just wanted to say that i went to party tnight got drunk and got to know a lot of people from my school that i didnt know that much of before (pretty hot chicks lol). just happy of what happened tonight sorry for the lame post.

just wanted to say that i went to party tnight got drunk and got to know a lot of people from my school that i didnt know that much of before (pretty hot chicks lol). just happy of what happened tonight sorry for the lame post.

 

 

 

Good stuff. Alcohol and pretty girls.. Great way to spend a night.

 

 

 

 

 

Small update with my [cabbage]:

 

 

 

Asked her out tonight. She didn't give me an answer but I found out she just got out of a [cabbage]ty relationship and whatnot (this is what happens when you don't talk for a year, you know nothing about what has happened :wall: ). She told me some stuff that made me very happy (though I'll keep it to myself) and I told her to sleep on it and let me know in the morning. Generally I would want an answer while we're having the conversation but I'm not looking to mess this one up again. I can be patient ;)

 

 

 

Edit: Talked to her today and we're back together. :D

great news deloriagod! congrats

Sweet Deloria! That's great!

 

 

 

And promise me you'll stay outta trouble (you don't have to follow that, but it would be nice if you did). ;)

Just because I feel like being overpedantic, I'm gonna go ahead and point out that the word 'girlfriend' in the title is spelt wrong.

 

 

 

wow after 28 pages I didnt notice that! :lol:

 

 

 

Lol, I didn't notice that either! :ohnoes:

 

 

 

@ Deloria: Great news! =D>

Thanks guys :D

 

 

 

 

And promise me you'll stay outta trouble (you don't have to follow that, but it would be nice if you did). ;)

 

 

 

If you mean sex, don't worry about that. I'm gonna let her tell me when she's ready. If you mean the other stuff I do, she's into that stuff too

I'm a mess.

 

 

 

Before I begin my issue, I'd like to apologize for being so neglectful to this thread and this forum in general for the past 6 months or so. after the site crash, i just never returned. Well...here is my first post in a very long time....

 

 

 

My issue is by no means simple. I'll try to simplify it as much as possible, but it won't be easy. My girlfriend has a very complicated and distrought homelife. Long story short on that end is that she lives over 10 hours away from all her family except her mom whom she lives with now. The only reason her mom chose to house her in this particular area was because that the grandmom lived not too far away. The grandmom is now highly ill in a hospitol and it's pretty much a miracle that she's even still alive this second. Her life kind of depends on the location of my girlfriend to a certian point though. If the grandmom dies, the mom is going to want to move away and take my girlfriend with her. There enlies the issue. The mom told my girlfriend that she would stay in my town as long as our relationship held strong. Good news for me, but me and her both kind of feel bad for being such a burden on the mom. We've been going out for the equivlelent of a year now (almost exactly) and i just don't know what to do. Long distance relationships are rather out of the question. But I refuse to end such an amazing relationship over anything. When I promised that, I didn't exactly expect anything as heavy as this...but I still stand by that promise.

 

 

 

Now then...

 

What the hell can I do? :(

guys im having some problems getting her to put out help plzz

guys im having some problems getting her to put out help plzz

 

 

 

Fail

I'm a mess.

 

 

 

Before I begin my issue, I'd like to apologize for being so neglectful to this thread and this forum in general for the past 6 months or so. after the site crash, i just never returned. Well...here is my first post in a very long time....

 

 

 

My issue is by no means simple. I'll try to simplify it as much as possible, but it won't be easy. My girlfriend has a very complicated and distrought homelife. Long story short on that end is that she lives over 10 hours away from all her family except her mom whom she lives with now. The only reason her mom chose to house her in this particular area was because that the grandmom lived not too far away. The grandmom is now highly ill in a hospitol and it's pretty much a miracle that she's even still alive this second. Her life kind of depends on the location of my girlfriend to a certian point though. If the grandmom dies, the mom is going to want to move away and take my girlfriend with her. There enlies the issue. The mom told my girlfriend that she would stay in my town as long as our relationship held strong. Good news for me, but me and her both kind of feel bad for being such a burden on the mom. We've been going out for the equivlelent of a year now (almost exactly) and i just don't know what to do. Long distance relationships are rather out of the question. But I refuse to end such an amazing relationship over anything. When I promised that, I didn't exactly expect anything as heavy as this...but I still stand by that promise.

 

 

 

Now then...

 

What the hell can I do? :(

 

That's fine. I don't think I've even been on this thread in two months. Ah well... :-w

 

 

 

In truth there really isn't a lot you can do. I mean, if you're both adults and you can provide for yourself I suppose the two of you could get a flat or something and move in with each other. Another alternative is to ask your own parents if she can stay round if her mum does move away.

 

 

 

What you have to realise though is, chances are, the two of you will be separated at some point. You'll both go to college or something, and you'll be miles apart from each other. It's nice to live the teenage dream relationship now and believe it's gonna last forever, but the vast majority of teenage relationships DON'T last forever. Enjoy now, instead of worrying about the inescapable future.

 

 

 

You are right to be worried. Long-distance relationships almost never work because of the lack of a physical connection between the people involved. Without that connection, the emotional attachment also seems to fade away and soon enough to you start filling your free time by talking to other girls and one or the both of you realise it's time to move on.

 

 

 

You have her mother's promise though. I doubt her grandmother is the only thing keeping her mum in town, trust me. She must see some potential in living there - maybe a job or a career or just a general way of life. And I doubt she'll want to move just like that.

 

 

 

That's really all I have to say. Be honest with yourself. Cutting your own instincts down simply to save a relationship is a loving thing to do, but it's not usually the right thing to do.

I'm a mess.

 

 

 

Before I begin my issue, I'd like to apologize for being so neglectful to this thread and this forum in general for the past 6 months or so. after the site crash, i just never returned. Well...here is my first post in a very long time....

 

 

 

My issue is by no means simple. I'll try to simplify it as much as possible, but it won't be easy. My girlfriend has a very complicated and distrought homelife. Long story short on that end is that she lives over 10 hours away from all her family except her mom whom she lives with now. The only reason her mom chose to house her in this particular area was because that the grandmom lived not too far away. The grandmom is now highly ill in a hospitol and it's pretty much a miracle that she's even still alive this second. Her life kind of depends on the location of my girlfriend to a certian point though. If the grandmom dies, the mom is going to want to move away and take my girlfriend with her. There enlies the issue. The mom told my girlfriend that she would stay in my town as long as our relationship held strong. Good news for me, but me and her both kind of feel bad for being such a burden on the mom. We've been going out for the equivlelent of a year now (almost exactly) and i just don't know what to do. Long distance relationships are rather out of the question. But I refuse to end such an amazing relationship over anything. When I promised that, I didn't exactly expect anything as heavy as this...but I still stand by that promise.

 

 

 

Now then...

 

What the hell can I do? :(

 

That's fine. I don't think I've even been on this thread in two months. Ah well... :-w

 

 

 

In truth there really isn't a lot you can do. I mean, if you're both adults and you can provide for yourself I suppose the two of you could get a flat or something and move in with each other. Another alternative is to ask your own parents if she can stay round if her mum does move away.

 

 

 

What you have to realise though is, chances are, the two of you will be separated at some point. You'll both go to college or something, and you'll be miles apart from each other. It's nice to live the teenage dream relationship now and believe it's gonna last forever, but the vast majority of teenage relationships DON'T last forever. Enjoy now, instead of worrying about the inescapable future.

 

 

 

You are right to be worried. Long-distance relationships almost never work because of the lack of a physical connection between the people involved. Without that connection, the emotional attachment also seems to fade away and soon enough to you start filling your free time by talking to other girls and one or the both of you realise it's time to move on.

 

 

 

You have her mother's promise though. I doubt her grandmother is the only thing keeping her mum in town, trust me. She must see some potential in living there - maybe a job or a career or just a general way of life. And I doubt she'll want to move just like that.

 

 

 

That's really all I have to say. Be honest with yourself. Cutting your own instincts down simply to save a relationship is a loving thing to do, but it's not usually the right thing to do.

 

 

 

Glad to see I got advice from a true veteran of this thread. That's about the only good news though -.- . A few hours after my original pot, her grandmom died. Right infront of my girlfriend. Must have been a bit traumatizing. But anyway, as things seem to be working out, her mom is holding off on moving until graduation. Then they'll move back to their old home town and she'll go to college there. It sucks, but so does life. But you're right, instead of focusing on the bleak future, I should pay attention to the amazing things that are happening in the present. Can't say I love how this is all going down, but atleast its not worst case scenario.

This September, I am returning to school. And there is someone who I like right now, and would like to ask out. I've known her for a year, and I'm not totally sure her opinion of me is a very nice one... But I do like her - I think I have for a long time.

 

 

 

I began to like her about 4 months before the school year ended. We had all our classes together, and, during gym, I think I scared her. I did nothing, as I felt she did not like me, and did not want to be rejected.

 

 

 

Now, I think I'm a little braver, and more able to do things with a girlfriend now, (mind you, we still have no public transport) and I think being her girlfriend would be a great thing. I mean, she's not super popular - she's kinda shy, nice, and very cute :)

 

I dream about her a lot. She is in band with me, and quite possibly will be in our school musical this year, as I would.

 

 

 

I'm asking if asking her out is the right thing to do, or if she will just be hurt. I feel so hopeless, sometimes, just thinking about her. And is asking someone out at the start of the school year an ok thing to do, If I want it to last?

 

 

 

It really does feel good just to write about it :

Bowser, I hate to be blunt but if you think her opinion on you isn't a good one I don't think it'll go anywhere.

i have a tricky situation.

 

 

 

Theres a girl who i would ask out as we like each other well enough to go out etc, however, one of my best friends fancies her, but he clearly wont have the guts to ask her out or anything, and the girl doesnt like him anymore then just a friend.

 

So, if i do decide to go out with this person, my best friend (and some other friends who will sympathize with him) will think i'm a huge jerk and i would lose thier friendships. So, my own thoughts was to forget it, and just stay friends with everyone. But is there a way this could work?

i have a tricky situation.

 

 

 

Theres a girl who i would ask out as we like each other well enough to go out etc, however, one of my best friends fancies her, but he clearly wont have the guts to ask her out or anything, and the girl doesnt like him anymore then just a friend.

 

So, if i do decide to go out with this person, my best friend (and some other friends who will sympathize with him) will think i'm a huge jerk and i would lose thier friendships. So, my own thoughts was to forget it, and just stay friends with everyone. But is there a way this could work?

 

 

 

Does your friend know that you like the girl as well?

This September, I am returning to school. And there is someone who I like right now, and would like to ask out. I've known her for a year, and I'm not totally sure her opinion of me is a very nice one... But I do like her - I think I have for a long time.

 

 

 

Not sure if this helps or not (or if it's even true)

 

Apparently if you like a person:

 

You will move your feet toward them(a small bit),

 

You will listen to them more then normal,

 

You will pick a bit of dirt off there clothes(if there is any),

 

You will show them your vulnerable areas(by that I mean your neck and you wrist)

 

You will stand with your arms in your pockets (or some way that there not folded(it's ment to show Your listening and open or something like that))

 

 

 

Again I'm not sure if any of them are true, it's just something I heard.

This September, I am returning to school. And there is someone who I like right now, and would like to ask out. I've known her for a year, and I'm not totally sure her opinion of me is a very nice one... But I do like her - I think I have for a long time.

 

 

 

Not sure if this helps or not (or if it's even true)

 

Apparently if you like a person:

 

You will move your feet toward them(a small bit),

 

You will listen to them more then normal,

 

You will pick a bit of dirt off there clothes(if there is any),

 

You will show them your vulnerable areas(by that I mean your neck and you wrist)

 

You will stand with your arms in your pockets (or some way that there not folded(it's ment to show Your listening and open or something like that))

 

 

 

Again I'm not sure if any of them are true, it's just something I heard.

 

 

 

Things like this will happen unconciously. If you think about it, you will force yourself to do it. But you don't want to worry so much about trying to give off signs as much as reading the signs the other person is giving off.

i have a tricky situation.

 

 

 

Theres a girl who i would ask out as we like each other well enough to go out etc, however, one of my best friends fancies her, but he clearly wont have the guts to ask her out or anything, and the girl doesnt like him anymore then just a friend.

 

So, if i do decide to go out with this person, my best friend (and some other friends who will sympathize with him) will think i'm a huge jerk and i would lose thier friendships. So, my own thoughts was to forget it, and just stay friends with everyone. But is there a way this could work?

 

 

 

Does your friend know that you like the girl as well?

 

 

 

Nope.

This September, I am returning to school. And there is someone who I like right now, and would like to ask out. I've known her for a year, and I'm not totally sure her opinion of me is a very nice one... But I do like her - I think I have for a long time.

 

 

 

Not sure if this helps or not (or if it's even true)

 

Apparently if you like a person:

 

You will move your feet toward them(a small bit),

 

You will listen to them more then normal,

 

You will pick a bit of dirt off there clothes(if there is any),

 

You will show them your vulnerable areas(by that I mean your neck and you wrist)

 

You will stand with your arms in your pockets (or some way that there not folded(it's ment to show Your listening and open or something like that))

 

 

 

Again I'm not sure if any of them are true, it's just something I heard.

 

 

 

Things like this will happen unconciously. If you think about it, you will force yourself to do it. But you don't want to worry so much about trying to give off signs as much as reading the signs the other person is giving off.

 

 

 

The only thing i do is look at my watch. I look at my wrist as if i have a watch if i'm not wearing it :XD:

i have a tricky situation.

 

 

 

Theres a girl who i would ask out as we like each other well enough to go out etc, however, one of my best friends fancies her, but he clearly wont have the guts to ask her out or anything, and the girl doesnt like him anymore then just a friend.

 

So, if i do decide to go out with this person, my best friend (and some other friends who will sympathize with him) will think i'm a huge jerk and i would lose thier friendships. So, my own thoughts was to forget it, and just stay friends with everyone. But is there a way this could work?

 

 

 

Tough choice.

 

 

 

For one, you've got your mates to worry about, but then again, what kind of mates are they if they fall out with you over a girl?

 

 

 

However, if she says yes to you, it should become clear that she just likes him as a friend to him, so it shouldn't bother him as much. However, that more or less depends on mental maturity.

 

 

 

I suppose the only way it could maybe work out, is if you discuss it woth your mate. Just drop into a conversation, say something like "So, I was thinking of asking [girl] out.", of course, I probably expect him to mention how he feels about her, and how you probably wouldn't do that if you were a true friend, at which point it'd be better for you to suggest he grows some balls (don't actually say that part) and ask her out. If he does, and she shoots him down, I guess he's got the point, and you should ask her out a week later or something. If he does fall out with you, it shows he cared more about a girl who shot him down, than a mate. At which point, you'd have to wonder what kind of mate he was.

 

 

 

Well, thats about all I could say on this. It could work, then again, it might not. Final desicion (sp?) is up to you, however I'd highly reccomend you getting him to ask her out, just to see the result. At which point, he'd hopefully try forget about her. (And not get all stalkerish.)

i have a tricky situation.

 

 

 

Theres a girl who i would ask out as we like each other well enough to go out etc, however, one of my best friends fancies her, but he clearly wont have the guts to ask her out or anything, and the girl doesnt like him anymore then just a friend.

 

So, if i do decide to go out with this person, my best friend (and some other friends who will sympathize with him) will think i'm a huge jerk and i would lose thier friendships. So, my own thoughts was to forget it, and just stay friends with everyone. But is there a way this could work?

 

 

 

Does your friend know that you like the girl as well?

 

 

 

Nope.

 

 

 

Give him a chance to ask her out, but don't do ask her out without telling him first. Look at it from his point of view, he's been liking this girl and you come over and steal her from him. I'd be pretty pissed.

 

 

 

You have to consider the fact that she might say yes to him or no to both of you. In the end, don't let a silly woman mess up a friendship. Bros before [garden tools]! :P

The only thing i do is look at my watch. I look at my wrist as if i have a watch if i'm not wearing it :XD:

 

 

 

I'll bet you do many things you don't even realize. Very subtle things like your pupils will dialate when you get excited ;)

Omfg. I hate kyle and kylie now. Basically things have been going good since my last update. But this morning when I woke up kylie told me that the hurricane that went through florida caused a tree to fall over on kyle's house and killed him. Last night. Being one to trust friends, I believed her and it crushed me. He's my best friend ever and now he's gone. But later I found out from kyle's friend alex that kyle told her to do it and that it was a joke. Why? I don't know, I blocked them both and called them very bad names. And honestly I don't care either. If they're so shallow as to joke about getting knocked up AND joke about [bleep]ing death then imo they don't deserve to be my friend. God i'm so pissed right now there's no way to describe it. I just hope i never have to see them again.

 

EDIT: btw this is blacksurge, I kinda forgot the pass and recovering it didn't work...so I made another tif account, that has my rsn instead. I'm also kinda glad because I wanted to get the username changed anyways. For personal reasons

Omfg. I hate kyle and kylie now. Basically things have been going good since my last update. But this morning when I woke up kylie told me that the hurricane that went through florida caused a tree to fall over on kyle's house and killed him. Last night. Being one to trust friends, I believed her and it crushed me. He's my best friend ever and now he's gone. But later I found out from kyle's friend alex that kyle told her to do it and that it was a joke. Why? I don't know, I blocked them both and called them very bad names. And honestly I don't care either. If they're so shallow as to joke about getting knocked up AND joke about [bleep] death then imo they don't deserve to be my friend. God i'm so pissed right now there's no way to describe it. I just hope i never have to see them again.

 

EDIT: btw this is blacksurge, I kinda forgot the pass and recovering it didn't work...so I made another tif account, that has my rsn instead. I'm also kinda glad because I wanted to get the username changed anyways. For personal reasons

 

 

 

They're just playing a joke, lighten up.

Omfg. I hate kyle and kylie now. Basically things have been going good since my last update. But this morning when I woke up kylie told me that the hurricane that went through florida caused a tree to fall over on kyle's house and killed him. Last night. Being one to trust friends, I believed her and it crushed me. He's my best friend ever and now he's gone. But later I found out from kyle's friend alex that kyle told her to do it and that it was a joke. Why? I don't know, I blocked them both and called them very bad names. And honestly I don't care either. If they're so shallow as to joke about getting knocked up AND joke about [bleep] death then imo they don't deserve to be my friend. God i'm so pissed right now there's no way to describe it. I just hope i never have to see them again.

 

EDIT: btw this is blacksurge, I kinda forgot the pass and recovering it didn't work...so I made another tif account, that has my rsn instead. I'm also kinda glad because I wanted to get the username changed anyways. For personal reasons

 

Give it 12 hours and see if you still feel the same way. If you do, tell them constructively why you felt so much. Knowing you took his death so seriously might actually flatter them, but you blowing up like that just makes you look oversensitive (perhaps with good reason, but still... as kensh said, it was only a joke).