Weddings- Extravagant or Basic?

[Rebdragon]

Me, I don't have a preference. I'll just see what she wants and go with everything except things I would not be able to stand. Small, big, in a chapel, in a monastary, in a garden, I don't care to be honest, it's all good with what she wants :P .

 

 

 

Though, no getting married on a beach, period. Hate the feel of sand on my feet, and for a wedding... no, I'll pass on that :-w .

 

Edit: and errr, Your better then that Insane. You know not to attack another person beliefs and opinions like that.

 

Not that insane did any attacking, but if no one ever attacked anyone's beliefs we'd all be very, very stupid :P .

[Lenin64]

I beleive you guys call them flip-flops or thongs?

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have alot of beautiful beaches in NZ, one of them is a five minute walk from my house. I'm going to Rarotonga next year for my cousins wedding, which will be cool. But I don't think I will do mine overseas, I will do mine here in NZ. Expecting people to pay large sums of money to come see your wedding, is a bit selfish imo.

 

 

 

I wouldn't mind a rural wedding either, but something about the smell of cow [cabbage] when you're saying your vows isn't overly romantic..

 

Oh, you meant sandals. Sorry man, my mistake. Wait, looking at the pic name, they call sandals jandals over there? But you should seriously get yourself a pair of the jandals I was talking about.Actually, I might go order some from the internet now...

 

 

 

I wouldn't mind a rural wedding either, but something about the smell of cow [cabbage] when you're saying your vows isn't overly romantic..

 

Point taken.

[Led-Zeppelin]

I beleive you guys call them flip-flops or thongs?

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have alot of beautiful beaches in NZ, one of them is a five minute walk from my house. I'm going to Rarotonga next year for my cousins wedding, which will be cool. But I don't think I will do mine overseas, I will do mine here in NZ. Expecting people to pay large sums of money to come see your wedding, is a bit selfish imo.

 

 

 

I wouldn't mind a rural wedding either, but something about the smell of cow [cabbage] when you're saying your vows isn't overly romantic..

 

Oh, you meant sandals. Sorry man, my mistake. Wait, looking at the pic name, they call sandals jandals over there?

 

 

 

Yep, jandals is what they're called here. :P Sandals is what we call jandals with straps and backs on them. Jandals are the ones that go between ur toe.

[IGoddessI]

For my wedding I'd like it to be very basic with a few close friends and family on the beach.

 

 

 

I'm not wearing white; I'm riding in on the back of my babeÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s motorbike in an Indian maidenÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬Ã¢ââ¬Å¾Ã¢s outfit or some kind of medieval dress.

 

 

 

The cake is going to be chocolate with cream - people might actually eat it then.

 

 

 

Ride off in to the sunsetÃÆââââ¬Å¡Ã¬ÃâæI'd much rather spend those 75,000 dollars at Vegas for the honey moon or Hawaii or something.

 

 

 

Marriage is a waste of money and time. I'll prefer common law.

 

 

 

That's your opinion which is fine but there are many people who don't think it is a waste of money and time, like me for example.

 

 

 

 

 

Aren't you romantic. Good luck finding a meaningful relationship based on practicality.

 

 

 

There are lots of people who live in courtship quite happily and don't want to get married, despite your opinion.

[____]

Went to a mates wedding yesterday actually; it was fairly simple. About 50 or so people and reception at home. Rain was a bit of a dampener in the evening for a bit, but it was still good :)

[AThousandLies]

For a thread about marriage, there sure is a lot of hate and heat here.

 

 

 

Personally, it depends on how I feel and what sort of a relationship I have with the other person. Right now, the sort of thing I'd want wouldn't be on either extreme; it would be something memorable in a nice garden, or maybe a nice quite alcove at a park, on a mild autumn day, with a few of my close friends, my family and my immediate-secondary family (grandparents, cousins, uncles & aunties), as well as their friends/family. So, probably about 50 people, after which there'd probably be a nice but low-key reception for a few hours back at my/their place.

[warri0r45]

Definately something simple and in a nice scenic spot somewhere.

[ctp080188]

If I ever choose to get married then hell yes I'm having a massive wedding. I would love it to be in the Caribbean but only my dads side of the family would be able to come, so I'd just have a massive one here instead. Hire out a hotel to hold the reception and after party, get DJ Swerve and Silverstar or Robbo Ranx, and we all have a Soca wine competition. Winner gets a Porcshe, which I will obviously win. Then we will have Donell Jones live, plus Turbulence which will be for the after party. And maybe R Kelly for the kids. Dress code = mink. Paid for by my millionaire husband soon to be deceased.

[gun_hippy]

nyyankees588, OMG your sig is cute

[Medellin]

WHile we're on the topic, can someone tell me the difference between a normal ring and an engagement ring?

 

 

 

I always thought an engagement ring is just a normal ring that you make special on your own way (asking her hand). I didn't know there were special rings (diamond only?) when you go to stores

[gun_hippy]

WHile we're on the topic, can someone tell me the difference between a normal ring and an engagement ring?

 

 

 

I always thought an engagement ring is just a normal ring that you make special on your own way (asking her hand). I didn't know there were special rings (diamond only?) when you go to stores

 

 

 

Engagement:

 

Contemporary fashions for ring materials are a gold, platinum, silver or, rarely, titanium band mounting at least one diamond.

 

 

 

An engagement ring is often significantly expensive and acts as a visible demonstration of a man's commitment to his betrothed. The rationale for using a diamond is that it is the most enduring, beautiful and expensive gem. However, some people prefer different gems or semi-precious stones such as sapphires, star sapphires, emeralds, and rubies. Pearls and opals are rare, because these are soft stones.

 

 

 

Wedding rings on the other hand, are usually just bands of any metal. Usually gold, platinum, or white-gold.

 

 

 

Essentially, engagement rings are flashy and expensive, a big symbolysm that the giy is serious - and the wedding rings are simpler, replaceable if need be, and even intended to be scratched up a lil in every day wearing (it's symbolism for the hardships of relationships or some such thing). Theres no RULES as such as to what the rings are made of or not, but conventionally engagement rings are diamond set in gold, of course any number of thigns could make people wear different things, for example some people are allergic to gold (my mum is if it isn't pure gold, and VERY allergic to silver), or budget, or just preference. My dad has a white-gold wedding ring just because he prefers it.

 

 

 

Check wiki for more it can do better than i can - all quotes from wiki.

[BlueLancer]

With the divorce rates in the USA being over 50% now for new marriages within a few years of getting married, it's quite easy to say "marriage isn't for everyone". :lol:

 

 

 

How is a bond that exists on a paper, and a speech made by a priest going to make you more faithful and loving? That's right, for most people, it wont. Monogamy is unnatural amongst mammals, just about every single species on Earth "cheats" on their partner during the span of their life.

 

 

 

Young people are eager to say "yes, I'm sure I'll spend the rest of my life with him/her". But after years pass, you'll be surprised at how your opinions, emotions and desires will change.

 

 

 

I'm not trying to be a killjoy here. But don't be disappointed if you find out the truth in your relationships. Human, as well as mammalian biology, grossly rejects the idea of total monogamy. Very few people will have the disclipine, and sadly, some of them can seem to be happy on the outside, but could have deep psychological issues of repressed wants and needs.

[Bubsa]

With the divorce rates in the USA being over 50% now for new marriages within a few years of getting married, it's quite easy to say "marriage isn't for everyone". :lol:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Well, traditionally, the father of the bride pays for the whole caboodle. Chances are, I won't get along with him. So I'm going all smegging out with mine. I want champagne pouring out of taps, damnit! Without that, how can we sanctify our love?!

[justin_m23]

I don't really care about most things. Although I hope my future wife wears a wedding dress that isn't covered in frilly [cabbage]. I hate pretty much all tradition wedding dresses. The mere sight of them takes the beauty out of the girl. Same with the amount of make up traditionally caked on.

[Lenin64]

WHile we're on the topic, can someone tell me the difference between a normal ring and an engagement ring?

 

 

 

I always thought an engagement ring is just a normal ring that you make special on your own way (asking her hand). I didn't know there were special rings (diamond only?) when you go to stores

 

 

 

[hide=long words]Engagement:

 

Contemporary fashions for ring materials are a gold, platinum, silver or, rarely, titanium band mounting at least one diamond.

 

 

 

An engagement ring is often significantly expensive and acts as a visible demonstration of a man's commitment to his betrothed. The rationale for using a diamond is that it is the most enduring, beautiful and expensive gem. However, some people prefer different gems or semi-precious stones such as sapphires, star sapphires, emeralds, and rubies. Pearls and opals are rare, because these are soft stones.

 

 

 

Wedding rings on the other hand, are usually just bands of any metal. Usually gold, platinum, or white-gold.

 

 

 

Essentially, engagement rings are flashy and expensive, a big symbolysm that the giy is serious - and the wedding rings are simpler, replaceable if need be, and even intended to be scratched up a lil in every day wearing (it's symbolism for the hardships of relationships or some such thing). Theres no RULES as such as to what the rings are made of or not, but conventionally engagement rings are diamond set in gold, of course any number of thigns could make people wear different things, for example some people are allergic to gold (my mum is if it isn't pure gold, and VERY allergic to silver), or budget, or just preference. My dad has a white-gold wedding ring just because he prefers it.

 

 

 

Check wiki for more it can do better than i can - all quotes from wiki.

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Yea, pretty much the engagement ring is the "He went to Jared" thing, girls want the big diamonds and stuff for them, but wedding rings are just a circle, basically.

[Futurama]

I'd actually prefer a long engagement with a honeymoon than anything. Marriage is overrated imo, and way too cashed in upon. You might think it takes a huge church and a ÃÆââ¬Å¡Ãâã5000 white dress, stupidly huge cake and all the champagne strawberries you can eat to make a real life commitment, but if you're really gonna stay together, you don't need that. I think i'd get her a ring for sure, but marriage isnt that important to me.

[underu2000]

Well, it's only being done once in your life, might as well be as big as possible.

 

Did I say once? I meant it should be that way. Personally there is nobody in my family, nuclear, extended or in-laws, that have had a divorce. I still can't figure out how so many Americans have divorces.

 

 

 

Being Indian, we have HUGE weddings. Astronomically sized, even the wedding coordinator woman was frightened by my sister's wedding. For the actual ceremony, around 700 people were present. And that's only a little higher than average to similar weddings I've attended.

 

 

 

Myself, I would like to have a huge wedding too, something to remember for the rest of my life. It's not so much about materialistic ideals as it is to have so many family and friends witness the beginning of a marriage, with the most pleasant and optimistic setting possible.

 

It's being idealistic of course.

 

 

 

PS: Oh, to defend llamster, he wasn't insulting your cousins for having a large wedding, he was criticizing their divorce. You have to sympathize, especially the way you phrased it in the original post. Getting divorced in two months after an extravagant wedding is among the most superficial and hypocritical things you can think of. It's not fair to say they're pathetic, but it sure sounds shocking.

[Lenin64]

I'd actually prefer a long engagement with a honeymoon than anything. Marriage is overrated imo, and way too cashed in upon. You might think it takes a huge church and a ÃÆââ¬Å¡Ãâã5000 white dress, stupidly huge cake and all the champagne strawberries you can eat to make a real life commitment, but if you're really gonna stay together, you don't need that. I think i'd get her a ring for sure, but marriage isnt that important to me.

 

Actually, those strawberries sound like they might be pretty important. :D

 

 

 

People like big flashy weddings because of the sentimental value, they can remember and celebrate the beginning of a legal bond ending in either death or alimony. But a small wedding can do the same, some people just have smaller memories...

 

And why should alimonies really be paid? Almost everything was probably paid for by the man's paycheck, unless the wife has a job. I'm not saying thrown the woman out with nothing, but half the goods, and payments for how long? Life I think, right?

[Barihawk]

I will have the traditional family Methodist wedding.

 

 

 

Do you? Do you? I now pronounce...

 

 

 

My younger sister has the record for longest wedding in the family, at 28 minutes from music starting to the kiss.

 

 

 

Simple ceremony, held in whatever church my bride and I choose. No more decoration than a few flowers behind us and on the pews. Music for the procession will be either Pacebel's Canon in D or Beethoven's ode to joy, both to be done by a small string ensemble.

 

 

 

Despite the ceremonial and religious aspects of marriage, it's important legal-wise. Imagine having to pay two sets of taxes. Even if it's just getting a judge to stamp a license, marriage is preferable.

[AThousandLies]

With the divorce rates in the USA being over 50% now for new marriages within a few years of getting married, it's quite easy to say "marriage isn't for everyone". :lol:

 

 

 

How is a bond that exists on a paper, and a speech made by a priest going to make you more faithful and loving? That's right, for most people, it wont. Monogamy is unnatural amongst mammals, just about every single species on Earth "cheats" on their partner during the span of their life.

 

 

 

Young people are eager to say "yes, I'm sure I'll spend the rest of my life with him/her". But after years pass, you'll be surprised at how your opinions, emotions and desires will change.

 

 

 

I'm not trying to be a killjoy here. But don't be disappointed if you find out the truth in your relationships. Human, as well as mammalian biology, grossly rejects the idea of total monogamy. Very few people will have the disclipine, and sadly, some of them can seem to be happy on the outside, but could have deep psychological issues of repressed wants and needs.

 

 

 

Very well said there, but I still doubt that will deter most people.

[Sumpta]

I'm with BlueLancer in this issue. I'd rather not marry. I do believe in monogamy, but as of yet, I do not have a crystal ball which helps me predict the future. So I simply can't promise to "love and cherish till death do us part". I do believe I'm capable of the feelings and I can try to work it out with someone, but I can't be 100% certain it will. I have more faith in simply choosing for someone and not chaining him to me and vice versa, but to both be free to leave when it's all wrong. Alas, the men I've met so far have all been heavily advocating pro marriage, so I might have to give in one day. In that case, I'd prefer a no big deal-affair. Just a small get-together, no sand, sea, trees or incense involved if possible.

 

 

 

Still, I've known for years what kind of a dress I'd wear on my wedding day :D.

[Matok]

 

Still, I've known for years what kind of a dress I'd wear on my wedding day :D.

 

 

 

Ye,most of you do :D

[Korskin]

I don't see any reason to decide what kind of wedding I want to have before I even have a girlfriend. I'd probably surrender to her will if she has a fixed idea of what her marriage sould look like. The only thing I want is for the people I love and care about to be there. That's probably all that's necessary in order to make the wedding special.

 

 

 

During the last six months I've been to two weddings. The first wedding was rather extravagant with great food, live music and dancing. The second wedding was held in a barn and was very basic. To be honest I preferred the first wedding (mostly because the food was delicious) but they were equally special for the wedding couples. From their point of view it was probably the perfect wedding and that's what's important.

[BlueLancer]

 

During the last six months I've been to two weddings. The first wedding was rather extravagant with great food, live music and dancing. The second wedding was held in a barn and was very basic. To be honest I preferred the first wedding (mostly because the food was delicious) but they were equally special for the wedding couples. From their point of view it was probably the perfect wedding and that's what's important.

 

 

 

Wont argue with that. 8-) Nothing better than seeing your friend's/cousins happiest day in his/her life, plus getting free stuff and drinks... If people hold marriage valuable, you should be happy for them even if they'll probably break up later.

[Korskin]

Wont argue with that. 8-) Nothing better than seeing your friend's/cousins happiest day in his/her life, plus getting free stuff and drinks... If people hold marriage valuable, you should be happy for them even if they'll probably break up later.

 

I'd be very surprised and disappointed if they would break up.