Riku3220

In order to properly demonstrate what it would feel like, you'd have to be deprived of even that small group of friends. Trust me, being LITERALLY alone like that is Hell. I can vouch for that, as well as how much help even ONE person besides immediate family to help you out improves the situation. Luckily, I've been able to avoid this situation in recent years. I actually just now remembered a book I've read a little while ago. It was for one of my classes in Sophomore year, I think. It detailed this perfectly, though not in a situation that is 100% applicable to everyone. It's a real life story by a famous(ish) female writer about her school years. I can't remember the name, but if you look, it shouldn't be too hard to find. And skatedog's tactics and reasoning are overall correct, although strength in numbers doesn't always work. They can always either outnumber you or find a way to split you up. by being deprived of my small group of friends mean my real life friends?, or all of my friends because really if you cant find a friend on the internet you are indeed a hermit, even if i didnt have my real life friends i have friends on WoW and AoC, i even consider some of tipit's members as my friends. but there is always one person whos not directly related to you who will be your friend

games? i can suggest games! capture the flag is AWESOME in the woods ultimate frisbee is great fun if you can find a clearing (keep away works just as well) :thumbsup:

[hide=] You just don't get it do you? Do you know what it's like to be socially excluded? Do you know what it's like to sit at home all night with a pain deep inside you? Do you know what it's like to say "Hi" to a new person only to hear insults and hurtfull comments in return? Oh right, the old "Hey, your problem isn't that bad, take a look at [insert extreme example], now they had a tough time". True, the discrimination they faced was something I could never relate to. The fact that you are trying to brush my problem off as not a big deal, however, is insulting. You see, there were times in early teen years were spent completely alone. Not a single friend. The only person to stand by me was my pet animal (who eventually died). The warm welcomes that I felt from some people eventually turned to hate as they (as well as many others) rallied against me. If I was ever to speak up in class I was guarenteed to hear something from another student who knew exactly how to piss me off. Any skill that I had was completely ignored, kids would constently torment me to remind me that I had no friends to stand by, some would get physical, others would laugh at my attempts to fit in and socialize. Some people had enough nerve to act friendly but backstab me in a time of need. Even whenever I left a certain social environment the people in there would cheer and celebrate the fact that I was gone. Any new friends I tried to meet would eventually say "I really made a misake to be around him". There were some true friends along the way, but many times they weren't there. And whenever I tried to enter a new social environment the whole thing would begin all over again. Oh boy did I feel sad about all this, some nights I would sit in bed and wonder if I was going to be like this for the rest of my life wherever I went and dreaded the next day. These are the kinds of painfull feelings, I tried ignoring them, but they stayed bottled up inside me only to erupt later and make matters even worse. Sometimes even when I tried talking to the adults they seemed to try and remind me that this was all my fault somehow (which was often true, but didn't help solve the problem) or worse, they would side with the other kids. Most of what I did was my own fault, my own impusiveness or social ignorance yet still the concequences were terrible. When I eventually told on those two guys I mentioned earlier, this was 3 years ago, after changing schools I started to see the same pattern emerge. Telling the teacher was sort of a desperate attempt to try and avoid from having this all happen again, which ended up only making things worse and sure enough, I was back to the social exclusion. Luckily it wasn't as bad, but it hurt now as I felt despair: it was happening this time as well, just when I thought that things would tak a turn for the better. Luckily over the course of the year things did start to improve and I started to get along with people much better and in this past year I not only became socially accepted, but people genuinely enjoyed being around me. After being nearly consumed by loneliness I was able to emerge as someone who's social and even a confident guy who people look up to. Being social is truely a wonderful experience and I am so glad that I was able to know what it feels like to be accepted, to have friends and smiling faces anywhere I turn. To know that I can finally go to sleep happy, knowing that tomorrow I've got all kinds of people to talk to. Now I see how you're just trying to ratonalize my situation and find a practical solution. And it's true, why should I feel anything about people disliking me who I never talked to anyways? It doesn't make any logical sense. But trust me, those feelings were there and they were powerfull. You did well to ignore them before it could become a problem and it seems you were able to avoid social exclusion. But keep in mind that you do not know what it's like to go through feeling sad, lonely and rejected from everyone. Edit: thanks ember : [/hide] who said that your entire social life had to be in this hellhole of a school you went to? my social life is entirely based off of friends from the internet, ADULTS that play Pokemon, Magic: the gathering, and Yu-Gi-Oh, my group of 5 friends? every day before and after school we huddle around and play our DS's!!! you think i don't know what its like to be shunned? well let me tell you i do, i just found a way around that, i found a group that accepts me for what i love to do, i found a group of friends who love to sit around and play games all day, and you know how i did it? i ignored everyone who hurled insults at me, kicked me in the shins, knocked my DS to the ground. I'm sorry but feeling sorry for yourself never helps. @ember: tell me how its bull? i ask you! WHAT could they be possibly saying that hurts so badly that you cant bear to ignore it? EDIT: sorry if im appear as if im yelling im really not trying to :oops:

grats Nadril :thumbsup:

gah! i had to play Halo 3 with inverted controls today because the person who was playing the controller i took, was playing on inverted controls and they other 3 wouldn't let me pause to change it to normal :wall: ended just grabbing the mauler and RT+Bing them

that just shows how the media is just trying to make video games seem bad they couldn't just say "game" or "wii game" they called it a computer game thats just ignorant -.-

Anyone who's willing to side with the bully. In this case, there were only two friends who were truely on my side. One of which who didn't want to speak out for fear of being excluded (and don't you dare say he's not worthy of being my friend! He's helped me in many ways), the other was dissapointed in how I resorted to telling the teacher. EVERYONE ELSE was against me on this one, people who I considered "new friends" who were friendly before but never wanted to be around me after, people who previously I didn't have any contact with, and people who were already against me. It's depressing isn't it? Having people who rarely talk to suddenly act cold and distant towards you. Any activity that involves social interaction you suddenly feel left out of. It didn't last long for many (thankfully) but it was still damn painfull, lonely etc... Obviously you NEVER want to be in the situation I was in. but look the people who aren't talking to you, either never talked to you before, or rarely talked to you ever. what difference does it make if the people you barely talk to you stop talking to you? like i said, if someone ignores you for getting someone off your back in anyway possible, screw them there's no way in hell im ditching my friend because he told the counsler someone was throwing insults about his dead father. and you think your situation is bad? ever heard of the "Little Rock Nine"? the nine black students who were integrated into an all-white school? they were blocked by armed national guard troops and the federal troops had to be sent in to escort them into school.

but whos going to exclude you? the people who you already dont talk to? if your friends were actually friends they wouldn't exclude you from whatever it is you do and out of the 700 people in my school i'd choose to be with my 5 friends.

what was wrong with Cooking Mama?

what could they be saying to you that could hurt so much that you can't ignore it? "Sticks and stone can break my bones but words can never hurt me" is true, words CANT hurt you and unless they are actually punching you then your only option is to ignore it because nothing they can say to you is that bad. and whats with all you people saying "telling the teacher breaks down your social status"? i for one couldn't care less what people in school think of me, maybe thats why bullies don't get to me because frankly i dont give a flying [cabbage] about what they say about me or my mother, and you really shouldn't either

http://babysville.com/default.aspx there IS a shawl type thing that covers you up when you breastfeed

isn't there a shawl type thing that protects your breast from view while breastfeeding your child? i remember seeing one before

i knew i saw that from somewhere :o ok anyways im going on an "outing" with a girl im interested in on Friday, we're going to a 4th of July carnival so as long as she doesnt think im a coward because i refuse to go upside down on rides i should be fine...

prestiged for the 1st today :thumbsup:

^ but when im at a resturant im not drinking to rehydrate, im drinking for something to wash the food down and actually have a taste. i don't like water because theres no flavor but i probably wont get more than 2 refills of soda the way i see it, the company cant get mad at someone because they are getting multiple refills, put the machine in the back or put up a sign that says "2 refills max", but people cant also be expecting to walk away with 3 large cokes in their belly for the price of a small, if you really need one for the road stop at a gas station and get a 20oz. or something

Alvin and the chipmunks it should be i can see the tail

since im he only one who actually posted a time and date my votes should be the only ones that count! :thumbsup: (plus most of you only said one game we need two...)

im going to have to agree about get however many refills as you want cause then you could just get a small drink, refill, refill, refill, refill and it wont cost as much as a large \

CoD4 Saturday July 5th 10pm GMT Halo 3 Sunday July 6th 10pm GMT

the logo looks awesome right now guys :thumbsup: save your ink the next attack is coming soon

Breakfast at Tiffany's?

i might not make it tommorow =(

for the people saying wings will get in the way of evereything read m post on page 2 my wings retract into my body 8-)

Jumanji?

we're the same :o although i havent had the pleasure being stung yet