i couldnt find any existing topics so lock it if there are.. but

 

 

 

Have you ever had a lot of friends, and thought things were going good? Having a great year where you had a group of fun caring friends? Then all of a sudden, you notice that all of them are slowly vanishing? I had a great group of.. i dunno.. about 7 friends. We all had fun together and talked and had a great time. But now ive noticed i only have 1 of those friends left. They all slowly vanished.. Two of them i have no way of contacting. One of them has started to hate the person i am.. Two of them have gotten new friends and left.. And one of them things have just become really awkward between us (that one is a guy) So now i only have one good friend left that fortunately i am really close to.. but all of my friends are slowly vanishing away. i dont get along with many people and i especially dont fit in so there is a slim chance of me getting new friends.

 

 

 

Has this ever happened to you? have your good friends slowly drifted away, with no fights or breaking up suddenly? just becoming distant? have any stories or any solutions ? i hope somebody can relate to me here.

to some extent... I more or less drifted away from everyone by choice though.. went from a ''small'' group of probably.. 15-20 friends to a close knit group of less than 10. I tend to enjoy the limited activity with the smaller group of friends i have, but i know that at least a couple of then will be there for me if i need something, thats all that matters i guess...

 

 

 

when graduation comes around and people leave, its going to get even more limited and spread out...

yeah but the thing is all of the friends in my tight knit group of seven were always there for me and caring. its just sad to see them all drift away

yeah but the thing is all of the friends in my tight knit group of seven were always there for me and caring. its just sad to see them all drift away

 

 

 

what happened to the ones that you TOTALLY lost contact with, and are unable to contact at all.

well i spose they werent as close ast he others. cause all the others i have contact with.. so i spose they arent as close.. but its still quite depressing..

well i spose they werent as close as he others. cause all the others i have contact with.. so i spose they arent as close.. but its still quite depressing..

 

 

 

hum... i dunno what to say, have you tried getting back together with ur old friends?

yeah but they have other friends that they are closer to now and no longer enjoy my company

It happens all the time, i guess you just have to get used to it and move on.

ive known a couple people who are have been in your situation, or close to it. I suggest, judging from those people i know, that you move on before you waste time sulking and sinking yourself deeper in depression...

 

 

 

write poetry, listen to music, read books... enjoy the outdoors.. chill out and relax and let time pass. Some people may need others to keep them happy, in my opinion you shouldn't.

I had a friend who was my best friend for 10 years+, then we just stopped talking...I regret not doing stuff when we stopped talking, he was a great friend and it took losing him to remind me :( Funny thing is we live across the street from one another, i've tried to do stuff with him but he doesn't want to...falling out with friends sucks

Aw. It happens. Don't worry about it. True friends are the ones that REALLY stick with you. And you won't have A TON of true friends. :P

Quite alot of times, but the worst one is now:

 

 

 

My best friend left to highschool, and got a new phone! :-s

*sigh* i should just get over it . ive just never had many friends before, and when i finally get some really good ones, they all drift away. its very very sad. besides.. i live 10 miles away from anything so theres nothing else i can do to spend time

I have two friends (one boy, one girl) who are both within 3 months of my age, and I hang out

 

with every weekend/every other weeked. I graduated high school a year early, and one of my

 

friends got held back 11th grade, so by that set of coincidences, I'm graduated, my one friend

 

is a senior, and the other is a junior, even though we're all almost exactly the same age. :XD:

 

 

 

Anyway, I dunno' what I'd do without them. I don't really get along with most people. There

 

were three other members of our little group, but one dropped out of school, one got

 

pregnant, and the other grew a moustache that made us refuse to talk to him until he

 

shaved it (I wont, at least, it looks awful).

It happens a lot more as you get older.

I've had one friend for almost a decade, he went off to a new school and I haven't talked to him in over 5 months. :cry:

It just happens. People come and go in your life, it's just the way it is. For every "era" in your life (high school, university, first job,...) you have a set of friends. Only a few core people will be there for the whole ride. It's not a bad thing really, you'll make new friends as you move forward from era to era.

It happens a lot more as you get older.

That I can easily agree with.

 

 

 

 

 

I really only have a handfull of friends left. And none of them are from after I finished uni.

ya i used to have 6-8 really good friends... now i have like 3??? and alot of friends that i just talk to in school or w/e

About two years ago, literally all my friends were lost, and i got about 4-5 new friends.

 

 

 

I had a friend who changed into a greebo, and I dont really have much to do with him anymore.

Yep, this happens to alot of people. I use to be in several groups and only one of five was able to stand the test of time.

 

 

 

First group, just me and a bunch of friends you know, next year three people move away, and I left to another group because it wasn't the name with the other three.

 

 

 

Second group, small group, four people, we use to do alot of things together until I joined anotehr group and they kind of just blended with other groups.

 

 

 

Third Group, large, mostly because the people of group two followed me into it and then someone from group number two's girlfriend and her friend, eventually they broke up and that just wet the glue on the group.

 

 

 

Fourth Group, a bunch of my really good friends, we had a great time, partied all year did all this stuff together it was so fun up to the point were two people did something which upset everyone else and I just left because they would always fight after that.

 

 

 

Group five, not much to say except I joined their group, we have fun, except someone from the second group who use to mock the people in this group came in and I use to be the center of all attention but he grabs the spotlight.

 

 

 

Point is, everything will fall apart eventually, it seems that you just grow apart unless well maintained. A bridge os bound to collapse if you don't see that the supports are strong just as a bond between friends. Alot of empires fell apart because they seperated or interests differed too greatly.

 

 

 

 

 

Edit: Except through all this, my best friend is still the same from when I was 3-4ish.

I haven't talked to a lot of my friends since I moved to the UK 3 years ago. I miss my nanny even more. She was more of a mother figure to me than my real one since I'd always be left with her. She was there for me ever since I was born, know I haven't got a clue about where she is or how she's doing :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And what is a Greebo? Lol.

Afraid so, yeah. We all got to college and people changed a lot, now it's nowhere near as easy as it once was to just be good mates all the time. I suppose that's a large part of growing up though, realising that it's not all fun and games. :(

 

 

 

Echofish - greebo/rocker/mosher etc. greebo, where i come from, usually means a more wannabe than anything. IE linkin park/korn hoodys, crap cheap baggy jeans, doesnt tend to wash, dyes hair black.

Hasn't happened to me. I've lost friends only because of moving and/or switching schools.

Have known two of my friends since around the age of 18 months; most from between 1st and 3rd grade, and met a few more in 5-7th. All of these "longtime friends" (I'm in 9th, now) keep together, despite arguments. The ones who drifted away aren't really my friends anyway.