RPG, I see what you are saying. Christ, it has been over four years since I had a relationship end in nearly the exact same way as Sam is describing his, and I obviously have not forgotten about that girl. I do not know if I can qualify my feelings as "caring" for her. Sure, there are still feelings there but I have not talked to her or seen her in at least two years so I am not really sure how anyone can "care" for someone in that situation. My point is that yes, there will be feelings for that person, but the difficult ones will fade with time. The best thing is to learn as much as you can about yourself from a failed relationship and move the eff on with your life. Every time you get some of those feelings back for an ex, put them out of your mind as quickly as you can or they will lead to dwelling and personal anguish. Bows-- It sounds like you two have a good physical connection. How are things beyond that? Try taking a break from the physical aspects and see if you still enjoy being with her.