Child Abuse

[Tigra00]

If my kid did that, he would have gotten chained to a pole and beaten with a stick. Srsly. And I'm not even a violent person. I would just be so astonished that my kid was THAT stupid that I would have to try to beat it out of him. I'd just be compelled to see if when I hit him, if the stupid would physically manifest itself and fly out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Honestly, who the hell would tear down a bathroom?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*The above was written for humor mostly, don't quote me saying I'm horrible, I'll just point out how much of a D-bag you are.*

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyways...My sister got caught smoking pot when we were younger. My parents always told us if they caught us doing drugs/smoking that they'd make us eat whatever we were smoking, and then we'd be grounded until we were 18. They always seemed serious, so I stayed away from such things, but when they finally caught my sister, all she got was yelled at. It wasn't even that bad, I stood there for the whole thing and when they were finally done I said "THAT'S IT?!", literally. I was mad. :P

[Geordiequeen]

I was a total tearaway during my younger teenage years and my parents never once hit me or yelled at me no matter what i did and then one day my mother just turned round and yelled at me and it hit me hard and i realised how badly behaved i was and how much stress i had put my parents through and without my mother shouting at me i would not be studying hard for my a-levels right now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There are some forms of parenting like shouting at a child if they are being paticularly bad that i agree with and smacking a child i also agree with if they are being paticularly bad but apart from this mild form of parenting, i totally disagree with anyone who mis-treats a child.

[knives669]

If my kid did that, he would have gotten chained to a pole and beaten with a stick. Srsly. And I'm not even a violent person. I would just be so astonished that my kid was THAT stupid that I would have to try to beat it out of him. I'd just be compelled to see if when I hit him, if the stupid would physically manifest itself and fly out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Honestly, who the hell would tear down a bathroom?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some kid whose parents always said, "Don't do that again, angel."

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My parents always told me that if I ever got caught doing drugs, I'd have to find some other place to live. :P

[indy500fan]

[lawrencekill]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lol. I saw some sites about to severly discipline your kids, by beating them up and such. But, of course, it's for humor only so don't take it too seriously.

[Celt23]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lol. I saw some sites about to severly discipline your kids, by beating them up and such. But, of course, it's for humor only so don't take it too seriously.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I edited it a bit.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[d3nic]

Often, while walking down the street or going to the dentist or a store, you see a parent abusing a child (ex. yelling, hitting, forcing the young one to do something). I think it is insane! If you want a child, Why would you scream or hit it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I was waiting for a doctors apointment and I saw a mother hitting her child and telling her what to do, etc.. I was watching them and it drove me crazy. I said "The next time you hit your child, I'm reporting you for child abuse,". She completely IGNORED me! She stopped, but she didn't have any reaction! It's so cruel...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post comments or stories.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PS: My parents are extremely nice, I'm not sure if it has something to do with it

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Child Abuse = Beating your child up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Small clip on the wrist is hardly child abuse... If I have kids, I will NEVER hit my children, but I believe this world needs a little more discipline.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Telling her what to do... How old was this kid? 18, 16, 3????

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You've gotta tell your kid whats right or wrong... And I'm sure she wasn't hitting her for no reason what so ever.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It's wrong to go and say that a parent is harming their kid.

[Jack12338]

Jeez. This is the reason we have lame shows like Dr. Phil, and counselors, parents feel that spanking and yelling at their kids is "child abuse". It's not.

 

 

 

The little brats need to know who's boss.

 

 

 

Without spanking = "I WANT THIS WHINE WHINE WHINE"

 

 

 

With spanking = "No Billy you can't have a snack" -Mom " Okay mom".

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Everything should have equal consiquences, tell the kid to go to their rooms? What? To watch TV and eat candy?

[En_fuego]

I doubt I'd ever spank my kids. But I cant really say that now as I dont have any.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you want to punish your kids you should do something that has a long term effect, taking away their favorite toy, video game, something.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If a kid breaks a rule and you just spank them they would probably do it again because its just a short term consequence. If you were to give them a long term consequence, like taking away their video game or computer privileges they might think twice about doing wrong.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

However I could see it being used in a situation where a child would say run across the street without looking and almost get hit by a car. Maybe you would grab the child, and they would understand right there that it is wrong to do that.

[Nadril]

I doubt I'd ever spank my kids. But I cant really say that now as I dont have any.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you want to punish your kids you should do something that has a long term effect, taking away their favorite toy, video game, something.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If a kid breaks a rule and you just spank them they would probably do it again because its just a short term consequence. If you were to give them a long term consequence, like taking away their video game or computer privileges they might think twice about doing wrong.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

However I could see it being used in a situation where a child would say run across the street without looking and almost get hit by a car. Maybe you would grab the child, and they would understand right there that it is wrong to do that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your not thinking from the point of view of a child though. When I was a kid I had a lot of things I could do. I could be inside and play games or watch TV or go outside. The list goes on and generaly the kid will find something else to do ;p.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now, grounding works better when the kid is older, I agree. But as a little kid a spanking is not only humilliating but also hurts. (doesn't actualy do any damage, but it does hurt).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sometimes too a combonation of those two work. Spank the child and then ground them.

[dangeresque]

I think yelling at your child is absolutely fine...but hitting, NO

[lawrencekill]

I think yelling at your child is absolutely fine...but hitting, NO

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do you consider the mental damage yelling does to kids?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comparing yelling to a slap on the hand is absolutely amazing.

[Parabola]

Do you consider the mental damage yelling does to kids?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you're serious about this, please back it up with some evidence that shouting at a child for disciplinary purposes gives them lasting mental damage.

[Errdoth]

My friend's mom, who is severely alcoholic, beats him and punches him and broke is leg in three different places by hitting it with a baseball bat. He now has since ran away from home, smokes pot and shoots heroine, and lives on the street. That is child abuse and an example of the results of said child abuse.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My parents spanked me and yelled at me and even threw away the candy jar, I remember vaguely, and from stories I have been told, that when I was five, I stabbed my dads brand new LCD monitor with a kitchen knife. Man, I got spanked for that, and it taught me it was wrong. I didn't get off easy, and more so was the humiliation of being spanked than the actual spanking itself, was more or less my punishment. I have been careful about computer monitors since. Back on tract though, I am pretty polite and know to listen to and respect my parents and take their advice to heart. I was disciplined through minor corporal punishment, and am not too crazy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Two cases, one representing corporal discipline, and the other representing child abuse, see a difference?

[Guest AshKaYu]

 

 

 

 

 

This mamby pampy attitude to the way people raise children is part of the reason why people feel that youngsters nowadays lack respect and dicipline.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

my parents did not hit me when i misbehafed and as far as i know i got respect for the people who deserfe it so?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That might be your experience but its not the same for everybody. You can't judge things purely on personal experience or on isolated cases - different people deal with things differently.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Following your logic, it is purely your experience that you were hit as a child and turned out fine. For other kids, it might just be teaching them that violence is the solution to everything.

[ander407]

ye it {beeps}me off :wall:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[1_man_army]

 

 

 

 

 

 

This mamby pampy attitude to the way people raise children is part of the reason why people feel that youngsters nowadays lack respect and dicipline.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

my parents did not hit me when i misbehafed and as far as i know i got respect for the people who deserfe it so?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That might be your experience but its not the same for everybody. You can't judge things purely on personal experience or on isolated cases - different people deal with things differently.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Following your logic, it is purely your experience that you were hit as a child and turned out fine. For other kids, it might just be teaching them that violence is the solution to everything.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sorry but please remind me where did I say that I was hit as I child. I didn't because I wasn't. The presence of my father was enough to put me off misbehaving too much. Next time don't make assumptions.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My point is that parents should have the right to choose how to discipline their children instead of being tied up by needless and unworkable legislation.

[BlueTear]

We had this discussion fairly recently, so let's fastforward a few pages. The following is a excerpt from the "Guidance for effective discipline" by the American Academy of Pediatrics. Highlights are my own.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Although spanking may immediately reduce or stop an undesired behavior, its effectiveness decreases with subsequent use. The only way to maintain the initial effect of spanking is to systematically increase the intensity with which it is delivered, which can quickly escalate into abuse. Thus, at best, spanking is only effective when used in selective infrequent situations.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

• Spanking and threats of spanking lead to altered parent-child relationships, making discipline substantially more difficult when physical punishment is no longer an option, such as with adolescents.
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
  Spanking is no more effective as a long-term strategy than other approaches,18 and reliance on spanking as a discipline approach makes other discipline strategies less effective to use.19 Time-out and positive reinforcement of other behaviors are more difficult to implement and take longer to become effective when spanking has previously been a primary method of discipline.
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
  A pattern of spanking may be sustained or increased. Because spanking may provide the parent some relief from anger, the likelihood that the parent will spank the child in the future is increased.20

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm still not able to grasp why inflicting physical pain - which we'd describe as assault or a violation of human rights depending on the mood we're in - would suddenly be okay because we're dealing with children. The whole "children aren't real humans" way of thinking was a fad during what, the 17th century? 18th?

[dacona]

im 13 even i see no piont in child abuse.

 

 

 

it leads confusion. here is an exaple:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

c is a deaf child so he always talk abit loud without noing

 

 

 

his dad is in bed as he works late.

 

 

 

m is mom.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

c is playing with his toys and is being a bit loud by accident.

 

 

 

m: *sceaming louder than c and thumping him* be quite you're dads in bed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

now here is why the child grows up wrong and confused:

 

 

 

* his mother spoke louder than him most likely waking up a foul tempered dad who will of course side with his mom so c gets hit more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*the thumping makes c think that since some people think people should be treated equally it makes him have a right to thump people.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

and here's the deal us children... we should have rights to thump back,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

...i should really make a petition and send it to the government

[insane]

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You can't make blanket statements like that. How can you say that spanking is completely ineffective for every child everywhere at all times? How can you say that non-spanking methods are more effective for every child everywhere at all times?

[magekillr]

difference between disciplining your child and abusing him/her...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

parents do a lot less disciplining than they used to...and now all i see is disrespect...coincidence?

[fakeitormakeit]

Giving your child a slap or yelling at them not to do something again is called repremanding. Sometimes children don't listen when they are told not to do something so they need something to listen to. Child Services aren't going to come and take away your child just because you screamed "Don't do that!".

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But being abusive such as beating your child to the point that they are injuried and/or cursing and saying violent threats to your children IS UNACCEPTABLE.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

O and as the person above me basically said that less discipline = less respect is not a coincedince, and I totally agree with he(sorryfor saying he/she before lol), my parents taught me not to act all crazy and wild(but I'm still allowed to have fun) and I am complimented for my good behavior at restaurants, public places, school and such by adults because I show them respect.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

P.S.: For the person who said you should have the right to strike back, you can IF you are being abused but only as a defensive action not for revenge.

[magekillr]

Giving your child a slap or yelling at them not to do something again is called repremanding. Sometimes children don't listen when they are told not to do something so they need something to listen to. Child Services aren't going to come and take away your child just because you screamed "Don't do that!".

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But being abusive such as beating your child to the point that they are injuried and/or cursing and saying violent threats to your children IS UNACCEPTABLE.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

O and as the person above me basically said that less discipline = less respect is not a coincedince, and I totally agree with he/she(sorry, lol), my parents taught me not to act all crazy and wild(but I'm still allowed to have fun) and I am complimented for my good behavior at restaurants, public places, school and such by adults because I show them respect.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

P.S.: For the person who said you should have the right to strike back, you can IF you are being abused but only as a defensive action not for revenge.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

exactly man...that's exactly what i was talking about

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i'm a guy btw ;)

[Flametrooper]

im 13 even i see no piont in child abuse.

 

 

 

it leads confusion. here is an exaple:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

c is a deaf child so he always talk abit loud without noing

 

 

 

his dad is in bed as he works late.

 

 

 

m is mom.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

c is playing with his toys and is being a bit loud by accident.

 

 

 

m: *sceaming louder than c and thumping him* be quite you're dads in bed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

now here is why the child grows up wrong and confused:

 

 

 

* his mother spoke louder than him most likely waking up a foul tempered dad who will of course side with his mom so c gets hit more.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*the thumping makes c think that since some people think people should be treated equally it makes him have a right to thump people.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

and here's the deal us children... we should have rights to thump back,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

...i should really make a petition and send it to the government

 

 

 

Please, don't think this guy is a representative of his age group. Some of us, for instance, can type better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anyways, I think that some kids I know could have done with a damn great deal more discipline when they were little. I never had any harsh discipline, my mom was always soft on me, and still is, and I turned out okay so far - I'd never do drugs, or tear down a bathroom, or anything like that. Really, it depends on the kind of kid you've got. Some are O:) and some are :twisted: and you need, I think, to discipline/reward them depending on what they're like.

[BlueTear]

You can't make blanket statements like that. How can you say that spanking is completely ineffective for every child everywhere at all times? How can you say that non-spanking methods are more effective for every child everywhere at all times?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

First of all, I'm saying that intentionally inflicting pain is illegal on adults - and if you really want to be offended by it, a breach of human rights - and the idea that it is an acceptable method of raising a child just strikes me as remnant of an earlier age - and yes, I mean to imply more primitive.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The "blanket statement" regarding it's actual effeciency comes from the American Academy of Pediatrics. I quote the "About AAP" part of their website.

 

 

 

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