Just a question

[baalboy5]

Is it a legit reason to not come out to your parents/friends because being gay/bi is a personal thing?

 

I believe it a good reason, but might just be an excuse to hide personal fears.

 

what you think?

[Piscis_Rex]

I'd say that whatever reason you can come up with to not come out is "legit". If a person doesn't want to let people know about that part of his/her life then there's no reason they should feel pressurised to.

[The Observer]

The way I see it, there's no reason to come out until it actually starts to affect them. Like if you start dating people who are the same gender. There's no reason to make it any harder than it needs to be.

[Cheat]

It really depends on the people your coming out to.. And only you can truly know them, however and I know it's a cliché but I'm sure you'll feel more comfortable after coming out after all there is only so long it can remain secret unless you plan on completely severing contact or remaining celebat (sp) throughout your life..

[Hobgoblinpie]

You don't have to tell anyone anything about yourself. If you want certain people to know, then tell them. I have some gay friends, and they haven't come out to their parents because they are scared of how they would react (their parents are relatively strict and traditional). No-one should have to hide who they are though.

[obfuscator]

I see it the same way I see everything else - it's your business, tell people if/when you feel like it.

[Jernlov]

Entirely up to you. There's no obligation to tell people about your sexuality.

[Ginger_Warrior]

If it doesn't affect other people, they have no right to know.

 

I'd say such a person might consider telling people close to them so it 'cushions' the impact though. Even if they're not homophobic it might come as a slight shock that would need getting used to.

[Nomrombom]

You don't have to tell anyone anything.

[Faux]

there's nothing wrong with being scared about it

[Alg]

No universal standard for that sort of thing. If the person in question uses it as an excuse, it's an excuse. If not, it's a preference.

[das1330]

It's ultimately your decision. Justifications and/or reasons are not needed.

[fakeitormakeit2]

Fear is understandable, but hiding a fact about one's self is being ashamed of one's own being. I'd think one's own rejection of themselves is a scarier occurrence then others rejecting them, so a fact about one's self should not be hidden because they're afraid of what another might think. That goes for anything in life, including sexual orientation. So one doesn't necessarily have to say their orientation, but they should be ready to defend it lest it incur verbal criticism.

[Zierro]

I see it more as strategical than cowardly to keep it under the radar, with how discriminative our society is. But if people have a strong suspicious about your sexuality and you lie about being straight, it might come off as if you're ashamed.

[Giordano]

Is sex an important part of your life?

 

Yes: Don't be ashamed of revealing it if they ask. Go with the flow.

 

No: Who cares.

[Nomrombom]

Whatever we may say about not being ashamed, in the end it is entirely up to you and is no one else's business. If you WANT to tell them - go right ahead. If not - don't. No harm done.

[Saru Inc]

I mean.

 

 

kind of what @Giordano said, but like, being gay is a very important part of me, but I've still only come out to my family and four other people. I'm just a private person in that regard. If people ask me if I'm gay I'll say yes. I ain't gonna broadcast it. Just, don't come out until you realize the consequences.

[Dheginsea]

Well I guess it depends, if you're refraining from telling your friends/family because you don't want to admit it to yourself then that's a bad thing. However if you think that it's a personal matter and you want to keep it to yourself that's fine. Also you may want to wait before revealing it to your friends/family if they have some problem with a person being gay.

[The_Gabe]

Damn Baalboy5 is back. I didn't know you were bi/gay.