How mature is she? If she's mature then some tactful honesty should be appreciated after a few days of cool-down time.

 

If she's a drama queen then just run. Run.

Honesty isn't what I'm after here, I just want as little drama as possible in my interactions with her. It's just going to get in the way of the association's goals.

 

Honesty is still your best bet. If she's dramatic and immature there will be drama regardless of what you do...unless you want to continue to play dumb indefinitely.

 

If she's somewhat mature she'll appreciate the honesty on some level and you can move on with no drama.

Why aren't you interested in her, in the first place?

She's an unhappy person who would add next to no valuable content to my life. She's also not very pretty.

 

Also, be honest. Sure, she may not like it but just talk to her and tell her that you're not interested in her like that, and that you wish to just be friends.

I'm deadly scared that I've been misinterpreting her signals. Were I wrong, I'm not convinced I would survive the embarrassment. My plan right now is to wait until she makes a clear move, at which point I'll tell her that no.

 

@TTanT & y_guy: From what I've heard, she is a drama queen, or maybe some milder form of that, but it's true that there's not much I can do about it. I'd rather deal with whatever could be whipped up than leave the association or something of the sort; that would be plain silly.

Call her "man" "dude" and "bro" a lot when you hang around her. She'll get the hint.

Better to let her down now rather than later, after she's honestly started to believe a relationship in on the cards. If you're not interested, you're probably going to hurt her feelings either way. If you do it sooner, it'll hurt a lot less.

 

If you want to be liked by someone regardless of your choices, get a dog. Human aren't as gullible.

Call her "man" "dude" and "bro" a lot when you hang around her. She'll get the hint.

 

For best results, call her Brodudemanguy

If you want to be liked by someone regardless of your choices, get a dog. Human aren't as gullible.

 

QFT. No girlfriend/wife/partner will ever love you as much as your dog does.

 

Of course, girlfriends (hopefully) slobber less when they kiss you. :P

It's precisely because she's a drama queen that you should be honest. If you act as un-dramatically as possible it gives you the best chance to avoid her drama, by being honest and straightforward.

If she's just being flirtatious then I think he should ignore it until she makes a clear move. You can't just come out of nowhere saying "I don't want to date you".

It's actually quite funny that calling a girl "dude", "bro", etc actually works on some girls. And when i say works, i mean it makes them more attracted to you.

http://blackdragonblog.wordpress.com/2013/03/10/making-excuses-or-overcoming-your-personal-shortcomings/

 

:thumbsup:

If she's just being flirtatious then I think he should ignore it until she makes a clear move. You can't just come out of nowhere saying "I don't want to date you".

 

Yeah but she's pushing it to the point where (in her mind) they're going on a date (per his first post). That's a clear move imo...

If she's just being flirtatious then I think he should ignore it until she makes a clear move. You can't just come out of nowhere saying "I don't want to date you".

I wouldn't just say "I don't want to date you". I'd just let it be known quite obviously through my body language that, while I'm happy to be friendly, I don't reciprocate her flirting. ;)

Turns out the museum is closed Monday nights. Crisis averted, for now...

Turns out the museum is closed Monday nights. Crisis averted, for now...

 

Can't you just go by yourself and not tell her?

No, but only because I can't go anymore. Well I probably can if I get my studying together but I probably won't, so I'd rather have my other evenings free. Otherwise, that would be my plan.

Also, flirt with her friends in front of her, or hook up with her friends. That's how I ended up getting this one girl off my back. And ended up hooking up with her friend off and on for nearly a year. Worked like a charm, kinda.

If she's just being flirtatious then I think he should ignore it until she makes a clear move. You can't just come out of nowhere saying "I don't want to date you".

I wouldn't just say "I don't want to date you". I'd just let it be known quite obviously through my body language that, while I'm happy to be friendly, I don't reciprocate her flirting. ;)

EDIT: Going to remake this, since sometimes I feel like I am letting my crazy out.

 

Depending on just how into you she is, and how much drama she is prone to, you might be in a situation where trying to ignore it will ultimately make it worse. I'm a bit wary of people who impose themselves into my schedule instead of asking me out to do something, but maybe that's just me. I probably wouldn't do anything right away, since coming out of the blue like that is a good way to be known as a lunatic, but if she doesn't take the hint after a couple weeks, I'd seriously consider having the just friends talk or something.

Just try to get on the subject of relationships and mention that for the time being, you aren't looking to date anyone. As simple as that.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbDlHW5aAC0

But... what if "she" turns out to be a very convincing cross dresser?

 

We need to cover all the bases, Kaida.

Claim to be a woman crossdressing as a man when she he makes that revelation.

This thread is reading more and more like a tacky version of Twelfth Night with every post. :P

For the museum thing, I think the best option is to tell her you want to check it out on your own, then go do just that.

We didn't even go, it's closed tonight. Today in class she expressed disappointment at the fact that I had gotten her hopes up before checking whether the museum was even open. I answered that I had told her I might go to the museum, and that she had replied "I'll totally go with you!", so it was, if anything, her fault. She said "Touché". In other words, nothing really happened.