Subconcsious: Actions of Attraction.

[Maleficus1055]

I believe you mean "subconscious", not "unconscious", right?

[Hiierarch]

You guys seem to be fairly interested in body language lately. If someone can point me to a website where I can upload .pdf files, I would be more than happy to hook you up with a 148 page e-book on body language. I've read through most of it and it's quite interesting. :

 

 

 

Yeah, that's my main interest in the topic. Because I like learning about psychology and where better to ask about it than here?

[Shin]

Tbh the best way to tell is simply if the person makes eye contact with you a LOT more than everyone else is. There's at least some sort of fascination. I guarantee that's true almost every time.

 

 

 

The same can be said about the exact opposite. I know quite a few people who avoid eye contact with those that they like.

 

Exactly. Again it comes up for me this respect of personal space thing for me because I live in Finland. If you pass someone on the street, you do not look them in the eye unless you know them. In America it seems to be that you look them in the eye no matter what. So I have kind of lost the ability to judge how much eye contact is normal with anyone, with girls I just go for minimal.

 

In America, we flirt too much.

 

 

 

By the way, eye contact does not mean they're interested in you. It just means that they are paying attention to what you're saying. Lips for lust, eyes for ears.

 

 

 

I agree that eye contact does not directly mean someone is interested in you, but there's something much more subtle that happens and you've probably never noticed it. When you look at someone you like or even talk to them, you probably get excited. Not aroused, don't get them confused. So when you're around them/talking to them, you're probably more excited than you would be normally. And when you get excited your pupils will dialate.

 

Nah, I noticed I would get excited when I first started dating girls and hanging out with them, but now its just a casual thing. I'm very relaxed around girls, and even around girls I have my eyes on. That's the problem with a lot of guys these days, they act so different around their friends when girls are around, learn to chill, and just be cool. Girls definitely notice when you're trying to impress them, but hate it when you're too excited.

 

 

 

 

 

@Passing people on the streets

 

 

 

Yeah, I check out girls, a lot. Its almost as a second nature to me now. If I think they're cute or hot, I would usually look up and down then look in her eyes and smile as I pass. They never give me a negative reaction and always smile back looking at me straight in the eyes.

 

 

 

Boys, boys, boys, you are more attractive than you think. Take advantage of it yo.

[deloriagod]

 

Nah, I noticed I would get excited when I first started dating girls and hanging out with them, but now its just a casual thing. I'm very relaxed around girls, and even around girls I have my eyes on.

 

 

 

 

No matter how relaxed you think you are, your brain is going to get a little rush now and then (even if you don't feel it) and your pupils are going to dialate. You can only control your body to a certain extent. When you look and your gf look into each others' eyes, you get excited (again, even if you don't feel it). It's a natural reaction.

[What980]

I love topics like this. The way the human body works and reacts in its simplest form, or in the "un-needed" parts of society, has always interested me.

 

 

 

Personally, I'm not a fan of new people so I tend to stay away from them. :lol:

[monkeyboo2]

I've heard that mirroring is a sign that someone likes you. I.e. if you're both sat near each other and you cross your leg, or slouch, the other person will unconsciously mirror your position/action, although not immediately. I've watched out for it in girls that I suspect of liking me (not a particularly large sample base, granted), and it's actually usually noticeable.

 

 

 

If Girls work in 'imitation'...I better go take off my clothes! :mrgreen:

[thrash-boy]

Sorry about that guys. Let's see if it works this time...

 

 

 

http://www.esnips.com/doc/53dc83dc-49cf-4704-864c-6da20e5a4e5c/BODYLA~1

 

 

 

i still doesnt work for me :(

 

try a different site maybe. there should be tons that allow pdf uploads, and if there isnt just zip it and upload it as a zip

[dsavi]

@ the latest imitation speculation: o.0 I somehow don't think so.

 

 

 

Psychology is interesting, now that I think of it, but it's not generally something I get involved with.

[assassin_696]

I believe you mean "subconscious", not "unconscious", right?

 

 

 

Haha, yes, an unfortunate typo. I swear that's not how my dates usually end up.

[RSBDavid]

I believe you mean "subconscious", not "unconscious", right?

 

 

 

Haha, yes, an unfortunate typo. I swear that's not how my dates usually end up.

 

 

 

 

 

riiiiight. Your gf must beat you hard enough to make you pass out.

 

 

 

(edit)That sounds wrong.

[Lenticular_J]

Yeah, I check out girls, a lot. Its almost as a second nature to me now. If I think they're cute or hot, I would usually look up and down then look in her eyes and smile as I pass. They never give me a negative reaction and always smile back looking at me straight in the eyes.

 

 

 

Boys, boys, boys, you are more attractive than you think. Take advantage of it yo.

 

So true, there. I used to think checking someone out was something you don't want to be caught at, but it can lead to some interesting situations.

[Shin]

 

Nah, I noticed I would get excited when I first started dating girls and hanging out with them, but now its just a casual thing. I'm very relaxed around girls, and even around girls I have my eyes on.

 

 

 

 

No matter how relaxed you think you are, your brain is going to get a little rush now and then (even if you don't feel it) and your pupils are going to dialate. You can only control your body to a certain extent. When you look and your gf look into each others' eyes, you get excited (again, even if you don't feel it). It's a natural reaction.

 

I guess i've just grown accustomed to it, but being with girls didn't make me so nervous like I was years ago.

 

 

 

Yeah, I'd be optimistic and touchy feely, but that's just me.

[deloriagod]

Sorry about that guys. Let's see if it works this time...

 

 

 

http://www.esnips.com/doc/53dc83dc-49cf-4704-864c-6da20e5a4e5c/BODYLA~1

 

 

 

i still doesnt work for me :(

 

try a different site maybe. there should be tons that allow pdf uploads, and if there isnt just zip it and upload it as a zip

 

 

 

http://www.megaupload.com/?d=LMKF97NU

 

 

 

Zipped it up, should work now. :pray:

[LiChef]

A modern-day version of picking bugs out of their fur and eating them.

 

 

 

Which is not a good way to pick up chicks, I might add

 

 

 

I wondered where I was going wrong.

 

 

 

For me the usual embarassment things happen. Struggle to get words out. Usually use longer words, which doesn't help with the first one. And when i'm typing or writing I spell things wrong constantly.

 

On a lighter note I act funnier and get more laughs when i'm with people I like.

 

 

 

All a result of trying harder to impress I presume.

 

Li Chef

[Flodder450]

I wonder what Pretoria Sa will say

 

(La_raza70 here on TIF)

 

i just look at them =P

[thrash-boy]

Sorry about that guys. Let's see if it works this time...

 

 

 

http://www.esnips.com/doc/53dc83dc-49cf-4704-864c-6da20e5a4e5c/BODYLA~1

 

 

 

i still doesnt work for me :(

 

try a different site maybe. there should be tons that allow pdf uploads, and if there isnt just zip it and upload it as a zip

 

 

 

http://www.megaupload.com/?d=LMKF97NU

 

 

 

Zipped it up, should work now. :pray:

 

 

 

thanks it worked!!! \

[hellbellz]

Attentiveness? That's the truth. I was trying to get with this one girl for a few weeks, turns out she started going out with some kid that she dated a few months back. Since then I've been zoned out of our conversations.

[loi86]

What's new I have known this for a few months now.

[deloriagod]

What's new I have known this for a few months now.

 

 

 

While I do like this topic, did you really have to bump it just to brag about knowing what we're talking about? I could brag about my knowledge of body language or how I've known things like this for years, but I wouldn't bump a topic from the second page to do so.

[Rebdragon]

Yeah, I check out girls, a lot. Its almost as a second nature to me now. If I think they're cute or hot, I would usually look up and down then look in her eyes and smile as I pass. They never give me a negative reaction and always smile back looking at me straight in the eyes.

 

 

 

Boys, boys, boys, you are more attractive than you think. Take advantage of it yo.

 

Eh, make sure you are good looking enough to do that though, not to be mean, just pragmatic. On off days [bad hair days/little sleep] if I do that to a girl I find attractive it feels like I shouldn't, but on decent days I do it all the time, and ya, it works.

 

 

 

Btw guys, these are GUIDELINES, not set rules. Don't read into this stuff too much; although it is often right, experience is a much better teacher than a Runescape forum.

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

I figure it wouldn't be too hard for a girl to realize I like them as my blood flows to a certain part of my body causing me to pitch a tent with my pants being the cloth.

 

 

 

/jk

 

 

 

I am introverted, so I wouldn't dare talk to a girl I like randomly. I would only talk to them if they approach me and even then I avoid eye contact. Well, I avoid eye contact with all people, but with them I realize I am doing it and try to make eye contact which distracts me from the conversation.

[Lenticular_J]

I don't get why people avoid eye contact. Here in my [cabbage]-hole of a town, people don't, but I hate this town, so there.

 

 

 

Back in the motherland...city...town...Everyone would make contact and say "How d'ya do?" regardless of whether or not you know their names. And women didn't take every damn word you say to them as an invitation to spank you.

 

 

 

My day was okay.

[Kenshinjapan]

I don't get why people avoid eye contact. Here in my [cabbage]-hole of a town, people don't, but I hate this town, so there.

 

 

 

Back in the motherland...city...town...Everyone would make contact and say "How d'ya do?" regardless of whether or not you know their names. And women didn't take every damn word you say to them as an invitation to spank you.

 

 

 

My day was okay.

 

 

 

That's what sucks the most about living in big cities/college towns. A lot of people are ruder and therefore, recepients of those insults become more defensive and self-conscious.

 

 

 

My town still sucks, but at least I can make eye contact with people. (Well, atleast on the good side of town #-o )

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

I don't get why people avoid eye contact. Here in my [cabbage]-hole of a town, people don't, but I hate this town, so there.

 

 

 

Back in the motherland...city...town...Everyone would make contact and say "How d'ya do?" regardless of whether or not you know their names. And women didn't take every damn word you say to them as an invitation to spank you.

 

 

 

My day was okay.

 

 

 

That's what sucks the most about living in big cities/college towns. A lot of people are ruder and therefore, recepients of those insults become more defensive and self-conscious.

 

 

 

My town still sucks, but at least I can make eye contact with people. (Well, atleast on the good side of town #-o )

 

 

 

I don't live in a big city and I don't make eye contact. It's a personal thing. Everyone in my family is extroverted and I am introverted, so it wasn't taught and I didn't learn it from my family.

[Rebdragon]

I don't live in a big city and I don't make eye contact. It's a personal thing. Everyone in my family is extroverted and I am introverted, so it wasn't taught and I didn't learn it from my family.

 

Piece of advice: If you are looking at someone, and they catch you looking at them, DON'T immediately look away, that's just grounds for making them feel bad. Depending on the person, either [for random guy] unfocus your eyes and look past them, or [for girl, or just being friendly to anyone- smiles are contagious] keep looking at them and smile, or [for girl interested in] maintain eye contact for an extended period of time with a [sly] smile.

 

 

 

Again, guideline, not rule. If I actually tried to explain that, or at least my methodolgy, it would take at least twenty lines just for the topic of when you catch someone's eye. Experience is the real teacher, and body language methodology is different for everyone. Now get out there and stare at people :o!