How would you know if sex is overrated if you haven't had it? :s

 

Average sex is definitely overrated, but amazing sex is amazing.

But how many amazing sexual experiences do you really have? I can safely say not that many for me.

But how many amazing sexual experiences do you really have? I can safely say not that many for me.

 

few dozen, but all with the same girl. Not that we didn't have less than spectacular "occasions" too. I wouldn't call it over rated, but some people do focus on it a bit too much

I don't exactly mind when people complain about it, it's only really annoying when people [bleep] and moan about it constantly.

While in a relationship fine, that sucks, but for most of us, a week is barely even a comparison. I'm actually proud of myself in this respect. I don't honestly remember the last time I had sex. I think its a sign of getting over what you guys called a sex addiction.

The only Problem I have, is I've only had sex twice and Im 20 in a fortnight. To me it feels like I haven't lived the life of a proper teenager/guy at all in my life so far (as well as a 1 year dry spell) Which naturally is going to make me sex addicted because I've missed out on the adventure to it

 

but I digress...

"I'm still technically a virgin after twenty-seven years, and that's never bothered me before. What's maybe fifty more?"

Aaron Weiss.

I have a date with a girl I liked a long time ago tomorrow. I saw her on Monday and felt really attracted to her again. Let's see how this works. First girl I've actually decided to go after since I've, you know, shifted all of my ideas. It will be fun, at the very least!

 

Oh, and my two-cents on the sex thing. I am a virgin. I think it's kind of cute. Girls tend to be amazed by it, and some of them want to "ruin" me. I think I will stay a virgin until college, and try to stay one there, too. Resisting temptation (but not always avoiding it) makes me stronger, I feel.

Good luck Lent, I hope everything goes well. :) :thumbup:

:3 I am kinda in need of advice. And this will come out as a MASSIVE wall of text methinks, so sorry for bothering you badly!

 

Firstly I would like tips on how to "pull" in a clubby atmosphere. My ex and I were together for 2 years and were also each others first bf/gf. So therefore outside of the environment of hanging out and then getting together I have no experience. 2nd year uni and I feel embarrassed to say that :( Anyways any tips?

 

Secondly >.< This is a killer for me, and I mean Kieran (draz) and quite a few other RL friends like him have talked to me about it because I was really down last night about it. But the night before last night I had a friend over to watch a film. She has a boyfriend and we've been talking for months. So it's not like I didn't know. But we watched a film and before we watched it she asked for one of my shirts, I gave it to her and she got in it and such, and then asked why a little while later as I relaised about it, and she said not to crease her dress. Fair enough right?

So we watch this film and are cuddling on my bed and such and we then like kiss. What was going through my head I have absolutely no idea. But all I knew was I liked it, the adrenaline of touching her lips with mine. And all I did after was stare into her big hazel eyes and tell her how beautiful she was. All thoughts about my ex, or her boyfriend were out of my head, it was her and me.

Next thing I knew she was nuzzling into my chest saying she was sleepy. So I turn off the film and we lay in bed talking and she falls asleep in my arms. I'm helpless and found wanting. So I'm there and hugging and fall asleep myself. My one hand holding hers, my other on her tummy, or around there. And about 3AM i wake up because i was MEGA hot, and open my window. I found I couldn't get back to sleep, and just hugged her, and all that was in my mind - cheesy i know - was Aerosmith "I don't wana miss a thing". Honestly, I had only ever had eyes for my ex, but this chick was so beautiful and lovely, and brilliant and yeah >.<

Then last night she texts me saying she loves her bf and wants to stay friends and still cuddle me and such, but that's it, nothing more friends.

 

Me? I'm really cut up about it.

 

So now I have debased your opinion on me probably, but am I right or wrong to hate myself, or to be in a mood with her over it for a few hours, or anything? :/

Do I make up friends with her and hope and pray that I'm never in that situation again? Do I not talk to her? Do I stop hating myself because people tell me I wasn't in the wrong?

Bare in mind that this was the 2nd day of uni already :/

Stay friends with this girl, you never know what'll happen later on. Until then, I say emotionally, move on. Get out there, you're in College, that's the best place to meet girls (well it is for me anyways lol). You're just going to have to start talking to them. Since it's university, you can start off with a simple question on a class you might have, then progress into what she's doing later, maybe even grab a bite to eat. Keep it subtle, don't ask if she wants to date just yet, play the friend card at first. If she's into you, she'll let you know. You have plenty of time, brother. Just do whatever works for you, might take some experimenting, might get slapped (we all get slapped at some point lol), but it'll be a good experience. Have some fun, let loose a bit.

 

Also, don't hate yourself. I've been there multiple times. Some of them, I knew they had boyfriends (and it went further than just kissing), some I didn't. It happens, so no reason to hate yourself.

Firstly I would like tips on how to "pull" in a clubby atmosphere. My ex and I were together for 2 years and were also each others first bf/gf. So therefore outside of the environment of hanging out and then getting together I have no experience. 2nd year uni and I feel embarrassed to say that :( Anyways any tips?

Start a conversation, disqualify yourself, attract, qualify them, comfort, seduce.

 

In a club you need to be loud and high energy. Don't bother with the dance floor when it comes to 'pulling,' because chances are all you''ll get is a grind and a makeout.

 

Expect to be shot down. Expect to literally be told to [bleep] off on occasion when you try and start a conversation with a group. Just keep at it and you'll be a natural. Read my blog, (link in my sig) it has heaps of info. As for the touching I've written about, you can and should do it more because at a club people are in a more social state.

 

As for your situation, I would have escalated if I wasn't friends with the boyfriend, but then I'm a bit of a [bleep].

 

Actions speak louder than words. When she said what she did, it was so she didn't feel like a cheater because it 'just happened.' If it were to 'just happen' again, (ie you kiss her and escalate) then she would most likely go along with it because she can reason that it wasn't her fault she cheated.

 

On that note, if you want a 1 night stand from a club, focus less on comfort and more on attraction/touching so she doesn't see you as a potential boyfriend and wait for sex. The 1 night stand needs to also 'just happen' so invite her to another club, then to get food, then to your house to check out your awesome fish or something. You don't even need a fish, because you both know the real reason for why she's there.

 

Meanwhile, gftog if you want to keep hanging with her. Otherwise you're probably just going to get more attached and get hurt.

No reason to hate yourself, according to science we're polygamous by nature. Don't do it again though.

You were kind of setting yourself up for disappointment by doing that with a girl who has a boyfriend. But in your defense, it does sound like you were acting impulsively in the heat of the moment rather than thinking things through. My advice: don't even cuddle with her. To me cuddling suggests flirting and wanting to be with someone. IMO she shouldn't even be cuddling with you if she has a boyfriend (I doubt he'd be pleases about it). I just don't see it as something *friends* do. Either way, even just cuddling is setting yourself up for more disappointment. The whole time you'll be thinking about your experience together and how much you want her.. But you can't have her. Don't do that to yourself.

On the other hand, if you don't cuddle with her you'll never have the opportunity to escalate. If you value your friendship with her boyfriend more than you value her, then perhaps you should stop. But if you don't, she seems pretty into you.

I have a girlfriend.

I have a girlfriend.

There goes the neighborhood.

I have a girlfriend.

There goes the neighborhood.

 

Best response in TIF history.

 

But, on a serious note, gongrats lent :D

Thanks guys for that advice. Tripsis you're particularly right about not wanting to do that to myself >.< Would be bad. Blargh :3 I do like this girl, but obviously I can't because of the bf in the way >.< Damnit.

I have a girlfriend.

I'm happy for ya man. <3: Now, cherish her like a prized jewel. Otherwise, well, I'll beat your ass if you muck this up.

I have a girlfriend.

I'm happy for ya man. <3: Now, cherish her like a prized jewel. Otherwise, well, I'll beat your ass if you muck this up.

 

I'll beat it anyway :cool:

Funny thing is, she got her phone taken away that night of our date just because she was waiting for me to say goodnight. I told her at like 10:11, apparently her parents wanted her asleep already (to be fair, she has to wake up at like 5). Kind of funny to me. I mean, it stinks that I can't talk to her, and I was planning another date for tomorrow. But now we'll move it to Tuesday, because I already know where I need to be (I'm doing a gig at a place close to the place our choir is having a concert - I'm going to see it, and I'm sure she is, too). She gets it back Sunday, I think.

 

See, her best friend is a close friend of mine. And I definitely mean best friends - their parents are basically interchangeable (and all love me, woop woop). So it works out great for me.

Well I had a few kisses with my girlfriend tonight ( they were mine and I think her first). I think we did more of a peck then an actual kiss :unsure: I need more practice...

Well I had a few kisses with my girlfriend tonight ( they were mine and I think her first). I think we did more of a peck then an actual kiss :unsure: I need more practice...

 

practice makes perfect!

 

i was a horrible kisser when i first started, but my ex [who has now hooked up with more guys than i'd like to say she has] still sincerely says that i was the best. it's all about practice.

Well I had a few kisses with my girlfriend tonight ( they were mine and I think her first). I think we did more of a peck then an actual kiss :unsure: I need more practice...

 

practice makes perfect!

 

i was a horrible kisser when i first started, but my ex [who has now hooked up with more guys than i'd like to say she has] still sincerely says that i was the best. it's all about practice.

 

Came in to say this, but someone already did.

 

I think I actually found a girl that's single and we get along pretty damn well. I'm gonna be pretty honest about one thing though, I have no idea how to ask her out. Some advice wouldn't hurt.

Well I had a few kisses with my girlfriend tonight ( they were mine and I think her first). I think we did more of a peck then an actual kiss :unsure: I need more practice...

 

 

From my experience she's probably more worried than you are. Like others said all you need is practice. Keep on "pecking" each other and it will transform by itself. Don't sweat over it though.

 

I think I actually found a girl that's single and we get along pretty damn well. I'm gonna be pretty honest about one thing though, I have no idea how to ask her out. Some advice wouldn't hurt.

 

Keep it simple, beforehand look for the signs that she likes you. Try holding hands while walking, if she likes it then you're all set. Go to a park or for a walk somewhere, get somewhat on topic and ask her "do you want to be girlfriend/boyfriend?"

I know it sounds extremely lame and dull, but it worked for me like a charm.

Kissing is an art. If you can find a girl willing to 'practice' on, do it. ;) That's what I did! We dated shortly after that though. :P