RpgGamer Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Am I wrong or is kissing on the first date an obligation? I mean, unless the date is an absolute disaster [and not the funny kind]. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Romy Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Am I wrong or is kissing on the first date an obligation? I mean, unless the date is an absolute disaster [and not the funny kind]. An obligation? Why would it be an obligation? Sure, it's an advantage, but some people are shy, you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helpmeownlife Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 RPG (lolz I'm the one giving advice this time =D), most people consider it an obligation, although that word has such a negative conversation. I heard a very useful peace of advice when I was studying: if she's hold your hand, chances are, she wants, or at least would be ok with you kissing her. Some people even go as far to say that if you don't kiss on the first date, there's nothing there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Romy Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I disagree. I've had quite a few first dates that didn't result in a kiss, but we ended up together. I'm not talking only about "formal" dates though. :unsure: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obfuscator Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I disagree. I've had quite a few first dates that didn't result in a kiss, but we ended up together. I'm not talking only about "formal" dates though. :unsure:Agreed. There's no need to rush things - if someone doesn't want to kiss on the first date you should learn to live with that. It doesn't automatically doom a relationship by any means. "It's not a rest for me, it's a rest for the weights." - Dom Mazzetti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amaranth_GTO Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Am I wrong or is kissing on the first date an obligation? I mean, unless the date is an absolute disaster [and not the funny kind].It depends. If you do kiss on the first date, then it's a lot more likely that there will be a second date. But it's not an obligation, some people really don't want to and it doesn't always kill the relationship. Also, I know I'm pretty late with this, but remember the twins I was talking about? I asked them about guys, and they said that it used to be a problem when they were like 13, but they grew out of it and now usually never like the same guy... and they both have boyfriends. Damn. Oh well, I just got back from hanging out with this other girl. Turns out she goes to camp next week for like a month, so hopefully this'll be a fun week for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aquariusman Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Well, I guess it's settled for me then. Thanks a lot guys!I'm going to disagree with everyone and say that you should do it as soon as possible. Waiting for her to come back, dragging out the relationship for weeks, is just disrespecting her. She'll be away thinking and dreaming that she'll come back to you and everything will be perfect, and then you'll drop the bomb of you two breaking up. If you break up now, she'll have the vacation to recover, maybe even find someone else to fool around with. Think of what's going to happen when she comes back and you break up with her.How are you going to explain your reasons? Are you going to lie to her say it was because she was gone for too long? You can't say you're her friend if you do that. I'd like to know why people think it's better to drag out a break-up. There's no such thing as regret. A regret means you are unhappy with the person you are now,and if you're unhappy with the person you are, you change yourself. Thatregret will no longer be a regret, because it will help to form the new,better you. So really, a regret isn't a regret. It's experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Romy Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I'm on the fence here. Neither action seems ideal for me, that's why I never said anything about it. :unsure: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Well, I guess it's settled for me then. Thanks a lot guys!I'm going to disagree with everyone and say that you should do it as soon as possible. Waiting for her to come back, dragging out the relationship for weeks, is just disrespecting her. She'll be away thinking and dreaming that she'll come back to you and everything will be perfect, and then you'll drop the bomb of you two breaking up. If you break up now, she'll have the vacation to recover, maybe even find someone else to fool around with. Think of what's going to happen when she comes back and you break up with her.How are you going to explain your reasons? Are you going to lie to her say it was because she was gone for too long? You can't say you're her friend if you do that. I'd like to know why people think it's better to drag out a break-up. My dad said the EXACT same thing, even down to the fooling around part. I just don't want to ruin her trip though, she leaves Friday (today is Tuesday). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iamdan Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 A kiss isn't an obligation on the first date. It's not about the date, or what she says, or whether she laughs at your jokes. It's about her level of attraction, body language and emotional investment in you. Do those compliance tests I've talked about to see whether she wants to kiss you or not. I broke up with a girl right before a trip and she said she wished I waited. It would be different for each girl though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tripsis Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 The way I see it: If you break up with a girl after the trip, she'll enjoy the trip but feel like a bit of a fool afterwards (for missing you, thinking of you, etc.). If you break up with a girl before the trip, she'll either have a miserable time and the trip will be ruined because she's upset OR she'll be upset for a bit but the trip will allow her to relax and maybe escape from it all and seek out other opportunities. This one greatly depends on what kind of person she is. Maybe the first option is wrong since you're intentionally dragging it out.. but based on the above, it seems like the option with less of a risk. - 99 fletching | 99 thieving | 99 construction | 99 herblore | 99 smithing | 99 woodcutting - - 99 runecrafting - 99 prayer - 125 combat - 95 farming - - Blog - DeviantART - Book Reviews & Blog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furah Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 A good rule of thumb for kissing is when she starts looking at your lips. Always followed this rule and it's never turned out bad because of it. :thumbsup: Steam | PM me for BBM PIN Nine naked men is a technological achievement. Quote of 2013. PCGamingWiki - Let's fix PC gaming! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 The way I see it:If you break up with a girl after the trip, she'll enjoy the trip but feel like a bit of a fool afterwards (for missing you, thinking of you, etc.).If you break up with a girl before the trip, she'll either have a miserable time and the trip will be ruined because she's upset OR she'll be upset for a bit but the trip will allow her to relax and maybe escape from it all and seek out other opportunities. This one greatly depends on what kind of person she is.Maybe the first option is wrong since you're intentionally dragging it out.. but based on the above, it seems like the option with less of a risk. The thing is, she really does still like me a lot, and she will miss me. So waiting won't drag it out for her, because she likes me a lot, just for me. But if I do it before the trip, she's the kind of girl that I think would at least try to get over it soon and have fun, but i'm not 100% sure if it would ruin it or not. A good rule of thumb for kissing is when she starts looking at your lips. Always followed this rule and it's never turned out bad because of it. :thumbsup: I've read on a few places and heard from friends that if you reach up and touch her hair and she doesn't try to stop you, then you can kiss her. It was called the kissing test or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 negative conversation. connotation ;) I've always figured that if you're able to say "yes" to the guy [or girl in the seldom case] you're okay with the responsibility of the high likelyhood that there will be lip-to-lip contact of some sort. The that kiss would be either good or bad, which then allows further judgment for the possibility of a second date. This of course all falls under a "formal" date, which personally I'm much more comfortable in and operate a lot better under. There's also the whole "90/10" thing that was taught to us by the lovely movie Hitch. You go 90%, she'll go 10%. Honestly, unless the girl previously discussed extreme discomfort to kissing on th first date prior, I'd be vey insulted if I didn't get atleast one over the course of the date [which first dates for me, ideally are 5-6 hours]. I'm a farly physical person. Kissing is pretty important in a relationship to me. It might sound shallow, but honestly, without the physical chemistry/compatibility, said attractive girl goes from "date" to "friend". Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ouchy Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 On the subject of first dates, where would be a good place to go? The movie's? My relaxation method involves a bottle of lotion, beautiful women, and partial nudity. Yes I get massages. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furah Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 NO! Try one of these fun ideas: - ice skating- a park- the beach Steam | PM me for BBM PIN Nine naked men is a technological achievement. Quote of 2013. PCGamingWiki - Let's fix PC gaming! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ouchy Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 NO! Try one of these fun ideas: - ice skating- a park- the beach Sweet thanks for the suggestions :thumbup: My relaxation method involves a bottle of lotion, beautiful women, and partial nudity. Yes I get massages. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amaranth_GTO Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Go roller blading, go to the beach, go to a park or a big hill in your area and take a kite, go to that really good (not that expensive) restaurant. Do something where the two of you can talk and interact, and not just sit next to each other staring at a screen for 2 hours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RpgGamer Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 On the subject of first dates, where would be a good place to go? The movie's? oh, lord we're going to have this argument again. Might I suggest mini-golf, pool, swimming, beach, batting cages, park, walking or bowling? [more towards mini-golf in that list tbh] Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Definitely after. I fourth the motion for breaking up afterward. That way you can claim that you've felt distant from her seeing as how you yourself just came back from a long vacation. let her enjoy her vacation, and then break up with her when she gets back. I'm going to agree with the man who disagreed. I dpostponed my breakup for a couple of days, and it was hell for me. I was in contact with the girl furing those few days though. Leading someone on through a vacation will be tough.@ Ouchy: don't expect the entertainment around you to suffice. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone, you want to be able to BE the entertainment. Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude? Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you? Camera guy: still laughing Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy Camera guy: runs away still laughing Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]! Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fakeitormakeit2 Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 A good rule of thumb for kissing is when she starts looking at your lips. Always followed this rule and it's never turned out bad because of it. :thumbsup:Finally someone who uses the same rule ^.^ My friends are like wtf are you talking about. He who wears his morality but as his best garment were better naked... Your daily life is your temple and your religion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenticular_J Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 One of many indicators of interest. A woman who is very attracted to you will rarely hold eye contact, instead she'll look at the rest of you if she has no other way out. Made a lot of observations last night with some friends. I'm a ridiculously good wingman. For example: I wore my favorite tie last night. It's a shade of blue that most (color professionals?) agree is one of, if not the, most attractive color to the human eye. Girl my friend was interested in wanted to know how to tie a tie. Might have been either her flirting with me or trying to make him jealous, maybe even both, but whatever. I took off my tie, told her to have fun, and went to talk with the band, while my friend swooped in and taught her. Even though I've told him to pursue girls his own age, the lecherous guy. Haha. My soon-to-be-lady's in Hawaii, I don't recall for how long. I want to say four days. Then I have a date with her mother asking permission to date her (would ask the father or even step-father, advised not to). We're both old-school romantics, and it's fun. catch it now so you can like it before it went so mainstream Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Furah Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 What do you do on a date with the mother? Also how ask her on a date to ask for permission to date her daughter? What about with the father? You're the only person I know of who does this. Steam | PM me for BBM PIN Nine naked men is a technological achievement. Quote of 2013. PCGamingWiki - Let's fix PC gaming! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iamdan Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 Couldn't help myself :P I wanted to spend some time on it but I'm going back to bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenticular_J Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 Actually, the script has been ... nailed ... down."Oh hey missus [you don't know this, even though it isn't the girl's last name], i'm gonna date [hot daughter], sound good? alright cool. how's the lemonade?" And I'm like yes. catch it now so you can like it before it went so mainstream Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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