Subconcsious: Actions of Attraction.

[Shin]

Tbh the best way to tell is simply if the person makes eye contact with you a LOT more than everyone else is. There's at least some sort of fascination. I guarantee that's true almost every time.

 

 

 

The same can be said about the exact opposite. I know quite a few people who avoid eye contact with those that they like.

 

Exactly. Again it comes up for me this respect of personal space thing for me because I live in Finland. If you pass someone on the street, you do not look them in the eye unless you know them. In America it seems to be that you look them in the eye no matter what. So I have kind of lost the ability to judge how much eye contact is normal with anyone, with girls I just go for minimal.

 

In America, we flirt too much.

 

 

 

By the way, eye contact does not mean they're interested in you. It just means that they are paying attention to what you're saying. Lips for lust, eyes for ears.

[Kenshinjapan]

I never flirt and I'm American :| . There's an equal amount of flirts in about every country I'd bet.

[Woodcut Lvr]

I had a piece of grass on my shoe, and she wiped that off. Yeah. Impressive, eh? That's probably the closest I've ever been to having sex.

 

Quote, meet siggy. Siggy, meet quote.

[Lenticular_J]

Tbh the best way to tell is simply if the person makes eye contact with you a LOT more than everyone else is. There's at least some sort of fascination. I guarantee that's true almost every time.

 

 

 

The same can be said about the exact opposite. I know quite a few people who avoid eye contact with those that they like.

 

Exactly. Again it comes up for me this respect of personal space thing for me because I live in Finland. If you pass someone on the street, you do not look them in the eye unless you know them. In America it seems to be that you look them in the eye no matter what. So I have kind of lost the ability to judge how much eye contact is normal with anyone, with girls I just go for minimal.

 

Huh, really? Here in the South everyone makes eye contact and will often ask how your day is, but everywhere else I've been people avoid eye contact completely.

[mrpez]

when im next to someone im attracted to, i feel the material their clothes are made of.

 

 

 

*cough*seinfeld*cough*

[thrash-boy]

Alright guys, here is the e-book on body language. Read, learn, enjoy.

 

 

 

link doesn't work. please upload again because i'm really interested in taking a look at that.

 

 

 

OT: I blush alot, which really sucks. i wish there was some way of stopping my blushing.

[Intriguing]

When I like someone, I go to the extra effort of trying to sit next to them, or trying to make some light form of bodily contact, as well as listening to what they're saying more than what others are saying. I'd guess that most extroverted people would be like that. On the other hand, more introverted people would do the opposite, and try to avoid eye-contact with the person, etc.

[Returned3]

The part about listening and paying more attention to their convos is definitely true. I admit I do that..

 

 

 

But man, this thread has really caught my attention, I'll be watching it closely for more hints

[sohkmj1]

Never been attracted to anyone before...

 

But hopefully i will soon. :lol:

[dsavi]

Once it happens, I am quite sure that you will think otherwise.

[ThurinEthir]

I had a piece of grass on my shoe, and she wiped that off. Yeah. Impressive, eh? That's probably the closest I've ever been to having sex.

 

Quote, meet siggy. Siggy, meet quote.

 

Oh, great.

 

Whatever.

 

 

 

I think it really depends on the person, to be honest. Each person has different...Signs, and you'll just know. What Intriguing said sounds right, some people (Extroverts) will probably go for it and all touchy-feely, while other people (Introverts) will most likely act a bit more nervous.

 

Also a cultural thing, as brought up...Apparently.

[Lenticular_J]

The part about listening and paying more attention to their convos is definitely true. I admit I do that..

 

 

 

But man, this thread has really caught my attention, I'll be watching it closely for more hints

 

Ask your friends. That's some of the best advice I can give you - particularly if they're women. They'll notice anything a lot better than you.

 

 

 

Other than that, I think it was Shin that gave some good advice. Girls will often sit up straight, with their chests out, cross their legs, some play with their hair, and all that.

[Lenin64]

Pelvic thrusts are a good indicator.

 

 

 

I recall someone on this forum having .gif image of some dude doing that near another dude, and the other dude is like "Please stop doing that". I think it was Lenin.

 

Yea, that was me. I got it from some other guy here, though, I think he still has it. Forgot his name.

 

 

 

And do people really try to make eye contact on the street? I'm just used to looking straight ahead when I walk, I rarely notice it or try. I only make eye contact when talking to the person.

[dsavi]

You look straight ahead? Here everyone looks at their feet.

 

It's really confusing going home again. :P

[Lenin64]

Well, not straight-ahead tunnel vision. But within a very small area with an occasional over-the-shoulder check.

[dsavi]

Is the over-shoulder checking normal though? Or is that because you're checking for any potential assassin or whatever. :roll:

[ThurinEthir]

Is the over-shoulder checking normal though? Or is that because you're checking for any potential assassin or whatever. :roll:

 

For me it's perfectly normal. When I walk on the streets, I take a look around, in front of me, behind me, then I just look at my feet. If I sense someone/something else nearing me, I'll look up and find out what it is. If it's a person, I'll move off to the side, and let them pass with a glimpse at them. Then when they're behind me, I'll look over my shoulder to make sure they don't double back to kill/kidnap me or something.

 

That's in my not-very-crowded city though, if I'm in downtown Boston, Taipei or New York (All places I've been in the last few weeks), I have to keep my eyes alert. Yay for paranoia.

[Giordano]

Is the over-shoulder checking normal though? Or is that because you're checking for any potential assassin or whatever. :roll:

 

Its your instint. Gotta survive... :geek:

[deloriagod]

Sorry about that guys. Let's see if it works this time...

 

 

 

http://www.esnips.com/doc/53dc83dc-49cf-4704-864c-6da20e5a4e5c/BODYLA~1

[Lenticular_J]

Is the over-shoulder checking normal though? Or is that because you're checking for any potential assassin or whatever. :roll:

 

No, and I'm very disappointed you can't even remember Lenin's paranoia.

[dsavi]

Is the over-shoulder checking normal though? Or is that because you're checking for any potential assassin or whatever. :roll:

 

No, and I'm very disappointed you can't even remember Lenin's paranoia.

 

I was referring to said paranoia there, if you can't tell.

[deloriagod]

Tbh the best way to tell is simply if the person makes eye contact with you a LOT more than everyone else is. There's at least some sort of fascination. I guarantee that's true almost every time.

 

 

 

The same can be said about the exact opposite. I know quite a few people who avoid eye contact with those that they like.

 

Exactly. Again it comes up for me this respect of personal space thing for me because I live in Finland. If you pass someone on the street, you do not look them in the eye unless you know them. In America it seems to be that you look them in the eye no matter what. So I have kind of lost the ability to judge how much eye contact is normal with anyone, with girls I just go for minimal.

 

In America, we flirt too much.

 

 

 

By the way, eye contact does not mean they're interested in you. It just means that they are paying attention to what you're saying. Lips for lust, eyes for ears.

 

 

 

I agree that eye contact does not directly mean someone is interested in you, but there's something much more subtle that happens and you've probably never noticed it. When you look at someone you like or even talk to them, you probably get excited. Not aroused, don't get them confused. So when you're around them/talking to them, you're probably more excited than you would be normally. And when you get excited your pupils will dialate.

[assassin_696]

I've heard that mirroring is a sign that someone likes you. I.e. if you're both sat near each other and you cross your leg, or slouch, the other person will subconsciously mirror your position/action, although not immediately. I've watched out for it in girls that I suspect of liking me (not a particularly large sample base, granted), and it's actually usually noticeable.

[silver_wits]

Well... I'm female...

 

and that mirroring thing usually works on guys! ie they move position not me.

 

When I'm attracted to someone, I blush, stutter, and try to hide.

 

 

 

Then I usually slap myself in my mind, tell myself that I have no chance with that person.. and I kinda get normal.

 

Also, if I'm really attracted to someone, I tend to dress down, when I meet them.

 

Good thing is that all the people I'm attracted to... I hardly ever meet. :?

[RSBDavid]

My gf (before we met) would always stutter around me. She never did in speaches or and class we had together, jus when we were alone.