Did you use a fake/photoshopped image?

 

or a *god forbid* instagram'd photo

2 quick thoughts on online dating mugg,

 

make your profile picture attention grabbing. Even better than an ab shot could be a picture of you wearing some kind of novelty hat or an eye patch. Most guys have boring display pictures - something redically different will make her curious. It doesn't need to trigger attraction or anything, just get her curious enough to click your profile.

 

Also, if you send out mass messges then you instantly convey yourself to be like every other guy who does the same. I imagine generic mass messages are pretty common and easy to identify. Personalise them, even if you use a basic template and then comment on how you think her figure skating hobby is cool or whatever.

Dan, are you still around or do you just pop in from time to time?

I just stop by every now and then to see what everyone is up to - I stopped frequenting a while back after this place started to slow down. Even with more relaxed moderation and almost no limits here there doesn't seem to be much going on anymore :(

make your profile picture attention grabbing. Even better than an ab shot could be a picture of you wearing some kind of novelty hat or an eye patch.

 

How about me wearing a viking helm in a brothel? >_>

make your profile picture attention grabbing. Even better than an ab shot could be a picture of you wearing some kind of novelty hat or an eye patch.

 

How about me wearing a viking helm in a brothel? >_>

 

Only if you hold a mug of mead in one hand and a saucy wench in the other.

That can be arranged :)

I find life really frustrating sometimes. The past week me and my friends have been going out pretty much every night, and i would see Claire pretty much every night when i got back home. There's something about it that just gave me so much more confidence. Knowing that even if i do not end up having a good time at whatever bar we might be going to, i'll end up having a good time when i see Claire later that night. It's given me so much confidence that i would randomly strike up conversations with people while getting a drink at the bar, or people would actually come up to me and talk to me. Last night we were at a club/bar. Me and my friend were in a really good mood and we decided we were going to make complete fools of ourselves and go dance. Out of nowhere, while dancing, i somehow accidentally started a dance-off. It was hilarious because i'm by no means a great dancer but the guy felt he had something to prove so i decided i would play along. It's something i would have never really done before because i would be so afraid of what people might think of me, but i just don't care anymore and i think i showed that. People were cheering and it felt pretty cool, i'm not going to lie. After that i saw a girl get up from the table she was sitting at and walk straight at me. At first i didn't think she was really coming towards me but i kept kind of looking at her and it became clear that she was walking right to me. She came over to me and grabbed my hand and started dancing with me. Again i decided "[bleep] it, i'm gonna dance no matter how stupid i look". 2 or 3 songs later i told her i was going to get a drink and asked her if she would like to join me. I got us both a drink and we went outside to the patio area to catch some fresh air. We talked and she said she was sorry for randomly dancing with me it just looked like i was having such a good time she wanted to meet me. She ended up giving me her number (it's kind of weird because i can't remember ever asking for a girls number here, they always offer to give it to me which i assume is a good thing). We talked a bit more and then i decided to get back to my friends. Earlier today she sent me a text (i kind of forgot that i met her) and asked me if i wanted to go out for coffee so she can repay me for the drink i got her last night. We went out and had a pretty good time. She was a bit hard to talk to for some reason. The conversation wasn't exactly as flowing as i would have liked but it was still kind of nice. She asked me if i wanted to see her again sometime this week to which i said yes, but i'll have to let her know when.

 

Have to admit that things are getting pretty fun. Just frustrating how, when you dont have a girl in the picture getting one in the picture can be so hard. But once there's a girl in the picture it's so easy to pick up more girls.

 

 

I need to go to this bar haha, place sounds magic!

 

 

also,

 

Hi Dan! Nice of you to drop by again!

That can be arranged :)

 

No pic no proof! If it's too inappropriate to post here, just pm me...

If anyone has inappropriate pictures, pm me. Thanks.

If anyone wants to know just how hairy y_guy's legs are (and more), pm me.

So girl number one texted me today, few days after i sent her a text. She told me that she was really sorry for being so quiet the past few days, she's just been really busy. She also said that the thing between her and i was kind of bad timing because she's being overloading with things to focus on. I kind of under stand what she means, but i also feel like she's making up excuses in a way. I think i might just decide to go with it for a few more days. Maybe till the end of this weekend and then see what happens after that. I still feel like i like her. But the problem is now, she's someone i can't get so i want her even more. She's a really cool girl and i did enjoy the times we spent together hanging out and whatnot, despite the fact that she moved really slow. I feel like she's more the kind of girl i want to be in a relationship with. The other girl is awesome too, but her priorities in a relationship seems to be focused more on sex than anything else, and that's not where my priorities lie sadly. So i guess i'll see what happens over the course of the next week or two. If girl number one is still acting the way she is now i might have to cut her loose because the other girl is starting to like me a lot and i don't want to end up hurting her when girl number one finally decides she wants to start hanging out again.

I'm confused (again).

 

Girl number one is the one you met at the bar before you went away and girl number two is the one you met (at the bar assume) upon your return. And the first girl was french or is that girl number 2? And which one is claire?

 

And I thought you were still sort of in a situation where you could be in a relationship with either? So pick the one who you feel is right for you, or your going to be beating yourself up over this forever.

Which one was the girl you took on a midnight trip to the beach with? I think you should go for her. And why is your life like a visual novel?...

The girl i met just before leaving is out of the picture now. Have not spoken to her in ages. The French girl is out of the picture too now. Been that way for about 2 months. She started acting a bit crazy on me. Very jelous, and very needy/clingy. She would want to spend every night at my place and that's something i couldn't handle because i have a lot of stuff i need to do, like study for exams, prepare for flights, etc. She was just becoming a distraction i didn't need.

Girl number one is a girl i met a month ago today, to be exact. Haha just realised. Girl nuber two (Claire) is the girl i met the week after that. Both at the same bar, both sitting on the same chair when i first spoke to them. Kind of weird, but anyway. Girl number one is the girl who always said we should hang out more, but never really followed through when we tried making plans. She's the one that has been acting strange and talking to me less and less everyday. She's the one that texted me today.

Girl number two is the one that i've seen pretty much 5 days out of the past 7 days, she's the one i took to the beach the other night. She actually seems to want to hang out a lot, which is awesome.

Seems pretty simple that i should go for Claire, but the problem is that the other day me and a friend of mine had a talk. He asked me about girl number one and told me that he thinks i like her a lot more, because she's the kind of person that takes things very slow (maybe a bit too slow, but still) and he has gotten to know me as someone that prefers that. Girl number two takes things slow too, in a certain sense. She takes a long time to open up to people and show her true emotions (which she started doing now) but she's a lot more sexual. I guess it's not a bad thing, but i am not sure if i'm exactly into that. I might be and not know it.

 

Basically here is, in a nutshell, what i can tell you about the two girls.

 

Girl number one: Used to text me a lot. Like A LOT. Would keep on telling me we need to hang out more often, but i'd still only see her once ever 5 or 6 days. Would never give me any sort of indication as to what she was feeling (after two weeks you know whether or not you might like a guy, don't keep me on a [bleep]ing string and lead me on). Suddenly stopped texting me saying her life has become busy (which i can kind of understand as stated earlier, because she moved into a new apartment, but still it takes 10 seconds to send a text). Took things very slow. VERY SLOW. But i liked it, it made me think of her as a lot more respectable. She has never spent more than 4 hours with me when we went out.

 

Girl number two: Texts me a lot. Like A LOT. Actually makes plans to see me and then does exactly that. Started opening up to me, telling me kind of what she feels. Never had to ask her to do it either, it just came out of nowhere. Few days after we met she told me she could never be in a relationship with me because she doesn't know when i'll be leaving the US and she doesn't want her heart broken. Told 2 nights ago she could see herself being in a relationship with me at some point (but not quite yet). Has spent the night at my place several time already. Very open about certain things, which i like. But the fact that she's so sexual scares me a bit because i'm not like that.

Muggi is about to post that you don't have to choose. Calling it.

[Edit] [bleep] I forgot about the prompt that tells you new posts were added.

I haven't been reading Noxx's posts lol. I'm sure he knows what I'd say anyway, just like you do :P

Honestly Muggi, i have been thinking about it a lot. But where i live at the moment, as i have said many times before, it's way too small. I went to a going-away of a friend for a few hours on Friday night (before going out) and about half the people there would come up to me and ask me if i'm the guy that's "seeing" Claire at the moment. I didn't know any of them, at all. But somehow they knew who i was. And then there's the fact that there's only a handful of places to go, when you go out. There are three popular bars/clubs which me and my mates go to every weekend. There are two Cinemas, one Bowling Center and one place to play Pool.

Claire has many friends that frequent most of these places. They know what i look like, obviously. Girl number 1 has friends that work at the mall where the one cinema is, she has friends that works at the other cinema, she has friends that frequent the bars/clubs we go to. She herself goes bowling often (girl number one). I'm already shitting myself each time i go out, haha. I have this terrible fear of running into someone that knows someone and i might get [bleep]ed. And the chances of it happening in this town is a lot greater than most cities.

Only an idiot would try and have 2 girls at the same time without them knowing.

 

As for me telling them i'm seeing other people. Claire told me the other day, when i was out, that she doesn't mind me having a good time as long as i stay respectable. She's not going to think the same of me if i end up going home with another girl, which pretty much told me exactly what she thought of a Poly Relationship. So i can't really go there with her.

Well I think it's too late for you to effectively go poly on these girls anyway.

 

You can't get "caught" if you're not actually cheating... meaning you're not leading her on. But I think you've been implying a desire for monogamy this whole time.

 

No girl is going to straight up tell you that they don't mind going poly. They all say, "I could never do that!" But the truth is, most of them actually will if they like you enough.

Forgot to mention...

 

Either way, Noxx, hopefully these recent experiences have given you a taste of what I'm advocating, and why. It's not something that everybody can understand until they experience it themselves.

 

 

Even sending out 100 messages on the dating sites and having 15 hot girls talking to you at once, without leading to anything, is enough to trigger the "state" :P

Noxx, you are a respectable and intelligent young man. Just putting that out there.

My little sister is still pretty good friends with my ex-girlfriend (ex was her assistant basketball coach and got along with her real well). Little sister was hanging out with my ex and her little sister today before she leaves for college. Apparently my ex's current housemate used to go to school with the boyfriend of the girl I am interested in now. My little sister came home saying how much they didn't like this girl because apparently she was really mean. Also, they apparently facebook stalked the crap outta her and looked at all her pictures and decided that she was quite ugly. My sister came home saying, "She is not attractive at all."

 

So I wonder why they think she's mean. She's been really nice to me and my friends. I have a feeling it's my ex and her friend, though, because they can get really [bleep]y (something that after realizing contributed to me breaking up with her). I bet this girl just didn't take their shit and they didn't like that. Also, there's people who simply aren't very photogenic and look totally different irl than on facebook. I'm one of those people, and so is she. She looks way better irl than in her pictures on facebook. And I told my little sister this, but she wasn't convinced. I've been told numerous times by my guy friends that she's unbelievably hot.

 

Anyway, just felt like writing a bit about it. I know it's dangerous to put the girl you have feelings for up on a pedestal and refuse to see her in any sort of bad light. I've done it twice now, and feel really stupid looking back on it. So I'm trying my hardest not to do the same to this girl. It's just hard to believe, considering how well I know her, that she's a really mean girl. It's more likely that my ex and her housemate were the mean ones.

Noxx, you are a respectable and intelligent young man. Just putting that out there.

I appreciate it man.

If you're actually going to do stuff with two chicks you should be honest with them (and other people) about it, otherwise don't do it. Constantly living in fear of someone "finding out" doesn't seem like a good way to do things...and if claire isn't okay with you seeing someone else then you need to be exclusive or stop seeing her, that's what it boils down to.

My little sister is still pretty good friends with my ex-girlfriend (ex was her assistant basketball coach and got along with her real well). Little sister was hanging out with my ex and her little sister today before she leaves for college. Apparently my ex's current housemate used to go to school with the boyfriend of the girl I am interested in now. My little sister came home saying how much they didn't like this girl because apparently she was really mean. Also, they apparently facebook stalked the crap outta her and looked at all her pictures and decided that she was quite ugly. My sister came home saying, "She is not attractive at all."

 

So I wonder why they think she's mean. She's been really nice to me and my friends. I have a feeling it's my ex and her friend, though, because they can get really [bleep]y (something that after realizing contributed to me breaking up with her). I bet this girl just didn't take their shit and they didn't like that. Also, there's people who simply aren't very photogenic and look totally different irl than on facebook. I'm one of those people, and so is she. She looks way better irl than in her pictures on facebook. And I told my little sister this, but she wasn't convinced. I've been told numerous times by my guy friends that she's unbelievably hot.

 

Anyway, just felt like writing a bit about it. I know it's dangerous to put the girl you have feelings for up on a pedestal and refuse to see her in any sort of bad light. I've done it twice now, and feel really stupid looking back on it. So I'm trying my hardest not to do the same to this girl. It's just hard to believe, considering how well I know her, that she's a really mean girl. It's more likely that my ex and her housemate were the mean ones.

You don't really need to justify yourself to your ex and your sister. They don't have penises, they're not even justifying their claims that she's mean, and it's not any of their business.