This girl I've sort of liked for about a month just got dumped by her boyfriend of 4 months. I started becoming friends with her in mid-February, but we still aren't really too close of friends. I mean I talk to her every couple days because she's in band and English with me, and I've texted and imed her a couple times, but we haven't hung out yet, so I don't think I'd be friendzoned (besides the last few people she dated were already friends with her beforehand, so I don't think friendzone is that much of an issue with her xD). Um, about how much time should I wait before making some sort of advance? Also, um, I don't really know how I could do so without it being awkward, because most of the techniques in here are for people you don't know, while I actually know this girl (Bekah for future reference). I don't know if I'm forgetting anything, so if you need more information than this let me know, its late here.

 

Oh also, could I put up pictures of how I normally dress and get some advice on how to improve from you guys? I think I do pretty decently, but I could almost definitely use some improvement xD.

 

First off, just wondering here, but how old are you? I want to say Sophomore-Junior, right?

Secondly, did you know her ex very well? Like were you good friends or what?

If anything, try to be a bit more flirty with her than usual or so. I'm not sure how close you are but make her notice you, something I like to do when walking down the halls around some of the girls I know is to grab them and kind of force them into a hug or so. Maybe call her name out. Initiate some form of her noticing you, start small and slowly grow with it till you think she'd want to go out with you. Depending on how she takes something like that is whether or not you know she'll turn you away or not.

 

Give her a little bit of time though, to get over this breakup she just had though.

 

And post pictures if you like, I'm sure Lent or Harr will give you some great advice with that

This girl I've sort of liked for about a month just got dumped by her boyfriend of 4 months. I started becoming friends with her in mid-February, but we still aren't really too close of friends. I mean I talk to her every couple days because she's in band and English with me, and I've texted and imed her a couple times, but we haven't hung out yet, so I don't think I'd be friendzoned (besides the last few people she dated were already friends with her beforehand, so I don't think friendzone is that much of an issue with her xD). Um, about how much time should I wait before making some sort of advance? Also, um, I don't really know how I could do so without it being awkward, because most of the techniques in here are for people you don't know, while I actually know this girl (Bekah for future reference). I don't know if I'm forgetting anything, so if you need more information than this let me know, its late here.

 

Oh also, could I put up pictures of how I normally dress and get some advice on how to improve from you guys? I think I do pretty decently, but I could almost definitely use some improvement xD.

 

SDB

 

The 'techniques' are for everyone :/

 

Hit the attraction switches, push/pull, and then ask her out via one of the many ways posted. There is a fail proof one in my blog.

there are some technique to make a girlfriend

try to make her feel that you are taking interest in her and also talk him in general and try to find out her likes and dis likes and make feel her that our felling are same

and at any proper time explain her about your heart.

This girl I've sort of liked for about a month just got dumped by her boyfriend of 4 months. I started becoming friends with her in mid-February, but we still aren't really too close of friends. I mean I talk to her every couple days because she's in band and English with me, and I've texted and imed her a couple times, but we haven't hung out yet, so I don't think I'd be friendzoned (besides the last few people she dated were already friends with her beforehand, so I don't think friendzone is that much of an issue with her xD). Um, about how much time should I wait before making some sort of advance? Also, um, I don't really know how I could do so without it being awkward, because most of the techniques in here are for people you don't know, while I actually know this girl (Bekah for future reference). I don't know if I'm forgetting anything, so if you need more information than this let me know, its late here.

 

Oh also, could I put up pictures of how I normally dress and get some advice on how to improve from you guys? I think I do pretty decently, but I could almost definitely use some improvement xD.

 

SDB

 

The 'techniques' are for everyone :/

 

Hit the attraction switches, push/pull, and then ask her out via one of the many ways posted. There is a fail proof one in my blog.

 

Link me to your blog.

This girl I've sort of liked for about a month just got dumped by her boyfriend of 4 months. I started becoming friends with her in mid-February, but we still aren't really too close of friends. I mean I talk to her every couple days because she's in band and English with me, and I've texted and imed her a couple times, but we haven't hung out yet, so I don't think I'd be friendzoned (besides the last few people she dated were already friends with her beforehand, so I don't think friendzone is that much of an issue with her xD). Um, about how much time should I wait before making some sort of advance? Also, um, I don't really know how I could do so without it being awkward, because most of the techniques in here are for people you don't know, while I actually know this girl (Bekah for future reference). I don't know if I'm forgetting anything, so if you need more information than this let me know, its late here.

 

Oh also, could I put up pictures of how I normally dress and get some advice on how to improve from you guys? I think I do pretty decently, but I could almost definitely use some improvement xD.

 

SDB

 

The 'techniques' are for everyone :/

 

Hit the attraction switches, push/pull, and then ask her out via one of the many ways posted. There is a fail proof one in my blog.

 

Link me to your blog.

Go to his account, click on blog. It's not off-site or anything.

Ok, for anyone that didn't know...

 

Or you could do that.

 

EDIT: Clicked on it and it took me to a list of everyone's blogs.

Well, then try clicking Dan's username, click the tab that says "blog," then click the button that says "visit this blog."

added a link to my sig

This girl I've sort of liked for about a month just got dumped by her boyfriend of 4 months. I started becoming friends with her in mid-February, but we still aren't really too close of friends. I mean I talk to her every couple days because she's in band and English with me, and I've texted and imed her a couple times, but we haven't hung out yet, so I don't think I'd be friendzoned (besides the last few people she dated were already friends with her beforehand, so I don't think friendzone is that much of an issue with her xD). Um, about how much time should I wait before making some sort of advance? Also, um, I don't really know how I could do so without it being awkward, because most of the techniques in here are for people you don't know, while I actually know this girl (Bekah for future reference). I don't know if I'm forgetting anything, so if you need more information than this let me know, its late here.

 

Oh also, could I put up pictures of how I normally dress and get some advice on how to improve from you guys? I think I do pretty decently, but I could almost definitely use some improvement xD.

 

First off, just wondering here, but how old are you? I want to say Sophomore-Junior, right?

Secondly, did you know her ex very well? Like were you good friends or what?

If anything, try to be a bit more flirty with her than usual or so. I'm not sure how close you are but make her notice you, something I like to do when walking down the halls around some of the girls I know is to grab them and kind of force them into a hug or so. Maybe call her name out. Initiate some form of her noticing you, start small and slowly grow with it till you think she'd want to go out with you. Depending on how she takes something like that is whether or not you know she'll turn you away or not.

 

Give her a little bit of time though, to get over this breakup she just had though.

 

And post pictures if you like, I'm sure Lent or Harr will give you some great advice with that

 

I'm a sophomore. Also, I didn't really talk to her ex that much, but he's close friends with some of my other friends in her group.

I know I probably should wait a couple weeks before doing anything because of the breakup and stuff still.

 

Oh, another issue that i realize I forgot to mention. One of my really close friends likes her as well, though he's been friendzoned for the last 2.5 years. When I told him about this he didn't get upset or anything, but is there a manlaw against that?

 

@Dan: Alright, I'll check through your blog again xD

So I think a friend of mine likes me. It's quite complicated though. She shares a lot with me, and I comfort her through a lot of things. Recently she told me about her first real "crush" of sorts and how much she admired this person and everything about them. She says all the things she likes about this person. The thing is, the things she says about this person could also be applied to the friendship I have with her. Also, she has made comparisons between me and this other person. She has been rejected by the other person, but they still maintain a very close friendship. So, lots of reasons to suspect she does. Tonight, she stops by and we talk a bit about our day. She seems like she wants to say something, so I stay quiet. After looking down for a while, she gives me a look and we meet eyes for a minute. After breaking eye contact, she asks me what I thought her look was saying. To me it seemed like her look was saying that she had something to say, and that she saw something that made her happy in me, but I didn't want to say that, so I just downplayed it a bit and said I don't know. After some more silence and her seeming like she wanted to say something, she gets up saying she needs to go to bed. Finally, I say that she looked like she needed to say something. She then gives a cryptic response of something like "I often feel that way around you, my mind wants to say something but my mouth won't say words. You seem to make people feel that way sometimes. Its kind of like that line from Cars [the Disney/Pixar film]: I create feelings in others that they themselves don't understand." She then continues on her way to bed.

 

So I don't even know... We'll see what happens. I don't want to push her on the subject and end up feeling completely stupid when it turns out to be something completely different, but who knows.

 

At the very least it takes my mind away from my ex, who goodness knows I need to give up on but can't shake.

My interactions with her last night made it seem like she's not actually interested, by that I mean she was completely cool around me and there was nothing out of the ordinary. She just was saddened that her feelings for her crush weren't returned, and that there was nothing she could do about it. If she does have feelings for me, they are obviously much less than they are for said crush.

 

As for my own feelings about the situation, they're complicated. She's always been classified by me as "off-limits" for me to actually have feelings for, for a number of reasons I can't share, even though I think I've had slight feelings for her from time to time. What's different this time is that thinking she had feelings for me took down some of the barriers I put up to prevent myself from developing feelings for her, so I really did start to like her. Meh, I've blocked the feelings before, I can do it again. They aren't strong enough to break my mental blocks. And if it turns out she does like me, then I can let them take their course if and when that time comes.

[...] try to be a bit more flirty with her than usual or so. [...] when walking down the halls around some of the girls I know is to grab them and kind of force them into a hug or so. Maybe call her name out. Initiate some form of her noticing you, start small and slowly grow with it till you think she'd want to go out with you. Depending on how she takes something like that is whether or not you know she'll turn you away or not.

 

Give her a little bit of time though, to get over this breakup she just had though.

[...]

 

This basically. You already have the ability to talk to her. Now you just need to make the transition into a "dating option". Getting noticed and flirting are very key. Be sure to look your best for the next few days, and really get yourself in there [but not in a desperate annoying way].

 

It looks like someone called Man Law into question. So let me whip out my pocketsized 'Bro-code' Bible....

 

He's been friendzoned already? Is he aware of this? Does he still feel like he has a chance? Tell him that you like her. This is the rare time in manlaw where you actually discuss feelings. Make sure that he's alright with you chasing her. if he's not? Convince him to be. Promise him that he gets the next girl. Tell him you'll hook him up with her friend. Tell him he had his chance and sat on his arse. After explaining all of this too him properly, he shouldn't have any bad feelings about it, and you may proceed [although the grace period would still be curtious seeing as how you knew the ex]

I think I discovered the reasoning behind the friendzone[post-breakup].

 

When a girl starts to beleive that you love/like her unconditionally, she'll start to take advantage of it. If you prove her correct, she'll lose sexual interest [the lack of chase]. She'll refuse to sleep with you in fear of making you feel like you're back together. She'll search for other guys to take her newly found sexual frustration on. because you can't fufill that need without emotional recoil. The friendzone lands you in a spot where she will love and care about you...but won't have sex with you. This could be her fear that you'll never get over her, and she'll be forced to deal with your now unwanted romantic feelings toward her for a very long time. So she'll cut you out. More or less force you to move on. All while thinking they're maintaing your "close bond" because they're forcing you to grow. Even if it feels like they're stamping on your chest with metal cleats, and shoving dry ice down your crotch. But atleast they'll love you, right?

 

Next step in this epiphany...learning how to prevent such an event from occuring.

 

I think it has something to do with not being a whiny pathetic loser, and standing up for yourself, and not taking crap. Yes this will occasionally make you look/sound like an [wagon], and it may even end a few relationships...but if you were unhappy...why would you want to be with them anyway? There's billions of girls out there. Literally. Surely there's more than few that find you attractive. And maybe in those few, you find one that you like. Maybe you'll choose correctly. And not give them the disney unconditional love bull [cabbage]. Cause it frankly doesn't work.

This basically. You already have the ability to talk to her. Now you just need to make the transition into a "dating option". Getting noticed and flirting are very key. Be sure to look your best for the next few days, and really get yourself in there [but not in a desperate annoying way].

 

It looks like someone called Man Law into question. So let me whip out my pocketsized 'Bro-code' Bible....

 

He's been friendzoned already? Is he aware of this? Does he still feel like he has a chance? Tell him that you like her. This is the rare time in manlaw where you actually discuss feelings. Make sure that he's alright with you chasing her. if he's not? Convince him to be. Promise him that he gets the next girl. Tell him you'll hook him up with her friend. Tell him he had his chance and sat on his arse. After explaining all of this too him properly, he shouldn't have any bad feelings about it, and you may proceed [although the grace period would still be curtious seeing as how you knew the ex]

 

Alright, thanks xD. Yeah he does know that he's friendzoned, he's even asked her out like twice and has been rejected both times, and he basically said he thinks he'd be competing with me, which I think means he doesn't really care that much, and given my less-than-stellar track record with girls he doesn't expect me to get anywhere.

Cheesiest pickup scenario ever [but I could use it in a reverse psychology method in conversation, so it's not completely useless]

 

1) "Accidentally" bump into girl of interest

2) "accidentally" drop something and exagerate it's importance

3) [dependant on girl's care] "Pretty girls like yourself need not apologize. Only a seven digit compensation is required"

4) recieve number, and exchange names, etc

 

LAME. I can't believe that's what I came up with :XD: . I think I need some more time to think

I prefer to tell girls how their back pockets really compliment their eyes.

I prefer to tell girls how their back pockets really compliment their eyes.

WELL OH MY LORD. That's a rather rude thing to be saying. don't you think?

I prefer to tell girls how their back pockets really compliment their eyes.

 

 

Well, it would certainly through me off. Which is the point I guess?

 

So far I've stuck to the "are you nervous" game. Which is usually used after some amount of comfort has already been built. For those who don't know, you touch the person of interest starting at their shin and move up their leg, at every increment asking if they're nervous. i like playing it with my wingman first as a joke, then on the wing's target to test the water.

 

...

I can't believe I blew it with the "new" girl. It's been like 2 weeks, and I've seen her once, and that was when I was with my ex. [bleep]in' stupid. Won't be making that mistake again, I tell you what. [This is the "kicking myself" stage of the failure]. I need to see her again. Gotta throw a party somewhere. somehow...

I prefer to tell girls how their back pockets really compliment their eyes.

 

 

Well, it would certainly through me off. Which is the point I guess?

 

So far I've stuck to the "are you nervous" game. Which is usually used after some amount of comfort has already been built. For those who don't know, you touch the person of interest starting at their shin and move up their leg, at every increment asking if they're nervous. i like playing it with my wingman first as a joke, then on the wing's target to test the water.

 

...

I can't believe I blew it with the "new" girl. It's been like 2 weeks, and I've seen her once, and that was when I was with my ex. [bleep]in' stupid. Won't be making that mistake again, I tell you what. [This is the "kicking myself" stage of the failure]. I need to see her again. Gotta throw a party somewhere. somehow...

just make sure if you throw a party to make [bleep] off signs, those signs keep people from breaking and stealing things. Also, the are you nervous game is for twelve year olds pal, I mean no offence, but you can do muuuuuch better than that.

 

ALSO: things are good lady wise with me, der be [bleep]es errywhere.

yeah i know, but to be honest alot of the people I've been hanging out with lately have been "younger". No, I'm not hitting on twelve year olds. Let's get the record straight here. I can do much better than that, but it's a fairly simple safety rope. Defniatly easier than the cube thing. In the moment I'm more creative, but I'm having a "moment" right now, and am kinda of drawing a blank, and doing evrything i can to keep myself from ripping my hair out.

 

wow, I sound like an emo blogger gone wrong. I'll stop now. I'm cutting myself off of posting for the rest of the night

I can't believe I blew it with the "new" girl. It's been like 2 weeks, and I've seen her once, and that was when I was with my ex. [bleep]in' stupid. Won't be making that mistake again, I tell you what. [This is the "kicking myself" stage of the failure]. I need to see her again. Gotta throw a party somewhere. somehow...

 

If you want to test the waters you could text her something like 'hey, are we fighting? and more importantly am i winning?'

 

I prefer to tell girls how their back pockets really compliment their eyes.

lol'd

1) "Accidentally" bump into girl of interest

 

and then say

 

if you wanted to meet me you could have just walked up and said hi, you didn't have to get all violent about it

Ok, I normally don't ask for anythign here, but I though I'd throw something out there. So I see a girl for a bit today, she tells me to text her sometime. I said "I should take you out for a coffee or something :thumbup: ". She says yeah, text me :smile:, cos she was at work at the time and her boss or whatever was watching us, so then I hug and leave.

 

I hadn't seen her in a while, but the question is, when do I want to see her next? Aka when should I text her and try and organise something, I was think in a couple of days, say Saturday or Sunday. Any thoughts guys?

Ok, I normally don't ask for anythign here, but I though I'd throw something out there. So I see a girl for a bit today, she tells me to text her sometime. I said "I should take you out for a coffee or something :thumbup: ". She says yeah, text me :smile:, cos she was at work at the time and her boss or whatever was watching us, so then I hug and leave.

 

I hadn't seen her in a while, but the question is, when do I want to see her next? Aka when should I text her and try and organise something, I was think in a couple of days, say Saturday or Sunday. Any thoughts guys?

Just go for it, call her now and tell her you are going into town on Sat and thought she might like to tag along.

I didn't want to text her on the same day. And I know that she gets an hour lunch break, and she should we working on Saturday.

That three day rule holds no water in the real world. It really just pisses girls off. I'd go with tomorrow.

 

EDIT: Or today, depending on when it is for you.