I said this earlier in the thread, but couples that have a serious relationship (which is what it sounds like it was in your case) have troubles remaining friends after a breakup. The feelings you have for her are probably not friendship feelings at this point if I'm reading you correctly. If you want to become friends with her in the true definition of the word, I think you need to spend some time away from her. There is an analogy I've always lived by when it comes to relationships and goes something like this: Ending a relationship is like getting cut with a knife. It can happen one of two ways. On one hand, you can use a sharp knife that cuts deeply and painfully. Despite how badly it hurts, it is a clean cut and with the correct care, it will slowly heal. On the other hand, you can use a rusty dull knife that still cuts just as deeply and painfully as the sharp knife. In this instance, though, you do not treat your cut well. It isn't bandaged or cared for at all. It gets infected, festers, and remains painful for much, much longer than a clean cut would. I'm sure you can guess which decision is which at this point. The moral of the story? It [bleep]ing hurts to get broken up with, sometimes for a very long time--I've been there myself--and it's something you'll always carry with you, just like a scar. Learn from it and move on. If the relationship is really meant to work, it will work itself out. Time and space are your best friends. Use them to better yourself and you'll come out better than you started. Wow. I just rambled. :unsure: