My friend might kill himself.. what do I do?

[Will H]

I think you should tell an adult, but you should also tell the adult not to tell your friend that you told the adult, if you know what I mean. Keep us posted on any progress (Or lack of it). Anyway, I hope he gets over it. Everybody has these phases around 14-15-16, due to either girls, homework, social lives, that kind of [cabbage]. Homework and coursework bite at this age, as well as girls at the same time. Practically everyone goes through this, its part of life.

[Shadow93]

hes depressed and he has a gf? wow, i can almost tell you what will happen when she dumps him :lol:

[rushrock]

hes depressed and he has a gf? wow, i can almost tell you what will happen when she dumps him :lol:

 

 

 

That post was utterly useless. If you're not going to post advice or constructive criticism, then don't post.

[rocketman089]

That post was utterly useless. If you're not going to post advice or constructive criticism, then don't post.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Practice what you preach, pushpop.

[rushrock]

 

That post was utterly useless. If you're not going to post advice or constructive criticism, then don't post.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Practice what you preach, pushpop.

 

 

 

Are you calling that post useless? Or just all my posts in general?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I assure you that I practice what I preach.

[blindboy]

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah he smokes pot sometimes. =/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

:shame: did u try to stop that?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Was it really worth bumping a month old thread just to say that?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

well sorry :evil: ! Becusae the first thing i do when i look at a post, i look at the date.

[indy500fan]

well sorry :evil: ! Becusae the first thing i do when i look at a post, i look at the date.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It's a month old post. That means it had to have been 3 or 4 pages off the front page. You are only supposed to bump stuff up if you have something constructive to add.

[BlueLancer]

Practically everyone goes through this, its part of life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Not really, tens of thousands of teenagers actually commit suicide each year (in the world). That's not a part of life, that's a deeper problem.

[blindboy]

 

well sorry :evil: ! Becusae the first thing i do when i look at a post, i look at the date.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It's a month old post. That means it had to have been 3 or 4 pages off the front page. You are only supposed to bump stuff up if you have something constructive to add.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

actually, it wasnt. I think it was on the first page,or something,wierd.

[indy500fan]

actually, it wasnt. I think it was on the first page,or something,wierd.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It couldn't have been on the first page. Just look at it now, the oldest on the first page is 2 days old. A month old topic is at least 4 or 5 pages back.

[blindboy]

then i forgot how i got it, but when i go to the forums, i dont skip to the 3-4 page.

[starsteller]

To answer the question:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I would say just be there to listen for him. Try to find out what's really upsetting him, but don't probe. Also try to find out if he's serious about suicide. If he's serious about suicide, and has plans about it already, tell someone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Otherwise, you can tell someone, but tell them to keep it quiet. Show him how much there still is to life. There's still a world out there. The small things matter. Give him something to live for, take his mind off of death. Therapy and drugs can hurt more than help, they should only be used in drastic situations.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I can't guarantee this will work, but I used on myself. I still catch myself thinking negatively, but I've stopped staring at piles of rope and bleach. Now, if someone was telling me to think positively, I'd be wondering if the long drop was more painful than bleach or not.

[shivers21]

 

Stick it in his pooper!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

you are the most helpful person in the world

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

so true

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

if he's thinking of suiside, you should talk to the police. they can probaly help him. i think your friend will get over it, maby. i knew some one egsactly like that, she was cuting her wrists, we got her to talk us and then she just felt beter. so i think talking to your friend would be the best.

[yomaster19]

he should send in his story to chicken soup :-w

[Zonorhc]

[Blue_Eggz]

You have two options.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1 - CALL 9-11 RIGHT NOW!!! :wink:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2 - Throw a phone or a radio at his head to knock him out, thus making him forget everything and return to his natural, normal life. =D>

[SpookyKid]

I repeat Do not do anything Because when One of my friends was saying he hates life and started cutting himself one of my friends told The school and the school told his parents ( its manditory for a school to report it to parents and the hospital ) so my friend go's to the hospital into the sykeward

 

 

 

and hje is in there for about a month ( his cuts are not deep looked like scratch's ) and he got out his parents took away every piece of medal in his room ( computer, phone, tv , ect , ect )

 

 

 

and they wacthed his every move wouldn't let him go to school and wouldn't let him go outside because he might hurt himself.

 

 

 

I think that was all extreme and he had a girls friend at the time he was 17 he thought she was gonna be the one ( everyone thought it ) but they didn't see eachother for 5 months and then one night he got his dads shoutgun and shot him sell in the head using his foot to pull the trigger

 

 

 

ruined alot of peoples life for someone telling on hime for talking about suicide and cutting himself....... sliting your wrist most like won't kill you unless you cut the Vain all the way threw ( I am shure its probably hard to do ) so don't tell anyone about this just tell him to knock it off or you will tell his parents that might scare him enough to stop ..

[Zonorhc]

I repeat Do not do anything Because when One of my friends was saying he hates life and started cutting himself one of my friends told The school and the school told his parents ( its manditory for a school to report it to parents and the hospital ) so my friend go's to the hospital into the sykeward

 

 

 

and hje is in there for about a month ( his cuts are not deep looked like scratch's ) and he got out his parents took away every piece of medal in his room ( computer, phone, tv , ect , ect )

 

 

 

and they wacthed his every move wouldn't let him go to school and wouldn't let him go outside because he might hurt himself.

 

 

 

I think that was all extreme and he had a girls friend at the time he was 17 he thought she was gonna be the one ( everyone thought it ) but they didn't see eachother for 5 months and then one night he got his dads shoutgun and shot him sell in the head using his foot to pull the trigger

 

 

 

ruined alot of peoples life for someone telling on hime for talking about suicide and cutting himself....... sliting your wrist most like won't kill you unless you cut the Vain all the way threw ( I am shure its probably hard to do ) so don't tell anyone about this just tell him to knock it off or you will tell his parents that might scare him enough to stop ..

 

 

 

It's amazing how you can type so much but say so little.

[lawrencekill]

 

I repeat Do not do anything Because when One of my friends was saying he hates life and started cutting himself one of my friends told The school and the school told his parents ( its manditory for a school to report it to parents and the hospital ) so my friend go's to the hospital into the sykeward

 

 

 

and hje is in there for about a month ( his cuts are not deep looked like scratch's ) and he got out his parents took away every piece of medal in his room ( computer, phone, tv , ect , ect )

 

 

 

and they wacthed his every move wouldn't let him go to school and wouldn't let him go outside because he might hurt himself.

 

 

 

I think that was all extreme and he had a girls friend at the time he was 17 he thought she was gonna be the one ( everyone thought it ) but they didn't see eachother for 5 months and then one night he got his dads shoutgun and shot him sell in the head using his foot to pull the trigger

 

 

 

ruined alot of peoples life for someone telling on hime for talking about suicide and cutting himself....... sliting your wrist most like won't kill you unless you cut the Vain all the way threw ( I am shure its probably hard to do ) so don't tell anyone about this just tell him to knock it off or you will tell his parents that might scare him enough to stop ..

 

 

 

It's amazing how you can type so much but say so little.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

He was trying to say something?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hmm. You should correct it because I had to read it several times to understand what you were saying.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So... why the hell did his dad have a shotgun when they think their son is crazy(for a lack of a better word)?

[1canadian1]

Tell him, "I dare you to suicide!" Then taunt him, then well..I don't know.

[braveheart]

have a long talk with him, listen and then tell him what you think

 

 

 

some of my friends always stay with me when i was desperately sad

 

 

 

or you could take him out to have a relax,maybe that could help forgeting something

 

 

 

btw, you are really a kind person

[lordkrohn1626]

Ask for his xbox....ooooh and if he has a ATM card, ask for it and the PIN number. Worry not, the world is over populated, one less attention deprived person won't affect us to much. ....maybe give him a hug, obviously he needs one, or didnt get enough growing up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

sigh...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

okay, got that off my chest.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Realize that most depressed people just need someone to listen, be a friend and listen. Tell him that 5 years from now he won't even remember this "Love of his life". So crazy how people snuff themselves over a girl or guy, there are millions out there, and 5 years later you won't remember gf number 37, let alone number 7's name. If you're really concerned, tell his parents or anonamously tell the school shrink.

[dacona]

I don't know where else to go for help at this time, because I need it right now, so let me just give you a brief explanation..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My friend is 15, he's been going out with his girlfriend for 7 months, and he believes that this girl is totally going to be "his one and only love forever." They always always fight over things, but then the girl can make things right instantly just because my friend really loves her, right?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So he believes he's the one causing all the fights, and yeah. I don't know, he wrote this really long thing in a blog about how he should just continue to shut out everyone in the world b/c it wouldn't make a difference and then says that he needs us as his friends, when we're all ALWAYS here for him. He cuts himself, he goes around unhappy most of the time, he's an angry guy too.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But still, he's a great guy down inside... and he's helped me with alot of things... :cry:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Please don't suggest suicide hotlines either :|

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

i get depressed alot he reminds me of me - i cut myself and get angry (not over a girl but other stuff) what u gotta do is let him do what he needs to but if he mentions suicide try switch the subject to people who love him like family and friends who wouldnt be happy with him gone. he will probably cry (this is a good thing he shows emotions and wont commit siucide, ) next you should look for things thatl'e make him happyer eventuly try to get him away from this girl becuase the fights can phycologicaly harm him.

[warren211]

Try convincing him that suicide is a horrible thing to do. Use this that I found from a site:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Consider, before you act, these facts:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃââSuicide is not usually successful.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃââYou think you know a way to guarantee it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*Like electrocution?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ask the 25 year old who tried to electrocute himself. He lived. But both his arms are gone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃââWhat about jumping?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ask John. He used to be intelligent, with an engaging sense of humor, and a wonderful personality. That was before he leapt from the building. Now, he's brain-damaged and will always need care. He staggers and has seizures. He lives in a fog. But, worst of all, he KNOWS he used to be normal.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃââPills?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ask the 12 year old girl with extensive liver damage from an overdose. Have you ever seen anyone die of liver damage? You turn yellow. It's a hard way to go.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃââAnd what of guns?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ask the 24 year old who shot himself in the head. Now he drags one leg, has a useless arm and has no vision or hearing on one side. He lived through his "foolproof" suicide.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You might too.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

But if not..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who will clean your blood off the carpet or scrape your brains from the ceiling? Commercial cleaning companies may refuse that job--but SOMEONE has to do it. Who will have to cut you down from where you hanged yourself or identify your boated body after you've drowned?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your father?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your mother?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your brother?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your sister?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your wife? Husband?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your son, or daughter?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The carefully worded "loving" suicide note is of no help. Those who loved you will NEVER completely recover. They'll feel regret and an unending pain.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(Suicide is the most selfish thing you can do to the people who love you, or as you so constantly remind yourself, "DON'T" love you. Because everyone is loved. You are lieing to yourself, and making whatever you are feeling ten times worse because of it. However you choose to do away with yourself, you are going to hurt someone. Maybe that's what you want. Maybe all you want is to see the people who hurt you, hurt. Then you are doing it for completely the wrong reasons, and I don't even need to tell you it's selfish. [Not to mention you won't be able to see them cry anyhow.] Not that there are RIGHT reasons. But, if in the process of trying to hurt someone by your death, you live, and somehow end up forever damaged by your choice, who will you want to hurt, then? You are loved. And the people who love you will always remember you, and miss you. It is the worst feeling in the world for your loved-ones, having someone close to them, die. Especially when you take your own life... because that may mean they had a hand in the reason for your death. Do you know how aweful that would feel? Think of other people, not just yourself.)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Suicide is contagious. Look around your family. look closely at the 4 year old playing with his toy cars on the rug. Kill yourself tonight, and he may do it ten years from now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(Your choice may perminantly scar people. What are your parents going to tell your baby sister when she's 5 or 6 and she asks who the pretty girl is in the picture up there? Poor kid. See now? You've made three more people's lives harder. Not to mention the emotional damage you caused your parents years before. What about your little brother, who watched your mother take your wrist in her hand in a vian attempt to stop the bleeding, and try to dial 911 with the other? What do you think he will IMIDIATELY think of when he's going through a tough time later in his life? ...Congratulations. You've just decided to kill your siblings, too. No one goes uneffected.)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You DO have other choices. There are people who can help you through this crisis. Call a hotline. Call a friend. Call your minister or priest. Call a doctor or hospital. Call the police.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

They will tell you that there's hope. Maybe you'll find it in the mail tomorrow. Or in a phone call this weekend. But what you're seeking could be just a minute, a month, or a day away.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You say you don't want to be stopped? Still want to do it?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Well, then, I may see you in the psychiatric ward later.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And we'll work with whatever you have left.