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:XD: classic Can you please do "I love you brent" for me please : the other guy hasn't done my other one yet so...

If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend with bipolar, I find it's a nice tip to ask what's on their mind every once in a while. Hypothetically speaking say a lot of people got a high distinction all around and got a GPA of 7 in uni and the bipolar person only got a 4. This caused her or him a lot of grief and they felt stupid and worthless and the feeling of not being as good or of worth as everyone else. That person with bipolar disorder may go home and have an argument with their boyfriend or girlfriend and pick on all the little things they do wrong unconsciously to make themselves feel that other people have faults too. The boyfriend or girlfriend will be wondering what the hell is going on while their bipolar partner is crying, upset, arguing or telling them to go away or it's their fault they're feeling like this. The partner may fight back which will escalate the argument even more. A trained partner will ask what's wrong and remain calm and be there to listen. After the entire [bleep] this [bleep] that's the real truth will come out... Perhaps the person with bipolar might say something like if I leave you maybe I will have more time to study on the weekends and I will get better grades. A partner with an untrained ear would continue the argument about how they have done nothing wrong. A partner with a trained ear will say.. Grades? I didn't realise you were so upset over your grades? This will lead eventually to the bipolar person to spill out the real problem that is affecting them... They'll say something like... Yes my grades all the others got 7's and I only got a 4 I feel stupid! So long as the partner with the trained ear will help her or him to explore their feelings and work together with strategies to over come the problem, after the tears have stopped they will feel like the world has been lifted back off their shoulders. With people who have bipolar they always have an underlying problem that they don't realise until someone with a trained ear can pick up on it. Never treat your girlfriend or boyfriend with bipolar badly, most have the intentions of ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ãâ¦Ã¢â¬ÅIÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢m going to treat you how you treat meÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃâÃ

Next time don't get so defensive, you could always swallow your pride and go hey... You know what I must have missed that. I'm pointing out to you that women have said that, it's not an argument; put your ego aside lol The only person i saw who responded in the way i pointed out was suzy. They all mean pretty much the same context mate, maybe you live in another country where it doesn't? Who knows but here in Australia they all pretty much mean the exact same thing.

I love you Brent - translate plz

Next time don't get so defensive, you could always swallow your pride and go hey... You know what I must have missed that. I'm pointing out to you that women have said that, it's not an argument; put your ego aside lol

Cold turkey. I quit smoking and never touched another since. The average time a person has finally quit after using patches etc is 7. This means 7 attempts at using the patches to quit, not 7 patches. I think it's a mind thing more than anything... If you're on patches somewhere back there you're thinking I need help to do this or I'm not really sure if I can do this, or maybe this is the easier option, I'm not sure if I actually want to do this. I think you really need something there for you to go okay, enough I don't want to anymore, not now, not ever again. My mum nearly died from smoking, which was enough for me to throw the pack in the bin and quit entirely. My dad also quit after 20 years of smoking the heaviest pack twice a day by using tic tacs?? He now has a new addiction... He carries a packet of tic tacs around with him everywhere he goes. Cheaper than smokes I guess. I don't know if that's just his determination though... I mean the guy gave up alcohol as well, he used to have at least 3 or 4 light beers a day and one day decided it was enough and hasn't had a drop of alcohol in nearly a year. Put your normal cigarette money in to a savings account and save it for a year. Every time you think of a cigarette, check your savings account and see what it's up to for your brand new car at the end of the year or holiday overseas. THAT is how much money you spend a year on cigarettes. I'd also have to recommend the above, quit with her or tell her not to smoke around you. Or remove yourself; you don't need to be outside while she's having a cigarette either. When I wanted to lose weight my partner helped me. Every time I wanted to slack off and get take out for dinner or not have my run, he's be on my arse like a fat kid on a cupcake. It's amazing the things you can do when you have another person working with you as a team.

I did. Maybe you should learn how to read 8-)

I have mixed feelings about the situation.

I don't know if it's worth reading over watching... I mean garette Hedlund... Grooooowwwwl

Completely and utterly ignore them, then they'll love you :wink: I was talking about this thread mainly haha. None of the girls have said "How sweet, but we're just humans :)". They've all taken the pro-prejudice route against him which is kind of sad. You obviously haven't read everything then have you.

Here's the best way I can describe the disorder for you. One day you wake up after 15 hours of sleep, you slam the alarm off and pull the covers up over your head. You have no energy, your body is sore and you just want to go back to bed. You don't want to have to deal with people, work, commitments, boyfriends, girlfriends, family members, anyone really. People ask you questions and you give them closed conversation. Yes. No. Yep. Ok. You really just want to be alone and stare in to space, sleep or be focussed on one activity like 9 hours of solitaire. When people wonÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢t leave you alone or keep talking, you get agitated, sometimes angry, frustrated and will be rude and subtle without realising it. Sometimes you cry over something you would normally shrug off, you have lost all motivation, you feel depressed and in extreme cases, feel like you've done everything before, everything is repetitive, life sucks and you want to die. That is a low and usually lasts anywhere from a few days to a couple of weeks. This is a high. You wake up after 3 hours of sleep and feel like you've had the best nights sleep in ages. You text everyone that thought you had vanished from the face of the Earth 2 weeks ago and ask them all what they're up to, you just want to get the hell out of the house and TAAAAAAAAALKKK! Dance! Drink! Spend lots and lots of money!! Did I mention talk and spend lots of money??? You suddenly find yourself over spending, binge drinking, taking more risks and sometimes your words come out so fast that people have a hard time understanding you. A feeling of euphoria sweeps over you and you feel that you can conquer anything and everything..............and............. you do. Feeling creative, writing poems, songs, doing art, composing music, it's like you just overtook everyone that was running the race 2 weeks ago, you just stopped to take a nap before you shot past them. Suddenly you feel agitated, angry or aggressive, short tempered, snappy and you will pick fights for no reason. You sleep on it, wake up and talk to the person you just ripped their head off as if nothing had ever happened. It's also possible to have a high and a low at the same time!! God help the partner or friend in the way at the time... Negatives: extremely hard to be in a relationship, compulsive behaviour such as ocd, drinking problems, drug abuse, gambling or excessive spending, suicide. Positives: Most creative, talented, intelligent people you will ever meet, extremely good at displaying empathy, very protective of their loved ones, higher chances of being wealthy than normal people due to creativity and the love of money. What else do you want to know? I know the ins, outs, upside downs and inside outs of the disorder.

Sounds like you've had a tough week. Death and accidents can be hard to deal with and I can relate to you as I lost my best friend in a car accident too I guess he and I were probably as close as you and your cousin were. Your friend does sound awesome and I think you're both going through difficult times here and should work together rather than against each other. You mentioned she had bi-polar - Just give her some alone time for at least an hour or two and explain that you're having great difficulties and because of it, forgot that she may also be having a hard time coping and that you'd like to work together as a team and your on her side. Sounds like you also had a close relationship with your young horse there. I've never owned a horse before but I understand how putting down an animal you love can feel too. I remember when I was 14, I had a kitten called Techno (hehe can you guess what music I listen to) and I saved him from drowning, mum and dad said I could keep him. He ventured off in to the back yard of a house, where they had a rough dog and the dog mauled him. I had to put him down and I cried for weeks, I actually still have his collar in my memory box. Friends will come and go but true friends like the awesome friend you have will be by your side through thick and thin just like you will be for her. Maybe if it means that much to you a family member could help you out with the costs to attend your cousinÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s funeral. You could pay them back if you get a job later on when you return? Perhaps you could spend the next half hour writing your friend a letter or a poem about how you feel and how sorry you are and slip it under her door. Usually people with bipolar sleep it off but it might give you a sense of satisfaction and temporary relief for a while. Taking some photographs is always nice at least you have memories to keep. Spend some time with your horse and your best friend taking photographs and maybe make a little collage or something to hang up? Live out a few of your cousin's dreams and wishes - It will help you to calm down and deal with the current situation. Best wishes.

It was fun until I got spammed by some idiot while I was trying to study who froze my computer 5 times and wondered why I got pissed off... Seriously. Anyone who bothers me while I'm trying to study has a death wish lol

Don't be afraid to be the black sheep. Look at it this way... You could teach your aunty a few healthy eating habits. Reach for the salad, say actually yes I am having a salad, it's good for me and I'm trying to stay healthy. Don't worry about what she says, it's only gotten her where she is today and if you don't want to be like that, have the guts to reach for the healthier option. I don't mean to offend you here but if I had an extremely over weight aunty who was suggesting my eating habits, I would be shovelling in that salad and making facial expressions as if I'm eating chocolate so she gets the hint. I'm rude though so... :P

:-w The last person who worshipped the ground I walked on I took advantage of until I got everything I pretty much wanted, got bored and told him to bugger off. Harsh but people like that need to learn some how O:)

What do you get when two elephants tussle? PM me when you think you have the answer. You seem quite pleased with this result. You do realise that when psychologists counsel you, you are the one who comes to your own solutions, coping strategies, expectations? Doh! Well now you know. You seem to display a larger ego than normal and my guess is he's not that baffled but you like to think so because in your mind, you are a genius. You've clearly displayed that and made it known by all, a common trait found in those of some kind of personality disorder. Their beliefs about the world, their perception and superiority are blown out of proportion. After all, now you have tip it attempting to guess what you suffer from. You feel satisfaction with people who try to work you out; you also exaggerate a lot, also a common trait with schizophrenic tendencies. I believe you have one or more types of AXIS II disorders, which one/s? I would need to speak with you personally to find out rather than over the internet. I'd have to say over 3/4ers of the traits have been shown through out this thread. You'd also need to know what you're looking for rather than reading about it. Also try using a DSMIV or at least a ICD10 if you're attempting to link someone with a disorder. If you want to know more about these schizophrenic tendencies, I'm sure your psychologist who isn't counselling you properly (if you've really succeeded and baffled him) will help you. Are you really sure about that? 40% of psychologist to patient success is based upon their relationship status and if he had any brains he'd be going along with your little ego problem there to figure out the real problem. Anyone who won't feed your ego, you wonÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢t have a bar of. I doubt you've baffled him at all, he who knows nothing, knows more. There are over 400 kinds of psychotherapy approaches and you mean to say you've baffled him? *shakes head* thatÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s kind of cute that someone with your IQ really believed it.

Okay it's taken me long enough to get back to this thread and ramble a few useless facts: The Human Body and its Responses...Hmm Infant development: Rooting reflex: A touch on the cheek induces the infant to move its mouth forward to the source of the touch (helps to guide feeding). Sucking reflex: Tactile stimulation of the mouth produces rhythmic sucking. Orienting reflex - The tendency to pay greater attention to novel stimuli than to familiar stimuli. Longer fixation times occur with novel stimuli. (Brain waves differ between novel and familiar stimuli) They use relative attention paid to an object to gauge infant's discrimination between objects. Infant amnesia - lack of explicit memory, but evidence of implicit memories (i.e the movement and the consequences)... For example.. If I move my arm out a certain way it's a consequence. Everything goes in to a childÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s mouth that's why we don't remember until we learn hands on. Attachment: Harlow (1959) conducted an experiment where 2 infant monkeys were observed. Two model mothers were built. One model mother was covered in warm cloth, the other of steel but with a food source. Regardless of the food source, the infant monkeys still preferred the mother who was warm and made them feel secure. A secure attachment: Child welcomes the mothers return and seeks closeness to her. An avoidant attachment: Child ignored the mother Ambivalent attachment: Child exhibits anger at the mother while seeking to be close to her. Disorganised attachment: Child may approach mother but gaze away, and may show odd motor behaviour and dazed facial expressions. (This also depends on child's biological response to distress and maternal responsiveness) The more favourable parenting style is Authoritative because it enforces standards, but encourages verbal give-and-take. ---- Classical conditioning - Associating a neutral stimulus with a stimulus that leads to a reflexive response. Some of you may have heard of PavlovÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s theory where he would present meat (unconditioned stimuli), which made his dog salivate (unconditioned response). He then rung a bell (conditioned stimulus) which the dog learnt over time that he was about to receive the meat, causing him to again salivate (conditioned response). This is how it works... I listen to music every time I go to work, school, and study or to the gym. I now associate hard work with music. When I want to achieve something that involves hard work... I listen to music. Another example is little Albert who was 3. Little Albert was a young boy whom we let play with a little white rat. Albert and the little white rat became friends. After a while of playing with the rat, a loud gong noise was made. Little Albert was startled but with time continued to the white rat. Once again a loud gong sound was made and little Albert started to cry. He didn't want to be friends with the white rat anymore because he knew that when he played with him, he would get scared. Unfortunately this also led young Albert to be scared of other white furry objects such as Santa clause's beard and cute bunny rabbits. It's the same when you think of a Big Mac (unconditioned stimulus) it causes you to salivate (unconditioned response). So when you're next driving in the car and you see the golden arches of Mc Donalds (conditioned stimulus) it also makes you salivate (conditioned response) as it makes you think of the big mac. I'll write more when I get back need to hurry off somewhere...

I'm dating one the biggest nerds around who wears glasses, star wars and just about every online game possible and every single one of my friends tells me I can do better than him looks wise. They don't seem to understand that I love him because of every other reason other than how he looks and I find that because I love him for every other finer detail, which makes him, him, this is what makes him attractive to me. There are plenty of better looking males but the person he is, noone could ever come close, he makes me feel whole. He makes me happier than what any one else can because of who he is.

It's actually a motorbike, a canary yellow Ducati that I'm saving up for I still also want a canary yellow corvette convertible as well but that all depends on how well I do financially with my business in the next 5-10 years.

Low blood pressure and thyroid problem.. It's weird because I'm nowhere near over weight but if I push down, I have double neck LOL (not to make fun of anyone overweight or with big necks) I just think it looks funny on myself. I also have to work out extra hard than normal people because of my low blood pressure, I need to eat lots of sugar and because of the thyroid problem it's really hard to burn off... So if I don't keep up the exercise to stay in shape, I will eventually get fat and rather quickly too. You don't think I could get it do you? Nearly every relative I know has diabetes :ohnoes: :uhh: I would be really scared because I have a phobia of needles... I don't know how I would cope with checking levels every day.

I thought that was really brave of you to talk about your feelings like that. I don't have diabetes but I have really low blood pressure, sometimes I can't get out of bed in the morning, sometimes I sleep 15 hours a day and I'm STILL tired, Some days I can't function, some days I have to lay down because I start seeing black and white dots in front of my eyes before I faint. I can't really imagine what you must go through and put up with but I guess that is the only situation I can think of that I can relate to you with?

Have I told you, you're my new best friend? However in all seriousness, if someone bowed down to my feet I would give them a swift kick, to let them know not to do it again in a hurry :lol: Good point my boyfriend tells me the thing he loves the most about me (he is a spiritual person but not Christian... more spirituality) is my soul and the feeling of wholeness he gets when we're together etc And he calls me beautiful instead of sexy, which means a lot to me. Makes me feel better than him saying I have a nice rack or letÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s [bleep]... Although in an appropriate mood that would be fine :lol: I guess what I'm trying to say is both sides are fine for me, I like to be treated like a Goddess but only on special occasions... Because in all honesty I would take advantage of it and walk all over you... Which would make me bored of you and leave you.

I'm not sure if that's directed at me... Actually, it was directed at the OP :P . I'm a rising senior at an All-boys high school, so the odds are about .0..01%, but it's possible :lol: . Oh... Well I feel like a [bleep] for answering that lol

I'm not sure if that's directed at me but, Brisbane and QUT School of psychology, QLD. There were scholarships when I first started the degree for anyone with an OP of 1 or 2 (for the 3 years). Also after 3rd year there is another scholarship awarded for all 4th year students with a GPA higher than 5.5, I'm currently sitting on a 6.5 :P Do well = free psych degree, how awesome is that at approx $6,500 a year? Odds are as high or as low as you decide they are. "Whether you think you can or can't, you are right".

And if you do really well you can get scholarships in to university...(Don't know about where you live but it applies in Australia) What's better? Fitting in or free university degree :P