trapical Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 That's fantastic Tigra, I'm happy for you. I honestly wish you the best, and you have my congratulations for finally getting what you have been hoped for the last five years. You get a happy man: :D->-< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tripsis Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 No thanks about the links (I believe you) but mind explaining how you can have an emotional connection/relationship over the internet? Oh wait how silly of me: you use :) instead of a real life smile: you use :cry: when your sad, to express that your crying in RL over something: and you use when your feeling the love: Man I feel so emotionally attached to everyone now. Can't everyone just feel the love which has circulated through this thread, since I've used that emoticon! No wonder people can express their deepest feelings for each other over the internet ! (Don't you just love the power of emoticons!) Don't worry about replying Goddess I've figured it out myself! Emoticons - the way to express powerful emotion...for those Internet relationships! :D Would you mind explaining why you cannot? The biggest thing about these relationships is that you cannot touch/be with the other person. You can look at them (photos, webcam), hear them (phone) and talk to them (messanger/phone) but you cannot physically be with them. These relationships are hard because you eliminate one of the important parts to a relationship - physical contact (no, not necessarily sexual stuff, but small things like hugs, cuddling, etc. goes a long way in terms of feeling connected to someone). Because you can't do that, you're forced to engage in the other important part in a relationship - communication - and a lot of it. In long distance/online relationships you talk. You're really able to get to know someone, possibly more than you know anyone else. Contrary to "real life" relationships, you don't just 'go out and do something' (go to the movies, minigolfing, or whatever it is people do these days) but you talk to one another. You talk about the past, present and future, which causes you to learn even more about one another. Then all that communication builds a layer of trust, which is incredibly important in a relationship that will last. Having an online/long distance relationship isn't about 'going out and doing something' but learning everything you can about that person. You don't just "hang out" with your boyfriend/girlfriend like they're some sort of trophy, they're more like you're best friend - someone you can talk to about anything. From what I can tell, this is a department that you're not very "experienced" in. At least try to have an open mind about it and don't bash someone because they choose to engage in an online/long distance relationship. - 99 fletching | 99 thieving | 99 construction | 99 herblore | 99 smithing | 99 woodcutting - - 99 runecrafting - 99 prayer - 125 combat - 95 farming - - Blog - DeviantART - Book Reviews & Blog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
____ Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 Tripis nailed it - I've had two long-distance relationships, and I have to admit that everything which was said is dead on to success there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 I'm really trying to see Eels' point of view here...but I just don't see where it's coming from. To say you can't have feelings for someone because they're over the internet is like saying you can't have friends because they're over the 'net. You have feelings for your friends, don't you? You care about them, etc etc. Her and I have considered eachother best friends for all these years, and we've just considered ourselves a "couple". Some could argue we're not actually dating because, well, we've never been on a date and never seen eachother, but that doesn't really matter to us. Oh no Tigra I do think its a cool idea if I were to have a friend over the internet for so long and would want to meet up with them. And as I have previously mentioned I wish you all the best of luck with that because if it doesn't work out its going to be a waste of a holiday and money. @ the Bold. Yes I have feelings for my friends but I physically see and talk to them each day in person, I've never actually had feelings for any friends over the internet, nor do I think I will, it just isn't like the real deal in life. Btw if you believe me why come up with pathetic conclusions that didn't involve any thought at all. You could have at least given a little critical analysis. I'm slightly disappointed. Oh sorry for disappointing you Goddess. :( By the way you chose not to answer my question which was muddled up in the sarcasm. The sarcasm came, when it was obvious that having a emotional relationship over the internet is a joke. So would you like to use some thought of your own and answer the question, or just complain in your post about me ironically using no thought. Just for your convenience I've quoted the question I asked. :wink: but mind explaining how you can have an emotional connection/relationship over the internet? And I'll assure you if you can give me a legitimate answer in response to my question, my views on this will be turned 180 degrees. :wink: edit: Ah ok, yeah I read tripsis reply it makes sense. I'll concede the fact that it can happen and although "different" you can have an emotional relationship over the net. (Though he did also add things like talking over the phone etc, which isn't actually over the internet). Point taken. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellbellz Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 It's not so weird. :P With MSN and videochat and telephones, long distance relationships are far from impossible - and you can definitely have a significant relationship with someone without seeing their face. It's less than ideal, but you have the expectation that you'll be together in real life eventually :DI didn't say anything about this relationship being weird. Read my post. I am confused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martinisback Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 Hey man, Congrats:) Good luck, and you kno if you have that private time..make it useful:) Haha just playing Have fun:D --Quit--(As of December 22th, 2007) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spikerkid Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 Enjoy the time you have with eachother. Then maybe you can go visit her more often :). Quit RuneScape :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenValerie Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 Good luck and I wish the best to both of you. Enjoy your time together and most of all have fun. To all those people saying a long distance relationship is impossible it is possible if you put all your heart and soul into it which the two of them have done. After that many years together online the two of them meeting is way over due also it's not like they are kids afterall they are adults. Heres a little quote I like to share~ "To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved." - George MacDonald Best of luck to you both! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 By the way you chose not to answer my question which was muddled up in the sarcasm. Don't worry about replying Goddess I've figured it out myself! So would you like to use some thought of your own and answer the question, or just complain in your post about me ironically using no thought. You asked me not to worry about replying as you had figured it out yourself. Obviously you gave that reply no thought either 8-) Just for your convenience I've quoted the question I asked :wink: Just for your convenience, I've quoted your reply as it seems you've forgotten. but mind explaining how you can have an emotional connection/relationship over the internet? Since you have changed your mind, sure I don't mind informing you. Computer-mediated communication (CMC) offers its users a reduced-cues environment, a chosen degree of identifiability to others, and a forum to express facets of one's self. Previous research suggests CMC is more appealing than traditional forms of communication to certain individuals whose desires to be sociable with others are prohibited by social inhibitions. The present study predicted that individuals who indicated higher levels of both shyness and sociability would be able to express their true-selves to a greater extent online. Their relationships online would grow more quickly and be more satisfying relative to others Sheeks & Birchmeier, CyberPsychology & Behavior, Vol 10(1), Feb 2007. pp. 64-70. That's just one explanation, there is plenty. Try doing a bit of research before you open this :XD: and do this "blah blah blah". The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Infernalz Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 how much u wanna bet ur one of the FIRST people to meet another person from RS irl?!? seriously, ill bet u r one of the first! ^Click for my Newgrounds page! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WutangFlu Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 If anyone hasn't said... Don't forget to pack condoms, and invite me to the wedding in a few years only joking.. but if you take me seriously, more power to ya man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tigra00 Posted July 21, 2007 Author Share Posted July 21, 2007 If anyone hasn't said... Don't forget to pack condoms, and invite me to the wedding in a few years only joking.. but if you take me seriously, more power to ya man. Like I said before, I don't expect it to happen (though, only because I don't EXPECT anything like that from her, that's all her choice), but there is a good chance it can, so you know. And nay, I'm not one of the first. People were getting married IRL from being RS friends years ago. :P The popularity of any given religion today depends on the victories of the wars they fought in the past. - Me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrimHams Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 Well done, i've known someone from msn who i first came in contact with in the most ridiculous set of circumstances. A rl mate had decided to put a random name into msn (won't say the email) and she came up, he spoke to her and decided to add me to the convo. Anyway we spoke for a lot over the next few years but i've sort of lost contact with her, the great thing is if we ever are on msn at the same time we can pick up on a chat. Dunno if i'll ever meet her but i'd like it to happen in that kinda scenario. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maleficus1055 Posted July 21, 2007 Share Posted July 21, 2007 Ive known someone on my friends list since the day i've started and I want to meet her in person so bad. Both of our parents wont let us. :( Tumblr. Follow me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 You asked me not to worry about replying as you had figured it out yourself. Obviously you gave that reply no thought either 8-) Just for your convenience I've quoted the question I asked :wink: Just for your convenience, I've quoted your reply as it seems you've forgotten. Urgh! The start of my post wasn't sarcasm it was actually asking a question. Followed by a new paragraph and then some sarcasm which you quoted me from saying "I've figured it out- don't bother with a reply.". (You even noted in one of your previous posts that it was sarcasm). Would you like me to, for your convenience, use [sarcasm] tags next time so that you can be like the little kiddies who can't differentiate between sarcasm and a serious tone, and thus people have to use them? Anyway thanks for the reply and answer, as I wrote in my previous post Tripsis clarified it all for me, but I'm still happy for the answer from you. I'm on your side now, and wish Tigra the best of luck. :) edit: Just for you Goddess the new and improved post from me - complete with sarcasm tags! Yay! Its just saying you have feelings for others over the internet is a bit kookoo. Why is it 'kookoo' because you say so? I can tell you now an emotional relationship is considered more involved than a romantic one; I can give you sources if you like from relationship psychology. Also I can give you sources and statistics that internet relationships, that disclose personal information and talk about the future, have quite a high rate of successful marriages? No thanks about the links (I believe you) but mind explaining how you can have an emotional connection/relationship over the internet? [sarcasm]Oh wait how silly of me: you use :) instead of a real life smile: you use :cry: when your sad, to express that your crying in RL over something: and you use when your feeling the love: Man I feel so emotionally attached to everyone now. Can't everyone just feel the love which has circulated through this thread, since I've used that emoticon! No wonder people can express their deepest feelings for each other over the internet ! (Don't you just love the power of emoticons!) Don't worry about replying Goddess I've figured it out myself! Emoticons - the way to express powerful emotion...for those Internet relationships! :D[/sarcasm] Enjoy the Read. :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 I quite enjoy your replies to me; it seems you go from this "blah blah blah" to progressively being able to put a paragraph together. I should reply to you more often, it's seemingly beneficial to you. The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arya_Stark Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 I quite enjoy your replies to me; it seems you go from this "blah blah blah" to progressively being able to put a paragraph together. I should reply to you more often, it's seemingly beneficial to you. ROFL. Practice makes perfect! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Itsjustagame Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 hey maybe you'll get to touch her. hold her hand even? you'll officially have gone farther than 90% of people here. which is pathetic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 hey maybe you'll get to touch her. hold her hand even? you'll officially have gone farther than 90% of people here. which is pathetic. Hey maybe if you keep trying to act 'cool' on the internet you might actually make that other 10% one day! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Itsjustagame Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 hey maybe you'll get to touch her. hold her hand even? you'll officially have gone farther than 90% of people here. which is pathetic. Hey maybe if you keep trying to act 'cool' on the internet you might actually make that other 10% one day! GOOD JOKE. You directed it at me by accident though. An easy mistake to make. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knives669 Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 Congratulations! ^_^ I'm happy for you! I hope things go well for the both of you. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 GOOD JOKE. You directed it at me by accident though. An easy mistake to make. Good comeback :uhh: If you have nothing constructive to say about this subject why don't you just stay out of the thread please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Itsjustagame Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 GOOD JOKE. You directed it at me by accident though. An easy mistake to make. Good comeback :uhh: If you have nothing constructive to say about this subject why don't you just stay out of the thread please. was your retaliation to my original post constructive? Im pretty sure it wasn't even directed at you. But that's ok, mods are allowed to be hypocritical, am I right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted July 22, 2007 Share Posted July 22, 2007 But that's ok, mods are allowed to be hypocritical, am I right? Of course we are. Now please let this thread go back on topic. We've taken it too far off topic now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted July 23, 2007 Share Posted July 23, 2007 Completely off topic I know but I couldn't help but notice that Itsjustagame is a funny name for someone who seems so angry at life 8-) Btw - Chris you better be showing me photos when you get back. The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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