Lolz I remembered this topic when I saw this today. It's a guy.

 

 

 

"Girl if ur wondering if i want you too i want you to so make a move cause i ain't got all night"

 

if they're like anything here they will laugh, you of course have the perfect alibi; alcohol.

 

 

 

I despise when people use drinking as an excuse for thier actions. If you choose to drink, you also choose to take responsibility for anything you do while drunk. Those who don't understand that shouldnt drink. I could rant about the drinking age and so on from here, but this is more relevant than the rest of my opinion

 

why? Alcohol increases your confidence and makes you say things you normally wouldn't. Also we're talking about a complement here, not a rape or a car crash whilst under the influence of alcohol.

Using alcohol as an excuse for your actions is just weak and cowardly. Just because it makes you do things you normally wouldn't do, you know that before you start drinking, and should be prepared to take the responsibility for what you do, no matter how insignificant it is. Why should he worry about telling a girl is beautiful when he thinks it anyways? There's a chance that it would have come out anyways, and if anything, it could make things between them better since she knows that he's nervous around her.

Using alcohol as an excuse for your actions is just weak and cowardly. Just because it makes you do things you normally wouldn't do, you know that before you start drinking, and should be prepared to take the responsibility for what you do, no matter how insignificant it is. Why should he worry about telling a girl is beautiful when he thinks it anyways? There's a chance that it would have come out anyways, and if anything, it could make things between them better since she knows that he's nervous around her.

 

 

 

have you never sent a text to someone you like when you're drunk? Or received one of someone when they're drunk? You know the person doesn't mean to say what they say but because they are drunk they have the confidence to say it. When in the morning they regret it, well they were drunk, so understandable. Maybe it's cultural but in the UK there's a standard tradition to ignore all text after 9 O'clock when you're out.

 

 

 

Song about it

 

 

 

[hide=]Anticipation has a habit to set you up

 

For disappointment in evening entertainment but

 

Tonight therell be some love

 

Tonight there'll be a ruckus yeah, regardless of what's gone before

 

 

 

I want to see all of the things that we've already seen

 

The lairy girls hung out the window of the limousine

 

And of course its fancy dress

 

And they're all looking quite full on

 

In bunny ears and devil horns in hell

 

 

 

Anticipation has a habit to set you up

 

For disappointment in evening entertainment but

 

Tonight therell be some love

 

Tonight there'll be a ruckus yeah, regardless of what's gone before

 

 

 

I want to see all of the things that we've already seen

 

I want to see you take the jackpot out the fruit machine

 

And put it all back in

 

You've got to understand it you can never beat the bandit, no

 

 

 

And she won't be surprised and she won't be shocked

 

When she's pressed the star after she's pressed unlock

 

And there's verse and chapter sat in her inbox

 

And all that it says is that you've drank a lot

 

You should bear that in mind tonight

 

bear that in mind, yeah you should

 

bear that in mind tonight

 

Bear that in mind

 

You can pour your heart out but her reasoning will block

 

Ought you send her after nine o'clock

 

 

 

Anticipation has a habit to set you up

 

For disappointment in evening entertainment but

 

Tonight therell be some love

 

Tonight there'll be a ruckus yeah, regardless of what's gone before

 

 

 

And she wont be surprised and she won't be shocked

 

When shes pressed the star after she's pressed unlock

 

And theres verse and chapter sat in her inbox

 

And all that it says is that you've drank a lot

 

You should bear that in mind tonight

 

bear that in mind, yeah you should

 

bear that in mind tonight

 

Bear that in mind

 

 

 

You can pour your heart out around 3 o clock

 

When the 2 for 1's undone the writers block.[/hide]

Getting DRUNK for confidence is pretty pointless and counter-productive. However, getting a bit "tipsy" while you're still in full control but feel good, is perfectly all right.

 

 

 

I remember when I got tipsy for the first time, everything was all relaxed and no pressure was shown whatsoever. However, alcohol isn't the only "confidence-increaser", (these are for the younger folks, or just generally shy people) music, laughing your [wagon] off, or being angry could help.

Using alcohol as an excuse for your actions is just weak and cowardly. Just because it makes you do things you normally wouldn't do, you know that before you start drinking, and should be prepared to take the responsibility for what you do, no matter how insignificant it is. Why should he worry about telling a girl is beautiful when he thinks it anyways? There's a chance that it would have come out anyways, and if anything, it could make things between them better since she knows that he's nervous around her.

 

 

 

have you never sent a text to someone you like when you're drunk? Or received one of someone when they're drunk? You know the person doesn't mean to say what they say but because they are drunk they have the confidence to say it. When in the morning they regret it, well they were drunk, so understandable. Maybe it's cultural but in the UK there's a standard tradition to ignore all text after 9 O'clock when you're out.

 

 

 

 

No offense but that life style seems horrible. Say what you mean, mean what you say. Drinking isn't an excuse.

Nobody says what they mean, especially not teenagers. And most things people say are pointless, because everyone acts like an idiot because they're afraid of being singled out. I know people that pretend they don't know what "ambiguity" means. And they take the same classes as me.

 

 

 

I don't even know what you think seems horrible, considering 90% of young adults and teenagers in the west drink occasionally or often for entertainment.

Getting DRUNK for confidence is pretty pointless and counter-productive.

 

 

 

Got a few stunning girls by getting drunk and going up to them or vicar-versa and me having the balls to actually talk to them due to the alcohol increase. Don't know how it's counter-productive because I had fun in the process.

 

 

 

 

No offense but that life style seems horrible. Say what you mean, mean what you say. Drinking isn't an excuse.

 

 

 

If only the world was as plain and simple as that; quite few people actually say what they think and mean. Most sugar coat it to get along with each other.

Getting DRUNK for confidence is pretty pointless and counter-productive.

 

 

 

Got a few stunning girls by getting drunk and going up to them or vicar-versa and me having the balls to actually talk to them due to the alcohol increase. Don't know how it's counter-productive because I had fun in the process.

 

Were you drunk or just "hyper" (lack of a better word) due to the alcohol increase? Because when you're drunk you don't think what you say and you may say the wrong thing. And when you drunk you don't nesessarily remember everything that happened so...you probably weren't flat-out drunk like what I'm trying to say.

Nobody says what they mean, especially not teenagers. And most things people say are pointless, because everyone acts like an idiot because they're afraid of being singled out. I know people that pretend they don't know what "ambiguity" means. And they take the same classes as me.

 

 

 

I don't even know what you think seems horrible, considering 90% of young adults and teenagers in the west drink occasionally or often for entertainment.

 

 

 

I guess I forgot to mention the fact that I hate 90% of young adults and teenagers in the west

 

 

 

Seriously, I just hate everything about drinking and what it does to people. It basically liquid facade. In some situations, it's acceptable (like when your 40, and miserable). But out of all the people that drink in America, I'd say nearly none of them should be doing it.

Nobody says what they mean, especially not teenagers. And most things people say are pointless, because everyone acts like an idiot because they're afraid of being singled out. I know people that pretend they don't know what "ambiguity" means. And they take the same classes as me.

 

 

 

I don't even know what you think seems horrible, considering 90% of young adults and teenagers in the west drink occasionally or often for entertainment.

 

 

 

I guess I forgot to mention the fact that I hate 90% of young adults and teenagers in the west

 

 

 

Seriously, I just hate everything about drinking and what it does to people. It basically liquid facade. In some situations, it's acceptable (like when your 40, and miserable). But out of all the people that drink in America, I'd say nearly none of them should be doing it.

 

One of these statements seems out of place. Guess which.

Using alcohol as an excuse for your actions is just weak and cowardly. Just because it makes you do things you normally wouldn't do, you know that before you start drinking, and should be prepared to take the responsibility for what you do, no matter how insignificant it is. Why should he worry about telling a girl is beautiful when he thinks it anyways? There's a chance that it would have come out anyways, and if anything, it could make things between them better since she knows that he's nervous around her.

 

 

 

have you never sent a text to someone you like when you're drunk? Or received one of someone when they're drunk? You know the person doesn't mean to say what they say but because they are drunk they have the confidence to say it. When in the morning they regret it, well they were drunk, so understandable. Maybe it's cultural but in the UK there's a standard tradition to ignore all text after 9 O'clock when you're out.

 

 

Alcohol doesn't make you do things you don't want to do, it 'makes' you do things that you normally wouldn't do. The difference is that you still want to do them, but the alcohol makes you less inhibited. For instance, if I'm talking to someone drunk, I'll be more blunt, more honest. I'll tell the person what I really want to say because I don't give a damn about what they say. That's what alcohol does. For a time you don't worry about what people think of you or what you do to other people. Also, if the only factor between what someone says sober and what they say drunk is confidence then they certainly mean it.

Using alcohol as an excuse for your actions is just weak and cowardly. Just because it makes you do things you normally wouldn't do, you know that before you start drinking, and should be prepared to take the responsibility for what you do, no matter how insignificant it is. Why should he worry about telling a girl is beautiful when he thinks it anyways? There's a chance that it would have come out anyways, and if anything, it could make things between them better since she knows that he's nervous around her.

 

 

 

have you never sent a text to someone you like when you're drunk? Or received one of someone when they're drunk? You know the person doesn't mean to say what they say but because they are drunk they have the confidence to say it. When in the morning they regret it, well they were drunk, so understandable. Maybe it's cultural but in the UK there's a standard tradition to ignore all text after 9 O'clock when you're out.

 

 

Alcohol doesn't make you do things you don't want to do, it 'makes' you do things that you normally wouldn't do. The difference is that you still want to do them, but the alcohol makes you less inhibited. For instance, if I'm talking to someone drunk, I'll be more blunt, more honest. I'll tell the person what I really want to say because I don't give a damn about what they say. That's what alcohol does. For a time you don't worry about what people think of you or what you do to other people. Also, if the only factor between what someone says sober and what they say drunk is confidence then they certainly mean it.

 

yes, but they don't mean to say those things. Doesn't matter anyway back to relationship advice.

Here's a gem from a girl I know.

 

 

 

"The worst thing that could possibly happen to someone, is loving someone, who used to love you."

 

 

 

I could think of a few things worse, but hey, y'know, sure.

 

 

 

"Ohh you make me smilee"

 

 

 

^ Notice the two e's on smile.

Alright, it's been quite some time since I've been here, but it doesn't really matter because all of those past issues are more or less resolved.

 

 

 

Alright, this summer I started with marching band (drum line). After a couple weeks into the practices, I started liking my section leader (Amy). However, I just ignored it at first because I didn't want to make anything awkward in the drumline and I didn't really have full-blown one-itis, as well as the fact that she is a senior and I am a sophomore.

 

 

 

In earlier August I started talking to her on the facebook IM, mainly about drumline stuff and music and other things, and I burned her a cd, which she responded to me the next day by texting me and saying it was amazing and that it "helped heal a broken heart," which she expanded upon eventually by saying that her boyfriend was leaving for college. This made me think that my chances with her would end up being rather small, seeing as she had a boyfriend and I figured I was friend-zoned after she told me something like that.

 

 

 

We started texting more, and eventually home band camp started, meaning marching band practice from 9 am - 4 pm every week day this week and thus I was with her all week basically. However, we didn't really talk that much because there wasn't much downtime at camp. However, I started texting her still about various things, where on monday we began texting about texting. I mentioned that I didn't have unlimited, and jokingly added that it didn't matter because I don't have many friends. She then replied, "that's hard to believe that a great guy like you doesn't have friends." I clarified that I was joking and my friends just didn't have texting, but for the benefit of any advice givers I am generally shy and slow with getting to know people, but the fact that she said that seemed a bit strange.

 

 

 

Then, err, yesterday happened. I was getting my band uniform fitted, and she randomly came into the room and asked me if I liked Swedish fish. On the way back home, I texted her and asked what that was all about and why she was at the school (people who were in the band before got uniforms and hour earlier). she said that she was there because of drama.i mentioned that I had been interested in that for a while, but I don't have enough classes to take it. She told me that she was close with the drama teacher and could get me into the play without being in the class and told me that I should do lighting. I asked what that consisted of, and she replied, "Lol heights lighting and me lol." I was rather surprised and replied that lighting might be more fun, to which she replied, "Lol I'd like that." Aside from this, I learned that she had dumped her boyfriend that day.

 

 

 

By this point I was rather surprised, not really knowing what to expect at band camp today. We still didn't really talk, due partially to the fact that there really wasn't that much time in between playing and learning the show. However, as usual, I texted her afterwards, and she mentioned that she had just finished playing tennis. I mentioned that I had never really played it before (I'm bad at sports and don't really like them, thus I tend to avoid them; only one I have ever enjoyed was fencing). She mentioned that i didn't seem like a ports person and that's what she liked about me.

 

 

 

Which brings me here. I like her a lot more now (though not one-itis level), and I'm thinking that I might have a chance with her. the main problems I can see are that it might things in drumline awkward (especially because the band is going to away band camp sunday morning), her being two years older than me, and my lack of, err, experience (never been in a similar situation or dated before).

 

 

 

So, I guess the main questions are: does it seem like she likes me, and what do I do?

DO IT AND FAST. From what I can read, she's giving you IOI's like crazy RIGHT NOW. But once school starts, they will drop off like a rock. I give you no more than a week, but I think you definitely have a shot. Shoot for the stars! Or at least her!

DO IT AND FAST. From what I can read, she's giving you IOI's like crazy RIGHT NOW. But once school starts, they will drop off like a rock. I give you no more than a week, but I think you definitely have a shot. Shoot for the stars! Or at least her!

 

IOI's?

 

 

 

and just go for it, you've got nothing to lose. other than your dignity.

DO IT AND FAST. From what I can read, she's giving you IOI's like crazy RIGHT NOW. But once school starts, they will drop off like a rock. I give you no more than a week, but I think you definitely have a shot. Shoot for the stars! Or at least her!

 

IOI's?

 

 

 

and just go for it, you've got nothing to lose. other than your dignity.

 

 

 

IOI's- As I understand it, indicators of interest. ;)

DO IT AND FAST. From what I can read, she's giving you IOI's like crazy RIGHT NOW. But once school starts, they will drop off like a rock. I give you no more than a week, but I think you definitely have a shot. Shoot for the stars! Or at least her!

 

IOI's?

 

 

 

and just go for it, you've got nothing to lose. other than your dignity.

 

 

 

IOI's- As I understand it, indicators of interest. ;)

 

Ah, thanks for the explanation. :

DO IT AND FAST. From what I can read, she's giving you IOI's like crazy RIGHT NOW. But once school starts, they will drop off like a rock. I give you no more than a week, but I think you definitely have a shot. Shoot for the stars! Or at least her!

 

IOI's?

 

 

 

and just go for it, you've got nothing to lose. other than your dignity.

 

 

 

IOI's- As I understand it, indicators of interest. ;)

 

Ah, thanks for the explanation. :

 

 

 

Yup, that's right.

 

 

 

And yes, I agree - make your move, and quickly. And your lack of "experience" is not a big problem. That's why we're here :)

DO IT AND FAST. From what I can read, she's giving you IOI's like crazy RIGHT NOW. But once school starts, they will drop off like a rock. I give you no more than a week, but I think you definitely have a shot. Shoot for the stars! Or at least her!

 

 

 

Yep. Most of the time there will be a window in which you must act. Too early and it's weird, too late and you get ljbf anyway.

 

 

 

After school though, there are more windows and they get smaller. There will be windows for the transition into normal conversation, attraction, qualification and every other step of the way. So you need to learn to realize when the window opens - makes things a little harder.

Alright, it's been quite some time since I've been here, but it doesn't really matter because all of those past issues are more or less resolved.

 

 

 

Alright, this summer I started with marching band (drum line). After a couple weeks into the practices, I started liking my section leader (Amy). However, I just ignored it at first because I didn't want to make anything awkward in the drumline and I didn't really have full-blown one-itis, as well as the fact that she is a senior and I am a sophomore.

 

 

 

In earlier August I started talking to her on the facebook IM, mainly about drumline stuff and music and other things, and I burned her a cd, which she responded to me the next day by texting me and saying it was amazing and that it "helped heal a broken heart," which she expanded upon eventually by saying that her boyfriend was leaving for college. This made me think that my chances with her would end up being rather small, seeing as she had a boyfriend and I figured I was friend-zoned after she told me something like that.

 

 

 

We started texting more, and eventually home band camp started, meaning marching band practice from 9 am - 4 pm every week day this week and thus I was with her all week basically. However, we didn't really talk that much because there wasn't much downtime at camp. However, I started texting her still about various things, where on monday we began texting about texting. I mentioned that I didn't have unlimited, and jokingly added that it didn't matter because I don't have many friends. She then replied, "that's hard to believe that a great guy like you doesn't have friends." I clarified that I was joking and my friends just didn't have texting, but for the benefit of any advice givers I am generally shy and slow with getting to know people, but the fact that she said that seemed a bit strange.

 

 

 

Then, err, yesterday happened. I was getting my band uniform fitted, and she randomly came into the room and asked me if I liked Swedish fish. On the way back home, I texted her and asked what that was all about and why she was at the school (people who were in the band before got uniforms and hour earlier). she said that she was there because of drama.i mentioned that I had been interested in that for a while, but I don't have enough classes to take it. She told me that she was close with the drama teacher and could get me into the play without being in the class and told me that I should do lighting. I asked what that consisted of, and she replied, "Lol heights lighting and me lol." I was rather surprised and replied that lighting might be more fun, to which she replied, "Lol I'd like that." Aside from this, I learned that she had dumped her boyfriend that day.

 

 

 

By this point I was rather surprised, not really knowing what to expect at band camp today. We still didn't really talk, due partially to the fact that there really wasn't that much time in between playing and learning the show. However, as usual, I texted her afterwards, and she mentioned that she had just finished playing tennis. I mentioned that I had never really played it before (I'm bad at sports and don't really like them, thus I tend to avoid them; only one I have ever enjoyed was fencing). She mentioned that i didn't seem like a ports person and that's what she liked about me.

 

 

 

Which brings me here. I like her a lot more now (though not one-itis level), and I'm thinking that I might have a chance with her. the main problems I can see are that it might things in drumline awkward (especially because the band is going to away band camp sunday morning), her being two years older than me, and my lack of, err, experience (never been in a similar situation or dated before).

 

 

 

So, I guess the main questions are: does it seem like she likes me, and what do I do?

 

 

 

Seems like she's looking for a rebound after her bf went off to college. The last thing she'll want is another long term relationship. However I may be wrong and she may like you enough to give it a go. You best of asking her what she's looking for at the moment in terms of relationships, and then go from there. A bit of fun? Then have fun with her. Someone to rely on? Then it's a long run thing. Good luck :thumbup:

Alright, thanks for the encouragement. Oh, and one more thing for now: I would say I would attempt to make my move quickly, but I guess I don't really know how to do that.

Alright, thanks for the encouragement. Oh, and one more thing for now: I would say I would attempt to make my move quickly, but I guess I don't really know how to do that.

 

Going back a few pages through the thread will give you many idea, such as asking her if she wants to hang out sometime. Movies are not too good of an idea, but something like ice skating or rollerblading are good.

Alright, thanks for the encouragement. Oh, and one more thing for now: I would say I would attempt to make my move quickly, but I guess I don't really know how to do that.

 

Going back a few pages through the thread will give you many idea, such as asking her if she wants to hang out sometime. Movies are not too good of an idea, but something like ice skating or rollerblading are good.

 

 

 

Not to rekindle an old argument, but I'm still convinced movie dates aren't counter productive. especially if you'r ethe shy type, however it is definiatly a good idea to have some conversation before and after the movie to make up for lost interaction time.