Subconcsious: Actions of Attraction.

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

I don't live in a big city and I don't make eye contact. It's a personal thing. Everyone in my family is extroverted and I am introverted, so it wasn't taught and I didn't learn it from my family.

 

Piece of advice: If you are looking at someone, and they catch you looking at them, DON'T immediately look away, that's just grounds for making them feel bad. Depending on the person, either [for random guy] unfocus your eyes and look past them, or [for girl, or just being friendly to anyone- smiles are contagious] keep looking at them and smile, or [for girl interested in] maintain eye contact for an extended period of time with a [sly] smile.

 

 

 

Again, guideline, not rule. If I actually tried to explain that, or at least my methodolgy, it would take at least twenty lines just for the topic of when you catch someone's eye. Experience is the real teacher, and body language methodology is different for everyone. Now get out there and stare at people :o!

 

 

 

I'll work on that :

[Cup Lion]

Wow, randomly decided to check this thread, and read Rebdragon's post. I'll have to say, that advice really will help me, because I get caught staring at people all the time. :D

[mega_vegeta6]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

[fgfuyfyuiuy0]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

 

 

 

The end?!

 

 

 

Did anything happen or what? What happened between you two?

[Da_Latios]

Sorry about that guys. Let's see if it works this time...

 

 

 

http://www.esnips.com/doc/53dc83dc-49cf-4704-864c-6da20e5a4e5c/BODYLA~1

 

 

 

i still doesnt work for me :(

 

try a different site maybe. there should be tons that allow pdf uploads, and if there isnt just zip it and upload it as a zip

 

 

 

http://www.megaupload.com/?d=LMKF97NU

 

 

 

Zipped it up, should work now. :pray:

 

Research has shown that when pornographic films showing men and women in sexual positions are shown to men, their pupils can dilate to almost three times the normal size. When the same films are shown to women their pupil dilation is even greater than that recorded by the men, which raises some doubt about the statement that women are less stimulated by pornography than men.

 

 

 

Snap. :thumbsup:

[silver_wits]

Research has shown that when pornographic films showing men and women in sexual positions are shown to men, their pupils can dilate to almost three times the normal size. When the same films are shown to women their pupil dilation is even greater than that recorded by the men, which raises some doubt about the statement that women are less stimulated by pornography than men.

 

 

 

Snap. :thumbsup:

 

 

 

As a female I would never deny outright my "pupils do not dilate" about such things...

 

But, it's pretty accepted that males are more visually stimulated than females..

 

and, females are stimulated differently.

 

 

 

what kind of media was that pornography shown in? video? pictures? also, was it the same type? or was it different?

[Da_Latios]

Research has shown that when pornographic films showing men and women in sexual positions are shown to men, their pupils can dilate to almost three times the normal size. When the same films are shown to women their pupil dilation is even greater than that recorded by the men, which raises some doubt about the statement that women are less stimulated by pornography than men.

 

 

 

Snap. :thumbsup:

 

 

 

As a female I would never deny outright my "pupils do not dilate" about such things...

 

But, it's pretty accepted that males are more visually stimulated than females..

 

and, females are stimulated differently.

 

 

 

what kind of media was that pornography shown in? video? pictures? also, was it the same type? or was it different?

 

Research has shown that when pornographic films showing men and women in sexual positions are shown to men, their pupils can dilate to almost three times the normal size. When the same films are shown to women their pupil dilation is even greater than that recorded by the men, which raises some doubt about the statement that women are less stimulated by pornography than men.

 

 

 

Snap. :thumbsup:

I hope I've made it a bit clearer for you.

[Iamdan]

If anybody is interested in the way attraction works, The Game by Neil Strauss, and the Mystery Method by Mystery are both very good books.

[Ginger_Warrior]

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Research has shown that when pornographic films showing men and women in sexual positions are shown to men, their pupils can dilate to almost three times the normal size. When the same films are shown to women their pupil dilation is even greater than that recorded by the men, which raises some doubt about the statement that women are less stimulated by pornography than men.

 

 

 

Snap. :thumbsup:

 

 

 

As a female I would never deny outright my "pupils do not dilate" about such things...

 

But, it's pretty accepted that males are more visually stimulated than females..

 

and, females are stimulated differently.

 

 

 

what kind of media was that pornography shown in? video? pictures? also, was it the same type? or was it different?

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Research has shown that when pornographic films showing men and women in sexual positions are shown to men, their pupils can dilate to almost three times the normal size. When the same films are shown to women their pupil dilation is even greater than that recorded by the men, which raises some doubt about the statement that women are less stimulated by pornography than men.

 

 

 

Snap. :thumbsup:

I hope I've made it a bit clearer for you.

 

How many sexual positions are there? If the sexual position shown simply doesn't interest a woman she isn't going to be attracted to it more than a man who is attracted to it, is she?

 

 

 

Also, what sort of pornography is it? Is Western pornography where the male is very much being dominant, or in some dominatrix, for his own pleasure? Is it the type of pornography where women are seduced as though they were feral and only worth taking sexual pleasure from? Is it East Asian pornography which openly shows girls being sexually abused (acting or otherwise)? I can't imagine that would turn a woman on more than a man.

 

 

 

The bolded part you've shown is a generalisation. A pretty vague one at that.

[mega_vegeta6]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

 

 

 

The end?!

 

 

 

Did anything happen or what? What happened between you two?

 

well.. they got together, but he's stupid, so that didnt work out.. She went with another guy on and off for a while, but it didnt last. every time she had broke up we just looked at eachother for fractions of a second. Im just too shy though, i never even talked to her, but im shure she knew i loved her, she might had some feelings for me, but.. nothing :| Kinda glad nothing did, for a few reasons im not telling..

[silver_wits]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

 

 

 

The end?!

 

 

 

Did anything happen or what? What happened between you two?

 

well.. they got together, but he's stupid, so that didnt work out.. She went with another guy on and off for a while, but it didnt last. every time she had broke up we just looked at eachother for fractions of a second. Im just too shy though, i never even talked to her, but im shure she knew i loved her, she might had some feelings for me, but.. nothing :| Kinda glad nothing did, for a few reasons im not telling..

 

 

 

Wow... you're the first person for this month that made me feel like slapping them.

 

If you really think there's something going on then for god's sake just ask her out. maybe you'll just be another notch on her makeup case... but... at least then you can say you were courageous enough to do something...

 

And this isn't the "I want a gf/bf thread" so I can give my opinion freely... and don't care if it doesn't make the least bit of sense.

[mega_vegeta6]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

 

 

 

The end?!

 

 

 

Did anything happen or what? What happened between you two?

 

well.. they got together, but he's stupid, so that didnt work out.. She went with another guy on and off for a while, but it didnt last. every time she had broke up we just looked at eachother for fractions of a second. Im just too shy though, i never even talked to her, but im shure she knew i loved her, she might had some feelings for me, but.. nothing :| Kinda glad nothing did, for a few reasons im not telling..

 

 

 

Wow... you're the first person for this month that made me feel like slapping them.

 

If you really think there's something going on then for god's sake just ask her out. maybe you'll just be another notch on her makeup case... but... at least then you can say you were courageous enough to do something...

 

And this isn't the "I want a gf/bf thread" so I can give my opinion freely... and don't care if it doesn't make the least bit of sense.

 

I was considering doing it, i got no exuse for not doing it though. :oops:

[DieselX]

Haha I love topics like this.

 

 

 

When I like someone I usually find myself staring at their lips, well because I want to kiss them. :oops: I can try looking at their eyes, but it's not natural.

 

 

 

I noticed a couple of stuff

 

 

 

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Why do you think this byakuya picture was a hit? :twss:[/hide]

 

Like when people tilt their head to the back/side, exposing their neck, it's like theyre giving themselves to you.

[Hiierarch]

Haha I love topics like this.

 

 

 

When I like someone I usually find myself staring at their lips, well because I want to kiss them. :oops: I can try looking at their eyes, but it's not natural.

 

 

 

I noticed a couple of stuff

 

 

 

[hide=]

 

Why do you think this byakuya picture was a hit? :twss:[/hide]

 

Like when people tilt their head to the back/side, exposing their neck, it's like theyre giving themselves to you.

 

 

 

Yes, that's exactly what I mean. I usually stare at the lips also. The neck thing makes sense too.

[blackrainbow]

 

I was considering doing it, i got no exuse for not doing it though. :oops:

 

 

 

Then do it!

[stan18]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

 

 

 

The end?!

 

 

 

Did anything happen or what? What happened between you two?

 

well.. they got together, but he's stupid, so that didnt work out.. She went with another guy on and off for a while, but it didnt last. every time she had broke up we just looked at eachother for fractions of a second. Im just too shy though, i never even talked to her, but im shure she knew i loved her, she might had some feelings for me, but.. nothing :| Kinda glad nothing did, for a few reasons im not telling..

 

 

 

woah there, i would be careful with your words. You don't seem to know her that well, yet you love her? Theres a difference between liking and infatuation, and love

[Echofish]

I tend to be mean to the person I like. I would constantly pair him up with any girl I know if I knew him well enough. It's a strange habit :oops:

[mega_vegeta6]

I had a crush on a girl in my class, and i'd spend hours just looking at her, not doing any schoolwork(it's so easy ;) ) and she actually looked back :) . but, im so shy i looked away immediatley. our eyes met so many times those years it's unbelievable. within like 3-4 weeks the whole school knew i liked her. pretty tough since im not popular, and the other guy she liked was the popular jerk who'd hit you just walking past. you know, the kind that has his grunts behind him 24/7. It helped my selfesteem and i feel more courageous now. The end.

 

 

 

The end?!

 

 

 

Did anything happen or what? What happened between you two?

 

well.. they got together, but he's stupid, so that didnt work out.. She went with another guy on and off for a while, but it didnt last. every time she had broke up we just looked at eachother for fractions of a second. Im just too shy though, i never even talked to her, but im shure she knew i loved her, she might had some feelings for me, but.. nothing :| Kinda glad nothing did, for a few reasons im not telling..

 

 

 

woah there, i would be careful with your words. You don't seem to know her that well, yet you love her? Theres a difference between liking and infatuation, and love

 

i know that. i dont know her as well as i want to, But i do love her. if it was something else would it really last 3 years? Ive liked many girls, but they're just nothing compared to her. Sometimes she's a bit stupid, but its those little things she does that makes her special, like the way she smiles at me, the way she pulls her jacket over her shoulders... she's just facinates me, and i can never stop listening extra careful after her name, and if we meet my heart silently skips a beat. And that does'nt happen around anyone else.

 

If i had to decribe my feelings it would no doubt be love, but it's a word used way too often, and way too lightly. It does not really show what i feel for her, Love is nothing i take lightly.

[blushenka]

I tend to be mean to the person I like. I would constantly pair him up with any girl I know if I knew him well enough. It's a strange habit :oops:

 

Emma Woodhouse? : p

[Echofish]

I tend to be mean to the person I like. I would constantly pair him up with any girl I know if I knew him well enough. It's a strange habit :oops:

 

Emma Woodhouse? : p

 

 

 

Yes, somewhat. I'll probably end up as a bridesmaid forever and secretly loathing the bride because I fancy the groom, lol.

[ididnotlol]

Shyness is caused by not being around infirior (sp?) people enough.

 

hang around with losers and eventually you'll have a big enough self esteme to ask anyone out :D

 

 

 

Or just remember that there is a machine that might be used by scientists to test how the world was made, that has a small chance of killing us all, and its used on wednesday if they go through with the plan, then you'll realise to ask the person out before wednesday.

[mega_vegeta6]

Shyness is caused by not being around infirior (sp?) people enough.

 

hang around with losers and eventually you'll have a big enough self esteme to ask anyone out :D

 

I'ts just a matter of how you compare yourself to others.

 

If you think you're better than them, you'll get bad self-esteem.

 

If you know you're way better then them you'll get good confidence, but you'll get ignorant.

 

If you accept the fact that there's always someone better than you, but there's at the same time there's always someone worse than you, you'll get a balanced confidence in yourself.

[RSBDavid]

I was shy till I tried asking a girl out while I was under the influence of 3 things of red bull , back when it tasted good. Boy did I have wiings. That and going through puberty was fun.

 

 

 

Speaking of hard things, nvm.

[anonymous1234]

I was shy till I tried asking a girl out while I was under the influence of 3 things of red bull , back when it tasted good. Boy did I have wiings. That and going through puberty was fun.

 

 

 

Speaking of hard things, nvm.

 

you should add that post in place of what your sig joke is now. Oh I think it's wiiings though. wiings is what you get from playing the wii too long.

 

 

 

I'll keep this short. I get little attractions to girls every now and then, which i know are utter crap from puberty, so i ignore them. I am very loud and open when talking to people I know, but am still shy when talking to girls I don't know, even when it could be completely unrelated to anything. I guess the shyness will go away with time though ;)

[Rebdragon]

I'ts just a matter of how you compare yourself to others.

 

If you think you're better than them, you'll get bad self-esteem.

 

If you know you're way better then them you'll get good confidence, but you'll get ignorant.

 

If you accept the fact that there's always someone better than you, but there's at the same time there's always someone worse than you, you'll get a balanced confidence in yourself.

 

You sound like a hippy. No offense, ish.

 

 

 

Just know you're better fellas, and if you think you aren't, make yourself better. I'd say this is a pretty smart group [bookworm-wise], so just improve yourself socially and physically and you'll be set. Easier said than done, but whatev.