No life for me so far. My friends are lazy shut ins who bludge off centerlink and [bleep] their girlfriends (which stuns me how they even stick with them) so naturally Im forced to bum around home on weekends off unless I physically drag them out, sack-whack them and tell them I'll chop it off next time. I hate lazy friends, damages my already weak self asteam and makes it hard to go out and meet people.

It sounds like you need some new friends, Tim. They obviously aren't doing you any good. It's time for an intervention.

I don't secretly have no life. Most of the people who know me know I have no life, so it isn't much of a secret. I'm rather introverted, plus I prefer silence and being alone than being surrounded by a bunch of people.

Me, though not by choise I just get stuck at home alot without any way to meet people, curse living out of town with no drives liscence. That being said maybe I should try harder, only met up with people on about 5 days of this entire 2 week holiday :s Not including a BBQ tomorrow which should be good.

I'm rather open about the fact that socialising exhausts me. I don't mind it, I'm not too bad at it - it's exhausting for me.

 

Also, anti-social has a different meaning instead of what most people believe. It's when you go out and mess stuff up for everyone else rather than just being introverted.

Often I no-life a bit in my room, on the computer. But often that's at night, or when I'm avoiding study. I flat with some friends, so it's not like I can't do stuff with them. And I also Play sport, both in the summer and winter, so am usually reasonably socially active.

3-4 years ago I ignored friends (and girls) to play RS haha... They would ask me to hang out, mostly with girls or to go drink or smoke or something and I'd say no and/or make up a lame excuse. Sometimes they would just show up at my house and see me playing RS or something. I regret it so much; I missed out on girls, booze, good times, memories, experience and I could have lost a lot of friends.. Thankfully I dropped RS for real-life before anything severe happened rofl.

 

It was a brutal addiction. I'd stay up 'till 5am on school nights to play... Somehow I managed to date 4-5 girls while playing that much. This went on for about 2 1/2 years, from 14-16... Now I laugh about that part of my life with friends and my girlfriend. Ignoring RL for RS is still the biggest regret in my life, but I'm over it now.

 

Now though... I work Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. I hang out with my friends after school, smoke some joints or something, and I either have fires and drink with friends or go to a party every Fri/Sat. I'm also working on my Portfolio while doing coop at a local newspaper, so I'm out taking photos, writing stories and doing interviews daily.

 

Oh yeah...tomorrow is me and my girlfriend's anniversary... It's gonna be sick. :thumbup: Instead of being all romantic we're having a huge bonfire... oh, and my parents are out for the weekend and I have the truck, plus I just got paid. PRO. I'll try to take pics for you guys haha.

I have friends like OP. I find their lives tragic and more or less force them to hang out and socialize. i did it for a while, especially in Middle School, but its straight up depressing to do it for extended periods of time. Personally, I go out whenever I can. And whenever I can't.

I find their lives tragic and more or less force them to hang out and socialize.

This happened to me once or twice and I hated it.

I find their lives tragic and more or less force them to hang out and socialize.

This happened to me once or twice and I hated it.

 

So far I think my serves have gone ore appreciated. Except with one. She REALLY liked playing World of Warcraft. But alot of the people I do it to are ecstatic to get out of the house and do something.

Secretly? I openly have no social life. Much rather get wrapped up in a good story...

 

 

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I hate hanging out with people, I guess because I'm an INFJ. But still, can't [bleep]ing stand it. Doesn't mean I don't have a social life though.

I have nerdish tendencies, but I still have a decent social life. Though when I did play runescape, I made up excuses when people would ask me to hang out once or twice. But I don't think I missed out on anything huge over it.

I find their lives tragic and more or less force them to hang out and socialize.

This happened to me once or twice and I hated it.

 

 

I went through a period of my life when I didn't go out for like a year (this was like 5 years ago). My friends started forcing me to go out, and nowadays I am really thankful to them. If you really want to change, you have to force yourself out of your comfort zone and experience new things, and judge only after you have done it serveral times, don't just say "I didn't like it" the first time and never do it again.

 

(This isn't specifically aimed at you, local, but what you said reminded me of myself. Take it as an advice if you want.)

I have not much of a social life because none of my friends care about me enough to ask me to go do something with them, for need of a better explanation. I should be more outgoing but I've always been a very shy person.

(This isn't specifically aimed at you, local, but what you said reminded me of myself. Take it as an advice if you want.)

Was different. A couple of people I barely knew decided to improve my social life, at one point forcing me into a clique that I didn't have an interest in joining.

Good intentions, of course, but if it was friends doing the same instead of acquaintances, it probably would have gone better.

I am a very social person. I will rarely take the time to avoid hanging out with someone unless I'm pretty upset with them, which is rare.

 

I have a job, a band, a side project, I'm part of a youth group, college group and worship team at my church, and I frequent facebook and runescape pretty frequently now that I'm not homeless. I also journal and read and write as often as I can, and I typically have a meeting with a friend at a coffee shop at least once a week.

 

I also text all the time. I hate talking on the phone, can't do it too often or I feel like I've wasted an entire day. Yes, talking on the phone is a bigger waste of time to me than runescape haha

 

To all you non social people...I don't get it, and I've got a lot of friends like you and I can typically drag them out of there holes :P

I'm sociable when I have the courage to be, I guess. I hang out with a pretty tight group of people at school, as well as a loose collection of randoms that I sit with/[cabbage] with during classes, but whenever I'm invited to go out to a place, like movies or parties or whatever, I spend way too long agonizing over stupid things and freaking out over what could happen that I end up missing it or deciding not to go. ._.

 

But when I do manage to get out, I have fun and socialize and everything, it's just the whole getting there that I'm awful at. >_<

It's hard to have no life when all your friends live within a 50-yard radius.

I'm sociable when I have the courage to be, I guess. I hang out with a pretty tight group of people at school, as well as a loose collection of randoms that I sit with/[cabbage] with during classes, but whenever I'm invited to go out to a place, like movies or parties or whatever, I spend way too long agonizing over stupid things and freaking out over what could happen that I end up missing it or deciding not to go. ._.

 

But when I do manage to get out, I have fun and socialize and everything, it's just the whole getting there that I'm awful at. >_<

That's so me, if you dont count the agonizing thing. Except I really socialize less than I want to, should work on that but lately I've just been sitting behind pc refreshing tif.

I find their lives tragic and more or less force them to hang out and socialize.

This happened to me once or twice and I hated it.

This. God damnit, get off my bank, I don't want to see people more than I have to.

 

Story of my life right there.

I find their lives tragic and more or less force them to hang out and socialize.

This happened to me once or twice and I hated it.

Same here. My mom often tries (or tried - she can't when I'm at uni) to get me to go out and socialize and I just don't want to. I hate it when people assume that everyone is just like them. Not everyone loves to socialize. There are other things I'd rather be doing.

I wish my mom would let me go out and do stuff more. Not that she's all that bad. She just makes me tell her whenever I do anything.

I was the same way for a long time. I would just sit in my room and listen to music or play some video games. Until a few months ago. Something changed. I don't know what. But I had the sudden urge to go do something new. Doing the same thing got boring. So I went out on a limb and talked to some new people, made some new friends, and did new things. I've started to jam with others (I'm a drummer). I've just found that it's more fun to just socialize with people than it is to sit in my room by myself. Even if I'm just going to sit around with a few people and talk. It's somehow more fun to me now than any video game. I don't judge anyone for being a loner. Everyone has their own thing. Though I do try and get some of my other, shall we say "hermit", friends to go out and do stuff with with my friends and I. I always offer. Just to see if I can show them there are other fun things.

It's interesting to see how other people respond to being asked about "having a life" - the vast majority of people immediately equate that with the amount of time they spend with other people.

It's interesting to see how other people respond to being asked about "having a life" - the vast majority of people immediately equate that with the amount of time they spend with other people.

Because its what it means, implication.

 

Like my dads dancing is not cool, doesn't mean his body tempature is higher than normal.

It's interesting to see how other people respond to being asked about "having a life" - the vast majority of people immediately equate that with the amount of time they spend with other people.

Because its what it means, implication.

 

Like my dads dancing is not cool, doesn't mean his body tempature is higher than normal.

 

I wouldn't say that it is, though. Someone who has things to do seems to have more of a life to me than someone who justs hangs around with friends all the time.