Should spanking children be allowed?

[Giordano]

Good points on both sides. I'd like to throw up this question though.

 

 

 

If spanking is considered physical abuse to a child, why is grounding them and putting them in solitary confinement not considered psychological abuse? Both are methods of manipulating the child's mind and emotions so that they won't do the bad deed again - so why is one form more "humane" than another?

 

Something I've never thought as before.

 

I have a feeling that lucasesco is spanked and not liking it....

[jimbobjoe]

If spanking was allowed in school i'll most liely hit the person back that spanked me, or just refuse and see if they hit me :) then call the cops :P

[How2PK]

One could hit a child too hard by accident and cause some damage, they could also hit a child and knock them over into something.

 

 

 

I always thought a spanking was something like this:

 

 

 

[Guest GhostRanger]

Good points on both sides. I'd like to throw up this question though.

 

 

 

If spanking is considered physical abuse to a child, why is grounding them and putting them in solitary confinement not considered psychological abuse? Both are methods of manipulating the child's mind and emotions so that they won't do the bad deed again - so why is one form more "humane" than another?

 

Something I've never thought as before.

 

I have a feeling that lucasesco is spanked and not liking it....

 

 

 

Haha. I've never thought of it either. I have a good friend who was never spanked, and his parents never raised their voice when punishing him. He is a great kid with a strong moral compass - as nice as can be, so it seems to have worked out. I don't really have a stance either way on the issue but as I read the thread I wondered about that... Why would we consider "psychological abuse" more humane than "physical abuse?"

 

 

 

@Anesthesia: It's a very good point. Just want to point out that I'm not on either side here, I was just kind of curious as to responses. I can definitely see the reasoning behind a parent deciding not to spank their child - but I'm iffy about whether or not it should be illegal.

[lucasesco]

my gf spanks me hard :twisted: 8-)

 

 

 

lol. actually i got my first punishment in my 15 years of life this summer. i have to work 2 weeks at my dads company with no payment for doing bad stuff this year :-k

[Anesthesia]

One could hit a child too hard by accident and cause some damage, they could also hit a child and knock them over into something.

 

 

 

I always thought a spanking was something like this:

 

 

 

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I've not seen or heard of anyone doing that in this country at all... All I've ever seen or heard of is them just hitting the kid where they stand, be it on the head, face or arse - thats including all the children I've ever seen hit by their parents be it in public or in private.

 

 

 

I know the picture that you posted was the traditional image of spanking but I thought doing it like that was confined to before 1950... Why would anyone pull the kid's pants down? For some weird sexual gratification? If the answer is to cause more pain then either the adult is insanely weak or they're hitting them far too hard as it is.

[Mercifull]

I'm guessing its because skin on skin stings a lot more than trying to smack someone on the bum through 2 layers of clothing. I dont think its got anyhting to do with being sexual.

[Bubsa]

Sorry if I sound patronising here, but I think you're getting smacking confused with spanking?

[Anesthesia]

I always thought they were similar if not the same, or that it was just a word used in place of smacking in different dialects. Regardless, the moral issues are the same.

[Pete_the_Viscous]

There is, of course, a difference between beating a child and giving them a hard pat on the head. I don't really approve of the latter -- and I certainly disapprove of the former. The way I see it, there shouldn't really be a reason to hit (well, tap hard) kids. Of course, if they're about to do something really stupid and dangerous, and there's no time to get their attention otherwise, then yeah, I would be all for it. Taking them across your knee and hitting them on the rear, though -- I don't see the point in that: you'd just get a really annoyed child who'll probably want to get revenge on the parent somehow. The only way to stop that would be a more serious beating, and then, well that's just going to escalate into something ridiculous.

 

 

 

To sum up: gentle hitting when absolutely necessary, beating never.

[Guest AshKaYu]

Here's my two cents. My parents smack me if I do something bad, and whoopdee do. 20 seconds of pain for 20 minutes of fun. I think that's a good payoff. When they ground me, it's worse, because no friends/outside/computer is actually bad, and I feel worse.

 

 

 

And although my parents approved of light smacking, as punishment, never once have they ever let ME smack someone. My brother punched both me and my sister, it left a bruise, he got grounded for a week. I punched someone in the nose, I got grounded for two weeks.

 

 

 

Offtopic:Xjake, are you a disco bandit too?

[konnan4444]

One could hit a child too hard by accident and cause some damage, they could also hit a child and knock them over into something.

 

 

 

I always thought a spanking was something like this:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Not too long ago that was me, lol.

[Kwisatz]

In my opinion physical punishment should never be an option when disciplining a child. Spanking just shows that the parent can't control the situation well enough to punish the child without use physical force. Usually grounding a child from something the dearly enjoy works, also sitting down with them and telling what they did was wrong works.

 

 

 

In my opinion spanking seems like something a parent does because they don't want to take the time to truly teach a child.

 

 

 

I know so many people that should have been spanked as children but weren't that it isn't funny. We actually had a class discussion about this. All of the well-mannered, nice people that I knew had been physically punished at some point in their life, and all of the spoiled, stuck-up hypocritical kids who live on their parents' credit card debt and poorly-financed home equity loans said that all that happened to them when they screwed up was that they got sent to their rooms to play Nintendo or talk on the phone. Although I am far from civil online, I'm much more polite and reasonable in real life than the majority of the disillusioned youth with whom I must interact with on a daily basis. I am proud to say I was spanked a few times, and I'm better for it.