Mattbeastmaster Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Gah, it happened to my friend, I knew I was bound to be afflicted with it... Well, obviously there is a girl I like in my school. Problem is, I'm not so sure she likes me back (we do talk to each other like friends ) Soooo recently I took a liking to her (she found out I liked her because my friend *cough* "slipped" it on "accident" *cough*) And recently I found my chance to ask her the life-changing question Aaanyway... There is a Japanese class trip to East Winds (Japanese restaurant DUH) and luckily we both were assigned to go on the same day. Sadly, my other friend is going to and I know he likes her as well... Then last night on AIM I was talking to her when she mentioned the dance in May. The conversation went like this: Me:Hello Her:Hi Matt Me:Anything new for you? Her:Well...I bought a new dress for the dance coming up in May... *this is out of stupidity* Me:How much are dance tickets, do you know? Her:Not so sure, have to ask my friend Her:Are you going???? (Note: I'm not sure if that is a clue, my mom and friend said she might have been aiming for something there) Me:I might, depends what day it is Her:Cool. *More stupidity* (I think I gave myself away on this one..) Me:Are you going with anyone? or just friends. Me:I just go to hang out with my friend *Censor* (saving privacy for him) Her:No one yet, but I figure *Censor* (privacy) will make me get a date for it. Me:So she is basically forcing you? Her:Sorta... And more blabbering on and whatnot... My main question is: Should I go for it? Also, I'd like to point out. Don't say its just a High School crush, just because I'm only 15 doesn't mean a thing. -------------------- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketman089 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Yes, just grow the cohones and ask her, but make sure it's in person. Gamertag: King Arizona Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mad4u689 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 When you try to say things defensively to protect yourself, like "I just go to hang out with my friend" makes you seem less interested, which is the opposite of what you want!! You want to make it seem like you're a possible option for her - you never know, SHE might make a move :D Or at least be more willing to give little "hints" to you. From the information we have, there's really little that can be said... Talking and honesty is better than not, so you may as well go for it, I think. Tell her that if her friend is making her get a date to the dance... you'll be kind enough to volunteer to go with her! :D And see how she reacts to that. It looks to me that, by her mentioning the dance and asking if you were going in the first place, yes, she may be trying to ascertain whether you're interested or not. A sidenote: I think it's best at this time to not really ask your mom for advice on this type of issue. Don't get me wrong, it's great to have really close relationships with your parents - but they're very biased when it comes to you, their child. I'm really close and honest with my mom, but I've learned in recent years that I can't really rely on her for this sort of advice :P Everybody hug and spread the love :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattbeastmaster Posted March 23, 2006 Author Share Posted March 23, 2006 When you try to say things defensively to protect yourself, like "I just go to hang out with my friend" makes you seem less interested, which is the opposite of what you want!! You want to make it seem like you're a possible option for her - you never know, SHE might make a move :D Or at least be more willing to give little "hints" to you. From the information we have, there's really little that can be said... Talking and honesty is better than not, so you may as well go for it, I think. Tell her that if her friend is making her get a date to the dance... you'll be kind enough to volunteer to go with her! :D And see how she reacts to that. It looks to me that, by her mentioning the dance and asking if you were going in the first place, yes, she may be trying to ascertain whether you're interested or not. A sidenote: I think it's best at this time to not really ask your mom for advice on this type of issue. Don't get me wrong, it's great to have really close relationships with your parents - but they're very biased when it comes to you, their child. I'm really close and honest with my mom, but I've learned in recent years that I can't really rely on her for this sort of advice :P My mom found out because she was watching me type it rofl, she doesn't trust me that much on the computer... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest AshKaYu Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Hehe, I have Neopets on here, so I just delete Tip.It and pretend I'm playing neopets. Anyway, it sounds wicked hypocritical, but seize the day! She has no date, you don't, she's going, ask her in person if she wants to know(Guys look stupid with messengers/notes). Also, if she turns you down, just shrug your shoulders and say normally "Okay". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Niceguy91 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Hehe, I have Neopets on here, so I just delete Tip.It and pretend I'm playing neopets. Anyway, it sounds wicked hypocritical, but seize the day! She has no date, you don't, she's going, ask her in person if she wants to know(Guys look stupid with messengers/notes). Also, if she turns you down, just shrug your shoulders and say normally "Okay". Lol Neopets. Yeah anyways man, GO FOR IT. SHE HAS HINTED IT TO YOU! If she is your friend she won't be mean on turning you down at least. No one will remember in a week if she does anyways! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shadd Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Don't be scared of rejection, there are plenty of beautiful girls/women out there that might be waiting for a guy like you. So ask the girl for christ sake! :P Just joking, be straight up with her and let her know how you feel in-person. your 15? Ain't nothing wrong with that, I know a couple who has been together since middle school up until now (college) :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barihawk Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 If you want me to be honest, I would be asking this question to your parents. I mean...they have obviously succeeded at the whole dating thing. Compare notes with your trusted friends and go for it. It's far better than asking random strangers on the internet. My heart is broken by the terrible loss I have sustained in my old friends and companions and my poor soldiers. Believe me, nothing except a battle lost can be half so melancholy as a battle won. -Sir Arthur Wellesley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mattbeastmaster Posted March 23, 2006 Author Share Posted March 23, 2006 If you want me to be honest, I would be asking this question to your parents. I mean...they have obviously succeeded at the whole dating thing. Compare notes with your trusted friends and go for it. It's far better than asking random strangers on the internet. I ask these "random strangers" for an UNBIASED opinion. Any family member would say ask her just for the sake of it being "cute" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shadd Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 If you want me to be honest, I would be asking this question to your parents. I mean...they have obviously succeeded at the whole dating thing. Compare notes with your trusted friends and go for it. It's far better than asking random strangers on the internet. I ask these "random strangers" for an UNBIASED opinion. Any family member would say ask her just for the sake of it being "cute" Yeah, his parents may have suceeded but things have changed since their dating times. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beatdown666 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 go for it man!!! thats all i can say. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blank Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Go oldschool: 1 piece of paper, 2 questsions, 3 boxes. Do you like me? Do you want to go to the dance? []yes []no []maybe.. HQ AND SPT BNBRIG CO.Marine Corps Base, Camp Lejeune.PFC/USMC/060310-Current Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scruffy5389 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Okay, that AIM conversation was absolutely crystal clear. She is obviously interested in you. Go for it. :D My only advice: ask her in person. It may feel less awkward online, but in the end asking someone online only makes it more awkward when you meet face-to-face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zerocool11 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 I totally agree. Go for it. Just make sure to ask her in person. All the signs are a-go. :D Go get 'em tiger. *rarr* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaklumen Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 If you want me to be honest, I would be asking this question to your parents. I mean...they have obviously succeeded at the whole dating thing. Compare notes with your trusted friends and go for it. It's far better than asking random strangers on the internet. I ask these "random strangers" for an UNBIASED opinion. Any family member would say ask her just for the sake of it being "cute" Yeah, his parents may have suceeded but things have changed since their dating times. Well yeah, some dating customs change. Let's see... I'm just over 30, but I agree that you should go ahead and ask her in person. Compare notes here and with those you trust if you need to, but I think you're good to go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxsheepxx Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Yes, just grow the cohones and ask her, but make sure it's in person. i believe its COJONEZ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hexy Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 yea go for it Hexy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nadril Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Okay, that AIM conversation was absolutely crystal clear. She is obviously interested in you. Go for it. :D My only advice: ask her in person. It may feel less awkward online, but in the end asking someone online only makes it more awkward when you meet face-to-face. Agreed, that was a clear sign right there. Her: "Yeah.. i'm giong to the dance, but I don't have date..." *HINT* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kido14 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Why shouldn't you go for it? It's just a dance. If she says no, it's no big deal, even though she probably won't. I don't mean to be repetetive, but like everyone else has says, she was basically hinting that she might want to go to the dance with you. If I were you, as far as telling her that you have a crush on her, I would wait to see if she says yes to going to do the dance. If she does, I would tell her before the dance, maybe even during, as long as everything is going smoothly. Goodluck :wink: Last.fm: http://www.last.fm/user/Aaronm14/MY FAVORITE BAND:http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fu ... d=64310717And the bible is the big book of lies, call me a racist if you must. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaoskiller Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 y not, don't you have some experience with this by now? My first date was at the fifth grade dance! i grew a backbone and asked, and she said yes. *I'm not saying that it worked out* but my point is that i'm 14 now and i have had 1 dance date and 3 girlfriends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blank Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 y not, don't you have some experience with this by now? My first date was at the fifth grade dance! i grew a backbone and asked, and she said yes. *I'm not saying that it worked out* but my point is that i'm 14 now and i have had 1 dance date and 3 girlfriends. Have you ever seen the movie, "Kids?" HQ AND SPT BNBRIG CO.Marine Corps Base, Camp Lejeune.PFC/USMC/060310-Current Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lagatag Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Just ask her, you have nothing to lose. If you wait, you might miss your chance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zippi08 Posted March 24, 2006 Share Posted March 24, 2006 When you try to say things defensively to protect yourself, like "I just go to hang out with my friend" makes you seem less interested, which is the opposite of what you want!! You want to make it seem like you're a possible option for her - you never know, SHE might make a move :D Or at least be more willing to give little "hints" to you. Hehe, that's certainly a problem I have. There's this person that I like, and of course it'd be nice to have him know how I feel, but at the same time I always end up saying things to defend myself, to make me seem like I'm not interested. y not, don't you have some experience with this by now? My first date was at the fifth grade dance! i grew a backbone and asked, and she said yes. *I'm not saying that it worked out* but my point is that i'm 14 now and i have had 1 dance date and 3 girlfriends. Wow, how impressive. Thanks for the sig, Runesmithie :)RIP Steve Irwin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hurl Posted March 25, 2006 Share Posted March 25, 2006 Ask her in person it already seems like she likes you. :wink: 123 Combat / 1900 Skill Total / 99 HP / 7x 99 Stats Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dru89 Posted March 25, 2006 Share Posted March 25, 2006 Go for it IMHO... I've been in many a situation like this and not taken the oppurtunity and regretted it later. Dru89's Last.fmDru89's TIF Blog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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