Blue_Eggz Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Often, while walking down the street or going to the dentist or a store, you see a parent abusing a child (ex. yelling, hitting, forcing the young one to do something). I think it is insane! If you want a child, Why would you scream or hit it? I was waiting for a doctors apointment and I saw a mother hitting her child and telling her what to do, etc.. I was watching them and it drove me crazy. I said "The next time you hit your child, I'm reporting you for child abuse,". She completely IGNORED me! She stopped, but she didn't have any reaction! It's so cruel... Post comments or stories. PS: My parents are extremely nice, I'm not sure if it has something to do with it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CRAIGMEANIE Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 I think child abuse is unacceptable, and im only 13 saying that. People who want a child want to love it so why the heck would you abuse your child? people know if they have one it could get them wound up every once in a while and the still take the chance even if they hate getting wound up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue_Eggz Posted February 25, 2007 Author Share Posted February 25, 2007 I think child abuse is unacceptable, and im only 13 saying that. People who want a child want to love it so why the heck would you abuse your child? people know if they have one it could get them wound up every once in a while and the still take the chance even if they hate getting wound up I agree, also, if you hit or yell at your child, when they have children and grow up, they will be the same as their parents! It's terrible... :notalk: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parabola Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 What you are describing is not child abuse. If you think it is, well, feel grateful for your sheltered life. Do you think children should just be allowed to do what they want all the time? I'm sure the child knows best. You made an idiot of yourself by saying that to the parent, who is legally allowed to hit their child to correct them. I'm sure people who have actually been affected by child abuse would be pretty annoyed to see you belittling what they've gone through by comparing it to relatively normal parenting. Fortunately I'm not such a person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viktorkrum77 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Though I agree, I think some less harmful corporal punishment like spanking is acceptable to a point. Me doing staff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1_man_army Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 You consider yelling at a child abuse? Maybe by law it is and in an ideal world nobody would do it but sometimes children refuse to what they're told to which makes raising your vioce justified. Smacking a child on the backside for misbehaving is also a justifiable method of diciplining children. By smacking I mean a light smack on the backside not a full scale beating. The problem is that too many people over-react when seeing a child get a light smack for misbehaving and regard it wrongly as abuse. Abuse is terrible and shouldnt happen to any child but smacking is justifiable. This mamby pampy attitude to the way people raise children is part of the reason why people feel that youngsters nowadays lack respect and dicipline. He who learns must suffer, and, even in our sleep, pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart,and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Aeschylus (525 BC - 456 BC) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue_Eggz Posted February 25, 2007 Author Share Posted February 25, 2007 True, but it's as if the parent doesn't want them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1_man_army Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 True, but it's as if the parent doesn't want them. Its not that the parents dont want them its that they want them to behave and to teach them right from wrong. He who learns must suffer, and, even in our sleep, pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart,and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Aeschylus (525 BC - 456 BC) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Dragon_Reborn Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 I think that hitting your children every now and then is okay, if it has a justifiable reasoning behind it. "Jeffrey, stop touching that woman!" *Smack*. Thats okay. "Jeffrey, stop sleeping!" *Smack*. That's not okay. ~~Let The Dragon ride again, on the winds of time~~I've always felt as if I'm the only person who can understand the concept of sarcasm on the internet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WookieeMania12 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 I believe it depends on the kid. Now, I rarely got spanked but to get a kid's attention you need to do something, sometimes spanking is the answer. But, when you start hitting him (as in beatings) it is child abuse no doubt. We should euthanize anyone who lacks the capability to contribute to society in any way.Please don't elect this man for president in 2012 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
splatmster24 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Though I agree, I think some less harmful corporal punishment like spanking is acceptable to a point. =D> thank you victor. have you ever tried to make a kid be good by just asking it? "please sit quietly honey!" it doesnt work, spanking is ok for teaching a child manners. Say what you mean and mean what you say because those that matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
assassin_696 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 What you've described would never hold up in any court of law for child abuse. Although you may disagree with his/her particular style of parenting, that's not your decision. Not all parents are perfect, but neither are all children, in fact none are, and unless you're the parent it's often very hard to know the circumstance and why the parent might be shouting or even resorting to hitting. Obviously genuine child abuse is awful and should be stopped, but although we may not neceassarily agree with it, there are certain aspects of parenting that have to be left to the parents. "Da mihi castitatem et continentam, sed noli modo" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubsa Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 True, but it's as if the parent doesn't want them. Whoever said they did? I really think you'd have to know the background behind it before you make such judgements, particularly ones you are making. This is how much you all raised for charity. Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
insane Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 You're equivocating abuse with discipline. That's just not correct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1canadian1 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Wow the thread maker's definition of child abuse is way off. Lock this topic ftw? RSN: Zammyftw ^^The girl that ruined music. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anonymous1234 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Why would you scream or hit it? change to him/her please, it drives me crazy :XD: . i think that the only reason a person would abuse their child was if they didn't want to have it, or they're parents did that to them. child abuse is just wrong and a lot of kids keep getting hit because they didn't see what was wrong in the 1st place with their actions Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Too Far Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 This mamby pampy attitude to the way people raise children is part of the reason why people feel that youngsters nowadays lack respect and dicipline. my parents did not hit me when i misbehafed and as far as i know i got respect for the people who deserfe it so? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guthix_Girl Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 PS: My parents are extremely nice, I'm not sure if it has something to do with it yes that probably has something to do with it. its how your parents brought you up that forms your opinion. Its a matter of disciplinary action. If they are causing physical harm that is extreme or that will linger, then it is child abuse. but if there is no welts, bruises, etc. then it is not child abuse if physical harm cannot be seen. its also a matter of teaching a lesson. if a child is misbehaving, then the parent is allowed to punsih them to an extent.. but i have a problem with adults who punish their children in public. Never take life too seriously, nobody gets out alive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1_man_army Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 This mamby pampy attitude to the way people raise children is part of the reason why people feel that youngsters nowadays lack respect and dicipline. my parents did not hit me when i misbehafed and as far as i know i got respect for the people who deserfe it so? That might be your experience but its not the same for everybody. You can't judge things purely on personal experience or on isolated cases - different people deal with things differently. He who learns must suffer, and, even in our sleep, pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart,and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Aeschylus (525 BC - 456 BC) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fat_hobbit22 Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 meh my parent did that up to the age of about 8 then they stopped because i was old enough to be punished without haveing the need to hit me eg. like grounding. by the age of 15/16 they stopped punishing me all together, you can make your own choices. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Punc Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 I'd prefer a parent that 'corrects' its child (a light slap, a controlled yell or something like that), over an annoying little brat that thinks he (or she) can do whatever he (or she) wants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lawrencekill Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 Well, it all depends on the circumstances, which you do not know, so you can't really judge them now can you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lordkrohn1626 Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 The only time I put my hand on my kids was when it involves blatant disregard for personal safety. Example; I walked in my (at the time 4yo) daughter's room and she had pulled the safety cap off of the electrical socket, was sticking a safety pin into it. I snatched her up, and swatted her on the butt. Example; My 3yo (at the time) son ran away from me and I caught up to him halfway into a busy road, I swatted him good on the backside. What I have found that works is if they are to young to understand....redirect them. Screaming NO! to a baby is a waste of time, and just scares them. Once they understand No, then you figure out what they like the most, and take it away. I gave time outs, 1 minute per year old...so if she is 4 yo, she gets 4 mins in the corner in time out. Once they are about 7yo, they understand rules. I have a written list posted on the fridge, that we sat down together and made up. When she violates the rules, she loses something for the night...tv time, game system, play time with her best friend..etc....works wonderfully. Beating your kid is just a parent venting frustration out on their kid because they dont know any other way to get their attention or teach them what NOT to do, or how not to act. When I was a young parent, I smacked my kids on the hand all the time while saying NO loudly.....you don't get a pamphlet from the mother nature explaining how to be an effective parent. As I matured, got an education, and had some more kids, I perfected the system I use now. Also you can't wait until they are ten to try to discipline them, or teach them right from wrong..it's to late. So if they spoil little johnny, and then wonder why little johhny is climbing the walls at the doctor's office, then start screaming NO and slapping him around.....not going to be effective, imho. It's to late in the game, and it will be hard to rectify. My two cents, from a parent of 4 kids. RS name: lord krohn Combat 138slayer specific: 103 whips, 38 dark bows and 250+ dragon boots dropped to date.Dragon drops: 5 Half shields, 21 drag legs, 8 dragon skirts, and 9 drag meds dropped to date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celt23 Posted February 27, 2007 Share Posted February 27, 2007 Although I disagree with it that can hardly be called child abuse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knives669 Posted February 27, 2007 Share Posted February 27, 2007 My parents disciplined me. And I think I came out of it just fine. Last month, some Freshmen tore down the bathroom at my school. The students were suspended and their parents billed for the damages. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if I did that, I would have my [wagon] handed to me by my parents. As far as I know, none of these children were disciplined by their parents. In my opinion, children today aren't disciplined enough. I think that it becomes abuse when the discipline is excessive, like hitting too much (or in unacceptable areas such as the face, torso, etc). Or when the parent takes out their frustrations/negative emotions on the child through verbal abuse and violence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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