"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[RpgGamer]

I have nothing to talk about with pretty girls... Just ends in awkward silence.

And I am really hard to impress that much that I would make a move. I have quite ridculously high standards for girls and it is costing me dearly. But there is no way I am going lower, just for the heck of it.

But I am a great drinking partner for guys. I don't know why, but I always have like 4-5 dudes around that I am chattiing with. And I get invited practically everywhere where guys have a party. Now, during my trip to Slovakia I got 3 phone calls calling me to parties, just in case I had left or arrived earlier. And yet I don't get along with girls. At all.

 

 

After reading this I'm going to try "God dammit you're beautiful when you talk" as a line.

(excuse this post I've had 11 martinis and a beer in the last few hours, I'm not sure how I'm typing so well)

 

I'm a real guy's guy too. I get along with dude's like no other. I know their struggle. Earning their respect and trust comes naturally to me. Girls? I am flabberghasted most of the time. Its so rare for me to hit it off "properly" with a girl. Especially one in my age range of 1-2 years. But it's all about starting off on the right foot I guess. Go watch The Girl Next Door with Elisha Cuthbert. Think about how the Porn producer acts and talks to people. Obviously it's a movie, but his personality is so charismatic and fluid, I feel there's some pointers to be taken from his performance. Other than that, I'm pretty much in the same boat. Unless a chick is hardcore checking me out when I'm with my friends, it's real hard to start up a conversation.

 

"physcial standards" are stupid. Not every girl is going to take your breath away immediately. And you'd be wrong to assume that's your effect on the girls you pass by. Give the girl a chance.

[muggiwhplar]

I don't really treat girls much differently than I do guys. Girls are very easily-offended (or at least act like they are) compared to guys, though. So if/when a girl's like, "I can't believe you said/did that! That offends me!" I just say, "Really?" with this kind of a look on my face. Then they usually either admit that they were just acting offended for whatever reason and lighten up, or they disappear fast. Win-win :D

[Estonian dude]

I didn't mean only physical standards. Those of mine are quite easy to pass - no excess fat and not looking hideous. But I am personally very intelligent and knowledgeable, so it kinda makes it hard to find a girl with who I can hold an intelligent conversation aswell. Because frankly, most of the girls are plain stupid imo. If one doesn't know who Lenin was, [bleep] off.

[nine naked men]

You won't talk to girls unless they know a forums poster here who hasn't actually posted in like 3 years? I guess that counts as a standard, I dunno if it's particularly "high" though.

[Ginger_Warrior]

It's not often I genuinely lol at TIF posts these days!

[Estonian dude]

That, my dear Lang would be so high standard that I don't know absolutely anyone in Estonia who would meet it...

 

And LOL indeed.

[Omar]

But I am personally very intelligent and knowledgeable, so it kinda makes it hard to find a girl with who I can hold an intelligent conversation aswell. Because frankly, most of the girls are plain stupid imo. If one doesn't know who Lenin was, [bleep] off.

Nominating for Most Masturbatory Post 2013.

[Ishamael]

I didn't mean only physical standards. Those of mine are quite easy to pass - no excess fat and not looking hideous. But I am personally very intelligent and knowledgeable, so it kinda makes it hard to find a girl with who I can hold an intelligent conversation aswell. Because frankly, most of the girls are plain stupid imo. If one doesn't know who Lenin was, [bleep] off.

 

Are you looking to get laid or to find a life partner? Who cares if she's dumb or not lol.

 

So anyways, went to a dance last night and saw my ex. I haven't seen her in like, 2-3 months and I've been working out pretty hardcore these past months. The expression on her face was priceless when she saw me, she knows what she's missing :P. It was a country dance so basically the dance floor is surrounded by tables. So every time I danced with someone, she was forced to watch. So yeah, that was a crapload of fun haha.

[Estonian dude]

I do. Seriously, I can't even be close to such idiots. Like automatically, if you don't know for example, who is the president of Estonia and you are an Estonian, I will leave. Automatically. It's like being around someone who stinks of shit if one is stupid...

[Omar]

Nevermind, topped it.

[Ginger_Warrior]

I do. Seriously, I can't even be close to such idiots. Like automatically, if you don't know for example, who is the president of Estonia and you are an Estonian, I will leave. Automatically. It's like being around someone who stinks of shit if one is stupid...

I'd suggest that if something such as that would stop you from even interacting with someone, then it's probably you who is the pretentious idiot, not them, and you're probably doing them a massive favour by taking the decision not to talk to them out of their hands.

[Ishamael]

SaqPrets, you overthink these things way too much.

[Estonian dude]

Maybe. And please, call me Prets or Saq, just sounds a lot better and they are both my nicknames.

 

I might be a stupid ignorant idiot and I do overthink. But that's just who I am.

On a different topic, going to an Example concert right now.

Alone.

Like seriously, only person that I know that will be there is a girl in my class who is a bartender at the spot. And I don't get along with her that well.

For one night then, I will be sober and I will check for any random girls. But I can't guarantee any good will come out of it...

[Omar]

I might be a stupid ignorant idiot and I do overthink. But that's just who I am.

Since you're such an intellectual, maybe you should read Existentialism is a Humanism by Sartre. You're just making excuses for your shortcomings by pretending your personality and behaviour are outside of your control, and thus aren't your responsibility.

 

On a different topic, going to an Example concert right now.

Alone.

Like seriously, only person that I know that will be there is a girl in my class who is a bartender at the spot. And I don't get along with her that well.

For one night then, I will be sober and I will check for any random girls. But I can't guarantee any good will come out of it...

You can always have a couple of brews, just don't drown yourself.

[Estonian dude]

I can't really afford a couple of brews anymore... I have drinked WAY too much and spent way too much money on alcohol so I think I am doing myself a favour by not drinking.

 

And my shortcomings are what they are. It's not that I can turn myself from a social hermit to a ladies' men in a few weeks, months or even years. I have improved massively in the last 3 years, but I am still not ready to talk to strangers. I can't. I'd rather drink alone than do that.

But I will try tonight.

[muggiwhplar]

Saq you need to ask yourself: "How's this working out for me?"

 

By being an "intellectual," are you getting laid a lot? Are girls lining up to hang out with you and be your girlfriend?

 

No? Then you need to change yourself instead of expecting the rest of the world to change for you.

 

And my shortcomings are what they are. It's not that I can turn myself from a social hermit to a ladies' men in a few weeks, months or even years. I have improved massively in the last 3 years, but I am still not ready to talk to strangers. I can't. I'd rather drink alone than do that.

But I will try tonight.

 

http://blackdragonbl...l-shortcomings/

[Estonian dude]

Ok, now on never going to a concert without a wingman.

Well, Example will be worth it.

[RpgGamer]

Being sober really isn't that much of a burden Saq. I think you should try to date a liberal hippy LBGTQ chick. Open your mind to the truly strange things in life that you seem to be blocking out with your utmost might.

[Estonian dude]

Wtf is LBGTQ?

And yeah, didn't meet anyone new after all. Girl in my class got free before the man himself performed and so I just hung out with her. But nothing is gonna come out from that, just friends. Had somewhat of a good time even though the man didn't perform my latest favourites, like "Queen Of Your Dreams".

 

Oh, BTW, having a meeting with around 50 Americans tomorrow and at least half of them are girls. Nevada City High School Choir is going to visit us and we will give a concert together the day after tomorrow, but tomorrow we will be partying together. Will probs be my 4th evening drinking in a row, NOT GOOD. But I am gonna let out the prince charming in me since I am bound to start socializing with people anyway and I am one of the shiniest stars of our choir.

 

Contrabass. No song has probably ever been written for a choir where I can't get the lowest note. I am almost as low as the lowest [bleep]ing note on a grand piano.

[Omar]

What didn't you do right (assuming you were interested)?

[Estonian dude]

What do you mean by that? If you mean this girl from my class, then yes, I wasn't interested. Contrary to some people I do NOT want to screw everything on two feet.

[Ishamael]

It's not that I want to screw everything on two feet. I have standards. But we're young and now is the time to have fun and experiment a little with this kind of stuff. No point in being shy or whatever. It's the time to get out there and show people who Prets is :P.

 

It's nice to have female friends, however. They have different point-of-views on certain affairs and who knows, they may have hot single friends.

[Estonian dude]

And that is just what's gonna happen tomorrow. If I don't get a taste of American lips in the next 2 days, I would be EXTREMELY disappointed. That is, unless they are all hideous, but I don't think this will happen.

[Omar]

What do you mean by that? If you mean this girl from my class, then yes, I wasn't interested. Contrary to some people I do NOT want to screw everything on two feet.

Pride yourself in something else.

[RpgGamer]

So, remember the random girl I mentioned in the last chunk of my spring break video part 2? The one that I gave slight mention to earlier in my postings? My today thread post might spoil a bit, but I'll get more detailed in here cause I know you all love reading my bull crap. Or at least read it.

 

She's awesome. Her literal job is to be a party girl. She plans raves, meets DJs, gets connections, rents spaces, hosts parties and rages hard. She's far from perfect, and I love it. She's like wildfire surging through a forest. On acid. God she makes me smile. But I was in it before I learned more about her, and the more I know the more awesome it becomes. She was a ittle nervous about talking about her drug usage, but assured me she's chilled out with it. She actually reminds me a lot of the rave girl I nearly dated last year. But I suppose they'd all have something in common, right? Anyway, she's of Jewish hertiage (random bonus points in my book), loves beads and acid, especially in combination, professional club dancer, willing to try anything, really into BDSM as a submissive, and she cam girls on the side for extra cash. Oh, and she's got a handful of tattoos, the devil's smile and heart stopping glances.

 

Could she be any more fantastic?

 

Unfortunately, due to her lifstyle, she's moving to NY (like 2 hours up from me) in a month and a half so our 'relationship' will be short lived. She's moving in with an old FwB who's rich out of his mind for free so you know something's going on there. I'm going to have to put up with meeting a bunch of her old scuzzy exes and stuff on Saturday when I party with her, but you know what? I don't care. It's gonna be a little dramatic, she'll likely dose me with something, and I'm gonna have a [bleep]ing blast. It won't last forever, but dammit I'm going to squeeze the life out of every second I spend with her when I move in with her for the allotted time period. It's like a lightbulb's last few seconds of life - shinging brighter than ever before, and than; poof. And it's out.

 

And while there is a fairly designated end point (I think she said like April 15 or something is when she moves) Our light is going to shine BRIGHT until than.

 

And I have the biggest grin on my face.