposite is quite true, people learn from doing stupid stuff and screwing up and then say "dam, i'm not doing that again!". I would find it hard to believe that once you started school, you got filled with so much knowledge that your behavior changed and you never did anything stupid?

 

 

 

I bet you can teach that same child about guns, but then would you hand them a loaded gun?

 

So why do you expect to teach them all about sex, but then hand them a condom?

 

 

 

Besides, its best to wait for marriage anyway. However everyone thinks its okay to sleep around with multiply partners. If I met a girl who says she loves me, but has had multiple partners, I would give it considerate thought. All those other guys she had been with was probably told that she loves them too.

 

 

 

You can't act on your feelings because feelings change.

[jackattack]

The school shouldn't be relied on at all. Your mom should be able to do whatever she wants. People go to far. I'm not against an abstinence plus but some schools take it to far. They hand out condoms to 12 year olds like candy. And if the 12 year olds don't want condoms planned parenthood is down the street ready to give an abortion behind their parents back. You do that kind of stuff and you get that school in massachusetts where they have like 20 girls pregnant. Luckily they have a daycare center at the school.

 

 

 

I agree that the school shouldn't be relied on, and if I knew that parents were always responsible enough to tell their children about contraceptives, condoms, and even any sexual education (which, some don't), then there would be no need to get the school involved. Fact remains, people like my mom are irresponsible and do not tell their kids about the alternatives.

 

 

 

It's a farce to say they "hand out condoms". They give them to the kids if they ask for them, which they should. Well, I support planned parenthood, so :P

 

 

 

Had the condom been invented earlier in time, there would have been more stonings occurring in Biblical times.

 

 

 

You think there isn't anything wrong with a 12 year old getting an abortion behind her parents back?

[magekillr]

The girl shouldn't do it behind her parents' back, but I support her freedom of choice to do so. Especially when it comes to taking her across state lines. I dislike federalism.

[Defender2516]

Her freedom of choice is what got her into that mess in the first place.....

[jackattack]

The girl shouldn't do it behind her parents' back, but I support her freedom of choice to do so. Especially when it comes to taking her across state lines. I dislike federalism.

 

 

 

So you'd have nothing against parental notification? :roll:

[Zierro]

Small children are very suggestible to anything. Have you heard the story of a little girl dying because her brothers were playing Power Rangers with her? I mean come on... Power Rangers...

 

 

 

That just shows that it is the parents' jobs to teach them wrong from right - not the TV stations.

[magekillr]

The girl shouldn't do it behind her parents' back, but I support her freedom of choice to do so. Especially when it comes to taking her across state lines. I dislike federalism.

 

 

 

So you'd have nothing against parental notification? :roll:

 

 

 

If she doesn't want her parents to know, then they shouldn't be contacted. Again: her choice...even if I disagree with it.

[Defender2516]

If your child does something stupid and the police get involved, they do not go to the kid, they go to the parent, the one under his/her care.

 

 

 

It is not her choice, her parents have to know because they are her guardians. You act like she's completely indepedent and non-reliable on her parents and be leaving the nest soon.

 

 

 

Only a foolish girl would not say anything.