Blake, it was a mistake to be so indirect about it. She obviously is interested in you. Talk to her in person and be more confident. Ask her out to dinner, don't just say "Let's be a thing".

I wasn't asking her out because I assumed we were already 'going out'. I would never ask a girl out over a text

I wasn't asking her out because I assumed we were already 'going out'. I would never ask a girl out over a text

In all honesty you should have never assumed that to begin with. I understand that things escalated quickly between you two, but you never asked her out and she never said yes, which means you know nothing; she could just be out for friends with benefits, she could just be playing you, you don't know. I don't want to sound harsh, but yeah. I do hope things work out for you though. Do you really like her? Can you see yourself in a long-term relationship? If that's what you're goal is of course.

Looking back I know it was stupid to say, but still.. I do really like her, we have a lot in common. I'm not sure about long-term, isn't the point of dating to see if you would be willing to spend your life with someone?

On the other hand, she may have been upset because she thought she was already your girlfriend, and then you acted like you weren't together because you were not confident enough to give a straight answer. So, like I said, talk to her.

Looking back I know it was stupid to say, but still.. I do really like her, we have a lot in common. I'm not sure about long-term, isn't the point of dating to see if you would be willing to spend your life with someone?

Not necessarily.

Looking back I know it was stupid to say, but still.. I do really like her, we have a lot in common. I'm not sure about long-term, isn't the point of dating to see if you would be willing to spend your life with someone?

Not necessarily.

Yea, but it can be.

K, now I'm confused. I'll elaborate on my previous situation I was talking about before.

 

Background - I'm 17, she's 18, only a couple months older than me though. She's a senior in HS, I'm a sophomore in college.

 

I met her at her house when my friend brought me over for a movie night. She layed on me during the movie, and I got her number before I left. We texted during the week, and the next weekend I went over to her house around 10pm. We watched one movie, halfway through we started 'cuddling' or whatever, me holding her and her laying on me. We also made out a couple short times. The rest of the night until about 3:30 we just talked about a lot and kissed and stuff, and then fell asleep holding each other on the couch. We woke up around 5:30am because I had to get home before my parents woke up. This was all Saturday.

 

Next time I saw her was Sunday, I went to her house with a bunch of her friends that she introduced me to. I was holding her hand and she layed on me on the couch again. Kiss goodbye and everything too. We texted (and had an awkward phone call, ^), flirting and stuff. Yesterday I texted 'I like you.' just being cute and stuff, she said the same back.

 

This is the part that I'm confused about. Tonight like 20 minutes ago she texted me 'Hey. I like you.' and I said 'Hey. I like you too. Wanna be my girlfriend?' back. I did NOT mean this in a way to ask her out, because I kind of thought we already were going out. It was more of a flirt thing. I'll just write the whole convo here...

 

-Hey. I like you

Hey. I like you too. Wanna be my girlfriend?

-Are you being serious?

Well I kind of meant it like a joke because I thought you were. Hope I didn't mess anything up

-Um. Yeah, I'm not ready for that yet :/

Oh alright. I didn't mean it in an asking you out way, wouldn't do that over the phone haha

 

Was I wrong to assume? I know my replies could have been better, but I'm kinda freaking out. She hasn't replied after the last one, it's been like 20 minutes.

 

EDIT: next couple lines of conversation...

 

-Lol. Okay.

Sorry. Stupid of me to assume :/

-Don't worry about it. I don't blame you. I'm simply irresistable. :)

 

Then just normal conversation after this. Still confused though

 

Hope you learned your lesson, DONT joke about being in a relationship unless you're already in one. I mean, joking of marriage is funny, but girlfriend is a serious topic.

oh, and dry/ironic/sarcastic humor never goes over big through a text. dont do it.

 

 

She likes you. She doesn't want a boyfriend. Most hot single girls are like that.

I think this calls for some smooth talkin' and some charisma.

I think this calls for some smooth talkin' and some charisma.

:shades:

We've been talking normally and flirting still. Right before we stopped talking for the night I asked if she wanted to go to the beach this weekend, and she said yeah but lets go at night. Good sign right? Then, the last thing she said before good night was 'you ever been skinny dipping'? So we'll see how things go :thumbup:

And I thought that I managed to stop her yesterday:

 

"I miss you it's weird."

 

Must I be blunt and horrible? :/

Yes, for the thirtieth time.

Yes, for the thirtieth time.

 

:unsure: hm ok

Yep, you must. Sucks sometimes but you just gotta do it

Yep, you must. Sucks sometimes but you just gotta do it

 

She is rambling about sexual fetishes, hm right I think I should quickly before I get stuck :wall:

Yeah you definitely should. Just tell her she's your best friend's girlfriend/ex-girlfriend and you're not interested.

Yeah you definitely should. Just tell her she's your best friend's girlfriend/ex-girlfriend and you're not interested.

 

Yeah I have done and she seems okay I think. She likes evading questions.

 

Edit: I think she didn't get the message again, how can I get any more blunt than what you said? :/

I think this calls for some smooth talkin' and some charisma.

:shades:

We've been talking normally and flirting still. Right before we stopped talking for the night I asked if she wanted to go to the beach this weekend, and she said yeah but lets go at night. Good sign right? Then, the last thing she said before good night was 'you ever been skinny dipping'? So we'll see how things go :thumbup:

 

...does she already have a boyfriend per chance?

Well, it really doesn't get more blunt than that besides "[bleep] off." If you want to be friends with her, then keep talking to her just make sure neither of you get to anything inappropriate. If you don't, then you might as well stop texting her.

Well, it really doesn't get more blunt than that besides "[bleep] off." If you want to be friends with her, then keep talking to her just make sure neither of you get to anything inappropriate. If you don't, then you might as well stop texting her.

 

Trying this, I'm just going to have to avoid eye contact and to stop smiling because of this:

"with those [bleep]ing eyes

and smiled >.<

i had an urge to kiss you"

 

-.-

We've been talking normally and flirting still. Right before we stopped talking for the night I asked if she wanted to go to the beach this weekend, and she said yeah but lets go at night. Good sign right? Then, the last thing she said before good night was 'you ever been skinny dipping'? So we'll see how things go :thumbup:

 

I love skinny dipping, I went a couple weeks ago with a few people at my friend's girlfriend's parents beach house.

 

Theoretically, if you're a catch why would you want to be exclusive straight away with a girl you only just met? The reason why she backed off a bit was it looked like you were just kinda desperate for a relationship for the sake of it and grabbed at what you thought you could get.

 

You messed up, but sometimes it doesn't effect things depending on the girl and how many other mistakes you made. (if you needed perfect game nobody would ever get laid) Looks like you're alright.

I think this calls for some smooth talkin' and some charisma.

:shades: We've been talking normally and flirting still. Right before we stopped talking for the night I asked if she wanted to go to the beach this weekend, and she said yeah but lets go at night. Good sign right? Then, the last thing she said before good night was 'you ever been skinny dipping'? So we'll see how things go :thumbup:

...does she already have a boyfriend per chance?

 

No, the last one she had went off to college last year in another state and they broke up like last month cause of distance.

 

We've been talking normally and flirting still. Right before we stopped talking for the night I asked if she wanted to go to the beach this weekend, and she said yeah but lets go at night. Good sign right? Then, the last thing she said before good night was 'you ever been skinny dipping'? So we'll see how things go :thumbup:

I love skinny dipping, I went a couple weeks ago with a few people at my friend's girlfriend's parents beach house.Theoretically, if you're a catch why would you want to be exclusive straight away with a girl you only just met? The reason why she backed off a bit was it looked like you were just kinda desperate for a relationship for the sake of it and grabbed at what you thought you could get.You messed up, but sometimes it doesn't effect things depending on the girl and how many other mistakes you made. (if you needed perfect game nobody would ever get laid) Looks like you're alright.

 

That makes a lot of sense. I wasn't desperate, but could've been perceived that way. And, can't wait to go skinny dipping :)

 

I was at her house for like 5 hours just now, and judging by how it was there nothing is messed up at all. It was not awkward one bit, and we were more, uh involved than last time. So, it turned out alright. Thanks guys :smile:

A bit of spam, sorry, but wow. I remember seeing this more than 2 years ago with around 100 pages. Haven't visited in a very long time

A bit of spam, sorry, but wow. I remember seeing this more than 2 years ago with around 100 pages. Haven't visited in a very long time

 

this is the 4th generation I Want A Girlfriend...and other relationship advice thread. Not only has the one of two years ago maxed out, but we've switched thread owners ateast twice. This is the third time I've seen it hit 400+ so...welcome back ol' pal :lol:

 

 

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I give up on chasing the right girl. I'm just gonna do whatever until I stumble upon her.

I've gotten over my negativity issue, so I don't think I'll have too many issues getting a girlfriend, if it weren't for the fact that finding a single girl is almost luck-based in and of itself. I'm not the most interesting dude in the world either.

 

As for that last girl, nothing really took off, so I'm just gonna keep on rolling for now.