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I personally believe if you're over the age of 18, best of luck to you.

I would like to argue that in a way children are taught that behaviour with Freud's Oedipus complex/ identification theory. Obviously there is more evidence out there and contradictory evidence for this theory as if you were to have a case study without it, it wouldnÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢t be very critical of you. This theory in particular is just one I favour. During the Oedipus complex little boys want exclusive relationships with their motherÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s e.g. "I'm going to marry you" and vice verser with little girls and their fathers. From a young boys prospective: It is during this phallic stage (4-6 years) that children identify with their parents (especially same sex) and establishment of conscience. What I mean by this is little boys identify with their fathers by imitating their behaviour. Much of adult personality is built through identification, as the child internalises motives, behaviours, beliefs and ideas. A longitudinal study of children's attitudes toward themselves provides some empirical support for Freud's theory of identification (Koestner, Zuroff & Powers, 1991) The extent to which girls were self-critical at age 12 correlated with observer ratings of their mother as restrictive and rejecting at age 5. For boys, self-criticism correlated with these same behaviours manifested by their fathers, not their mothers. This suggests that boys' and girls' attitudes toward themselves may be strongly influenced by identification with the same-sex parent, although of course, children identify with both parents. Boys unconsciously fear that their father (their ultimate rival), will castrate them because of their desires for their mother (the castration complex). The fear is so threatening according to Freud that they repress their oedipal wishes and identify with their father. In other words, they internalise a moral prohibition against incest as a way of preventing themselves from acting on their wishes, which would be dangerous, and they instead become like their father in the hope of someday obtaining someone like their mother. Girls, too, renounce their secret wishes towards their fathers and identify with their mothers because they fear losing her love. It is theorised that homosexual men fail to relate to their father and instead of showing an interest to daddy shaving, want to bake cakes with mummy. Or perhaps daddy wasn't there to teach them that. A lot of gay men have over bearing mothers and were raised by single parents.

If I understand correctly, you had 2 people you considered close friends and thought it would be a good idea to run for class office with them. It seemed as though you collaborated pretty well together but then things went pear-shaped because the person you were matched against not only beat you because she was more popular than you, she kind of stole your friends from you too. I guess you're feeling pretty spiteful towards the girl, I mean it's one thing to be beaten at something but it becomes quite personal when they beat you and take your friends with them too. I mean yeah if I was in your shoes I could see how cut you would be, like one way of viewing it is that this girl stole your friends and the other way of seeing it is that your friends should know that you should all stick together and not abandon one another. I guess one way I can relate to you is one time in high school I was really well liked but then the group of people I was with liked to make fun of other people and I refused to make fun of this one girl because I know it wasn't the right thing to do. I thought these people were my friends but they abandoned me because I wouldn't act how they were acting. I mean these were people I had known all through primary school, people I considered my best friends. I was left alone and made to make new friends and I felt betrayed just like you did. I mean friends are supposed to stick together, yeah? One thing I learnt and one thing I think you are about to learn is that people will come in and out of your life all the time. Sometimes the people who never come back will be the ones you cared for the most. There are times when you will feel angry, jealousy or resentful and most of all wanting to know why? You will only go through life counting your real friends on one hand. I think this is a time where you need to appreciate the people who are still in your life and know that your real friends are the ones who will stick by you no matter what. Look who is left with you and understand those are your real friends, the ones who stayed with you when you lost and still stuck by your side even though they knew you didn't consider them as close as the other 2 people. For all you know, they could have been sitting in the dim light just waiting to jump at the opportunity to be your new best friend. I mean how AWESOME is that? You know these people are your real friends if you search deep down. So smile eh? and appreciate them :D Trapical's idea was brilliant too, if you want to fit in you could always ask to be an assistant. If you do become an assistant though and they still ignore you and talk and hang out with her more, not really include you just remember what I told you.

Goddess loves you if you love men or women : I respect what you choose.

Do you mind saying what the correlation or Z score was? I also wonder how answers would change with privacy of filling out a few pages of range... Like how many men or women on this website have an insecurity holding them back to answer the question truthfully in fear of being looked down on socially. Were the people you interviewed belonging to a particular university degree or random? And how many participants were there? Do you remember the culture of the boy who spoke out? Have you ever thought to take it further and find out the correlation between life satisfaction and stress with participants? I love your case study here there could be so much done to it... :ohnoes: Getting me excited hahaha

I do really love to read your posts Did you measure attractiveness of the guy appealing? - Just a random thought flowing through. Wow I absolutely love this case study... If I were to be in a male body for 2 weeks the first thing I'd do is go for a shower :lol: I wouldn't mind being a bloke for a fortnight *shrugs* but only a fortnight. Although in a bit of a twist if I looked down and wasn't happy with my fishing tackle, I would turn it in earlier than the 14 days :o

copy and paste I think.. :?

But to be a part of their culture I think is admirable... I don't know many Westerners who work their butt off to get their little sister or brother in to university or have that much respect for their guests and parents. The Asian people I know at my university are the first to give me a hand if I ever need it.

I should care but I don't. I wont be here in 130 years and I'm selfish.

Bnaped intrigues me and I don't think he's crazy at all... If he/she can talk the same ideas without the psychoactive drugs involved. ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃâæWhich I think he/she can because they mentioned Zen which I'm very fond of myself. Wouldn't mind philosophising with the man/woman... :-k I just prefer to leave the drugs out of it. Those who do use cannabis (Mr Pot head IÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢m assuming uses cannabis) heavily or over a long period can experience a range of difficulties. Two of those difficulties can be long-term cognitive impairment and precipitation of psychosis. So for those who think he/she is crazy for using the drug, it doesn't make you crazy it triggers something that was already there.

Try to view a comment with no emotion, it will serve you better rather than tying your balls in a knot :D

When dad and I do the shopping we kind of tend to throw things to put them in to the trolley.... well he throws them and I catch them... Sometimes ... I like his theory of shopping.. Him: Wtf are these things... you eat em? me: yup Him: what about the other 2? me: yup Him: Aight well CATCH It's better than when mum does the shopping coz she seems to shop for herself and what she eats rather than the rest of the family. When she does the shopping all of us complain lol and if you go with her... asking for lollies is as if you're directly naming her hitler..... :shock: :o

Wrong but you get a pat on the back for trying :P

Oh and smoking the wacky tobaccy dipped in acid... Lay off it :P

Documenting your thoughts can sort of make you go crazy :? So will trying to explain the existence of what is, from each prospective. I think I know what you're trying to say but I can sum it all up in a video (which means I get to speak less and explain less). Btw if you've been taking psychoactive drugs recently keep yourself a little journal and reflect on it afterwards, releasing your thoughts on forums such as this will just cause you trouble :wink: (not saying you are but these kind of philosophy/life rambles are associated with them quite often) Thinking and trying to explain it will just make your brain fry so I'll send you the video to pass on so you can keep your sanity. I'll send it when I get back from my business meeting.

I bet though, if the story continued on the front page of tomorrow's newspaper you would buy a copy. Why? Because it's just so ridiculous that it sells :D

Actually, most of the post in this threads suggests the exact opposite - if you don't have an ordinary enough name it almost seems like most people think he deserves to be teased about it. Aren't you that guy that pops up at random times and takes the opposite approach with everyone just to be annoying?

Another one is I can't join in the card game called bull sh*t... Because I can't lie to another persons face... It sounds a bit like this... 5 of spades *giggle* BULL SH*T! Damn I lose again :XD:

There's only one way to find out... :P Let us know how they got on.

And the answer to that question should influence ones behaviour in what way? I mean, even if helping can be argued to help yourself, that doesn't mean you shouldn't help in that manner? A good point you make and I believe that people should still continue to help in that manner. The question I did ask however, was whether one could give to another, completely selfless? :D

Umm something weird is when we all sit down at the table for a roast dinner or something someone always gets picked on lol we take the piss out of each other at the table... Guess that's how I developed a sarcastic sense of humour and people easily get offended because I assume they can cop it on the chin.

I can do that with my fingers... They hurt like hell while playing guitar hero's though because of it :?

That's true. You have a point there. Although she doesn't get anything physically, she gets it mentally? [/Karate Kid] Conditioned responses are mentally processed which carries out the behaviour :P Did you know that even charities are competitive? Statistics show that people are more inclined to donate to an organisation if they give a price? So if 2 of the same charity were to collect money on the city street corner, the box containing "$2 donation" would collect a lot more than the box with no price tag. Even charity organisations seek marketing research strategies lol (Grounds, John; International Journal of Nonprofit & Voluntary Sector Marketing, Vol 10(2), May 2005. pp. 65-67) There you go buskersÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ãâæ if you want to double your money haha

That is receiving from giving though. That is conditioning ones self to continue to act out a certain behaviour because it feels rewarding. If your grandma were to keep giving and the conditioned response were to change and she no longer felt satisfaction, the action would cease 8-) Do you see how I don't think it can be possible?

It does make you feel good and it does teach you lessons, agreed. However, any way I look at it I get back as much as I give... People go ooooooooooooh you must be so caring, question is am I really? I raise money for freedom wheels so that kids with disabilities can have custom made bikes and be able to ride a bike like other children. In return I build a business that is helping me retire before I'm 30. I also get to go motorbike riding across India for free. Also studying and working with kids with autism but that also benefits me in gaining knowledge in the area. I do mental health and depression seminars at colleges, primary schools, high schools, TAFEs etc so that kids and adults don't feel alone but in return I gain public speaking experience which gets me bigger and better seminars that I get paid good money for. Volunteer with life line but once again also benefits me in scoring so highly in counselling classes and unit assessments. I do volunteer work with clinical psychologists (the ones who already have their PhDÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s) and in return I learn the nitty grittys that I really shouldn't have learnt about until several years later. Hmm also help people out with personality disorders such as bipolar disorder, split personality disorder etc and listen to their stories... And in return I know a hell of a lot about some of the most common disorders and how to relate to people who have it and how to talk to them in the future. I also talk to people who have cases of ocd and eating disorders but that's more to keep me grounded, as I have suffered from both in the past and currently. And if I didn't do it and gain anything from it I'd be lying because it would still make me feel good as a person and that is still receiving something from giving. I still want to go to 3rd world countries and help them plant food sources and develop education etc but maybe because I feel that I will find myself and something in life will make sense while I'm on the journey? Do I study psych because I want to help other people or is it to cure my own satisfaction that I've always wanted to know how people work, think and behave the way they do? A few things to think about there for you all... Can anyone really do it from the kindness of their heart? Because in all honesty as human beings who have egos and know power, who grow to fill gaps and feel whole, I don't think it can be done. I like to make people think and question themselves :) Always go that step further and ask why am I really doing this?