terley Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I think I've had enough, im fed up of some 'friends'.. well, I seriously consider myself a great friend, if someones got a problem I'd always be there for them. My closest friends have relied on me for support on numerous occasions, told me their deepest feelings and I've always done my best to help them. It feels like Ive been through a lot with em, as if im always the shoulder to cry on. But it seems as if when Im going through any sort of trouble im left alone, suddenly my friends aren't talking to me as much. I mean, you just feel abandoned as if when you most need someone to talk to everyone just turns their back on you. I know when your self asteme is down you get the illustion that your being ignored but, what I've noticed is just really blatent. My eldest brother has recently admitted to being a transexual following an near sucessful suicide, probably brought from the grief caused by my parents splitting up and learning that for 20 years my father's had a second family and yes, I have 2 new sisters. Not including my actual brother, who now wishes to be known as Aimee. My family has be torn apart, another brother is excessively drinking every day and has hospitalised himself on many occasions, and the other hasn't said much, I bet he feels like crap too. I've found it a lot to deal with especially as now I live in a cheap flat in a rough neighbourhood, just me and my mom its really effected my lifestyle, no happy familys, just the bitter truth of life. I've had to deal with alot of what im going through alone, when your feeling so depressed some days you really need a friend to at least talk to and understand your going through something hard. I know its an uncomfortable subject to openly discuss but some re-assurance would still have been greatly welcomed. I just can't help believing that some people I thought were close friends are actually very narrow minded and 'sheepish', they cling to 'more popular people' literally shoulder to shoulder. I say, "anyone wanna go to the shops?" (at break), no one wants to go, ok.. I'll go alone, and on return several people are heading towards me off to the shops shoulder to shoulder craving attention, it's blatent and sickens me.. Laughing at jokes that aren't funny, superficial.. Well I don't know if anyone here can relate, most of what i've gone through is in the past and im most likely moved along to anger following expected symtoms of grief. But im finding it hard to trust, talk honestly to people suddenly. I know the topic of this thread isn't so scandalous, you'd all rather be discussing more openly debate issues. But any comments would be apprichiated. I don't know what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Errdoth Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 :cry: That made me cry irl, I hope you find what you need. Last.fm Signature Overlays Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
My_Eggs Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Sounds like you're going through some real tough times. Don't worry though, I'll be your shoulder to cry on. : 99 HP, Attack, Strength, Defence, Summoning, Ranged, Herblore, Prayer, Agility, Magic, Slayer, Fletching, Fishing, Woodcutting, Mining, and Thieving. Jagex'd out of my untrimmed hp cape on 6/14/2011. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Despaxes Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I can sort of understand what your going through, i didnt go through the same events, but i went through a lot of crap. I havent had such a great life, and i was always one of those people that pretended to be happy through everything. The one time i needed to talk to someone there was noone there for me. All these people who say im their best friend, im like a brotherr, they love me... all this and yet thje ONE time ive ever asked for help i had noone. I hated asking for help, it made me feel weak, like i wasnt good enough....and i still have those feeling, and I do feel stronger since noone helped me, but i would have rather been helped. After the occurence i left home and joined the marines and am now at the academy. I havent talked to any family or "friends" that i used to have in at least 2 years. I wish i hadnt chose that path. Just take your friends aside and talk to them about how you feel abandoned, if they caqnt deal with that they werent goopd friends, and maybe they didnt realize they were blowing you off, ive done that before, i just dont really seem to talk to a person, not because i dont want to, just because i just happen to be doing something else at the time. Stick it through, friends are some of the best things you can have, better than family, you can do stuff with friends and tell friends things you cant tell family. thanks everyone for the sigs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandaman115 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I've really gotten used to the crap people tell me. That my head is too big. That I'm a nerd because I get near straight A's. I need to cut my hair. And so on. I just ignore those people. Screw them over as much as possible. Kick them when they're down. If they treat you like this, then why should you treat them nicely? If they have their sob story and come to you say "why are you coming to me? Go talk to your REAL friends. Oh wait, that's right, they don't like you. Neither do I." Sorry if that was a bit harsh to anyone. [Admin Edit: No naming names in a negative light] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terley Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 oh well thx a lot, Its great someone cares. I don't mean to sound so depressive or give the impression that im a loner with no friends, ive got plenty and on a good day im the person people talk to, it feels like your surrounded by people you can trust, as if they'll be their for you. Its only when that day comes that you realise who your friends really are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
My_Eggs Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I've really gotten used to the crap people tell me. That my head is too big. That I'm a nerd because I get near straight A's. I need to cut my hair. And so on. I just ignore those people. Screw them over as much as possible. Kick them when they're down. If they treat you like this, then why should you treat them nicely? If they have their sob story and come to you say "why are you coming to me? Go talk to your REAL friends. Oh wait, that's right, they don't like you. Neither do I." Sorry if that was a bit harsh to anyone. Wow, people tell you a lot of the things they tell me lol. Everyone make fun of my head size, calls me a nerd, and tells me to get my hair cut to. The people that tell me that stuff are the ones who are my friends to... The best part of it is that I'm one of the strongest people in my group of friends, so I just punch em a few times and they shut up. They never learn though, cause the next day they're right back at it. 99 HP, Attack, Strength, Defence, Summoning, Ranged, Herblore, Prayer, Agility, Magic, Slayer, Fletching, Fishing, Woodcutting, Mining, and Thieving. Jagex'd out of my untrimmed hp cape on 6/14/2011. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knives669 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I can relate to an extent to what you're talking about. A lot of my friends have abandoned me, preferring drugs and alcohol. I help them through their problems... but since I've been going through a lot of really tough things right now, no one is around for me... If you ever need anyone to talk to, you can always talk to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terley Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 thanks, much apprichiated. :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Obsessive_Passion Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 It would be foolish of me to say to you, "I know how you feel, I understand, it's OK" because I've never been in that tough a situation before. But I'll try and keep this comment as thoughtful as I can. Firstly, about friends. I haven't had particularly 'close' friends since primary school. Old friendships were broken due to class re-shuffles. Now, yes, I have some great friends, but we usually don't talk about our personal problems - mainly topics in general. Also: I realise that after this year, I probably won't see most of my friends again. I'm heading in a totally different career path than most of my friends wishing to do science, so by not having really 'close' friends, it helps me cope better with the thought of leaving them. Everyone copes with problems differently. Call me a loner if you want, but I try not to bother others with my problems. Finding solutions on my own truly make me stronger, because everyone is alone at some time in their life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warri0r45 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Seems like you've had some tough time there mate and I can in some ways relate; I've been through some of the unfriendlier facts of life myself. The only difference between me and you it seems is that I didn't go to my friends to speak about my problems. I didn't go to anyone and i'd go so far as to say it's possibly the best thing i've done for myself. Why? it gave me an excellent chance to vent my feelings into something creative, more specifically into writing music. The best advice I could give is find something creative and vent your feelings into it. I don't think it would work for everyone, and I don't reccomend shutting yourself off like a hobbit, but give something creative a go. Anyway hope that helps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjrox32 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I feel sorry for you. That sounds like a harsh position. I stick to friends who stick with me in hard times. I beat down those idiots who bother to insult me with my fists or logic. Either works, they make fools of themselves either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grim_Jokes Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Friends can't be jerks. Jerks aren't your friends. Yeah.. Proud founder of the Myriad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foolgool Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Well.. You can talk to me, seriously. I am the person that all of my friends confide in, and I'm pretty sure I could confide in them as well. In fact, I'm trying to help a friend as I type. I really feel bad for you, though I could definitely not empathize, as I've never had anything that bad happen to free. I'm always just a PM/AIM away.. The code in my sig should say 1032 not 0132. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deloriagod Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 That sucks.. If you ever need to talk to someone, I'm here. Nothing that shows up in my pm box is read by anyone but me so whatever you say is kept a secret. My friends can be jerks and I can be a jerk to them. Luckily, it's only playful. When it comes down to serious issues I know I can always count on a close group of friends and visa versa. I have a group of 6 friends who I can count on for anything. I have multiple others I'd turn to if my closest group couldn't help me, but it would be harder for me to talk to them.. Like I said, I'm here for you : Internet Marketing For Newbies Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devilsdragon Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 You tell those people to [bleep] off after they pull some more [cabbage] on you(so it doesn't look like you're looking for a fight and you get to play the victim-win/win for you :) ) and if you're in a vengeful mood you bring up what they confided to you. Then you look for people who seem to fit you better(I don't know how old you are) if you're in HS the cliques should be very prevelent and you basically get to pick which you want to hang out with the most/become good friends with and if you're in middle school then you just hang around with everyone until you get to know them and then you can make your pick since middleschool is very fake(much more than HS) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
destro3979 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 wow... that sucks you remind me of another guy i know just sorta the opposite he started poor and had nothing then he meet some good people and now hes pretty famous and has anything he wants but he had to work hard all his life i hope everything turns out well for you im here for you New Sig Coming soon! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I just can't help believing that some people I thought were close friends are actually very narrow minded and 'sheepish', they cling to 'more popular people' literally shoulder to shoulder. I say, "anyone wanna go to the shops?" (at break), no one wants to go, ok.. I'll go alone, and on return several people are heading towards me off to the shops shoulder to shoulder craving attention, it's blatent and sickens me.. Laughing at jokes that aren't funny, superficial.. I can understand this more than I can relate. I see lots of people like this at my school, who act in this matter. Their just hollow people who I have nothing to do with after I find that their like that, and generally stick away from those type of people, and don't have them as friends. The biggest thing which pisses me off in teenage groups is that some people always need to have someone around them. They can't go to anywhere (a shop for example, cafeteria room, or library at school) without asking for others to come and for some reason needing them around to survive (like that their, their only life source). And then if no-one wants to go they choose not to go and the cycle begins again. That really grinds my gears.(thanks family guy) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
limpbizkit Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 ^^ you could pm majorty of people on this forums and theyd understand. tbh i know how it fells to have your family torn apart and so called friends etc and i know a few people like that fell free to add me on msn/pm if you ever need to. Tif 360 MGC Leaderboard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katha610 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 most of them probably cant even help themselves. i bet they are scared and insecure, because they cant hande the situation. someone who always helped them is now in need of help.. real friends try anyway, try to talk to them like despaxes said. keep ypur freinds close and your enemies even closer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markup Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 *hug* That just totally sucks. I have the same view as you do on some of my friends... ~MAK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Too Far Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 wel its either 1 or more of these things: 1- they dont realise you feel like you need to talk to them about it 2- they are just total jerks and you got to trow the most $hit you can at them and when they need help beat their feelings to the ground til they be the ones feeling down and if that happens make sure to rub it in then you wil feel satisfied 3- your in between 12/13- 18 and its just puberty wich makes you feel they are not there for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greencheeese Posted January 27, 2007 Share Posted January 27, 2007 Hello friend, i understand you're situation. I have been in similar situations where i felt nobody was there for me. But i stay away from people who take drugs, smoke or alchol or similar, if these were my only friends i would say no, and have none seen as you can always find new frends out there. I didn't used to think this, but now i know there are people out there who are willing to be you're friend and help you out when times get tough and things like that. Those are the kind of people i try to make friends with. If you would like to speak to me i will try and help you out..pm me and i can speak to you on msn or aim if this would help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timmay929 Posted January 27, 2007 Share Posted January 27, 2007 Maybe they know your situation and they don't want to bother you right now and wait until you get over it by yourself. I know some people like to be left alone when they are in hard times, and don't like to be bothered with people trying to comfort them. 122 Combat : 99 Hits : 99 Attack : 99 Strength97/99 Defence : 99 Fletching : 99 Woodcutting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MC_Kejml Posted January 27, 2007 Share Posted January 27, 2007 Well, this is what i would want to tell.. True friends show when you have problems and you need some help.. and the worse ones are those that get corrupt over time. Shur m shur, buddies at school with whom you talk about funny things and so on , that is a different chapter indeed. As for me; I work my memories of my best friends onto my book, yes, FOTE, which with I am always showing somewhere :) Few minutes ago, I talked with a friend that i knew over 7 years, that became corrupted as the time passed, and we just parted ways. It was a very painful experience, and I would never wish it to happen to anyone of you. ^ my book :^_^: I don't play anymore, but I'm grateful I played through the best RS times! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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