Family Communication - Am I the Only One?

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

I have the same problem, so I can't help you there. I like not talking to my parents and being left alone.

 

I don't think that's what wakka means? It sounds like he normally talks to his parents about most stuff, but this he's having trouble with. It doesn't sound like he's like you in the sense that you don't like interacting with your family and prefer being left alone by yourself.

 

 

 

Either way, I can't help him. Lol.

[knives669]

Moms just get that way. :P Especially when it comes to their sons.

 

 

 

My mom makes a HUGE deal out of everything I do. And she gets pissed when I don't tell her. :P Just try and be as nice as possible.

[dsavi]

How can I stop doing this?

 

 

 

Suicide. No matter what, it happens to everyone. Get over it.

[ktmcf121]

i had the same problem in high school, and it only got worse the first year of college. finally my parents broke down and confronted me about it, they thought the same thing, that i was trying to hide something.

 

 

 

i explained to them that i just don't like talking all that much. not just to them, but to anyone. my phone conversations are usually less than a minute long with friends. i say what needs to be said and then hang up.

 

 

 

after that, they started backing off, but somehow after that meeting, talking to them just got easier, so they asked less questions and i gave more thorough answers. plus i've matured a lot since then, and i can relate to thier experiences more and more each day.

 

 

 

having an open mind helps a lot, but you still have to think for yourself. too many people have too much of an open mind and let others influence thier decision too much. you have to find your own happy medium. good luck.

[mrmyk]

I'm the same mate :P. I don't have people round my house because i'm scared my mum will react like that. We met one of my friends at the airport once and my fears were confirmed. I guess just calm down, tell her some information slowly but not too much that they can go "Oh wow, little Wakka's growing up so fast!" or something like that. Unluckily for me, I have a twin sister who acts like my mum as well and they even resort to espionage nowadays :(.

[doomy]

My mum always accuses me of lying when I say that it turned out well...

 

 

 

Diferent, but she pesters me saying "tell me the truth!" or some other thing, then she gets pissed off.

 

 

 

It's kinda a communication issue.

 

 

 

So then I just lie, very useful.

[Stilev]

i never talk to my parents, dont tell them who im going out with, where i go, what i like, nothing, and its worked for me :

 

 

 

when ever they ask, i just tell them "you dont need to know"

[meb]

My parents always start arguing with me for no reason at all, so nowadays I just don't tell them anything. It saves me a lot of trouble, I only get the occasional outbursts (my grades usually being the cause) where everything that is 'wrong' with me is linked with each other and is the cause of the other things. Not telling anything is just another argument they use. The pros outweigh the cons here.

[wakka102]

I have the same problem, so I can't help you there. I like not talking to my parents and being left alone.

 

I don't think that's what wakka means? It sounds like he normally talks to his parents about most stuff, but this he's having trouble with. It doesn't sound like he's like you in the sense that you don't like interacting with your family and prefer being left alone by yourself.

Actually, I do get defensive about most things, I don't talk to my parents hardly at all and I don't like to, I avoid it any chance I get.

 

 

 

The person that mention it being on my terms, I think thats a great idea. I don't see this as a huge deal but my parents try to be all formal about it and that I have to do "this, this, and this" and then she will like me and I'll get a girlfriend or something. Thats not what I'm shooting for at all but for some reason that as soon as I mention a girl I'm doing something with they immediately jump on the relationship wagon. I tell them its not a big deal, they just don't really see it that way and don't really listen.

 

 

 

How can I stop doing this?

 

 

 

Suicide. No matter what, it happens to everyone. Get over it.

Thanks? if you read the comments it's quite apparent that this doesn't happen to everyone...

 

 

 

I'm the same mate :P. I don't have people round my house because i'm scared my mum will react like that. We met one of my friends at the airport once and my fears were confirmed. I guess just calm down, tell her some information slowly but not too much that they can go "Oh wow, little Wakka's growing up so fast!" or something like that. Unluckily for me, I have a twin sister who acts like my mum as well and they even resort to espionage nowadays :(.

It's kinda strange with my parents, they are very VERY hypocritical. A good example is when my dad encouraged me to get some people together this summer and drive to florida, alone, with just these people with me. I thought it was a great idea yet they will not allow me to drive 45 minutes away to another town to meet my homecoming date because they say "its too far", although tis a straight path to get there and I've driven farther distances than that :? . Stuff like that is what gets me confused and fired up. Especially when they tell me when I'm sitting on the computer that I need to get out more and meet people, WTF? lol. It's very discouraging for me to go out when I have to constantly tell what I'm doing, I find it easier to just avoid it by staying home, thats what I've done for years.

[Lenin64]

If my parents ask me these questions, I always answer. They always back off after I tell them the answers, and everyone is happy.

 

That's because you're a girl. Your parents trust you more.

 

 

 

Um, Lionheart is a guy.

 

 

 

Than explain the boobs.

 

 

 

And lady parts.

 

Are boobs no longer lady parts? :shock:

[mixand]

lol i can imagine if i was a dad, i would get in trouble with the wife or something for not telling her that i found him looking at porn or something. :lol: :|

[Catnip1337]

If you don't like talking about it then why say anything to your mom? The way you can stop is bt not saying anything. Problem solved.

[dutchdreams]

I think a lot of people will be able to relate to this. I think it's part of growing up, taking responsibilities and trying to find your own way without falling back on your parents every time you make a decision.

 

 

 

It's a way of maturing, being/trying to be independant and preparing for that day you move out of the house. It's a transition phase, that needs adjusting from both sides.

 

 

 

Don't forget though: they really are good for advice. Chances are, the same obstacles you will be presented later on in life, they have been faced with themselves (relationships/money/education/work/KIDS!....etc).

 

Parents need to learn not to give unwanted advice and realise their kid will ask for it when needed.

 

 

 

I hope that made some sense, it's kind of early here ;)

[samurai_lassie]

My parents are kind of understanding,

 

I say to my mother me: " i have a head ache stop doing what ever the hell your doing please.." * no response follows * -repeated 3 times- me:"shut up!" mum: " do not say shut up to me" me: "i had asked nicely 4 times before i said shutup" mum: "you said it again! your freaking not getting anything for a long time" .

[Iamdan]

If you call "not talking to either parent for the last 15 months" a communication issue, then yeah.

 

 

 

Dam. What does 5 years mean?

[hyjack01]

I think a lot of people will be able to relate to this. I think it's part of growing up, taking responsibilities and trying to find your own way without falling back on your parents every time you make a decision.

 

 

 

It's a way of maturing, being/trying to be independant and preparing for that day you move out of the house. It's a transition phase, that needs adjusting from both sides.

 

 

 

Don't forget though: they really are good for advice. Chances are, the same obstacles you will be presented later on in life, they have been faced with themselves (relationships/money/education/work/KIDS!....etc).

 

Parents need to learn not to give unwanted advice and realise their kid will ask for it when needed.

 

 

 

I hope that made some sense, it's kind of early here ;)

 

 

 

Very well said.. probably from someone who already has passed this phase himself a while ago... :roll:

 

Perhaps one more thing to add: A mutual understanding between you and your parents is vital.. Therefore they shouldnt forget how they behave themselves when they had your age. And you could try to imagine how it would be as a parent, being protective about your offspring :wink:

[JeremyM]

I would tell them the details of the homecoming and stuff, but I dont think you need to show your 'rents a picture of the girl.