Some relationships just aren't possible in real life because you might never meet the other person. You may have met some really good friends in runescape that are from California, while you live really far away, there is a chance that you could've never met that friend in real life. Players live in different countries.

 

 

 

Many people compare runescape to a dating chat room. Runescapers aren't looking for love or relationships on purpose when they first join the game, they're just there to play the game. In real life, people look for love or relationships on purpose. Some people don't get a long with people in real life but have an easier time to get along with players in runescape. In real life, people looking for relationships often try to impress members of the opposite sex, they try to get in bed with them. You aren't trying to do this in runescape and if you meet the right person, it could turn out to be a better relationship because you aren't trying to sleep with them, you know everything about them naturally for who they are. Of course, you still have to worry about people lying about who they are, pretending to be someone their not online. So I'm not saying that runescape is a better place to find relationships. I'm just saying that it can be better for some people. If you're asked for a date theres more emotional pressure, in runescape, theres no pressure, because nobody is expecting anything. Runescape has minigames and other activities in which you can get to know the other player better. You're forced to communicate with the other runescaper because you're always online with the chat on. Not saying you can't do the same thing in real life. This is what people do in real life when they want to get to know someone of the opposite sex, they ask if they want to go to the movies. Compare this to a runescaper having to deal with something with another runescape player before they ask to do anything. For example, a player may have to help another in the wilderness. It's different than actually a premeditated plan to go out on a date or to the movies. You can learn more about the other player this way. Would you rather have this type of relationship or a relationship in which the other person is just trying to impress you?

 

 

 

Usually when you meet somebody for the first time, you have no reason to lie. In real life, if you really like somebody of the opposite sex, you might lie to get their favor. What reason is there to lie to someone in runescape? You won't meet the person in real life anyway, they live far, in a different country. So why lie? Also, you won't be afraid to tell personal things about yourself unlike in real life. You're anonymous. No worries, you can tell everything about yourself! If you get rejected by another person online, you can always try again because you can just log off and get on the next day. Pretty easy huh? Compared to real life.

 

 

 

Finally, lets bring up the topic of shyness. For those in real life with social anxiety, it could really be easier for them to get a relationship in runescape! After all, they're anonymous, they don't need to worry about humiliation. Whose gonna watch you? They don't see you, you don't see them, that allows you to be more honest with the other person! For those too shy in real life, people will just see their outside. Runescape deemphasizes outside appearance. It's a lot easier to see the other player for what they are on the inside because of this. Real life, outside. Runescape, inside. I'm not saying that this is the case all the time. It's like, in real life, you start on the outside, then you get to the inside. Runescape can be the opposite, you get to know the inside, then the outside.

 

 

 

In real life, you could be rejected or relationships may end up in dust, but in runescape, it's possible that relationships may last a lot longer.

 

 

 

 

 

Some friendships or relationships aren't possible without runescape...

Do any of you have a friend in runescape that you probably would've never met in real life? What if you never met this friend, it might change the outcome of something you do later on in life, causing something else to change. Without runescape relationships, your behavior could've been different towards real lifers.

I've gotta say I prefer the real life relationships. The RS ones are ok, but they're what I consider friendships. When I think of a relationship, I think of something more sexual. It's that challenge of being noticed and chance of being compatable that I prefer in a real life relationship. A good thing could end in flames in real life, but just the same it very well could not. It's actually being able to see, feel, and spend one on one time with the person that is rewarding. The friendships online are nice, but I don't even compare them to relationships in real life. The differences, in my opinion, are far too great.

What are you, a philosophizer or something?

Do any of you have a friend in runescape that you probably would've never met in real life? What if you never met this friend, it might change the outcome of something you do later on in life, causing something else to change. Without runescape relationships, your behavior could've been different towards real lifers.

 

 

 

IRL you can be bound to your age group, in rs the ethnic and age dynamic is broad so you can meet anybody here I've met some truely amazing and seriously weird people in RS yes I have met people in RS i wouldnt in RL, but then again I meet people in RL i wouldnt in RS.

What's with all these Runescape vs irl threads of yours?

What's with all these Runescape vs irl threads of yours?

Don't worry, he's a philosophizer sociologist psychologist. It's ok.

 

 

 

Yes, you can make friends in RS where as your real life personality or situation may hinder such situations.

 

 

 

You can make friends online in any community despite your real life. In fact, you can even get a young, pretty girlfriend who's a 40 year old man.

You can make friends online in any community despite your real life. In fact, you can even get a young, pretty girlfriend who's a 40 year old man.

 

 

 

Which brings us back to Meili's "Girls Don't Exist on Runescape" thread. :lol:

I am not saying this to be mean but rather to help you.

 

If you really believe all of this rs is better than rl stuff you are saying, then you really need to get out more.

 

Yes, you can make friends on rs from other countries who you wouldn't be able to be friends with in rl. Yes, it is easier to open up to someone over the internet because of the anonymity. That part is true. What is not true is that people are more apt to be honest and not lie because they have no reason to. People lie on the internet all the time. Even though they don't have to. The anonymity does not make them less likely to lie, it makes them more likely to lie. I speak from personal rs experience here. You can have a rs friend for many years and be very close to them, and share many deep personal secrets with them but you know what? You can wake up one day and find out that everything they told you was a lie. They are not the person you thought they were at all, they do not really care anything about you and the person you are so attached to is not even real. They can delete themselves in an instant and disappear without a trace. You think that is better than real life? Trust me, it's not. It makes you feel like a ridiculous fool with no life.

 

 

 

If you want to play rs and meet different people and have some fun in game with them then fine, but save the deep personal relationship stuff for people you know in real life. If you have trouble with real life relationships then take some of what you learned about interacting in rs and apply it in real life. Don't be afraid of getting hurt because that can happen online as well. The emotions are real even if the person they are tied to is not. A real life relationship is much better than one with someone on the internet that you don't really know.

I am not saying this to be mean but rather to help you.

 

If you really believe all of this rs is better than rl stuff you are saying, then you really need to get out more.

 

 

This pretty much sums it up.

Did you read the wikipedia on psychology or something? :roll:

Not all people lie on the internet.

 

 

 

 

The anonymity does not make them less likely to lie

 

 

 

Why?

 

 

 

 

 

I speak from personal rs experience here. You can have a rs friend for many years and be very close to them, and share many deep personal secrets with them but you know what? You can wake up one day and find out that everything they told you was a lie.

 

 

 

If you never found out that they lied to you, then it wouldn't matter.

 

 

 

 

 

A relationship is better in real life.

 

 

 

What if you can't have a relationship in real life because of certain circumstances?

 

 

 

I'm not trying to prove that runescape is better than real life, just saying that some things just aren't possible without runescape. What if you never played runescape? What affect would it have on you?

Not all people lie on the internet.

 

 

 

 

The anonymity does not make them less likely to lie

 

 

 

Why?

 

I don't know. Probably because there are fewer consequences and chances of getting caught lying to someone online who is thousands of miles away versus lying to someone's face.

 

 

 

I speak from personal rs experience here. You can have a rs friend for many years and be very close to them, and share many deep personal secrets with them but you know what? You can wake up one day and find out that everything they told you was a lie.

 

 

 

If you never found out that they lied to you, then it wouldn't matter.

 

 

Short term, no. Long term, yes because you will most likely find out eventually. The longer someone lies, the more elaborate they have to get to keep it covered and they eventually slip up.

 

 

 

Your statement that some things aren't possible without runescape is a little crazy. There are millions of people in the world who don't play runescape and they get along with life just fine and have relationships in other ways.

 

 

 

If I never played runescape I would be a lot less cynical, lol.

I feel kinda weird when I think about how i've known some of my runescape friends for over four years though I've never met them irl.

I feel kinda weird when I think about how i've known some of my runescape friends for over four years though I've never met them irl.

 

 

 

I have never met anyone who plays Runescape that I met in the game itself. For 6 years now.

 

 

 

Nor do I want to. Nobody knows where Slovenia is and I like it that way, I play the game because I like to cut down trees, catch lobsters and slash demons with unreal swords. It' s a game, not a chat room with stuff to do. If people want to meet people, fine, do it in Runescape, no need to write a whole speech about Runescape being good for meeting people.

 

 

 

Because frankly, no kiddin. It' s a MMORPG as in lots-of-people-in-one-place kind of game. Humans are a pack animal, meaning they will find friends. We are not tigers to hunt and mostly live alone, we strive to love and be loved. Thus we tend to make friends whereever we may be or go. Some want love more than others so they seek more of it on-line. I' m sure you' ve seen good friends on Runescape, greeting with <333333 or HAIIII!!!!.

 

 

 

And for the relationship part of your post, impressing the opposite sex is a natural instinct. We are driven by the two most basic emotions: fear and lust. We survive by being afraid of things, thus avoiding them. We also survive by making babies. Passing on our genetic pool is what every male on this planet wants to do. Turn on Animal Planet and you will see males trying to impress females in every way they know. Don' t be fooled, every man wants to have sex. Some more openly than others, some will wait longer than others. But everyone who has ever [bleep] wants to make babies.

 

 

 

Shyness is a sub-emotion. You will not see a shy lion, simply because the sex-drive is so strong in one. A primate can be shy because emotions are at a much higher level than that of a lion. Thus you can see revenge stories unfolding in Zoo's. Shy people have a low self-esteem. I myself was once shy as hell, if anyone unknown talked to me I could not make contact. But I have overgrown that and tend to make friends fairly easily and quickly.

 

 

 

And friendships that are not possible in real life are those that break the general tabus. A 30 year old man can not befriend a 14 year old girl outside or vice versa. The general public will not accept it. In Runescape you can easily talk to such person in a friendly way without fearing anything or anyone. The Internet has no laws, it knows no difference of race, age, sex or distance. Everything by everyone, so says the Newgrounds logo and it is correct. Runescape aswell does not have tabus. You can befriend anyone.

 

 

 

The problem here is, who is he? Or she? Are you talking to a real person or a made up idealistic puppet created for the sole purpose to impress? How do you know? You do not unless you are told the truth. Untill then you can just guess who is on the other side or accept what they tell you.

 

 

 

Anything else you want to debate? Friends in Runescape are real people, just like outside. Outside they are a regular Joe, in-game they are Muppet Man, a lvl 120 Dragon Slayer, enforcer of justice and feared by all. With huge bicebs and abs of steel. And they have a hot blonde girlfriend that they "get it on" with day and night.

 

 

 

The truth? Only Muppet Man knows. Now go and have a cookie for reading my post, you deserve it :

I'm antisocial, so I don't have relationships in RS or RL, only acquaintances.

 

 

 

To me a friend is someone I do not hate, and the list of people I hate is very small, so your all friends :P

You can make friends online in any community despite your real life. In fact, you can even get a young, pretty girlfriend who's a 40 year old man.

 

 

 

Which brings us back to Meili's "Girls Don't Exist on Runescape" thread. :lol:

 

 

 

Lol.

 

 

 

IRL you can be bound to your age group, in rs the ethnic and age dynamic is broad so you can meet anybody here I've met some truely amazing and seriously weird people in RS yes I have met people in RS i wouldnt in RL, but then again I meet people in RL i wouldnt in RS.

 

 

 

Very true, I have a lot friends in RS that are outside my age, gender, religion, country, etc. that I would never have met irl.

Mico, you make good points, but one I would like to argue is the tabus point. You say a 30 year old man can not befriend a 14 year old girl. Maybe I have a different conception of what befriending is than you, but when I think of befriending, it means being friends. It doesn't have to be a deep friendship but a friendship nonetheless. A friendship to me is knowing another person and asking about their general life (How was school, did you make the job, etc.) Nothing has to be that intimate between this relationship. Now you say that the general public would not accept this, but there are numerous amount of situations in which this could be openly accepted. A 30 year old married man is a jr. high girls basketball coach. The coach and the girls are usually great friends and cares for their health and safety. Would this not be accepted? A jr. high youth pastor tries to be friends with everyone that comes through the doors of meetings. Can this not also be accepted? I would say that a deep, intimate relationship can not be had and viewed in the public eye in the same way as a relationship say two 14 year old girls, but that's not the point I am arguing.

 

 

 

Onto the main article, you talk about relationships that could have only occurred through a medium that does not provide certain qualities/characteristics with those you converse with. (Voice, image, etc.) There are many people that I have met through the use of the internet, but it is all part of what I have become. I have learned lessons from those I have befriended through my years. If it wasn't for these lessons I have learned, I will have become a different man. I thank for the experiences I have had leading the Tip.it Events Team, because it taught me some leadership lessons I may have possibly never have learned elsewhere. For this I am dearly and truly grateful for these experiences and relationships.

 

 

 

Now in comparison with my "real life" relationships, what else is there to say? I don't distinguish my "Runescape" relationships with that of my "real life" relationships. Want to know why? Because those I have befriended in Runescape are some of my real life friends as well. I play this game of Runescape in Real Life. That's the point that needs to be remembered. Behind every playable character, this is another person playing that character. I may never meet some of these friends, but that isn't to say we aren't real or true friends. That's like saying your PenPal doesn't exist, it's only a letter, just because you have never met them. That's a shame if you believe that.

 

 

 

So in the end, I am truly thankful for all my relationships that I have grown to keep through these years, both those I have met and those I haven't. I wouldn't trade them away for anything and will hope to continue to build these relationships I have. Maybe I will have the chance to meet some of these great people, but I can't be too certain. I can still hope. :)

I have plenty of "impossible" friendships I've gained through Runescape. My friend list is tiny, because each and every one on that list is a close friend. I can talk to them without prejudices about how I look or what I do. And no, I am not a 200 pound girl who sits in front of the computer all day. I can tell these friends about what I think is wrong, and we'll talk seriously. For me, the Friend List isn't something to be taken lightly. To get on my friend list peopel have to earn it, by being friendly and helpful for more than a minute. These peopel are scattered around the world; one lives in California, another in Europe. I would never ahve met them under the same circumstances in real life. Thus, they are "impossible".

Some friendships arn't possible without real life. Some friendships arn't possible without a particular job. Some friendships arn't possible if you go to a different school. I don't see your arguement here. The solution to fear of rejection should not be to avoid it and make friends with somoene online. Either way, unless you have trouble making friends in real life, there's no way an online friendship can be more rich or meaningful than a real life friendship.

ATM I have many friends on RS with different beleifs, and we tend to debate nicely about topics that otherwise would shook the very groundwe'd plant them on. Pretty cool :)

tl:dr

 

 

 

But I get the gist.

 

 

 

I have something like that, only not in RS (he doesn't get the point... loser. :lol: But he gets that I do and he tolerates my ramblings and rantings and my 'FSSSSSSSSSSSSSSCK JUST GOT MURDERIZED BY AN AVIANSIE' and my 'AMG I HAVE 8M I'M GONNA GO BUY A D CHAIN NOW AND MAYBE A FURY w0000000t' and my 'oohhhh spirit tree seed -- SPIRIT TREE SEED!')

 

 

 

We've been friends for three and a half years, I've had a crush on him for most of those, and he knows it.

 

 

 

Won't date me though. Not for another few years. stupid honorable bastard... but I see why he wouldn't want to date me until we can meet in person.

 

 

 

And yeah. We'd never have been friends if we hadn't met on teh intarwebs (he lives in Nevada), and I would probably still be that sheltered little girl who thought the world was all like her (very, very nice) family.

 

 

 

or maybe not... you never know.