Forever_Lona Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Hi all Its been one hell of a week, so for want of someone to turn to for support, here I go. Found out on Friday one of my cousins had been in a car crash. Nasty, bad, he went to hospital in a coma. Monday I got a call letting me know they they had decided to turn off life support. My awesome friend was there with me, and she was great. Also found out that day that my 3 year old horse (still only a baby :() Was going blind in both eyes. Most likely she will be put down once her sight has gone completely, her quality of life just wont be brilliant, I simply dont have the means to keep a horse that is not earning its keep. As much as that decision pains me, I would much rather her put down than passed onto a home that she may end up starving in a paddock, shes not an easy horse to keep weight on. The funeral for my cousin is supposed to be on friday. Unfortunately, its in Sydney, I live in Tasmania, and I have no money to get to it. No one can help me out, my friends are as broke as I am. So I wont be able to go. Then stupidly, tonight, I got upset with my awesome friend, who, in my self absorbsion, I didnt notice was doing it tough as it was. Sheer selfishness on my part. She is Bi-polar and sometimes things get pretty hard, and she crashes hard and fast. If I hadnt been so selfish, only caring about my own problem, this wouldnt have happened. Shes pretty much told me to [bleep] off and leave her alone for a it, which I respect, I'm just frightened about how down she might be. We live together, her room is right under mine, and its all I can do to leave her be. Shes pretty much the only support I have. My family is pretty ordinary, I have been stabbed in the back by a group of friends I considered very close. Kaits all Ive got left. And shes probably lying on her bed thinking suicidal thoughts. No point me going down there, I know for a fact it will make things worse. :cry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doughnut Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 What a terrible week you've had. I can't think of anything too say, other then that I hope it gets better for you. "A time comes when silence is betrayal" MLKJ Speak your mind, but be civil.Get mad, but do not rage.Do unto others as you would want done to yourself. "] Follow the doughnut to my blog! :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forever_Lona Posted July 31, 2007 Author Share Posted July 31, 2007 I know theres nothing really can be done. I'm hoping someone will come up with a miracle cure for depression. Wouldnt it be lovely? Thanks Doughnut Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No_OnE Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Man, you've really had a bad week. The only advice I can give you is to hang in there and try to make things better with your friend because you'll be needing someone to talk all this through with. Now would be the worst time to be mad at each other. Anyway, I hope things get better for you. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrmyk Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 you say your family is pretty ordinary but you can still go to them for advice :) Proud Retired Council of The GladiatiorzClick here for our website - 110+ F2P Combat Requirements Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Sounds like you've had a tough week. Death and accidents can be hard to deal with and I can relate to you as I lost my best friend in a car accident too I guess he and I were probably as close as you and your cousin were. Your friend does sound awesome and I think you're both going through difficult times here and should work together rather than against each other. You mentioned she had bi-polar - Just give her some alone time for at least an hour or two and explain that you're having great difficulties and because of it, forgot that she may also be having a hard time coping and that you'd like to work together as a team and your on her side. Sounds like you also had a close relationship with your young horse there. I've never owned a horse before but I understand how putting down an animal you love can feel too. I remember when I was 14, I had a kitten called Techno (hehe can you guess what music I listen to) and I saved him from drowning, mum and dad said I could keep him. He ventured off in to the back yard of a house, where they had a rough dog and the dog mauled him. I had to put him down and I cried for weeks, I actually still have his collar in my memory box. Friends will come and go but true friends like the awesome friend you have will be by your side through thick and thin just like you will be for her. Maybe if it means that much to you a family member could help you out with the costs to attend your cousinÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s funeral. You could pay them back if you get a job later on when you return? Perhaps you could spend the next half hour writing your friend a letter or a poem about how you feel and how sorry you are and slip it under her door. Usually people with bipolar sleep it off but it might give you a sense of satisfaction and temporary relief for a while. Taking some photographs is always nice at least you have memories to keep. Spend some time with your horse and your best friend taking photographs and maybe make a little collage or something to hang up? Live out a few of your cousin's dreams and wishes - It will help you to calm down and deal with the current situation. Best wishes. The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andufusthebronze Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Owch, bad week. But, I know about how to deal with accidents as my mum is still in hospital for a continual heart attack. Keep busy, so for one. Look for a new horse. Make new friends, and hang out with them. Send a letter to her, saying that you where wrong, and really want to be friends again. But you respect she may still be angry, and tell her your willing to wait until she is ready to be your friend again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sour_tacos Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 My sympathies, and the rest of Tip.It's I'm sure. I'm so sorry for the loss of your cousin. As for your horse, I know what its like to have something like that happen to a pet that seems like part of the family. My aunt's dog, who I practically grew up with, developed cancer, arthritis, and went deaf so they had to put him down last year. As for your friend problem, that has happened to me way to many times. I just act without thinking, and it doesn't end too well. Just try to apologize, and be really nice. Hope your week gets better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soul_failure Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 That's terrible, my sympathies. All I can do is say it only goes up from where you are. Sometimes it gets really hard, but you can have really great times as well. It's obvious you feel bad about the way you treated your friend, but trust your instinct and apologise to your friend when you feel the time is right . :) Try and be happy, it should get better soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcneilp Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Dang, thats a bad week. I give you my sympathies and hope everything works out all right in the end. Just try and stay positive. Things will start looking better soon :thumbsup: It isn't in the castle, It isn't in the mist, It's a calling of the waters, As they break to show, The new Black Death, With reactors aglow, Do you think your security, Can keep you in purity, You will not shake us off above or belowScottish frictionScottish fiction Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ndn3master Posted July 31, 2007 Share Posted July 31, 2007 Hope things get better for you. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forever_Lona Posted August 1, 2007 Author Share Posted August 1, 2007 Thank you so much guys :) Its been a heck of a week, but I'm sure things will only go up. The support I found here has been great. Beleive me, you have no idea how much it helps :thumbsup: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
limpbizkit Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 Wow If my week was that bad i dunno what i would do... But then again it seems something has be ansewered...its people with major problems like you that are in so many peoples prayers. But i hope things pick up for you =] Tif 360 MGC Leaderboard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord_Omar_Iv Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 sorry to hear :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Futurama Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 Sounds bad mate. Just remember, everyone suffers tragedy in life, and everyone can get through it. Deepest sympathies to you though, and if you can't make the funeral, make sure you visit his grave when you can. Don't feel bad, it's not like you don't care about your cousin, it's just not easy for you to make it. Small gestures are always the most powerful mate. Just let her know you care and do something to show her that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unorclan Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 Maybe some people should stop telling this guy how bad/horrible his week was and give some advise? - thats my advise right there. Thanks to the amazing talent of Jopie211 for the sig!Finest Fist of Guthix Strategy Guide Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sour_tacos Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 Maybe some people should stop telling this guy how bad/horrible his week was and give some advise? - thats my advise right there. You don't read past the first sentence, do you... sometimes giving sympathy and a few caring words is the best somebody who lives thousands of miles away can do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forever_Lona Posted August 1, 2007 Author Share Posted August 1, 2007 Maybe some people should stop telling this guy how bad/horrible his week was and give some advise? - thats my advise right there. You don't read past the first sentence, do you... sometimes giving sympathy and a few caring words is the best somebody who lives thousands of miles away can do. Amen I realize there really isnt much anyone can do or say. As I said, just a bit of support goes a long long way. I'm happy to say Kait and I are getting on really well again (its amazing what a box of chocolates will do!). Going to go up to Sydney at a later date, when things are more stable financially, and spend some time with the family up there. Thanks again guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted August 1, 2007 Share Posted August 1, 2007 Maybe some people should stop telling this guy how bad/horrible his week was and give some advise? - thats my advise right there. I did. Maybe you should learn how to read 8-) The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fakeitormakeit Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 Just remember, to look up, and this is a great time if you have a religion to start praying, because prayer sometimes gives you a glipse of hope, and talking with God helps. If your atheist then I'm sorry, I have nothing for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wakka102 Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 Just remember, to look up, and this is a great time if you have a religion to start praying, because prayer sometimes gives you a glipse of hope, and talking with God helps. If your atheist then I'm sorry, I have nothing for you.I'm really not sure if that was meant to be a nice comment or not :-k . All he needs is a little support from others... It's good to see that you are getting along with you're friend again. Friends are always the most important thing to have to get through a difficult time. You have my support :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fakeitormakeit Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 I'm sorry if that seemed like a nasty comment, in my own twisted mind that was suppose to be a comment of support & advice.(note that no sarcasm was used in the making of this post) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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