l33t_necroh Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 So I'll start from the beginning, I met this guy about 3 years ago. We lived in the same complex, and we walked the same way to school. So, Every morning and every lunch we'd be walking together, and usually, im too tired to talk in the mornings, and he just always walked up to me and started chatting, And im not a very assertive guy so i just grunted, and answered questions and stuff. Then a few days later, at lunch time, me and my freinds were going to my house to play a new game i got, and he followed us right into my house, basically un-invited... We were eager to play the game, so we said, "yea, whatever, stay, just shut up" Now its three years later, he follows me everywhere, and I just feel like turning around and Strangling him!!! He Never shuts up, He always does EXTREMELY stupid things.When he annoys me, I tell him to stop, but he just starts again, 5 minutes later. And frankly, hes basically ruined some good parts of my life (even runescape, hes always beggin for cash) and i think hes one reason i dont have a girlfriend So, Now I wanna tell him i dont want him in my life anymore... But, i kinda feel bad for him, hes pathetic, hes had a bad life, and i dont want to make his life even worse by having me, His best friend ever (according to him) come up, and tell him to get out of my life. So, what should I do? Should i just tell him to leave me alove, and get out of my life, or should i suck it up and deal with him for 10 more years while I work up the cash to move away? =P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubsa Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Sounds like he only wants a friend, so it's not malicious. But, the only way he'll learn how that's not the way to act to get/have a friend is by telling him and to stop being mates with him. This is how much you all raised for charity. Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Ahhhhhhhhhhh last time I had to deal with a person like that it ended up with the spider scenario I stated in the peer pressure thread LOL The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginger_Warrior Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Just tell him how you feel and stop spending so much time with him. If he understands, he'll change, or at least try to. I know you don't wanna do this, but it's either now while things are reletively calm, or later when you wanna rip his head off. Which one do you think will upset him less? | Favourite Game Music | Last.fm | HYT Friend Chat Rules | Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Yes listen to Ginger. I let it go on for so long that I lost my temper with the person and hurt their feelings a lot more than what I should've. I'm a b*tch and don't regret it... But you could be a nice person so better now than later. The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PaperClipsYaaaar Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 and i think hes one reason i dont have a girlfriend No he isn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercifull Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 and i think hes one reason i dont have a girlfriend Dude that's a harsh thing to say, and its complete rubbish. Mercifull <3 Suzi "We don't want players to be able to buy their way to success in RuneScape. If we let players start doing this, it devalues RuneScape for others. We feel your status in real-life shouldn't affect your ability to be successful in RuneScape" Jagex 01/04/01 - 02/03/12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 The kid probably does drive you up the wall but as the above two posts have stated, you got yourself to blame for that one. Why is a girl going to care who you hang out with? Oh right highschool... The girls who don't matter I completely forgot about those tools lol The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kelem_ryu Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Act exactly the same way he does, whenever you are with him. Talk all the time, do stupid things like he does and so on. Eventually he won't bother you anymore. (Pretty soon actually.) It's a role switch strategy. He'll start feeling the same about you as you feel about him. Be consequent though and pretend that you always were that way. Good luck! (and tell me how it worked out =) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nom Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Act exactly the same way he does, whenever you are with him. Talk all the time, do stupid things like he does and so on. Eventually he won't bother you anymore. (Pretty soon actually.) It's a role switch strategy. He'll start feeling the same about you as you feel about him. Be consequent though and pretend that you always were that way. Good luck! (and tell me how it worked out =) Yeah, that would work, but where would it leave him afterwards? I would listen to Ginger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrOwez Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Just copy your post and send him it in an email or msn convo.. Problem solved, no talking, you have to be cruel to be kind. A friend to all is a friend to none. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenin64 Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Start ranting about UFOs and the Bermuda Traingle, and don't listen to his viewpoints, keep insisting that you;re right (you take the side of them being real). Command the Murderous Chalices! Drink ye harpooners! drink and swear, ye men that man the deathful whaleboat's bow- Death to Moby Dick!BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD! SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginger_Warrior Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Just copy your post and send him it in an email or msn convo.. Problem solved, no talking, you have to be cruel to be kind. No offense, but that is just a really wormy way of dealing with things. It's far more appropriate to do these things either on the phone or in person, never through MSN or an email. Otherwise things can get really misinterpreted and the problem inevitably gets worse through a misunderstanding. | Favourite Game Music | Last.fm | HYT Friend Chat Rules | Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fakeitormakeit Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 If you truely are real friends you'd be able to tell him how annoying he is(in a nice way) and how you still want to be friends but he just has to improve on his behavior. Now, I'm was like the group leader at my school so I wasn't afraid to tell people the truth, so I think you should just tell him, but remember not in a nasty way, in a truthful manner. EDIT: Ya, and I think people who use some form of instant messaging or phone or email to tell each other something negative are really low, I mean I use AIM to communicate with my friends same thing with my phone but if I want to tell someone to back off or if I was breaking up with my gf I'd say it face-to-face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StrOwez Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 Just copy your post and send him it in an email or msn convo.. Problem solved, no talking, you have to be cruel to be kind. No offense, but that is just a really wormy way of dealing with things. It's far more appropriate to do these things either on the phone or in person, never through MSN or an email. Otherwise things can get really misinterpreted and the problem inevitably gets worse through a misunderstanding. Well I've broke up with my last gf over msn and it was so so so much easier than in real life/phone ; no noise, tears etc .. so I can just give advise from past personal experience .. Also he doesn't seem to like this 'friend' in which case who cares about the method of telling him. Another thing is writing things down for this 'friend' may be easier to understand for him because he can re-read it etc. A friend to all is a friend to none. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IGoddessI Posted September 28, 2007 Share Posted September 28, 2007 You should come with a pre-dating warning label :shame: The only people who tell you that you can't do something are those who have already given up on their own dreams so feel the need to discourage yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Satenza Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 Breaking up with your girlfriend through msn just sounds hilarious. Oh, on topic. Last time someone was to clingy i pretended that they caused a fire in my house. With so many trees in the city you could see the spring coming each day until a night of warm wind would bring it suddenly in one morning. Sometimes the heavy cold rains would beat it back so that it would seem that it would never come and that you were losing a season out of your life. But you knew that there would always be the spring as you knew the river would flow again after it was frozen. When the cold rains kept on and killed the spring, it was as though a young person had died for no reason. In those days though the spring always came finally but it was frightening that it had nearly failed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grim_Jokes Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 Why is a girl going to care who you hang out with? Oh right highschool... The girls who don't matter I completely forgot about those tools lol I think I love you.. Proud founder of the Myriad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Intriguing Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 I personally think it's a bit pathetic to cut someone out of your life just because they annoy you. I know lots of people that annoy the hell out of me, but I still try to be nice to them. e.g. This girl I met about a year and a half ago. She's as annoying as hell, so I used to be mean to her to try and get her away from me (don't worry, I feel bad about it now). That didn't work. So I've decided to be nicer to her now, and she's actually a pretty cool person. Sure, there's only so much of her I can take, but I can't imagine how crappy I'd feel if I just told her to piss off one day instead of being nice. Anyway, if I were you, I would confront the guy, but not tell him to just piss off. Tell him (try to be tactful) that he annoys you sometimes, or ask him why he does the things he does. Someone said earlier that if you don't tell him to get out of your life now, he'll never learn how to have friends, or something like that. That's bull. In my opinion, if what I suggested wouldn't work, then the other thing wouldnt' work either. Just one other question. How many friends does the guy have? I'm under the assumption that you're pretty much the only friend he has, so why not try to think about it from his perspective? Cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenin64 Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 You could try stabbing him witha golf tee. It's a great way to relief stress and will definetely give him the message. Unless he's really thick. Command the Murderous Chalices! Drink ye harpooners! drink and swear, ye men that man the deathful whaleboat's bow- Death to Moby Dick!BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD! SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoeSzyslak Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 It could be worse... ever see The Cable Guy with Jim Carrey/Matthew Broderick? Er sorry i'm goin off topic there... one of my all time favorite comedies though. Anyway, I would just have a talk with him, tell him how you feel in a light manner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kill_Thomas9 Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 Just copy your post and send him it in an email or msn convo.. Problem solved, no talking, you have to be cruel to be kind. Well thats just plain stupid. Not only would it make you a jerk for telling him not to be your friend (although that isn't really your fault), but you would be a jerk for saying it meanly, and you would be a jerk for sending it over msn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cremator21 Posted September 30, 2007 Share Posted September 30, 2007 You could try stabbing him witha golf tee. It's a great way to relief stress and will definetely give him the message. Unless he's really thick. Yeah assault is one good way to send that sort of message :D Im FrotoWE HAVE TO TAKE THE RING TO MOODOOR!Which Final Fantasy Character Are You?Final Fantasy 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Led-Zeppelin Posted September 30, 2007 Share Posted September 30, 2007 Just copy your post and send him it in an email or msn convo.. Problem solved, no talking, you have to be cruel to be kind. No offense, but that is just a really wormy way of dealing with things. It's far more appropriate to do these things either on the phone or in person, never through MSN or an email. Otherwise things can get really misinterpreted and the problem inevitably gets worse through a misunderstanding. Well I've broke up with my last gf over msn and it was so so so much easier than in real life/phone ; no noise, tears etc .. so I can just give advise from past personal experience .. Also he doesn't seem to like this 'friend' in which case who cares about the method of telling him. Another thing is writing things down for this 'friend' may be easier to understand for him because he can re-read it etc. You're so compassionate, I broke up with mine via txt message. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dwarfdude3 Posted September 30, 2007 Share Posted September 30, 2007 heh, I used to have a friend like that, but he moved away. Actually I've had like 2 or 3 friends like that. Just the really annoying one moved, so I got lucky there. I dunno how old you are or whatever, but I've found that these people tend to grow out of it. Like I met this one guy a few years ago and he was a lot like you were describing, but now he has changed a lot and is much less annoying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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