Solidus_77

I've had the same problem, it's too hard to just sit there and take it and it's awfully hard to get help. Any adult will tell you to go tell a teacher on them, which is completely stupid as you'll get socially exiled the moment you do. I'm confused, why are adults convinced that telling the teacher on the kids is a good idea? It DESTROYS any bond of trust with EVERY student on the spot, you're considered a coward. What's the point of making one kid stop annoying another kid at the cost of making EVERY kid gang up on him? Never follow that ridiculous advice unless you'd like to make the situation escalate even further and make a whole spectacle of yourself. What you've got to understand is that there is NO counter to insults. You can't make yourself insult-proof. If they want to insult you, they will find something (even distort the truth if they have to). So don't bother trying to find a way to stop the insults. What you have to do is stop the people who insult you. The ignoring idea is effective, but as stated, you have to be really committed. You see the only reason people insult you is because they get a response. So the idea is that if you show no response whatsoever, they will stop. Problem is, it's already hard to not respond vocally, but you also have to prevent any kind of response in your body language and on top of that you can't look like you're trying too hard to ignore people or they will know and use it against you (that's happened to me). If you're already in a situation where you get insulted and beat up on a daily basis (even by those who you considered friends) it's very hard to get yourself out of the situation. If you try to ignore people in that situation, they will try harder to get a response from you. Ignore, they try harder. They will continue trying harder and harder until they get a response from you. Even resorting to violence. The only action that helps in the long run is to either take it or walk away. Don't fight back, or give them anything to use against you. Even if you manage to beat them up, they WILL find a way to get back at you. Another thing that helps would be not to provoke them in any way shape or form. Don't give them a reason to insult you. Even if they are the first to strike now, I'm pretty sure you must have done some provocation at some point. Don't ever do that. But the only way this problem will always go away is with time. You need to get some social skills, insight, and maturity and so do they. All of these come with age. Eventually, you will learn not to provoke people in the first place, and they will be less agressive towards you as well. In the long run, make sure you never make a "sworn enemy" over anyone. My friends now are people who I considered "bitter enemies" a few years ago. In the meantime make good friends with those you can trust, but be carefull! people who bend to peer-pressure easily might decide to follow the guys against you instead of you. I know it's not easy, when I was young I managed to turn my entire social entourage against me in almost ANY social environment for many years. It was tough seeing people go from warm welcome to bitter hate withing weeks (no matter where I went). But I also remember a dramatic change in 10th-11th grade where not only I became more socially adequate but so did other people. Nowadays, I never have any trouble.

Hehe, who said we didn't? I love saved by the bell! :thumbsup:

Thanks kranked1 (and sorry about earlier, I overreacted and acted too aggressive), and remember that you only go to prom once (or twice, but senior prom is the real one).

Oh come on, just a few posts above are two guys saying it's a waste of money. Try checking the thread a bit before saying that :lol: And I still think all of you are totally missing out. Yeah, honestly I think you're missing out. Its a great blast. I thnink alot of people are put off by having to ask a girl/boy to it.. But we didn't at our prom, so i went single and had fun anyway. Yeah, a lot of my friends didn't go last year because they were all to insecure to go alone. So basically I went to prom without a girl and without anyone that I really knew well. Awkward situation much? At first it was terrible, but all of the classmates that knew a bit (and only from class time) were greeting me with warm welcome and stated how glad they were to see me out and having fun. It was truely a wonderfull explerience and I was glad to see that people cared about me. So basically to me, Junior prom was where I finally decided to change from introvert to extrovert. It has such a special meaning to me and I wouldn't be who I am now if it wasn't for that first experience. A year later, after I have become way more confident and social. I go to prom as a senior and not only start off the entire dance as the crowd watches but also end up dancing (and grinding a bit) with over half the girls. Still no date, but at least I had a girl who was willing to go (unfortunately she couldn't make it). So basically to me prom (both time) is something special and to all you fools who think it's a waste of time: you all fail. \

Dark_Aura, I have heard your rant several times on the relationship thread and I've told you plenty of times: BECOME the guy who knows how to please a woman. BECOME "Mr Popular" (trust me, he's not a jerk, girls like him because of his attractive qualities and personality). It is possible for you to do it but you need to stop ranting and start changing. Did you read the PM I sent you? I gave you an even better explanation there. FYI: Girls want to do it with Mr Popular because they enjoy being around him and his leadership status is already attractive and he probably has a dozen other qualities that girls love. Conversly, they don't enjoy being around you as much due to the qualities that you lack. That, my friend, is some wishfull thinking from the part of the unpopular, introverted and socially inadequate and often said when trying to give an unsuccessfull friend a reassuring pat on the back. However, it doesn't change the fact that "Mr. Popular" out there is having the time of his life by being social whilst you're sitting around jealous of his success (so naturally you try to convince yourself that his success somehow isn't worth it even though it clearly is). FYI: Girls aren't just doing it for sex, they're doing it because they're attracted to him and the qualities that he has. Ah now this is more like it! This is some truely helpfull advice. He's right Dark_Aura, you need to stop feeling jealous of what you don't have and instead look at ways to improve yourself. Here's a start: Brighten up. You're being too negative about yourself and that is driving girls away.

Perfect social skills. With that I could do everything.

Oh come on, just a few posts above are two guys saying it's a waste of money. Try checking the thread a bit before saying that :lol: And I still think all of you are totally missing out.

Yay! another person who likes Godzilla the animated series. That show kicked [wagon]. And holy crap, I think nearly every single one of my fondest child-hood shows has already been mentioned (even Pingu). All except one of my very favorites: tWq87H7XYYM I know, I know, it's a totally unconventional sonic series. But hell, after seeing The adventures of Sonic the Hedgehog (NOT SatAM), this gave me a different vibe (lasers, futuristic stuff and music is enough to impress me at 8 years old) and I loved sonia and manic, they were awesome characters. Too bad they never really concluded the series :(

Here: So grinding is a means to get turned on apparently? and which leads to....? Immature, ey? That's better description, but I still think you're taking it too seriously. It's just done for fun, and girls like it. What could be better than doing something fun that girls also enjoy? I take it you're not much of a dancer.

Hmm, well for me the difficulty of the missions in Jak 3 didn't match up to the ones in Jak 2. I found Jak 3 a lot easier because of the extremely powerful weapons they gave you (along with the easy accessible cheats). If you haven't already, try Jak 2 on Hero Mode. The mission where you have to destroy the ship at the drill platform will make your head spin for hours trying to beat it :D Oh god, that one on hero mode was insane -.- . It was so hard that I would make a save game after completing it. Still, I'm glad I was able to complete it. And yeah, I agree Jak 2 missions were the hardest. Especially the one where you have to escape with part of the seal and then fight through an ARMY of chrimson guards, the race against erol through the city and the war factory (after you get practice it's fun, but at first it was HARD!) Oh yeah and in Jak 3 using flash-freeze to beat all the timed races was epic :D

I'm gonna call BS on that. You seem to have certain morals that go against getting laid left and right. There's also a nifty thing called condoms. Seriously, there are guys/girls who get laid left and right and neither get pregnancy nor STDs.

You wanna try that again? I have no idea what the hell your point is.

There's nothing wrong with grinding if you're dancing but throwing your groin into them with the sole idea of dry humping them is stupid, that isn't dancing, it's a 11 year olds away of attaining an erection. The prom is theoretically an expensive form of prostitution, you pay about 600-700 dollars on Limo / Tux / Good restaurant so you're guaranteed sex :lol: kranked1, do you know that people go to the prom to have fun? do you know that people grind on the dance floor to, like, have fun? Stop being insecure, there's nothing wrong about it. I grind with girls I meet on the spot. Does that mean I want to have sex with them? No, it means I like to have fun on the dancefloor. If your morals prevent you from doing this then sucks to be you. Oh and anyone who's willing to claim that in order to have sex you're obliged to treat the girl to meal is totally ignorant. Treating a girl to a meal (or paying for her in any way) is just shooting yourself in the foot. If you're doing it for the sole purpose of having sex (as opposed to just doing it for fun) then you obviously have no idea how to please a girl.

Odd how you're phrasing it as past tense. As if the tip.it community is one where everyone gets laid often. Whatever, these responses are hilarious anyway. I'm amazed at how many people here only want to meet one girl for the rest of their life. You're missing out on all the fun. :lol: ok do you or did you want just 1 partner for your whole life? Hell no! I know I want as many partners as I can get away with. I'm polyamorous. what is the big deal about having so many? I don't like putting an unnecessary limitation has any use whatsoever. did you go searching for alot of partners(putting it out there)? Even if you're totally adamant on having 1 partner you're going to have to go out and meet girls. So obviously I go searching, but not always with the intention of having sex, I'm just out there to meet people and see where it goes from there. or did you go from relationship to relationship getting laid? Getting laid is an essential part of a relationship. would you take your virginity back? If I didn't have it, no. Virginity is just a hinderence. who would you give it too? the first girl I'm interested in. if stds didn't exist how many partners would u have? As many as I can get away with. That's not how it works. If you're spending tons of cash on your girlfriend there's a problem. And you know there are plenty of thngs to do besides go out for lunch all the time. Although that is a more interesting excuse to limit yourself. EDIT: I can't miss this: Can you imagine the incredible experiences that you would have if you could have 1000 partners over the course of your life. Having 1000 wonderfull experiences > having 1 wonderfull experience. Now how does that happen? If you've talked to them then you've obviously met them before. Oh and for the record there's nothing wrong with one-night stands assuming both people have fun. That's just stupidity. :lol:

They are games that you can just play over and over without getting bored, arent they. Totally! And replay value is a mark of a good game. I even feel sad leaving them to go over to the states for college.

Miss me? : I've been traveling all over California and my god I must say: You Americans all have it way easier over here. If I so much as say "hi" to someone in France they'll give me the "awkward look" but already after being in California for a week I've met some really interesting people out in the most surprising places. It's much easier to talk to complete strangers in the US than in France. Anyways, Derek's question is right up my alley. Erm, two things. First of all having a girlfrind but without doing anything is like buying a game and setting it on a shelf. But I guess you're younger, well at least keep in mind that a real girlfriend involves much more than just holding hands. Second, define "popular" because those are generally the people who get plenty of attention and one of your later questions leads me to belive you're on your way to becoming popular. Although that's a pretty favorable description. Making people laugh is a HUGE social asset, so is the ability to just go up and talk to people (assuming they respond well). You're already describing yourself in a humble but positive way which is pretty good. Much better than some people who can only think negative things about themselves. Alright, I'll get to the Myspace/Facebook stuff in a bit, but about the phone thing. Honestly, don't let it get to you. My phone (or what USE to be my phone, luckily), is probably the [cabbage]tiest phone on the planet; all it does is make calls but that's all I use it for. Often times when people complain about their phone I like to pull out mine to see what a really bad phone is. I've given it to people to put their phone number in and I've never had anyone critisize it, probably because they know I wouldn't care. So basically, if you care about what people think of your phone (you shouldn't), people will make fun of you. It's just a phone, really. Make a joke out of how bad it is if you'd like. I mentioned my stance on how I believe you can have fruitful conversations with girls on MSN, but honestly, not a lot of chemistry happens there, or at least not a lot compared to what goes on in real life. Judging by what most MSN convos are like, you arn't missing too much. I'll only give out my MSN to a girl who asks for it ayways, or if I need to talk to them for practical reasons. I don't try and establish a brand new conection with a complete stranger on MSN (which I think can be done much better IRL) Ok now this is big (and I'm going to discuss PUA stuff so if you don't like this sort of stuff just skip it at your loss). In PUA, one of the most vital aspects is to generate. Now, generating attraction is done by showing qualities that girls seek in a guy. These usually involve confidence, humor, sociability, leadership etc... (note: looks don't matter AS MUCH as they do for guys). More often than not, you need to be the one who goes up and talks to the girls and then entertain them with interesting stories, flirt casually or other stuff. If there's a group of you talking you can be the leader of the group who socializes with everyone. It's harder to do but if you are running the set girls will already see you as a "social guy". There are so many ways to generate attraction (like the famous Cocky&Funny) but here's the catch: you can't just rehearse a bunch of lines and expect that to work, you have to be smooth, comfortable and natural when you talk and that takes practice in social environments. The more you talk to girls, the more you go out to parties or other social activities and the more you are comfortable in social environments, the more fun this will be! Generating attraction leads to indicators of interest (another PUA term). Girls saying "I like xyz" is an obvious one (and in 9th grade I suspect it doesn't hold much significance anyways), but rarely seen. That's not what you should look for (sometimes they will say stuff like "I think you're cute" or other lines). Instead, notice subtle hints in their body language like if she's turned towards you or away from you (turning away is an indicator of disinterest BTW), if she's stopped what she's doing to listen to you and lots of small stuff that you can see with more experience. Girls will communicate a LOT with their body and if you can become aware of these little things, you'll be able to tell if they are attracted to you or not. In the end, I wouldn't wait for a girl to say she likes you. The best way to make it happen is to go out there and meet these girls and most importantly don't feel that everyone in 9th grade has another person who likes them. That's far from the case. Now about myspace/facebook. Honestly, I felt I was missing out on something huge but it wasn't that big of a deal after signing up. It is true, it's nice to have people say "Hey I saw your skiing pictures yesterday that way sweet" or "Hey I saw that video, did you really climb up there?" or the random posts on my Wall but to me Facebook has two purposes: Finding out about social events (and even, word of mouth works pretty well) and meeting up with friends I havn't seen in 5-10 years. It DOES help for social purposes so it's worth a shot, but nothing replaces real-life interactions (where everything has more meaning than on the net). Oh and for the record, I'd say talk your parents into it and explain how you're aware of the risks, you know how to be careful about meeting strangers and won't get raped IN THE BUTT :lol: I know why: It's because you're not one of the alpha males that everyone gravitates around (but you can become something like them), and because you're worrying too much about having someone who likes you (which then creates the illusion that EVERYONE is dating someone and I guarentee you that is not the case). That's not how it works. If you want to get a girlfriend, you need to go out and meet girls for the sake of being a social guy. One could also say that once you don't care about getting a girlfriend, you'll get one. Or to put it shortly: get some confidence as reb said. That is what it's all about. That and being social since meeting people leads to meeting more people (as in, you don't like a certain girl, but you might love her friend who she might introduce to you). Meet all kinds of people, you'd be amazed what comes up. PS: I forgot to add something when you mentioned you don't have girls flirting with you. There's a trick to flirting wih girls, you have to show you're comfortable with flirting by flirting with them first. Now here's something that acted to a wake-up call for me. I remember looking on the internet and seeing this guy say that it's totally "wrong" to flirt with several girls at a time, and that you shouldn't do it till you know a girl cause she might have a boyfriend. Now I feel sorry for that guy, because he's going to feel awkward around girls and he's totally missed the point. Needless to say it's terrible advice instead, flirt with everyone. This has so many advantages. It shows you've got confidence, it shows that you are totally comfortable about risky subjects, it shows that you're not at all shallow (i.e. flirting with only the popular girls), it creates FAR more options with girls which lowers fear of rejection and you can learn SO MUCH FROM IT (think of it as risk vs reward). I flirt with everyone (in a pretty wide age bracket too), that includes girls that I don't have any interest in dating, girls that arn't exactly considered "attractive", girls that I have just met minutes ago, girls that honestly freak me out, my friend's girlfriend or even some mild flirts with guys just for fun :lol: . The biggest misconception that I have seen is people automatically assuming that flirting with a girl means you want her in bed and that by flirting with a girl I don't like, she might "accidently" like me. When I flirt not only do I show just how comfortable and confident I am, but all I get in return is more flirting/teasing/smiles/giggles. Girls truely enjoy it (or at least most do, and if they don't then doesn't matter, a great majority do, assuming you can phrase it right). Word of caution: It is possible to go overboard or make some too heavy sexual innuendo but honestly, get the inroduction right and you'd be amazed what you can get away with. PPS: Sworddude, would you mind keeping the somewhat interesting debate about parental authority out of the relationship thread? I recognize it's value (and heck, parent-child relationships are relationships) but it's a big subject of debate (especially on a forum full of teens) and might take up too much space on this thread.

So I'm wondering where you fit into this argument at all? He said I don't have friends because I thought prom was a waste of money. But yet you're still trying to harp on me because I was justifying to him that I do have quite a few friends. I've made my point and am discontinuing posting to you due to some advice I got from Mark Twain. "Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference." I'm here to give you advice so that you don't embarrass yourself due to your own insecurities. It's in your best interest to hear me out. Have you noticed that you're still getting defensive? Don't you see that it isn't going to work? Here's another tip: Instead of announcing that you're discontinuing the posting, how about you actually discontinue posting?

Question about proms: Is it considered almost mandatory to have a date? or is it not a big deal if you're single? A lot of people seem to go single and nobody really seems to mind at my school so I'm curious if it's the same elsewhere? I'm not sure if you're trying to be a [puncture] to me with the Facebook statement, but the reason I used Facebook as an example is because there is no other way to tell him that I have friends. I can't invite him to any of my parties, can I? If you really want to know, I have about 10 friends on Facebook that are from video games :| Perhaps you don't understand, but the fact that you use Facebook as a justification in any way is a joke (and of course now that you're acting defending the facebook argument you're just sinking lower). There's also a far more effective way of telling someone you have friends other than the silly number of friends on facebook, it goes like this: "I have lots of friends". There. Nothing more. If you are totally secure about your social life, you don't need to say anymore and his comments of "someone has no friends" really shouldn't get to you.

Whenever I'm bored I often go and replay Jak & Daxter. Such awesome games, I have them all and completed them all many times.

That's a cliche phrase said to people who choose between love and money and go ahead with money. Money does bring happiness (like getting laura's crazy house), as long as you don't have to sacrifice love (or health) in order to get it. Hence why I simply want all 3 of those things so that ways I'll be the happiest man alive.

Lionheart, it's funny that you should feel so excluded. At my school there were plenty of singles guys and girls, but I guess that's just us. Someone has no friends. Actually, e-thug, I had a girlfriend both years (Junior and Senior) for prom and we both decided that wasting over 400 dollars on a glorified homecoming dance/dinner, was a bad move. I have plenty of friends. Would you like to see my facebook? Over 200 friends. Get real. It's the same reason I did not buy a class ring either. I believe that spending 200 dollars on something that I will look at and go "wow, high school sure was fun" is dumb. I'd rather save the money my parents would have spent on proms and a class ring, and have them give it to me for graduation, or help me pay for my college next year. But gosh, since I didn't go to prom, I must be SUCH a loser. Now now, no need to get defensive. If you didn't want someone making the obvious connection between disliking prom and having no friends you should have justified your response in the first post. Anyways, keep making good friends on facebook; those are the best ones to have =D> Anyways, I happen to be someone who enjoyed highschool and all the life-long lessons that I learned (outside of class obviously) and what better way to celebrate than with a high-class party. It's different from the usual parties, but I sure loved the dance part (which was actually better than the afterprom dance because I was the one who started it).

Being very wealthy (implied that I have big house etc....), being very healthy and having a perfect girlfriend. In my daily life I am always working towards those 3 things.

Peer pressure is a big one (as goddess said). A friend of mine once told me that social smoking (when a friend just gives you a sig for the hell of it) is usually what gets you started. Him along with many others have offered me a smoke once in a while and I've always refused as well as accepted and respected my non-smoking devotion. Almost everyone has ever given me a negative reaction after I say "no thanks, I don't smoke"

I don't even want to know what kind of stuff you're referring to :shock: . So anyways, try stuff like yoga. Or what I do is figure out what's bothering me and either resolve or ignore and then try to look at the bright side.

Totally awesome! Not only they had good food and bigger dance floor this time but I started it all and ended up dancing with, like, half the girls! (didn't have a date cause she wasn't around during prom, unfortunately). After-prom was ok but didn't have the same atmosphere, however I met with returning alumni from previous years so plenty of people I hadn't seen for a year. And as I went home, sunrise \ . Call it the unforgettable evening for an absolutely awesome year. I don't know if I can find any pictures, I know they are around but everyone seems to be too lazy to put them on facebook.