Yeah..thinking over it I did overreact...I feel so immature now >.<;

Yeah..thinking over it I did overreact...I feel so immature now >.<;

 

 

 

Just apologize for overreacting but tell him that you were really hurt for doing something so extreme.

Yeah..thinking over it I did overreact...I feel so immature now >.<;

 

We all react to something like that.

 

 

 

Just explain to them why you got so worked up, and you're sorry for reacting the way you did.

Just apologize for overreacting but tell him that you were really hurt for doing something so extreme.

 

 

 

We all react to something like that.

 

 

 

Just explain to them why you got so worked up, and you're sorry for reacting the way you did.

 

 

 

Yeah, that's what I did. They said they didn't know why they did it, they did it just because. And i'm still mad at them, but all the cussing really wasn't needed :\

For one, you've got your mates to worry about, but then again, what kind of mates are they if they fall out with you over a girl?

 

 

 

However, if she says yes to you, it should become clear that she just likes him as a friend to him, so it shouldn't bother him as much. However, that more or less depends on mental maturity.

 

 

 

I would like to point out, these are pubescent, horny, immature, mood shifty, stereotype teenagers.

 

 

 

But good suggestion, i will do exactly that :thumbsup:

Not sure if this helps or not (or if it's even true)

 

Apparently if you like a person:

 

You will move your feet toward them(a small bit),

 

You will listen to them more then normal,

 

You will pick a bit of dirt off there clothes(if there is any),

 

You will show them your vulnerable areas(by that I mean your neck and you wrist)

 

You will stand with your arms in your pockets (or some way that there not folded(it's ment to show Your listening and open or something like that))

 

 

 

Again I'm not sure if any of them are true, it's just something I heard.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All of the above lol

For one, you've got your mates to worry about, but then again, what kind of mates are they if they fall out with you over a girl?

 

 

 

However, if she says yes to you, it should become clear that she just likes him as a friend to him, so it shouldn't bother him as much. However, that more or less depends on mental maturity.

 

 

 

I would like to point out, these are pubescent, horny, immature, mood shifty, stereotype teenagers.

 

 

 

But good suggestion, i will do exactly that :thumbsup:

 

 

 

Well, following the typical stereotype...

 

 

 

He's only going to really like her for her looks, probably.

 

 

 

He'll get somewhat depressed if she shoots him down. You'll end up asking her out, he plays on the immature part and gets pissed off at you.

 

 

 

He tries to get you to dump her by acting brattish. When not, he'll throw a fit.

 

 

 

Well, alot of guessing there. But probably right. Anyway his attraction to her, following what you said, probably is only on looks, and will not last long. However, if it is judged on both personality, and to some extent, looks, well then he's more mature than you thought. (And is mature if nothing or very little of what I said comes true.)

There never came a relationship out of it, we alienated, she treated me bad, every time I see her she wears these... Outfits that can make me go *[bleep]*.

 

 

 

Is it normal that after a couple of months now that we barely spoke and haven't even seen each other that I still think about her and that it still makes me kind of... Depressed? Jeez, I've been flipping behind this girl for over three years now, yet nothing ever came out of it and I just can't realize that there never will be something. I just want to stop thinking about her at all but there are moments when thoughts of her just slip into my mind. At night, when in bore...

 

 

 

What I am doing lately is just drinking a bit, enjoying life, partying, a diffirent girl at every party that I seem to kiss (According to people, somehow I start drinking to forget about the girl, then kiss a random girl and enjoy the night then the next morning I don't remember anything at all, not an healthy habit hm?) but it all seems so wrong. After every night I feel guilty towards the girl(s) that I have kissed just because, I don't know, it feels like that I've used them? We both know that it's just for one night and to have fun but it just feels so wrong.

 

 

 

I wish I would fall "in love" a bit faster. I hate sticking with these feelings and binging out and kissing random girls that I got to know that night. A girlfriend would probably draw me some borders, tell me what to do and to behave... But then again do I really want one? Do I want to give up that freedom and heck what am I talking about!? I don't even have any feelings for any girls at the moment.

 

 

 

"It will come" is what people tell me, I don't know, perhaps it will someday. But that one little girl will always haunt me. She was the first person actually where I really felt that I could spend the rest of my life with her. Don't get me wrong I've seen other girls whom were very beautiful but the fact that I'm so emotionally attached to her and that I've grown to like her look a lot. I just can't seem to find other girls really attractive. No, this isn't one-itis I'm totally over that. It's just... Thoughts that keep coming back, I can't help it.

 

 

 

I don't know why I typed this all down, I just wanted to share my story. Don't really need help or something just wanted to see if others had the same experiences with it ;) .

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[bleep] me and [bleep] life. My gf just became my ex, again. I haven't cried in forever, nor have I resorted to old self destructive methods of easing my pain in such a long time. Tonight the tears and blood flow freely :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

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Stil [bleep] me and [bleep] life. This is the worst night ever. Drowning out feelings for the firl I loved with everythin I can and I stell can't stop thnikin about her. No a mount of alcohol, cigs, sleepi pills, cuts on my legs and whatever els eI've done and stop the torture :cry: And to top that [cabbage] off I can't fucing get to sleep which is proly why I'm on here. Now I ge tto go see her tomorow and probly pretnd like this never [bleep]i happeneed. Dammit this sucks. Now I [bleep]in know what it felt like when I dumped her,. BUt I was kinda a [bleep] which I realised earlier. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

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Don't drink on school nights, kids. Hang overs and classes are no fun together. I'm an idiot and I know it.

Alright. Well I recently got over my crush (or so I thought) and started enjoying life and was not worried about what she did and who she was dating and stuff, even though he is an incredible douchebag.

 

 

 

Well I realized I was not completely over her when she seemed pretty down, and then i realized she had broken up with her boyfriend.

 

 

 

I want to help her, but only if she's willing to accept it and listen. Other than that, I do not know what to do, because honestly I am stuck in between all this, a part of me wants to help her and another part doesn't.

 

 

 

Advice would be awesome. Thanks

Sadly,the day has come.I require assistance =(.I'm pretty sure I've fallen into one-itis' trap,I can't seem to get over her,but she claims she doesn't want another boyfriend,and she apparently doesn't like those the same age as her (like I am).

 

 

 

So I either need help getting over her,or help trying to overcome those difficulties.All my problems involve a choice -.-

Well i have been in the " friend zone" with this girl for about 6 months now. I am one of her closest guy friends and i really started liking her for more then just a friend... So my question is how should i get out of the " friend zone" ?

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[bleep] me and [bleep] life. My gf just became my ex, again. I haven't cried in forever, nor have I resorted to old self destructive methods of easing my pain in such a long time. Tonight the tears and blood flow freely :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

Antoher edit:

 

 

 

Stil [bleep] me and [bleep] life. This is the worst night ever. Drowning out feelings for the firl I loved with everythin I can and I stell can't stop thnikin about her. No a mount of alcohol, cigs, sleepi pills, cuts on my legs and whatever els eI've done and stop the torture :cry: And to top that [cabbage] off I can't fucing get to sleep which is proly why I'm on here. Now I ge tto go see her tomorow and probly pretnd like this never [bleep] happeneed. Dammit this sucks. Now I [bleep] know what it felt like when I dumped her,. BUt I was kinda a [bleep] which I realised earlier. :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

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Don't drink on school nights, kids. Hang overs and classes are no fun together. I'm an idiot and I know it.

 

Deloria, I know how you're feeling. When you're in love, you feel as though the object of your affection is the definition of perfection. You start accepting all their flaws. You crave their attention, and overall look up to them. When they do something that hurts you, you're at a loss on what to do but feel [cabbage]ty. It's unfortunate, but just re-examine yourself and think about all the things that this girl has done to you. Is it worth it? Are you willing to go through all this pain because this person is really that good of a person to be with in the end? Let go. Be the better man and just make this person realize what she has been missing all along. It will hurt, but remember if you know you're right then letting go will be the best viable option to go right now. Remember that you're not the one losing, this person is not good enough to be with you. ;)

 

 

 

Alright. Well I recently got over my crush (or so I thought) and started enjoying life and was not worried about what she did and who she was dating and stuff, even though he is an incredible douchebag.

 

 

 

Well I realized I was not completely over her when she seemed pretty down, and then i realized she had broken up with her boyfriend.

 

 

 

I want to help her, but only if she's willing to accept it and listen. Other than that, I do not know what to do, because honestly I am stuck in between all this, a part of me wants to help her and another part doesn't.

 

 

 

Advice would be awesome. Thanks

 

Take it one step at a time. You'll need to recover from what happened last time. Don't seem to desperate, but be there whenever she really needs you. Show her that you can be an influential part of her life, while not being to clingy. First of all, lose the thought that you can be depressed over this person. Rather, be happy whenever she talks to you but always have someone else to talk to so in an event in which she does forget about you, you won't feel all bummed out. Remember that she's the one who needs the help and helping her should be a favour to HER, not something that should make you happy. I learned this the hard way. Don't stay too clingy and have other things on the side while you slowly get back on her better side. I'll be waiting for an update.

 

 

 

Sadly,the day has come.I require assistance =(.I'm pretty sure I've fallen into one-itis' trap,I can't seem to get over her,but she claims she doesn't want another boyfriend,and she apparently doesn't like those the same age as her (like I am).

 

 

 

So I either need help getting over her,or help trying to overcome those difficulties.All my problems involve a choice -.-

 

When people say that they don't want someone your age, it's because they've had an emotional scarring from previous experiences. Age is nothing but a number, and you should first try to prove to her that you can be what she desires. No matter what, you can't force someone to like you. However, you can make them fall in love with you. Ask yourself the question before diving into this dilemma first though: Is this person worth going through all the trouble? Answer that first, and I can then provide further assistance. :)

 

 

 

Well i have been in the " friend zone" with this girl for about 6 months now. I am one of her closest guy friends and i really started liking her for more then just a friend... So my question is how should i get out of the " friend zone" ?

 

Keep it cool. Odds are, if you've been in the "friend zone" for about 6 months it's not enough time yet. You should take things slow, and continue on the path you're on: it's the right one. Don't let it all out one night as that might ruin things for you. Show her that you can be boyfriend quality, but show her you can have the quality of a friend (e.g.: listening to problems, being there when he/she needs it). Keep it cool and slowly make the transition, always using the excuse "I'm just being a good friend". In time, either one of you will divulge feelings for one another at some point - it will naturally happen if both of you have feelings for one another. In short, don't rush things and take things one step at a time.

thanks infamous =D

Well i have been in the " friend zone" with this girl for about 6 months now. I am one of her closest guy friends and i really started liking her for more then just a friend... So my question is how should i get out of the " friend zone" ?

 

 

 

go for it at the right moment. Always keep a smile on your face. And make sure she is ALWAYS happy. Just tell her how you feel. Odds are ,if she is truley your friend, she will show her feelings for you or she will just say that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. Just tell her how you feel and it'll all be good.

 

 

 

:twss:

Its sad to say Infamous,but I do believe I've fallen into the trap of one-itis.Yes,she's worth it.

Deloria, in one year I'm willing to bet if you looked back at that post you'd realize how silly you were. I don't mean to come off as rude, but don't make a molehill out of an anthill. Breakups happen all the time - but at least we have the ability to learn from our mistakes and will have a greater chance of success in future relationships. Consider it as a practice run - you're just warming up and getting experience for when you find your true love out there someday. And yes, you will find someone else. If you were able to find this girl and go out with her, imagine what you can accomplish with extra experience added to the equation!

 

 

 

Right now what you need to learn to do is realize that there are plenty of other chicks around and you should also learn to control your emotions - hurting yourself really only makes matters worse. And you said it yourself, you can't drown out your feelings, you must confront them. Be strong, for your own sake. And while I know it's fun to drink once in a while, drinking at times of deep depression is really never a good idea - you might do extreme things. Just take it one day at a time, and try to keep your mind off of her.

 

 

 

You have your whole future ahead of you and it's not worth ruining over something like this!

 

 

 

Like Infamous said, is it worth it? How was your life before you ever met this girl? I'm 100% sure that you had plenty of great times in your life before you even heard of this girl. So cheer up mate and remember, if you survived without her before, you can survive without her again. Plus, don't forget all that experience you got out of it so you'll do better with your future relationships.

 

 

 

You know what a good way to beat depression is? Write down 10 things you are grateful for at this very moment - they can be anything (your eyesight, your legs, your family, easy access to food and water, friends, shelter). Anyways, make your list and then imagine how you'd feel if all of those were taken away from you. It kinda makes you feel lucky, because there really are people out there without things on that list that we unconsciously take for granted everyday. And remember, you always got pals on TIF who will look after you. :D

 

 

 

To sum it up: Be optimistic! We both know you can and it is well worth it! :thumbsup:

Thanks guys. I've cheered up a bit. I mean, I still feel terrible but I'm getting through the days without too much trouble. I still talk to her a lot and it feels like we're actors standing center stage. Both of us pretending everything is fine while I'm miserable and I can tell she's not totally happy (I've known her long enough to see right through her disguise). She means a lot to me and I was hoping more would come of us getting back together. At the same time I learned a lesson in this, and that lesson is never to break someone's heart and expect to be forgiven.

 

 

 

@Zierro: Eh, I would like to move on to another relationship as soon as I find out there's no chance of us getting together again, but I don't like dating based just on looks. Sure, looks are awesome, but personality plays a big role in the girls I like. Unfortunately, my school is full of hot girls with terrible personalities.

 

 

 

My life before this girl.. Was miserable and boring. I basically spent my days getting high until I got busted. Then I spent my days sitting around doing nothing. This girl made me get out of the house and have fun, even when we were doing nothing. She let me show my true self and helped me enjoy every minute of the day. And she made me feel things I didn't feel in my other relationships (which were mainly based on sex). She was special to me, and she still is. She wanted me to go talk to her at work tonight (slow night = nothing to do) but I don't think I could have handled it yet.

 

 

 

I might try that writing down 10 things. I've been through depression before though I've never been medically treated for it. Last time it hit me hard, I just rode it out for a few months until things seemed to brighten up a bit.

 

 

 

Through this, I've also broken a big promise I made to myself. I told myself I was going to smoke no more than 2 cigarettes a day, and I wouldn't smoke at all if I didn't feel I needed it. Well, the pack I got 3 days ago is just about gone. I'm getting back on it though, only had 1 today and I'll only have 1 more tonight.

Thanks guys. I've cheered up a bit. I mean, I still feel terrible but I'm getting through the days without too much trouble. I still talk to her a lot and it feels like we're actors standing center stage. Both of us pretending everything is fine while I'm miserable and I can tell she's not totally happy (I've known her long enough to see right through her disguise). She means a lot to me and I was hoping more would come of us getting back together. At the same time I learned a lesson in this, and that lesson is never to break someone's heart and expect to be forgiven.

 

 

 

@Zierro: Eh, I would like to move on to another relationship as soon as I find out there's no chance of us getting together again, but I don't like dating based just on looks. Sure, looks are awesome, but personality plays a big role in the girls I like. Unfortunately, my school is full of hot girls with terrible personalities.

 

 

 

My life before this girl.. Was miserable and boring. I basically spent my days getting high until I got busted. Then I spent my days sitting around doing nothing. This girl made me get out of the house and have fun, even when we were doing nothing. She let me show my true self and helped me enjoy every minute of the day. And she made me feel things I didn't feel in my other relationships (which were mainly based on sex). She was special to me, and she still is. She wanted me to go talk to her at work tonight (slow night = nothing to do) but I don't think I could have handled it yet.

 

 

 

I might try that writing down 10 things. I've been through depression before though I've never been medically treated for it. Last time it hit me hard, I just rode it out for a few months until things seemed to brighten up a bit.

 

 

 

Through this, I've also broken a big promise I made to myself. I told myself I was going to smoke no more than 2 cigarettes a day, and I wouldn't smoke at all if I didn't feel I needed it. Well, the pack I got 3 days ago is just about gone. I'm getting back on it though, only had 1 today and I'll only have 1 more tonight.

 

You're a damn stronger person than resorting to depression over a woman. I understand what you're feeling, but you're better than that.

 

 

 

I like tough love.

 

You're a damn stronger person than resorting to depression over a woman. I understand what you're feeling, but you're better than that.

 

 

 

I like tough love.

 

 

 

You're damn right. I'm actually feeling a lot better at this point. I still talk to her a lot considering she spends her free period and break (at work) texting me. She also wants me to get a job with her and asked me to go visit her at work the other night (she was bored) which I would have done but I was busy. This crazy voice in my head tells me to just suck it up and hope someday she'll figure out what she wants because I may be what she wants in the future..

A little update:

 

 

 

I'm feeling much much better now. I've been talking to her quite a bit and she's really opened up to me. She's told me she still has feelings for me and it's not hard to tell from the way she talks to me and still flirts with me. For now, I'm just going to have to enjoy being good friends with her but I'm going to keep on hoping she'll give me another shot. Also, I'm skipping school tomorrow and she has 3rd/4th period off so she's going to come hang out with me :)

 

 

 

And today my dad decided to give me some.. Fatherly.. advice. He doesn't like seeing me stressed out over a girl so he basically told me what he thought I wanted to hear which was along the lines of: "Don't get emotionally attatched to them. Just get in, get what you want, and get out before you get hurt." This is not at all what I wanted to hear because I don't have the heart to use a girl for sex. It actually kinda pissed me off when he was saying that so I decided to head back to class early and ended up finding my ex roaming the halls. I guess I can thank my dad for making me want to go back to school this time.

Your dad seems kinda wack. But whatever.

 

 

 

It seems to be going well, Deloria. Just kick back, hang out with her, talk to her, stuff like that. You'll be fine really.

 

 

 

I feel that's all I should say for now.

Its sad to say Infamous,but I do believe I've fallen into the trap of one-itis.Yes,she's worth it.

 

Sorry for the late response mate. Anyways, so you think she's absolutely worth it? Very well :lol:

 

Hehe, I'm only kidding. So this girl. I'm already kind of iffy if she wants to date someone a specific age group, because age is nothing just as number and it's bull [cabbage] if she's looking for a specific age. It's evident why she's looking for a specific age group: a level of maturity, development and status.

 

AGE =/= THESE THINGS

 

A 13 year old could have the qualities of a 21 year old if the individual is mature enough, while a 25 year old be the same way vice versa.

 

I hate to bring Runescape into the this, but it's just like the quote "Noob is an attitude, not a level": it doesn't matter what number value you have, a stereotype of that number cannot be assigned... rather it is dependant on your attitude and maturity which dictates your presented image.

 

To show this girl that you can be what she wants you to be, stay true to yourself but adapt to her needs and desires. Don't just start acting really mature out of the blue, rather try to get closer to her and find out what type of person she likes and work your way around that. For all we know, she could enjoy immature kids :roll: (if it comes to that point, promptly GTFO from this relationship :P) Take it easy and try not to fall into her trap, she probably has experience with alot of men if she's already looking for specific age groups ;)

 

 

 

I'll be looking forward for an update.

 

 

 

A little update:

 

 

 

I'm feeling much much better now. I've been talking to her quite a bit and she's really opened up to me. She's told me she still has feelings for me and it's not hard to tell from the way she talks to me and still flirts with me. For now, I'm just going to have to enjoy being good friends with her but I'm going to keep on hoping she'll give me another shot. Also, I'm skipping school tomorrow and she has 3rd/4th period off so she's going to come hang out with me :)

 

 

 

And today my dad decided to give me some.. Fatherly.. advice. He doesn't like seeing me stressed out over a girl so he basically told me what he thought I wanted to hear which was along the lines of: "Don't get emotionally attatched to them. Just get in, get what you want, and get out before you get hurt." This is not at all what I wanted to hear because I don't have the heart to use a girl for sex. It actually kinda pissed me off when he was saying that so I decided to head back to class early and ended up finding my ex roaming the halls. I guess I can thank my dad for making me want to go back to school this time.

 

Your dad is right. He is not necessarily talking about sex, saying that at this age you musn't be so wound up about girls. Deloria, I hate to break it to you but you're in a vicious cycle. After that huge fiasco, you feel as though you will never ever talk to that love one ever again, and you just want to let go. After a while you start to miss them once again and look for alternatives to accept them in your life (e.g.: taking it easy, taking it slow and just being 'friends'). Little things like hanging out with her makes you happy, and you soon start to become in a competition with that other guy. I'm going to give you a warning. Man the [bleep] up and just let go. Look at how this girl totally obliterated you and made you feel as bad as you are now. Take a look at yourself, you're pathetic at this moment and you're falling into her trap. When she has two guys around her finger like that it only feeds the fire and she likes the attention of being able to manipulate you easily like that. It's going to feel good right now taking it slow and flirting with her, but what will happen when another bombshell drops?

 

 

 

[hide=Read this after you read me cutting you down with tough love]Deloria, I'm sorry if you got hurt with those insults up there but I've been in too many relationships and I know this situation all too well. We all love you and hope you're better, and this girl is the one who's causing trouble. My advice right now is just to see for a little while and when she starts to act funny with the other guy, just [bleep]ing forget about her and move on. I'm sorry I had to put it that way but if she's really a friend she wouldn't do such things to you.

 

DELORIA, I LOVE YOU AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU! :[/hide]

 

Your dad is right. He is not necessarily talking about sex, saying that at this age you musn't be so wound up about girls. Deloria, I hate to break it to you but you're in a vicious cycle. After that huge fiasco, you feel as though you will never ever talk to that love one ever again, and you just want to let go. After a while you start to miss them once again and look for alternatives to accept them in your life (e.g.: taking it easy, taking it slow and just being 'friends'). Little things like hanging out with her makes you happy, and you soon start to become in a competition with that other guy. I'm going to give you a warning. Man the [bleep] up and just let go. Look at how this girl totally obliterated you and made you feel as bad as you are now. Take a look at yourself, you're pathetic at this moment and you're falling into her trap. When she has two guys around her finger like that it only feeds the fire and she likes the attention of being able to manipulate you easily like that. It's going to feel good right now taking it slow and flirting with her, but what will happen when another bombshell drops?

 

 

 

[hide=Read this after you read me cutting you down with tough love]Deloria, I'm sorry if you got hurt with those insults up there but I've been in too many relationships and I know this situation all too well. We all love you and hope you're better, and this girl is the one who's causing trouble. My advice right now is just to see for a little while and when she starts to act funny with the other guy, just [bleep] forget about her and move on. I'm sorry I had to put it that way but if she's really a friend she wouldn't do such things to you.

 

DELORIA, I LOVE YOU AND I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU! :[/hide]

 

 

 

Eh, my dad actually was talking about sex..

 

 

 

I'm not ready to let go yet. I'm not one to just give up when the going gets tough. I'm not worried about the other guy. So maybe she likes him, but I know she won't be able to stand him for too long. She already ditches him all the time, he's abusive to her, and I don't think I've ever seen him when he wasn't drunk or high. Maybe things get really good between us again and she ends up dropping another bomb, maybe I'll be ready and just numb myself to everything around me. Or maybe I'll go overboard again. I love life, but I'm not afraid to die (nor do I want to live to be old). It is a vicious cycle I've gotten myself into and I know it.

 

 

 

[hide=]I love you too :D[/hide]

Deloriagod, you're preparing yourself to get hurt, badly. I don't know how old you are, I'm assuming High School, and if so, it's just not worth it. Hell, we've all been dumped. It hurts like a [bleep], but staying around hurts even more.

 

 

 

To be completely honest, I've been in an insanely similar situation. I dated a girl for 16 months through 7th grade. She dumped me just before the school year started, and it was awful. I still liked her throughout 8th grade, as we were very very good friends. She was dating another guy since right after we broke up, so this made my 8th grade year terrible. This guy was a junior in high school, so she was basicly wrapped around his finger. So I waited on here all through 8th grade, and then I became a freshman in high school. My class of 40 was now a class of 500. More fish in the sea, right? Well, I stuck around this girl, and could not get over her, no matter how hard I tried. Even when her best friend from when we were going out told me she cheated on me for nearly a month when we were dating, I was pissed for maybe a week then got over it. I just couldn't be mad at her, it was tearing me apart. I even tried acting like an [wagon] to her just to separate myself from it, but I couldn't. Finally, eventually, towards the end of the year, I got over her. Oh, and her and the guy are still dating. Lucky me, I had no classes and a different lunch period than her this month. Now I realize that I did not only waste 3 years dating/liking her, but I have also realized what a shallow person she is.

 

 

 

Don't do what I did Deloria, see if she's into it, if not, get your [wagon] out before you waste too much time on her.

 

 

 

Back to me, now a sophomore, I decided wasn't even going to mess with her anymore. So I just decided to have fun with my life, since we started school a few weeks ago. Then, the Thursday before last, I was playing a game of Desert Rat in Chemistry(it's a card game) and this girl who had just switched into our class came up to us and asked us if she could play. We did, everyone exchanged numbers,(me, my friend, and her) and we went on our merry way. She texted me that night, asking generic "get to know you questions", except for the two oddballs, "are you single" and "how long have you been single". These really shocked me, on Friday nothing but a quick glance/smile from each of us was exchanged, then I went home as usual. Then that weekend, I texted her all weekend. I mean, no breaks. At all, except for sleep. We have so much in common, and I really liked her, and she really really liked me. So, even though my judgement says no, I ask her out on Monday, then we start going out. Tuesday was the most awkward day of my life, walking down the halls with my girlfriend who I have know for all of 5 days. We then break up on Wednesday, because she feels really bad about not having time to go on dates etc., because she plays softball for the school. I told her I didn't mind, but we still end up breaking up, 48 hours after going out. Then the most awkward day of my life was renewed to be Thursday, sitting across the table from someone who you like, knowing they like you, and knowing that they also know both of these things, but not even dating them. Friday was the same, except not as bad. We still texted each other through the class we were both in, as saying it would be too hard for both of us.

 

 

 

Tonight I'm just sitting here on TIF, and she sends me some stupid forward, I read it, realize that another forward has wasted my time, just go "meh" to myself. I then decide to text her and say "hey", as I have gotton over it for the most part, then she sends back "hey babe". This took me aback because she hadn't said anything like that throughout the whole week, and I just act like nothing had happened, and go "what's up?" she says "nothing much, you?" and I reply with the unorigonal "nm here either", and think to myself, "yep, it's done", until get a text saying "I miss you." This ate me up, because this girl is either seeing if she can play with my emotions, or she sincerely regrets dumping me. I reply back "Its hard on me too" trying not to sound desparate. Then she goes "I know, maybe we should hang out =)". Me, being the person I am that hates emotional roller coasters, actually stays firm for the first time in my life and texts back "Not trying to be mean, but I can't do his if you can't make up your mind. I also think we started going out way too quickly, we should probably slow down and go on a few dates first." I was shocked that I stated my opinion firmly, and didn't do whatever I could to go back out with the girl.(Yes, I am usually shy, reserved, and almost clingy in RL, so I am shocked by this. Of course she said ok, and I plan to set up a date with her this week.

 

 

 

Now I'm just wondering if I did the right thing here. Of course going back out with her insantly would be stupid, but should I even be persuing this? And yes I do like her, for anyone who is going to ask.

 

 

 

Wow, this turned into a book on my life. But seriously Derloriagod, don't go crazy over one girl. I didn't know if I'd be able to date another girl ever again, but I have. You can too.

 

 

 

PS> Having your first relationship last over a year is not a good idea.