Noxx, how did you end up Qatar to begin with if your family and friends are in the US?

 

and Duff, you're not screwed. You lowered your chances a bit, sure, but it's nothing you can't recover from. There's no reply I can give you along the lines of "do this and it'll all work out" but if it was meant to be, it'll happen when you apply the right effort to the right situations.

Noxx, how did you end up Qatar to begin with if your family and friends are in the US?

 

and Duff, you're not screwed. You lowered your chances a bit, sure, but it's nothing you can't recover from. There's no reply I can give you along the lines of "do this and it'll all work out" but if it was meant to be, it'll happen when you apply the right effort to the right situations.

Rich and iirc his home country is Qatar (dont quote me on that)

Home country is South Africa. Moved to Qatar few years ago when my dad got a job here. I realise some of what i posted in my original post might be a bit unclear. Forgive me, it was quite late last night and my brain tends to turn off then.

Anyhow both my and her families are in Qatar at the moment. Will be for a very long time to come. She went to the US to study, so will I.

We used to talk about moving away when we were older. Kind of scary because that "when we're older" is approaching fast and it seems like its just about 2 years away.

Duff, actively move on. You showed chronic neediness, and it's quite possible she will judge some of your actions as needy even if they aren't. Don't invest much more emotionally than she does from now on. That goes for everyone else too. Continue talking to her if you want but don't keep initiating if she doesn't.

 

Meanwhile, meet new women and try to move on. This will help you get over her but will also raise your chances of fixing it. On that note, never start a conversation with the purpose of fixing a mistake unless you're in a relationship. It digs the hole deeper, trust me.

 

Nox I have no idea about your culture so take this with a grain of salt, but if I were under 18 I would be better off leaving the girl, though I probably wouldn't have. Over 18 and I would sit down with my parents and remind them that I'm an adult.

 

As for the fighting, I would end it if it can't be resolved. How can you expect the relationship to function normally in the future if it's not even working in the first year? It will most likely just get worse.

 

Oh and whoever said they are becoming emotionally dependent on a girl, start working on that asap. It's setting yourself up for disaster, and it's extremely unattractive.

Duff, actively move on. You showed chronic neediness, and it's quite possible she will judge some of your actions as needy even if they aren't. Don't invest much more emotionally than she does from now on. That goes for everyone else too. Continue talking to her if you want but don't keep initiating if she doesn't.

 

Meanwhile, meet new women and try to move on. This will help you get over her but will also raise your chances of fixing it. On that note, never start a conversation with the purpose of fixing a mistake unless you're in a relationship. It digs the hole deeper, trust me.

 

Nox I have no idea about your culture so take this with a grain of salt, but if I were under 18 I would be better off leaving the girl, though I probably wouldn't have. Over 18 and I would sit down with my parents and remind them that I'm an adult.

 

As for the fighting, I would end it if it can't be resolved. How can you expect the relationship to function normally in the future if it's not even working in the first year? It will most likely just get worse.

 

Oh and whoever said they are becoming emotionally dependent on a girl, start working on that asap. It's setting yourself up for disaster, and it's extremely unattractive.

When me and this girl first started dating and they first expressed their disapproval i told them that i am an adult, i am more than of making my own choices and it is their choice whether or not they are going to agree or not. But at the end of the day whether they agree or not the choice is still mine. Then i get the petty "its her or us" response and in all honesty as much as it pains me my parents have to come first.

I just read through the post i made last night and it seems i might have been very melodramatic but i'm guessing that was a combination of sleep deprivation and emotion.

Also when i say we fight a lot its not the arguing and shouting one would expect. Its a few minutes with a hostile vibe and then its gone. We always say that its impossible to stay mad at each other. Sometimes i think we just fight for the make-up sex :x

If i were to make this work, instead of just giving up, what would i have to do?

I can't give you much with the information you have given about your parents reasoning and details on the fights, but I would have a good talk with the parents. As for the hostility for a couple minutes at a time, it's only happened once in my almost year long relationship and that's all I can compare it to. I have little relationship experience compared to attraction so I'm not quite sure what is normal, or if normal is even desirable, but I would talk to her about the fighting.

 

Also, my girlfriend is having a pregnancy scare :(

Also, my girlfriend is having a pregnancy scare :(

 

AAAAAAAAAAAND Another person thought no rubbers will be 100% safe. so far EVERY person I know of who thought just the pill will do has had a scare or ended up a parent.

Also, my girlfriend is having a pregnancy scare :(

 

AAAAAAAAAAAND Another person thought no rubbers will be 100% safe. so far EVERY person I know of who thought just the pill will do has had a scare or ended up a parent.

 

No contraception is completely safe, even rubbers can cause scares.

Also, my girlfriend is having a pregnancy scare :(

 

AAAAAAAAAAAND Another person thought no rubbers will be 100% safe. so far EVERY person I know of who thought just the pill will do has had a scare or ended up a parent.

 

No contraception is completely safe, even rubbers can cause scares.

This. In fact, you're far better off on just the pill and no condoms than you would be the other way around (if you take the pill properly that is).

Duff, actively move on. You showed chronic neediness, and it's quite possible she will judge some of your actions as needy even if they aren't. Don't invest much more emotionally than she does from now on. That goes for everyone else too. Continue talking to her if you want but don't keep initiating if she doesn't.

 

Looks like that's my only option. Even if I may still have a chance, I don't see how I'll get the chance without backing off for a bit. Well, as much as I don't want to, I'm gonna do it. (thank you everyone who commented)

 

One quick question. What should I tell her if, perhaps, she asks me 'if everything is okay' or something like that? Keep in mind her older sister's wedding is in mid-August, so I'd rather not say something like, 'I just need to figure things out on my own. You probably won't be seeing me or hearing from me.' <-- cause I will see her (either at get togethers with friends or at the wedding.

Duff, actively move on. You showed chronic neediness, and it's quite possible she will judge some of your actions as needy even if they aren't. Don't invest much more emotionally than she does from now on. That goes for everyone else too. Continue talking to her if you want but don't keep initiating if she doesn't.

 

Looks like that's my only option. Even if I may still have a chance, I don't see how I'll get the chance without backing off for a bit. Well, as much as I don't want to, I'm gonna do it. (thank you everyone who commented)

 

One quick question. What should I tell her if, perhaps, she asks me 'if everything is okay' or something like that? Keep in mind her older sister's wedding is in mid-August, so I'd rather not say something like, 'I just need to figure things out on my own. You probably won't be seeing me or hearing from me.' <-- cause I will see her (either at get togethers with friends or at the wedding.

 

tell her you're going through a phase and to worry about other things. if she pursues in asking questions, at least you'll know she legitimately wants to get to know why.

 

I can't give you much with the information you have given about your parents reasoning and details on the fights, but I would have a good talk with the parents. As for the hostility for a couple minutes at a time, it's only happened once in my almost year long relationship and that's all I can compare it to. I have little relationship experience compared to attraction so I'm not quite sure what is normal, or if normal is even desirable, but I would talk to her about the fighting.

 

Also, my girlfriend is having a pregnancy scare :(

 

brilliant post! I remember my first pregnancy scare lol. Just remember that some couples actually struggle to have children even when they're trying. Her on the pill makes your odds pretty good. But you might want to start using rubbers as well as pills. Takes your mind off of it all.

 

Duff, actively move on. You showed chronic neediness, and it's quite possible she will judge some of your actions as needy even if they aren't. Don't invest much more emotionally than she does from now on. That goes for everyone else too. Continue talking to her if you want but don't keep initiating if she doesn't.

 

Meanwhile, meet new women and try to move on. This will help you get over her but will also raise your chances of fixing it. On that note, never start a conversation with the purpose of fixing a mistake unless you're in a relationship. It digs the hole deeper, trust me.

 

Nox I have no idea about your culture so take this with a grain of salt, but if I were under 18 I would be better off leaving the girl, though I probably wouldn't have. Over 18 and I would sit down with my parents and remind them that I'm an adult.

 

As for the fighting, I would end it if it can't be resolved. How can you expect the relationship to function normally in the future if it's not even working in the first year? It will most likely just get worse.

 

Oh and whoever said they are becoming emotionally dependent on a girl, start working on that asap. It's setting yourself up for disaster, and it's extremely unattractive.

When me and this girl first started dating and they first expressed their disapproval i told them that i am an adult, i am more than of making my own choices and it is their choice whether or not they are going to agree or not. But at the end of the day whether they agree or not the choice is still mine. Then i get the petty "its her or us" response and in all honesty as much as it pains me my parents have to come first.

I just read through the post i made last night and it seems i might have been very melodramatic but i'm guessing that was a combination of sleep deprivation and emotion.

Also when i say we fight a lot its not the arguing and shouting one would expect. Its a few minutes with a hostile vibe and then its gone. We always say that its impossible to stay mad at each other. Sometimes i think we just fight for the make-up sex :x

If i were to make this work, instead of just giving up, what would i have to do?

 

where Dan's knowledge ends, Ginger_Warrior's begins...but he's not around much anymore. It's toughh in your situation at the moment, but first opportunity you got to sit her down and tell her exactly what she means to you, and exactly how your parents feel about her. Tell her that you want the relationship to work [assuming you do] but it's become increasingly difficult due to distance and parental douchbaggery. between the two of you, you have to work something out, and likely think of it on your own between both of you that will get your relationship back on the right track. Dan is correct in saying that instability now only gets worse. Find the root of the issue and deal with it. Unfortunately not all issues are conquerable, which is why so many couples break up. Just remember, it's easier to break up now than it would be if you put a bandaid on the situation just to have the gash rip open again in a decade when you're trying to buy a house...or have kids...or get married, or anything.

 

It's tough because of the zone difference at the moment, and tell her that next time she calls/IMs/texts whatever. Be 100% clear and honest with your thoughts and feelings with her. If you can't do that, than the relationship won't last anyway. Be sure to inform her that you are doing everything in your power to make it work, and that you're willing to do even more. Because she means that much to you [i presume].

The pregnancy scare is more her end than mine, it happens every month and she gets the idea in her head and it snowballs. Neither of us like condoms, me because i've experienced the alternative and because it's difficult to finish wearing one. I'll often start getting bored during sex with a condom and if I could fake it I would probably be pretty tempted at times. Her because it feels unnatural and she gets worried about my pleasure.

I keep pushing her to see a doctor and ask about other methods but it doesn't happen. Maybe this time :/

 

We do use condoms roughly during her fertile period and that made her feel better but only for a little while.

 

 

Duff if she asks you what's wrong then tell her the truth. You realised you were being needy, don't like that about yourself and you're fixing it.

Duff if she asks you what's wrong then tell her the truth. You realised you were being needy, don't like that about yourself and you're fixing it.

Great! Sounds like a fair response to both her and myself. Thanks a lot. :thumbup:

The pregnancy scare is more her end than mine, it happens every month and she gets the idea in her head and it snowballs. Neither of us like condoms, me because i've experienced the alternative and because it's difficult to finish wearing one. I'll often start getting bored during sex with a condom and if I could fake it I would probably be pretty tempted at times. Her because it feels unnatural and she gets worried about my pleasure.

I keep pushing her to see a doctor and ask about other methods but it doesn't happen. Maybe this time :/

 

We do use condoms roughly during her fertile period and that made her feel better but only for a little while.

 

 

Duff if she asks you what's wrong then tell her the truth. You realised you were being needy, don't like that about yourself and you're fixing it.

 

you make me think that Aussie condoms are thicker than American ones. Or maybe you're just not very sensitive? I'unno, I don't mind condoms, but I guess that's just me.

The pregnancy scare is more her end than mine, it happens every month and she gets the idea in her head and it snowballs. Neither of us like condoms, me because i've experienced the alternative and because it's difficult to finish wearing one. I'll often start getting bored during sex with a condom and if I could fake it I would probably be pretty tempted at times. Her because it feels unnatural and she gets worried about my pleasure.

I keep pushing her to see a doctor and ask about other methods but it doesn't happen. Maybe this time :/

 

We do use condoms roughly during her fertile period and that made her feel better but only for a little while.

 

 

Duff if she asks you what's wrong then tell her the truth. You realised you were being needy, don't like that about yourself and you're fixing it.

 

you make me think that Aussie condoms are thicker than American ones. Or maybe you're just not very sensitive? I'unno, I don't mind condoms, but I guess that's just me.

As someone who's only ever used them (and not by MY choice), they seriously destroy 90% of the feel. I have yet to actually climax with a chick, and at almost 21 it's [bleep]ing embarassing.

Is it the fact that you've never climaxed during sex embarrassing, or is it the fact that you can't climax because of the condom? If it's the latter, I don't see what's embarrassing about it. You should straight up tell the girl ahead of time, because if she cared about how you feel during sex, she'd do something about it. Not your fault that she's making you wear something that you don't get pleasure out of.

 

If it's the first, I don't know why anyone else has to know about that little tidbit. If no one else knows, it shouldn't be embarrassing; if the chicks know, it's their fault you haven't cause their the ones making you wear one.

The pregnancy scare is more her end than mine, it happens every month and she gets the idea in her head and it snowballs. Neither of us like condoms, me because i've experienced the alternative and because it's difficult to finish wearing one. I'll often start getting bored during sex with a condom and if I could fake it I would probably be pretty tempted at times. Her because it feels unnatural and she gets worried about my pleasure.

I keep pushing her to see a doctor and ask about other methods but it doesn't happen. Maybe this time :/

 

We do use condoms roughly during her fertile period and that made her feel better but only for a little while.

 

 

Duff if she asks you what's wrong then tell her the truth. You realised you were being needy, don't like that about yourself and you're fixing it.

 

you make me think that Aussie condoms are thicker than American ones. Or maybe you're just not very sensitive? I'unno, I don't mind condoms, but I guess that's just me.

As someone who's only ever used them (and not by MY choice), they seriously destroy 90% of the feel. I have yet to actually climax with a chick, and at almost 21 it's [bleep]ing embarassing.

Wait, if you've never not used condoms, how do you know how much feel they destroy? For all you know it only gets rid of the 10% that'll out you over the edge to climax.

The pregnancy scare is more her end than mine, it happens every month and she gets the idea in her head and it snowballs. Neither of us like condoms, me because i've experienced the alternative and because it's difficult to finish wearing one. I'll often start getting bored during sex with a condom and if I could fake it I would probably be pretty tempted at times. Her because it feels unnatural and she gets worried about my pleasure.

I keep pushing her to see a doctor and ask about other methods but it doesn't happen. Maybe this time :/

 

We do use condoms roughly during her fertile period and that made her feel better but only for a little while.

 

 

Duff if she asks you what's wrong then tell her the truth. You realised you were being needy, don't like that about yourself and you're fixing it.

 

you make me think that Aussie condoms are thicker than American ones. Or maybe you're just not very sensitive? I'unno, I don't mind condoms, but I guess that's just me.

As someone who's only ever used them (and not by MY choice), they seriously destroy 90% of the feel. I have yet to actually climax with a chick, and at almost 21 it's [bleep]ing embarassing.

 

tell the girl you can last virtually forever with a condom. truth. problem solved.

you just gotta work something out for afterward.

Honestly I don't think it's that embarrassing. I've had a few occasions like that, but...[cabbage] happens, life goes on and I don't really care that much lol

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Maybe cause most girls on Runescape are actually guys.

did i miss something?

Some guy deleted a post most likely about dating on runescape or why all girls are actually guys on runescape.

He was disappointed about how girls on Runescape a basically not deep and how girls on Runescape aren't deep and won't talk seriously with you (about relationship advice or relationships in general, be it between you and the girl or you and someone else). At least that was the gist of his post, and what I responded to.

How he has not realied yet the general maturity age on Runescape doesn't exceed 12 is beyond me.

I'm friends with plenty of girls on RuneScape (I do know they're actually girls). I've never once ever considered any of them as a potential girlfriend. Frankly, I don't think they'd be offended by that.

 

How the hell would that even work?